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[Judique]

And it's raining out here. Not heavy but, definitely wet.

So, being sort of lazy although I'm working inside. I haven't changed into day clothing yet. I have a few things in the laundry I have to go switch to the dryer and I've placed the trash to the curb. They've been coming late so I am relaxed about getting it out there. DD is at her office and not working from home today so by the time she gets here, I'll look efficient, lol.

Made vet appointments for 2 cats and the dog. There goes the $$$$! More to come.

Checked pet food and except for dog kibble, which I buy smaller bags more often so it doesn't go stale, I'm good for into mid June. Dog eats wet and dry, so I keep both on hand as do the cats.

Caught up on my bill paying. I like to use credit cards and I'm allergic to paying interest so I monitor this weekly. I try to take advantage of the offers and yesterday I had a fail. I paid for Panera Bread for lunch. I have 2 cards that would have given $2 back, and I mixed it up and used the wrong card. $2 isn't much but it all adds up. On the other hand I paid insurance on my car and saved $15 with an offer from Amex, so overall I came out on the plus side.

Ikea sent me an email today that they have another egift offer, again today only. Buy $100 get $20 extra. I find them useful for a lot of little things. On the other side, I don't need anything. We've bought a ton of stuff from Ikea for many years, furnishing my kids houses and this house as needed. For the most part I have Ethan Allen furniture now, (it's not new, but in perfect condition and most important, 'I' like it, but I had lots of Ikea for the kids rooms growing up. and I still have some pieces in my basement that have done very well. Bookcases and end tables like Mona. And, I sold off the kids stuff and people wanted it, especially the Hemnes dressers- got about half the price back. Also the duvet sets were nice as you could change up the room and make it look different and fresh quickly for teens especially.

I also buy their shades and then use nice curtains over most. That way if the shade fails or gets too dirty it's $30-$40 not $3 to $400. I can't remember the name but they have the cellular feature. I recently researched replacing some with my friend for one of their rooms and I will keep buying the Ikea ones, thankyouverymuch, although I didn't tell them that. I found the quality difference minimal and the price maxed out. And who crawls around behind your curtains looking for branding anyway? Plus the fancy ones sometimes need an installer.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning.

We got back home late last night. Had a good day babysitting Marty. Been a while since we stayed with an infant as we never did with Carter because of the pandemic. DDIL and DS had a long day in Baltimore. Brought carry out dinner home with them. All her medical visits were good.

We celebrated Mother's Day with them also so they didn't have to drive up 3 weekends this month. Talked to DS about his new position in the SS when he starts back Monday. He will have a regular M-F job with no overtime, which is great. And it is more administrative so I think he will be safer.

DS and DDIL gave me this picture for Mother's Day. DDIL made the frame. The blanket is the one I knitted.



Raining and yucky today. Supposed to rain the next 3 days. Glad I planted my seeds and plants Tuesday.

I am afraid there is not much hope for my marriage.

I'm sorry to hear that.

get ready for our trip in August,

I was looking at your signature. We were there the day before Hurricane Matthew when things shut down early. Went up from Fort Myers for the day and met international DISsers in the Poly for lunch then to DTD. It was weird. Also, we will be there in August this year also.

Kancamangus

Had to google that.

It's a Tervis tumbler with lid so not a big deal to drop, just a splash and a broken tumbler - I've had at least 3 break when they are full and get dropped.

We have had some Tervises that failed replaced, either by mail or at a Tervis store.

I'm not sure if it counts when you drop it, but Tervis has a lifetime guarantee on their products. We've exchanged 2 tumblers because they cracked after about 5 years of use, got water between the two layers, and it molded. You should check to see if you can exchange them.

Just like this.

Off to get some lunch.

 

[Judique]

man, when it rains, it pours. I'm sorry about all the headaches y'all are going through!

DH had a nurse that didn't like to come and help, when he had his nephrectomy/adrenalectomy. He wasn't supposed to get out of bed without supervision, and still had a catheter over 2 weeks after surgery, but they wanted him up out of bed and sitting. So he'd ring for them to come help, the guy would take over an hour to come, and then tell DH he had to wait until someone was free. No one would ever come, until after shift change, and the doctor would come and get onto DH for not moving out of bed. That happened two days in a row, then I called the patient care coordinator and had a very...well, honestly, I went full Karen on them...and DH had a new nurse the rest of the time he was there, even if that guy was on shift.
(why did he have a cath for over 2 weeks? because he couldn't fart...although he farted a lot the day after he had his surgery. It was a freaking mess. Sunrise hospital in Vegas is the worst. Spring Valley was great.)


I'm not sure if it counts when you drop it, but Tervis has a lifetime guarantee on their products. We've exchanged 2 tumblers because they cracked after about 5 years of use, got water between the two layers, and it molded. You should check to see if you can exchange them.

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So I picked up my card at Dunkin, and the manager was pretty honest about their product quality. They get them in frozen, but there is also a different supplier for some, and her location is not franchised, so they get what corporate gives them...which is a bad supplier. I went ahead and got 50 cornbread Munchkins. They are like a lightly sweet cornbread, a little dry, but not really sweet! She said the donut isn't as good as the Munchkins, and she was right. (She gave me a donut to try for free, as well as a Munchkin, before I bought them.) Also, the mango refresher with lemonade is amazing. She said it's better with coconut milk, but I didn't want coconut milk hanging out with me in the car while I was running around.

Time to go heat up some leftover falafel stuff for lunch. Tonight is still the ricotta fritters, I think. Tomorrow, the pork stir fry (with the pork I have here already).

Laters!

I held onto the broken tumblers forever and never got around to getting them replaced, so I ditched them into the recycle bin one day. I probably have at least a dozen still in the house that are in 'new' condition so no big deal for me. I actually got most at Bed Bath and Beyond on mark down using a coupon, including a 'Mom' one, cherry blossoms, and several what I considered nice ones. The one I miss was a Poppy one that was daughters. I dropped it and broke it and it was a gift to her. I'll buy it if I ever see it again, but she tossed the broken pieces.

 

[Judique]

Good morning.

We got back home late last night. Had a good day babysitting Marty. Been a while since we stayed with an infant as we never did with Carter because of the pandemic. DDIL and DS had a long day in Baltimore. Brought carry out dinner home with them. All her medical visits were good.

We celebrated Mother's Day with them also so they didn't have to drive up 3 weekends this month. Talked to DS about his new position in the SS when he starts back Monday. He will have a regular M-F job with no overtime, which is great. And it is more administrative so I think he will be safer.

DS and DDIL gave me this picture for Mother's Day. DDIL made the frame. The blanket is the one I knitted.

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Raining and yucky today. Supposed to rain the next 3 days. Glad I planted my seeds and plants Tuesday.


I'm sorry to hear that.


I was looking at your signature. We were there the day before Hurricane Matthew when things shut down early. Went up from Fort Myers for the day and met international DISsers in the Poly for lunch then to DTD. It was weird. Also, we will be there in August this year also.


Had to google that.


We have had some Tervises that failed replaced, either by mail or at a Tervis store.


Just like this.

Off to get some lunch.

Love the frame!

 

[tazdev3225]

Just a quick update.

Somehow the ultrasound, which had my grandson sobbing in pain, corrected the issue. The doctors are still undecided if it's a hernia or torsion but for now the issue is resolved. When the rechecked him the swelling was gone and his pain level dropped considerably. He does have a follow-up next week with urology so hopefully it will be OK. This daughter is the nurse so she is definitely on top of things and knows what to look for. I am emotionally spent. The cold, wet, dreary weather isn't helping. It was like this 31 years ago on this date. Yes I do remember the weather because my middle child was hit by a car 31 years ago today at 3:55 PM.

My husband has been insisting I book a trip to Disney for a solo trip in the fall. I may take him up on it. Have a good day.

 

[frog3101]

Hello. I just wanted to say a huge thank-you to all who have responded with their personal stories, prayers/good thoughts, and PM's. It is appreciated more than you know. I'm really just putting one foot in front of the other these days. I do fairly well when I don't have to see or talk to my husband, but if we have any type of conversation it usually sets me back quite far. He has been very mean since he "dropped the bomb" on me about wanting a divorce. Anything I say seems to set him off. I am fairly certain there is another woman. He denies anything is happening with them other than they are friends, but my "spidey senses" tell me it's more. At the very least he's having an emotional affair with her. She has been an issue in the past and I thought we'd moved on, but I guess not. I give so much credit to all of you who have gone through this and come out on the other side. I just feel like I'm never gonna feel "sane" again. He refuses counseling. I have been going for a few years on my own. He has made up his mind and there is no changing it.
I just feel so bad for our kids and the stress of starting over at this point in my life is almost too much. There are not many housing options in my area, so if you all could keep the prayers/good thoughts coming on one that may work out, I'd appreciate it. The thought of moving all my stuff also is overwhelming. I guess I will try to look at it as a good time to purge all the stuff I keep saying I should get rid of. l

On a different note, I did manage to get some cupcakes baked today. I'm experimenting with some new frostings, so am hoping to drop some "samples" off at friends and see what they think. I'm not a great baker but keep thinking it might be fun to just sell basic cakes and cupcakes on the side.

Do any of you pay attention to the Kentucky Derby? It's kind of a thing in my family (my dads side especially. I usually have a horse or two all picked out but have hardly looked this year. I have no real reasoning to my bets, just names I like or if I like how a horse looks. I'm especially drawn to grey/silver horses, but they don't seem to be winners often.

I hope all of you have a good Friday and a great weekend. I never know these days what each day will bring, so I have no plans at this point other than finishing up the cupcakes and going to my oldest band/choir concert tonight. It will be the first time I've been really out and about since the news broke about my husband and I. We live in a VERY small rural area and news like this travels fast. Ugh. I'm sure nobody will actually say anything to my face, it's just the thought of what everyone is thinking when they see me. I know deep down that they prob will not think much, but it's hard to not think they are judging me in some way.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Hold your head up high, @frog3101

 

[PollyannaMom]

Home safely. Cats were very happy!

 

[Snowysmom]

@frog3101 It is hard to go through tough times in life. But somehow I believe we do what needs to be done even if it is daunting. difficult, and makes us sad. One day at a time. One day you can clean out one area and the move on to the next when you can. That is what my sons and I did with the house. It seemed overwhelming but when we broke it down into areas it worked out. Then you can research areas you may want to live in to see what is available. I will say a prayer that you find something that is just right for you and your kids. Moving is hard and alot of work. But little things at a time and one day at a time. I am glad you are in counseling. Baking cupcakes is a good thing to do. What flavor frostings are you working on?

@TazDev I hope your grandson is feeling better. I would love to hear how you do Disney solo. It is something I am going to try during the family trip in October. I am going off by myself to see if I can do it. If I can't the family is right there for me. I want to be able to go on a Disney trip by myself next year.

Today I had to deal with the house ins, new on the condo and the date for cancellation on the house. The agent asked me my marital status and I had to say single. That is only the second time I have had to do that and it makes me sad. I do not feel single. I know what the marriage vows say but I don't care. I still feel married. I think there needs to be a status that signifies widow or widower and I think we should have our own tax status too while I am thinking about it.

Tomorrow I take my car in for the 18 month check up. This something Chris used to do but now it is my job. Then I will meet the kids at the house and they are taking the rest of their stuff. Younger DS asked me over for brunch on mother's day. I love to see the grandkids. My youngest DGD always gives me a big smile when I come in the door. She is my mini me. My older DGD shows me how strong she is, and my DGS loves to show me his legos.

Chris and I were supposed to leave for Disney tomorrow. I book out far in advance. We were going to stay at Bay Lake Tower. I am glad we had such a great Disney trip last May with wonderful memories. I have spent the last several mother's days at Disney. I am thinking that I will find a different time of year to go when I go by myself. I may go in the Fall and do North Conway in the spring as I am doing this year. I do hope I eventually can go to North Conway in the Fall again as it is so beautiful but I think it will be a long time before I can. Chris always said to do new things, make changes when there is loss.

Have a good rest of the day.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Just saw this on Instagram and wanted to give a shout-out to @Pea-n-Me and all the nurses here on the DIS!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

For my Quacker Family I thought everyone could use this reminder right about now. How blessed we all ae God brought and is keeping us together. Each of you, in some way, will always have a place in my heart and I thank you.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

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Just saw this on Instagram and wanted to give a shout-out to @Pea-n-Me and all the nurses here on the DIS!

Thank you. You have no idea what this means to me today. (Rough week.)

 

[dazedx3]

Frog.... I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Please make sure to protect yourself, consult with a lawyer, if only to know what needs to be done for fairness. It doesn't mean you have to file just know your rights. Why do you have to move out?
And those people in your town, they will be looking at your husband more than you. Hang in there, you don't deserve this. If he was not happy in the marriage, he should have worked on it, rather than seeking out another relationship. I hope I'm not saying too much, I just want you to know you have worth.

Pea... Thank you for your work as a nurse. My DD is a nurse practitioner and I get how draining it can be at times.

Snowysmom... You are making a lot of strides! We are all so proud of you!

Tazdev... I hope your GS is feeling better.

I've started to gather things together to pack for our trip. I have to eliminate some, I always pack too much and I don't want to pay for too much extra luggage. I'm just laying things out in an extra bedroom. I had bought so many things when I though we were driving and I still want to take them but there just won't be room, things like swim toys and toys for the grands.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Extra thank you to Pea, Footballmouse, and your daughter, Dazed for the kind, caring, healing difference you all make to so many. To all other Quacker family nurses, my sincere appreciation, too!

Hug, Dazed. I am truly glad you do have a trip to look forward to! Have fun please!

Have a good evening everyone

 

[Snowysmom]

@Pea-n-Me Belated Happy Nurses Day. I am sorry you are having a tough couple of days. Thank you for all you do.

Frog Thinking of you. Always keep your head up high and remember that you are a strong, worthy person. Don't even care about what others think.

@dazedx3 It is always hard to choose what to pack. I tend to be an over packer too but then I figure that most places I go I can always do a laundry and have some down time while I do it.

It is 47 going into the 50s today. A bit chillier than the past few days. I actually like this weather.

Off for coffee and then to the car dealer for an oil change. Then off to the house.

Have a good day.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning--still pouring down the rain. Hasn't stopped since yesterday morning. Only going to be 50 today and will be another dreary, feel like sleeping day. It's also Kentucky Derby day, and I have long since picked my 3 favorites,,so hoping for a safe race, no injuries, and that I pick the right ones for a change.

Have a great morning all

 

[Judique]

Good morning--still pouring down the rain. Hasn't stopped since yesterday morning. Only going to be 50 today and will be another dreary, feel like sleeping day. It's also Kentucky Derby day, and I have long since picked my 3 favorites,,so hoping for a safe race, no injuries, and that I pick the right ones for a change.

Have a great morning all


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What she said!

 

[frog3101]

Good morning all. We actually have sun here and I think it's going to be a super nice day weather wise.

I have yet to pick my horse or horses for the Derby. I actually have family who are there, so if i hurry I can text them my pick(s) and make a bet.

@Snowysmom thank you for your kind words. I hope things for you keep moving forward. I pray that you have a relaxing trip and really are able to just sit and "breath" for a bit. You have had a long haul and deserve time to just "be".

@dazedx3 thank you also for your kind words, you have not said too much. He refuses counseling. I am the one who has to move as we don't own our house, a corporation that is owned/run by his family does. I also pray that your upcoming trip goes so well and you are able to make so many happy memories.

@Breezy_Carol love the picture of Marty. I could use a baby to snuggle about now. None of my kids are at that stage anymore and sometimes I miss it. Other times I'm thankful as all get out they can all use the restroom on their own. LOL

@flyingdumbo127 thank you as always for your kind words and encouragement.

@tazdev3225 I hope that your grandson continues to improve and they can get whatever the issues is corrected so he won't have to have pain again in the future.

@Canadisney Fly Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story. It's the worst and I don't think I'd wish this on anyone.

Thanks to all again who have replied or said a prayer or sent a good thought. If you could pray that a house I have found will work out for me and the kids I would really appreciate it. I'd like to be able to get the "ball rolling" and get moved during the summer so the kids won't have that and school to deal with at the same time.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning.

@lynxstch Your picture is perfect.

I am sitting here looking out the sliding glass door and it looks like a nor'easter. The rain is falling and the trees are moving in the wind. 50 degrees. Just a yucky, stay inside, day.

I learned I will need a reverse shoulder replacement,

I forgot to respond to this. One of my friends and fellow church members had this in January. She had very good results and immediate pain relief. I have had patients who had it with good results. I am sure my friend would share with you via email if interested. Any surgery has its risks but I think this is a good one.

I have some chores I should be doing.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good morning,

Sending to those of you with impending stormy weather. Please stay cozy and warm inside, friends.

I love the Tail of Love dogs, so precious. Dad and I are almost finished watching the movie. The acting isn't always the best in the film but the story is sweet and I love the grandma character. It's always touching to me to watch a movie (or read a book) with a positive grandparent in it. JR is very handsome! I do prefer clean cut men but he's very good looking all right. What's funny is that when Bella and JR are having dinner, Bella looks like she has longer hair and is a bit older than earlier in the movie. Did anyone else feel this way? ND, the military rescue dog has captured my heart big-time. I give extra loving thanks to those of dear you that give loving homes to dogs of all kinds.

Have a good Saturday everyone.