The closing cost thing is fairly typical. The reason buyers do it is because they can build those costs into their mortgage and it's less cash they need to find at closing. Your agent SHOULD have been able to give you an accurate estimate (within a thousand or two) at that time. Every single closing cost is something readily determined based on the agreed sales price. Fixing the roof is likely on you....however, the pricing probably would have been different had you been able to say at the outset "brand new roof." Your agent suggesting that the buyers pick the color was fine...and you were well within your rights to say NO! No harm in asking, but there should be no pressure in that regard. An "upgraded" shingle was a ridiculous request from the agent (or the buyer for that matter unless accompanied by a check to pay for the upgrades). As for the fuel oil, any agent worth his/her salt would have identified that issue at the time of listing or at the very least when negotiating the offer. The failure to do so is on the agent. Unfortunately, other than demanding that the realtor take that cost out of HER commission for failing to be on the ball, there's not much you can do. She is correct that because it is not in the contract, it's too late to ask now, and it would be "deemed" to be something in the house that would have to stay. I might leave a review myself. These are mistakes that the next sellers would want to know about.
