Minnie_me
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My stbx-H moved out on October 1st. In all of that time, he has never had the girls spend the night at his new place. They have absolutely no desire to go there, even though it's perfectly fine (clean, nice location, a bedroom for them, etc.) -- I think it has more to do with their feelings about the situation, YKWIM? So, for the past 3 months, when he spends time with them, it's here in the house. (which is usually okay with me, but often annoys me)
We know that as our separation/divorce become more permanent, the girls are going to have to spend time at *his* place with him.
And so doesn't it figure.........
He's moving in with his brother this month (to save $$). And now I have problem. His brother is an alcoholic and a gambler, who often has such trouble with money that his electricity gets turned off occasionally. BIL's girlfriend is also an alcoholic, and they usually spend most of their time at her place, which is a good thing. I guess.
So here's my big problem: there is no acceptable place for my girls to sleep at BIL's house. He has shared custody of his 3 children, and they have beds, but I'm not going to be okay having my kids sleep there too. The beds are old and gross, the sheets and blankets never get washed. Sometimes there aren't even any sheets or blankets to speak of, and the kids just lay on the comforters (which are filthy).
STBX-H keeps saying that he's going to make it acceptable, but how can he?!? My kids should have their OWN space at this house, not beds that their cousins sleep in 3 days a week, or whatever. You know?
Don't I have a say about where my children sleep!??!?! BIL's house has even been turned into CPS as 'dirty house'. Nice, huh!??! (which is ironic, b/c STBX works for CPS)
HELP!!! PLEASE!!! (and no, I haven't talked with an attorney yet.........I know that I need to, but I'm fishing around for answers for free first - LOL!)
We know that as our separation/divorce become more permanent, the girls are going to have to spend time at *his* place with him.
And so doesn't it figure.........
He's moving in with his brother this month (to save $$). And now I have problem. His brother is an alcoholic and a gambler, who often has such trouble with money that his electricity gets turned off occasionally. BIL's girlfriend is also an alcoholic, and they usually spend most of their time at her place, which is a good thing. I guess.
So here's my big problem: there is no acceptable place for my girls to sleep at BIL's house. He has shared custody of his 3 children, and they have beds, but I'm not going to be okay having my kids sleep there too. The beds are old and gross, the sheets and blankets never get washed. Sometimes there aren't even any sheets or blankets to speak of, and the kids just lay on the comforters (which are filthy).
STBX-H keeps saying that he's going to make it acceptable, but how can he?!? My kids should have their OWN space at this house, not beds that their cousins sleep in 3 days a week, or whatever. You know?
Don't I have a say about where my children sleep!??!?! BIL's house has even been turned into CPS as 'dirty house'. Nice, huh!??! (which is ironic, b/c STBX works for CPS)
HELP!!! PLEASE!!! (and no, I haven't talked with an attorney yet.........I know that I need to, but I'm fishing around for answers for free first - LOL!)