Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

[PollyannaMom]

Sorry about the Covid, Pea. Having been in your place recently, I totally feel for you! Get a lot of rest and I hope it's a mild case.

 

[Snowysmom]

Pea-n-me Sorry you got covid. Unfortunately it is going around and we will be dealing with it forever now. Jeff went to his company's holiday party and most of his office got covid. He did not this time.

Lynn Dan is a very kind and empathetic person. I hope you have a peaceful day. As you know tears come and go. Certain things will trigger them and sometimes you never know what. Jeff and family sent me flowers for my birthday and I just cried and cried. Not sure why. Maybe thinking that Chris always got me flowers on my birthday.

Mona Hope you had a better night and are starting to see some good results.

 

[easyas123]

taking Ella and her friends to Peddlers Village for her birthday.

I have family that goes there every December. We went one year ourselves.

I did order on Amazon what I am praying are very wide legged pajama pants that are coming tomorrow.

I was thinking - and I think someone others suggested this: Why not either put the boot on over the existing pajama pants and/or just sleep in the boot if it's to much a bother to put it on in the middle of the night?

I do not know if it would help, but would you get more rest if you had a recliner?

I think a sleeping recliner chair rental will be delivered today!

I used a recliner for a good week or so after I had surgery about 10 years ago (upper body, not lower extremities) and it helped. My husband is having knee surgery either next Monday or the 8th of January (surgeon says "I'll do it the 18th" - lady who does his scheduling said "waitwaitwait a minute - he said what? there's no room on the schedule"! and I'm planning on parking him in the basement where we have a couch with built in recliners to hang out for a few days. He'll be allowed to walk and what not so I think he'll be okay.

Have a good day everyone

YOU have a awesome day, enjoy your shopping and I hope your weekend is a pleasant one. I may be following your example and finishing what small bit of shopping I have to do on Sunday.

Mitchell was in a wreck last night on his motorcycle . Some lady pulled out of a side street and crossed over to the turn only lane and hit him.

Ugh oh no. So glad he is okay. I won't lie, the day my eldest sold his street bike was one I was very happy about!

Good morning! Brought a little souvenir home from Disney - Covid!

Yuck. It's pretty amazing how far we've come since early 2020! Glad you aren't feeling to bad and got to enjoy your trip before it hit you. I had it about 6 weeks ago. Felt a little off for a few days (tested, negative) then it hit me one night overnight and when I woke up BOOM! felt run over. Luckily it only lasted for about 24 hours of feeling like crap. Then it passed. I hope you have a quick time with it and the rest of the family can skate by w/o getting it. My husband didn't get it, so that was good.

Happy Friday to you all.

Not much going on. COSTCO is has a $250 Disney gift card for $225 if anyone is interested. I grabbed one - waiting for them to email it to me. I prefer a physical gift card but I knew we'd use it on our next trip and it was a decent deal so I grabbed it. Limit of 2 per membership if anyone is interested.

Youngest sons in-laws coming over Saturday. Sunday we will probably go up to Northern DE to do a spot of shopping - for the dogs and a gift for our young niece. Looks like foster pup may go to her new home Sunday, too - the new family is from just north of Philly so we may meet them half way and save them a extra hour on 95. if all the ducks get in a row for that to happen. Sunday is supposed to be a super rainy day, so good for some shopping.

Going out for dinner w/ some family members this evening, I should be home getting ready for our Company tomorrow afternoon but you know what? What ever needs to get done Saturday will eventually get done. It always does.

Had to discipline my HR gal today - for of all things gossiping and creating drama. Our business has been growing a lot over the past few years, necessitating a full HR dept. which was supposed to help deal with these things, not make them worse! Anyhow, we will see if it sinks in. As a female I'll say it - a office full of other females fouls up the vibe in here. There is more chit chatting about who did what and who's doing what and stupid, stupid stuff that we never had when we were a smaller office. Office drama is anathema to me.

I REALLY need to clear off my desk and straighten up the rest of my office. Off to it. Have a really nice weekend everyone.

 

[lynxstch]

Just a vent. Anyone who doesn't want to hear it, tune out now, lol!!!

Why is it when I'm 'in a mood', everything goes wrong and everyone is suddenly dumb?

The prescription assistance lady at the hospital sent someone last week for my signature on a renewal of my heart med. All fine and good. She submitted it the next day. Today I get a letter from the drug company saying the application is incomplete. That it's missing the Doctors address, phone number and fax #. I call the cardiologist office and the girl looks it up and says all of that is on there, it's on the physicians part. I said I assumed so, but they're saying it's not. She said I'm looking at a copy of it and it is. I call the drug company and they tell me it's missing something called an NPI or something. I call back to the cardio office and she says that is on there too. But she refaxed the whole thing again, so hopefully there's no more issue.

Then I get online with Amazon for the defective paper shredder I returned. It doesn't show that it's been returned, only that I asked for a return. It went to Kohl's on Tuesday. After 20 min on the phone the rep tells me that it wasn't scanned in properly at the warehouse, that the charge for the replacement will be removed. I am not paying for 2 of them, that's for sure.

Then I get online to do click and ship for the post office to pick up 2 packages on Monday. I print out the confirmation and go to 'arrange pickup' so the carrier will stop here and get them when he delivers the mail on Monday. Except that on the website, it will only let me set it for tomorrow. I didn't want them getting there on Monday. I wanted them there on Wed or Thursday. It sends me a confirmation for tomorrow. But the receipt I printed out says it's scheduled for Monday. What the heck? I call the local post office and ask what the issue is. She says there's a glitch in the online system.. Well that same glitch was there last December when I tried to mail packages too. And the ones I mailed then, got lost in transit, took 3 weeks to get to FL and arrived after Christmas! I didn't want that happening again this year. She said just put them out tomorrow and have him pick them up. Tell him you cancelled the one for Monday, even though you didn't, or he'll just stop on both days and waste time. I give up!

Then Summer starts with me. I asked if she would be my emergency contact on my new PCP paperwork, since she's the closest one around. She starts with "Absolutely I will, but, we need to have a talk about what you want when it's your time. I don't want to do anything you don't want me to." Excuse me? First of all, Luke is now the primary on my advanced directive. It would be him that I talk to about what I want, not her. I know she means well, but she's got to stop this, all she does is upset me when she starts this. Don has only been gone a month today, and God willing I'm not going anywhere anytime soon.

2 good things happened today. First, Fed Ex picked up the cabinet I was sending back to Wayfair, and 20 minutes later I had my refund in my bank account..they're on the ball.

Second, my friend in CO and I decided that (1)--we are going to try for a trip to HI in April, or (2), if that doesn't pan out, she's going to come here for a week to visit me. Either would be so awesome and gives me something to look forward to.

Going to find something for dinner and veg out in front of the tv. I got some online shopping done today, but never made it to the store. I washed the floors, and dusted and vacuumed the house and took the last of the trash pile from the cellar to the shed. I'm going to head out early tomorrow morning and get everything done in one trip, hopefully.

Have a nice evening.

 

[Snowysmom]

Lynn Vent away. Customer service is not what it used to be. I am glad you now have travel or your friend coming to visit you to look forward to. Have a good evening watching something interesting.

 

[dazedx3]

Mona… hope you are doing ok today.

Lynn… there are ”days” aren’t there? Sorry you had so many frustrations. Nice to hear about your friend

Easyas… so annoying about you HR person. Being retired that is the type of thing I am most happy not to have to deal with anymore.

Today I stripped and washed the spare beds linens. Should have got more done but it’s all I had energy for. I think Dd and SIL will come and bring a tree and put it in the stand this weekend. Decorating it will be a bit hard, so many ornaments hold memories.

 

[SpaceMan5]

Why is it when I'm 'in a mood', everything goes wrong and everyone is suddenly dumb?

I know the feeling, it can just snowball on ya.

Here is my personal viewpoint - I will react a certain way when I have 3 to 4 things on my plate but when I have 8 or 9 things I am gonna react way differently and it may not be all that constructive in the moment.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

@easyas123 Your HR story hit home. Working in nursing, well… we see some of the same behaviors, and it’s not easy to deal with. I try to be friendly and helpful to everyone and I have some long term, close work friends that I know I can confide in if I need to. But even then, I mostly vent to my family, and vice versa (which makes for some pretty lively dinner table conversations). Otherwise, I keep my nose clean. It’s definitely interesting being one of the older workers now when for many of my years, I was among the youngest.

The thing I’ve noticed in the past several years are that people don’t want to talk to eachother when there’s a problem anymore, the way we always did, which was a ‘hallmark’ of being a professional. They’d rather B about it to others, and that’s not cool. It’s something I’ve been trying to work on as a unit culture project with our managers, but there’s been so much turnover and other, more critical things that take precedence, that I’m not sure it will ever go anywhere. So I just try to do my part, set a good example, and not let things bother me when they inevitably happen, especially working in such a high stress environment. I hope you can nip yours in the bud and make it clear that behavior always has to be respectful to all.

Well I had a lazy day today. Felt pretty crappy, so didn’t get much done. I have dirty laundry lined up and have to give the dogs a bath, but that all has to wait until tomorrow. I did do an online grocery order but we only managed to put the perishables away so far. (DH isn’t sick, just tired.) He is going to make spaghetti and meatballs tomorrow and I can’t wait. Hopefully I feel better.

QOTD: Anyone here have any interest in joining the new ‘controversial’ board? How do you feel about it?

 

[Kirby]

Fell asleep around midnight, after watching Survivor, and I am not happy with who went home.

Neither was I. They had a good chance to blindside/get rid of a threat and they didn't take it.

After the Kohl's cash and 20% coupon I spent $8 for an $80 waffle maker.

I got almost as good as a deal today. Paid $29 for a $100 jacket.

Dad and I by God's Love, were able to get this sleeping chair delivered today.

Hopefully you will get much needed rest tonight!

He's scraped up on his arm and leg. He said his wrist and side hurt today. He called me and I went to where he was. He was much calmer than I was,

Hopefully he'll be good as new soon. I know how you feel. James had a motorcycle when he was in college. He was driving home one night past a bar and someone pulled out in front of him. He didn't get hit but laid the motorcycle down on the ground to keep from hitting the car. Went to the hospital but, like Mitchell, just some scrapes and bruises. Not a fun call to get at 2:00 am in the morning.

QOTD: Anyone here have any interest in joining the new ‘controversial’ board? How do you feel about it?

I haven't seen it. Is it for all the stuff that's not allowed on this one?

Unfortunately it is going around and we will be dealing with it forever now.

Heard on the radio today that the flu is ramping up big time. Lots of people in the hospital and only about 39% of the adult population having taken the flu shot. They didn't even talk about Covid or RSV.

Today was unseasonally warm, up to 75 degrees. Ragweed has not been frozen out yet and we've got Mountain Cedar until at least March/April. Can't win for losing.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Then Summer starts with me. I asked if she would be my emergency contact on my new PCP paperwork, since she's the closest one around. She starts with "Absolutely I will, but, we need to have a talk about what you want when it's your time. I don't want to do anything you don't want me to." Excuse me? First of all, Luke is now the primary on my advanced directive. It would be him that I talk to about what I want, not her. I know she means well, but she's got to stop this, all she does is upset me when she starts this. Don has only been gone a month today, and God willing I'm not going anywhere anytime soon.

I could see how this might get a little confusing. Summer must think that being an emergency contact is the same as being the health care proxy (or whatever you call it in MD). Not the same thing. Maybe if, when you feel up to it, you could just write something out briefly that explains your intentions. Something that explains why you chose Summer as the emergency contact for your PCP (because she lives nearby) and why you chose Luke for your advance directive (because you trust him to see through the healthcare decisions you make). You could show them both when you see them and then keep it with your will. Done.

When we did our wills the attorney added a living will which I thought was good that outlined our intentions. Of course, it’s not legally recognized in this state as the Health Care Proxy is, but it helps identify what we’d want and don’t want. I’ve seen them placed in patients’ charts before and they’re nice to have so there’s little ambiguity.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I haven't seen it. Is it for all the stuff that's not allowed on this one?

Yes, the thread about it at the top of the CB now.

 

[lynxstch]

QOTD Saw it, and I'm not interested. I don't like the threads where it gets too controversial and people start bashing each other over things said. I'll stick to this thread and the others that I am interested in.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Feel better, Pea

Thank you all always for you and your extra care. God's Grace, we had a long but better night. Dad told me he would have normally got up for restroom when I did anyway. I do wear boot all the time, easier. Also right now I feel more secure with it on.

Chair is definitely nice and soft. I wish it were a little longer. Will continue to figure out how it best can work for me. Boot maSleep still hard because of everything this week! I did get more sleep and rest.

Mercy of God, I am becoming stronger. Much easier for me to walk with walker and with just a little help from dad, get up. Yes, I do need help to stand and start walker.

Ibuprofen seems to kick in within an hour and last about 4 hours overall. I've taken 2, 300mg each doses today. Will take 2 more for 1200mg total, thanks Pea. So praying same dose at roughly similar time spacing will help.

Sorry for never posting earlier. Prayers please for sleep tonight. So hard last night to be exhausted and yet get very limited sleep from being so tired. This week, of course, has been most taxiing! Frustrating as you can imagine sitting in the new chair, which is very soft, wish it were longer and of course, heavy boot=a challenge, and stuck Any falling asleep super quick ideas appreciated!

Love and prayers always to all. HUGE thank you Pea for all the surprises and for dad. I will PM you I pray tomorrow.

 

[SpaceMan5]

QOTD Saw it, and I'm not interested. I don't like the threads where it gets too controversial and people start bashing each other over things said. I'll stick to this thread and the others that I am interested in.

To me, what is being discussed is very interesting and I am open to it to a certain degree. I think those that post on the DIS boards are of a certain ilk and could lead to some very interesting debates. But there is a very thin line....

I believe a certain amount of ppl that will post some things they would never say face to face to another. There in lies the problem for some and could lead to some ugly exchanges. I am willing to take a chance but will avoid it if the threads start to go sideways

And do we want something that could end up going against why we joined the DIS boards in the first place. A safe place to share planning ideas, support for others, general fun discussions and so forth. Even if we can just scroll by do we still know that negativity is lurking around the corner.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning. Another 60 degree day on tap, followed by more of the same tomorrow, but with torrential rains, or so they say. Then the temps start dropping again and it will feel like December.

I got some much needed sleep last night, and feel a little more like myself today. There were just too many things throwing roadblocks in my way. I'm heading for the mall very shortly to finish up shopping. I don't want to be dealing with the large crowds and ill tempered people if I wait any longer. My packages are on the front porch waiting for the mail carrier to take them, and my Christmas cards went in the mail box earlier when I went out to get the paper. I'm tired of bringing in the paper just to dump it in the recycle bin, I will be glad when our subscription ends on Dec 21 and I can be done with it. I had to block the website on Don's phone because it kept sending notifications every day. I don't want to turn it off or get rid of it, but I turned the volume way down and I'll only check it every few days.

Have a good morning all

 

[PollyannaMom]

QOTD: Anyone here have any interest in joining the new ‘controversial’ board? How do you feel about it?

I have been reading the thread about it and kind of working on my answer slowly. I finally posted it this morning. It's on page 6, post 108.

 

[Snowysmom]

Footballmouse I hope Mitchell is feeling better after the accident. It is frustrating when you know someone was not paying attention and causes an accident.

Mona I hope you get better rest. It seems like you are taking the pain med well.

Pea-n-me I hope you feel better and more rested.

Dazedx3 It is hard to decorate for the holidays. Ornaments do tell a story and have memories attached. I have not put up a tree since Chris passed. It was his favorite thing to do. I have some small decorations out and about.
Yesterday I bought a door plaque that has a cardinal on it and it just says PEACE. It was the last one left and I feel like I was drawn to it. So now it rests on my office door so I see it while I work or on the computer.

QOTD: I will most likely not look at the controversial thread except maybe once out curiousity. I do not like confrontation or controversy at all and will actively avoid threads where things get heated. I remember when there was a similar board that ended up getting shut down. It got very nasty.

Today I have been to Lowe's to add to my gutter extension supplies. I have been out fine tuning the extensions and the flow direction for the expected rain tomorrow. I am finding doing these kind of things are overwhelming me lately. I miss my teammate who handled these things. I then went inside and cleaned the master bath including the shower which takes a while. I then cleaned the tub and tub surround in the other bathroom. I have to vacuum the rooms with the rugs later. I made oatmeal with almonds, cinnamon, and a bit of maple syrup for breakfast. Next up is a visit to the park in Kenny's town for a walk. It is not a dedicated dog park but it is mostly people walking their dogs. Then CVS, write out Christmas cards for the family, maybe wrap some gifts. I need to look into sending Chris' cousin in the nursing home some flowers for Christmas. Does anyone use 1-800 Flowers or other online places? I want to be sure she gets a nice arrangement. I also need to touch base with Chris' cousin who is dealing with cancer. He was to have a scan yesterday to see if the treatments he had earlier in the Fall worked. Jeff's youngest Sam has croup yet again and had to get a steroid shot yesterday.

Have a good Saturday.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Good morning. Got some sleep but still feeling tired and still have the head, throat and chest aches. Going to try to get what I need to get done while I have a tiny bit of energy, and before my own shower, especially the dog baths, as those can get wet and messy.

Dogs, I think, needed a day of decompression yesterday, anyway. Toto, especially, was quiet. Today he’s more his lively self. Grady was just so happy to be home and in the quiet. Kennels are always so loud with so much barking and carrying on. So he just laid down with his head up and eyes closed like he was peaceful. I‘m sure he was simply glad he was “home” and not indefinitely in shelter land again. Glad he’s learning we come back. I sure wish there was another safe alternative for them when we go away. We have one more trip coming up this winter for DS’s baseball tournament. I’m a little on the fence about going, just because of the dogs, packing, getting sick, etc. So we’ll see. I know DS wants us to go.

DS was saying this morning that one of the ER docs he works with also got Covid on a recent trip to Disney. That time of year, I guess.

Interesting thoughts on the new board. I’m going to try it out. I was here for the debate board but never actually was active there, probably because I joined here when I was in active treatment for breast cancer (and trip planning our post-treatment Disney cruise) while also working and caring for little kids, so I must not have had a lot of time to spend wandering around the different boards. I mainly stuck with the trip planning forums and then eventually discovered I enjoyed the CB, which is where and why I created the BC support thread in 2005, which is where my mind was then. (BTW I met one of my friends from there last week in Disney and it was so nice to finally meet after being friends here over the past nearly 20 yrs. It was like we were old friends already, we both thought.) If it gets nasty then I’m out. I have enough nasty in my life, I don’t need it here too.

I hope everyone finds some enjoyment in their Saturday.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Does anyone use 1-800 Flowers or other online places? I want to be sure she gets a nice arrangement.

When I used to send flowers to my mom in another state, I went through a florist local to her. I would just order on the phone and pay by credit card. I liked being able to talk with them personally - so if they didn't have something, they could suggest substitutions they did have, or just in general suggest what was particularly fresh and nice in the shop that day. Plus, I always felt like I was getting more for my money, because the big company wasn't taking a cut.

If you're comfortable telling me where the person lives, I'd be happy to do a little research for you.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good morning, friends with love. Grace of God, I got more sleep last night. Still got up a handful of times but dad said not more than Thursday night. We both agreed last night went much better plus we need to remember that we have only had the chair 2 days! Dad and I did find a much more comfortable position than the first night for the chair. It's often more sometimes after a 1 1/2-2 hours, I need to get up for some movement. That really makes a huge difference to me. It also is such a blessing to have on clean pajama bottoms this morning, Above all else, that I am truly so much stronger and overall, in less pain, especially in right foot, than I was before this all happened on Monday=Mercy alone of God of course. I am healing.

Trying to still navigate so much red tape and misinformation in terms of going forward healthcare wise especially with a possible shower chair or caregiver. We are still wondering does a shower in general not happen until 6-8 weeks. I am guessing before or absolutely at that time, I will need a follow up CT scan and or Xray to make certain all is healed before boot can go away. Then, am I back to normal or what? These are obviously doctor questions which is what I'm working on.

Saturday joy in some way to all with love/