Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

[bobbiwoz]

Thank you snowysmom!
Judique, I am not in real pain, and am sad that you are. I do not have a lot of arm function. I do need to have both hands on my walker for balance, and with my left arm immobilized I do not know how I will get around at all.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Morning all.

@bobbiwoz when it rains, it pours, eh? Sending healing vibes to y'all.
Dumbo, love the new furniture, and that couch!
Frog, I agree with dazed; counseling helped us immensely, both marriage and personal. If he won't go, you should.
Dazed, I hope your trip brings you the comfort you need right now.
Polly, I'm glad your son is mending.
Jud, hope your pain gets better
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DH came home from work not feeling well, day before yesterday. Stayed home sick yesterday. Achy, no fever, a little congested, feeling tired/worn out. This morning, he's still not feeling ok, but he had to go do labs for his neph visit on Monday; so he's getting them done, going to get a Covid test (he tested neg at home, but he wants to be sure) going to the office to pick up his laptop, and then coming home. He'll work from home the rest of the week. Hope he's all better for the week after; he's supposed to be going to all the other FL offices that week, to introduce their new drawing standards.

I've been feeling a bit...IDK...unsettled? since the other day, about some news that broke the other night (not talking about the topic here, per Dis rules). I'm making some donations, and I've ordered some specific postcards and stamps, as I've joined a group that sends postcards to people, to help inform them of the issues/candidates.

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Anyways, the falafel platter went really well. I'm not a big hummus fan, and never made it before, but I like the one I made! Lunch is leftover pizza from my lunch the other day, and leftover falalfel platter.
Today is HF delivery day. Our next 3 meals are: Savory Ricotta Fritters over a spinach and roasted sweet potato salad x2; Shawarma spiced Halloumi w/pistachio rice, garlicky white sauce and Israeli salad (we love this one!); and Sweet chili pork bowls with bell pepper and candied peanuts. We'll have the pork tonight, I think, halloumi tomorrow, and fritters on Saturday.
Sunday (we totally forgot it was Mother's Day, lol) we are going to breakfast, then to watch the new Doctor Strange. Just finished up watching Moonknight.

I ordered a bar cart and a buffet from Rooms to Go; it's out for delivery today. DH has to put them together, so that's going to be his Saturday, lol.

Ugh, MJ just puked on her cat tower. Gotta go clean it up. I guess better the cat tower than on my new furniture/rugs.
Have a good day, y'all.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning. Cloudy outside, but they say no chance of rain. I hope it stays cloudy, I will start weeding and mulching the flower beds, around the bushes etc. It's much easier to work outside when it's not hot and sunny!

I didn't do too much yesterday after shopping and errands, so I have to get something done today. Last night was Survivor, and I was holding my breath at tribal hoping they stuck to their plan, which they did. But my favorite is not going to last much longer unless he finds an idol, or wins immunity!

Have a great Cinco De Mayo Day!

 

[footballmouse]

Happy Cinco De Mayo and happy birthday to my sister!

I don't want to go into details, but we've been together over 20 years and have 4 kids. I am slayed.

I know how you feel. My Dh left after we were together for 24 years. I told him he needed anger management counseling, his answer was to leave. We tried family counseling, wasn't too helpful and he refused marriage counseling. If you're comfortable talking to someone, I would suggest going to counseling just for you. After 12 years, this is something I realize that I should have done for my own well-being. Good luck, I know it sucks.

He passed his class now has to sit for two national exams in the next few weeks.

Good luck to your son!

Last night was Survivor, and I was holding my breath at tribal hoping they stuck to their plan, which they did. But my favorite is not going to last much longer unless he finds an idol, or wins immunity!

My thoughts exactly! I was telling my sister that he needs to get back in that beast mode and win immunity challenges. Unfortunately I think his days are numbered, maybe two more episodes at best for him.

Everything is all built. Igor came promptly at 9:30 and was done before 11:30. He did an excellent job all-around.

Glad you got everything put together. I've never bought anything from Ikea before but I've heard it is not easy to put together.

Not much going on with me. Getting the house cleaned, laundry done and cutting the grass. Working from home today so that makes things easier. Probably won't be on the boards tomorrow, it's our big Sister Day, headed to Brown County, Indiana for some craft boutique shopping. Pray that the rain stays away for us.

I stopped at Walmart and Home Depot yesterday after work, got everything I need for my huge painting projects. I didn't fall asleep until 2 am last night because I couldn't turn my brain off from thinking about everything I have to do next week.

Have a great day everyone!

 

[lynxstch]

I got all the flower beds on this side of the house weeded, mulched, and put fencing across the front of them. Cleaned out both big planter boxes we have on that side. Usually the morning glory's come up by themselves, but hardly any this year..so I planted red wave petunias at either end and mini red/yellow petunias in the middle of each box. They look nice. My back has had it for now, and the sun is trying to come out, so I am done. I moved all my tomato plants to the greenhouse yesterday,,usually by now they are at least 4-5" tall and have sets of leaves. All of these are about 2" tall and barely have second sets of leaves. No idea why. Some of them were heirloom seeds I had saved from last year,,and some were 3 new varieties I bought this year. But the new seedlings aren't doing anything more than the old ones are. I heard that even some of the farmers in WV are having the same issue,,even when they have greenhouses. So after all my work getting them started, I may end up just buying tomato plants from a guy who sells them in town. Usually only $1.50 a 4 pack, so I can try a few varieties,,that is IF he is having any better luck with them


to @footballmouse and @frog3101. I feel bad for both of you..but I have been there and done that. 18 years into my first marriage,,he had an affair. I could forgive (sort of), but I couldn't forget. He was going to move out and go live with his parents, I had all his stuff packed, but the night before he was supposed to move, he said he decided that he wanted to try and give us another chance if I did. I did, but I insisted that he get into a different department at work, since she worked there, and I wanted as little contact as possible, and that we do the marriage counseling thing, and while that helped for awhile, but I just wasn't happy. He tried to change, and did for awhile, but then slipped right back into old habits. He said he thought we were 'comfortable', I said I don't want comfortable, I want happy-- for myself. I had to do everything for everyone for all those years. He expected me to hold down a job, take care of 2 kids, keep the house clean, food on the table, and do the yardwork. And all of that just wasn't working for me anymore. I said I need to do something for myself now. Kids are grown and out of the house, you can figure out how to run a house, and keep a job, and do the yardwork yourself,,lol. We made it 10 years after all of that happened, but it just wasn't the same for me anymore, and I wanted out. We still remain friends, but even that was hard. To this day, I can still recall the other woman's phone # and license plate #. He remarried about 3 years ago (no, not that woman, lol), and I wish them well. Like I said, you can forgive, but some things you never forget. Shortly after that, I met Mr L online, and a year later I moved to MD and we got married, and so far..so good! 's to both of you.

 

[Canadisney Fly]

Good morning all! Grey and rainy here again - spring is a reluctant beast. I'm heading into work today - gas prices have hit $2.15/litre ($6.39 USD/gallon!!!) so I'm likely going to continue to work from home 3-4 days a week for the next little while. I love my team like a family, so I'm looking forward to the day!

Yay! Everything is all built.

It looks great! I too love the red couch. And the Task Rabbit image - I actually enjoy building Ikea furniture, as it's quite gratifying to go from a box to built in such a short time.

I am afraid there is not much hope for my marriage

I'm so sorry to hear that - my thoughts are with you. My husband started pulling back and the six months before my marriage ended were the most difficult period in my life. You want so deeply to make it work but feel so helpless when you can't break through to them. You'll make it through one way or another and repair or rebuild. I've had the two years of the pandemic and a just-turned 13 year old to "distract" me from the fallout, and I have such peace in my heart now.

then to watch the new Doctor Strange. Just finished up watching Moonknight.

We are totally in love with Moonknight, and Dr. Strange is my Christmas Eve movie tradition! Speaking of ex-husbands, he's coming with my son and I to see Doctor Strange on Friday - just a few short years and we're in such a good place. It's odd how one can be lonely in a marriage, but feel more connected once you're alone. Being alone and loneliness are such disparate concepts.

To further feed my secret little Disney obsession, I've been going through the pin boxes to get ready for our trip in August, and sorting out the ones we'll take to trade and which ones we'll keep. I saw a very cool shadow box with a Mickey outline as a way to display pins - I'll be making a couple of the weekend. Photos to come!

This trip, I'll be looking for the scarab pin from Moonknight - I suspect it will be a hard one to find!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

all-around and then-some! Good morning, friends, too

So very much extra loving prayer and care to all of you! Sounds like many of you dear Quackers are going through so much right now :'( I truly do thank each of you, always, for sharing and letting us support and send love to you from afar. We all care so very much indeed.

Canadisney Fly, would love to meet you Good for you for enjoying building Ikea stuff. I should have asked you to be our task rabbit!

It's overcast out this morning and cool. Dad will be headed out soon to Target and a couple other errands in that area, that is thankfully not far from us at all. I got my first early birthday mail yesterday from my cousins in Houston. Dad checked the padded envelope to be sure the contents were wrapped and once he gave it a thumbs up, I removed everything inside and put it away to be opened on my birthday next week. Steve's (cousin) birthday is two days before my own so that's kind of neat. Happy Birthday to your sister, Footballmouse, today!

to all! Will check back later.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I am moved by your heartfelt posts. Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you to those who shared their own difficulties to try to help frog. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to undergo a long term marriage break up, especially with kids involved, although I did support my sister through hers, and felt what she was going through at the time (and even still) pretty deeply. It is so hard on everyone for a time. I saw a lot of her situation in your posts, as well. I have been blessed in my marriage, however the early part of my life was the difficult part for me. (You know things are bad when your therapist cries. ) Thankfully at least one part was good. We were very young when we met so luckily we stayed on the same page as we were growing up together. But that’s not to say that all moments were golden as we had our ups and downs, too, for sure. (And still do!) I think most people probably do.

@lynxstch Now I understand how you left MA. I’m glad you found happiness with Mr L! And he hit the jackpot when he found you!

I had all his stuff packed

I’m sure you did! () Are the kids from your first marriage still up in MA?

Mona, I had that same couch, and loveseat, too, in navy blue. Still have the loveseat but donated the sofa as I’d gotten a sectional for the living room and that sofa bumped it in the family room. But all of your things look so nice! So glad!

Still on my work stretch. I stopped to pick up some food for a good friend of mine. (Was planning to make some stuff for her this weekend but I knew they needed it sooner.) Their family has a parent home from the hospital who is very ill and whose home care is extraordinarily challenging. Tough to see her in such a drained and emotional state. If anyone has any prayers to spare, they could use some. Thank you.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good afternoon, everyone

Hugs and thank you always, Pea, for all of your kind support and friendship to us all! I have also been told in my life by therapists that they had no idea how I was managing. Not very helpful but they were definitely touched by what I was going through at the time. I do pray you had some good counselors when you needed them. I was also so very moved by all the heartfelt shares earlier. We (All of us Quackers) are so blessed, so very blessed, by God to have one another. As a P.S. to you, Pea, that's so cool you had the same sofa just in a different color. Thank you on the furniture. We are most grateful to have it.

Extra to all of you!

 

[Snowysmom]

Frog I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can only imagine how difficult it would be to lose a long marriage when one person does not want to work at trying to save it. Chris and I had our ups and downs over the years but when we went through a particularly tough rough patch we talked all night and decided that we wanted to be together and keep going. We had the same values and were on the same page. I have had friends whose marriages ended either because of infidelity or because when the kids left home the couple did not really know each other any more. It is hard and I am thinking of you and praying for the best for you and your family.

@lynxstch I see why you left MA for MD. Mr. L is a lucky guy! And I am sure you feel like a lucky lady to have him.

I talked with my friend who is going to NH with me. She agrees that this will be a relax and chill out trip. The weather is supposed to be warm and sunny. I like to wander around North Conway Village and stop for coffee. I hope we can sit outside and just talk. I just hope I can keep it together and just know that Chris is with me there. It will be my first time driving to North Conway and driving on the Kancamangus. That will be interesting! I have always been the navigator and photo person. At least my kids told me how to use the controls on the car for going downhill. I guess this will be an adventure. If Chris decides to come along for the ride he better hold on. It will be a bumpy ride.

Interesting that you mention navy blue couches. I have my eye on a navy blue couch at Bernie and Phyls for the livingroom and a navy blue sleeper sofa for the second bedroom for grandkid sleepovers. I won't be buying anything right away but it is on my list.

 

[lynxstch]

@Pea-n-Me--sent you a private message..please check it when you have the chance

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Snowysmom and you and your friend along with your beloved Chris will have a wonderful ride, my friend. I am looking forward to hearing about your adventures.

Sweet dreams to all!

 

[Snowysmom]

Good morning. It is Friday. Temp is 48 with highs going into the 60s.


Have a nice day.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Morning all! It's 71 @8:15am; going to be up to 92 today.
Bad yesterday: the Hello Fresh box sat on the darn delivery truck from just before 6am until almost 6:30pm. When it arrived, the ice packs had totally melted, and the meat and dairy were all warm! The halloumi cheese was melting in the package. Managed to salvage the veggies (though we'll need to use them up in the next couple of days), the rice, the tempura batter (it's just flour/water/powdered egg, so should be fine), though. I contacted HF and complained; got a credit for the items that were ruined. I once again asked them to make sure to make a note to put extra cold packs and to pack them in a smaller box, since it's FL and temperatures are in the 90s for the next few months. I cancelled next week's box, and will try one more time the week after. If they can't get it right, then I'll just cancel the darn thing. I love not having to go shopping (or go shopping, buy the stuff, and then not use it all up, because I needed a TBLS of something), but not the stress of it.

We ended up with frozen fries and fish patties last night.

Good yesterday: DH got a 'red envelope' from his company, when he stopped in to pick up his laptop yesterday (he's working from home today too). Every once in a while, his company hands out a red envelope to their employees, and it has a small bonus in it...anything from movie/sports tickets to gift cards to cash. Yesterday was a $500 Visa gift card, and a little note thanking the employees; it was cute, the theming was May the 4th! So, I'm using it for grocery shopping, and took the grocery money and paid off 2 credit cards. His company gets a lot of grief online, for its high expectations of its employees (which aren't any worse than any of the other big companies in the same field), but a lot of it is just bullpucky. They upped his car allowance so a little bit more in the bank monthly, as well as the amount they put in his HSA annually; and in the meeting DH was in (online), they said they are looking at giving everyone another raise in June. (They had put raises and promotions on hold in 2020/most of 2021; no one lost a paycheck, except the principals, who voluntarily gave up theirs to keep everyone afloat. Everyone got a smaller raise in Oct, I think it was.) They do take care of their employees, at least in DH's office.

Maybe good? yesterday: Got a delivery; think it might be one of the items I ordered from Rooms to go. It's not listed as the same brand on the outside of the box, though. I did get an email that I had the order coming, but on the website, it's still listed as pending shipping, so IDK. I'll have to take a look this afternoon or tomorrow and see what I can see.
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Need to get moving, and shower. Have to head to Dunkin to pick up my gift card (a few weeks ago, I bought some donuts, and they were just awful! I've never had a crunchy French crueller before...it literally broke in shards, as if it was a puff pastry badly baked); the lemon filling tasted off, almost like Pledge smells. The only good one was the strawberry frosted; it actually was soft and tasted fresh. Anyways, I complained, and they are giving me a gc to replace them). Then to the post office to ship DS some of his things; and then the grocery store to pick up some of the stuff that went bad from the HF box., and the usual weekly creamer/coffee/veg/bread run.


have a good day y'all

 

[PollyannaMom]

Good morning!

Packing up to leave from Maine. It is 50* here right now. I'll stop by campus first to check out the student research symposium that is going on, and then get on the road between the rush hours.

Sorry about the food order, but congrats to your DH on the bonus, B&B.

 

[lynxstch]

Good rainy morning all. Temp will only get to 62 today, and we have a flood watch out till 2 am. 1-3" of rain possible with 4 in some places. I just went out in the rain to check the gutters,,one side was all backed up. I had to go all the way to the end by the downspout and clear out branches and stringy things off the maple trees. As soon as I did, sploosh, down went the water! Then Mr L kept saying he was missing a pullover shirt..that it was in his closet. Well I took all of his 'work' pants out of there last week, only thing left are shirts, and there certainly isn't a light blue with dark blue collared t shirt, lol So I went down to the cellar and went through all the totes, and there is no shirt like that. There is a tan with dark brown collar, and a gray with black,,so I think he's imaging the other one, lol!
I put all my 'winter' pjs away, sorted through my totes, put a ton of stuff that no longer fits me (too big,,hurray) in bags for Goodwill. Since I lost almost 30 lbs since my heart scare in Oct/Nov,,all of it is too big, and I don't plan on ever gaining enough weight back to fit in them, lol! Also found 2 pairs of size small shorts I had forgotten I had,,and they fit perfectly! Now I have enough for all summer , since I bought 7 new pairs a few weeks ago.


There was a murder not too far from here yesterday morning. 2 guys got into an altercation (both 20 somethings') and 1 pulled out a gun and killed the other one..yikes!

No plans for the day,,glad I got as much weeding and mulching done as I did yesterday,,and I went out and weedwacked the whole yard and the bank late yesterday afternoon, so the lawn still looks good. No point in washing the kitchen floor till the rain stops, so I am not planning on doing much today except catching up on some tv, and maybe starting a new book. I have so many of them sitting here, but I just don't care much for sitting and reading them. I might download some onto my phone and try reading them that way

@Bianca and Bernard --Sorry about your bad day with the bad food, at least they gave you credit for it,,and hurray for your hubby's surprise bonus! That is nice of his company, especially these days with so many places having financial difficulty's.

@PollyannaMom --have a great time in Maine!

Have a nice day everyone

 

[tazdev3225]

Good morning. I promise to go back and read everything from this week over the weekend.

Good news - my husband came home yesterday and the surgery results look promising. They only removed half of the toe and the doctor is confident he got it all. The nurse had to rewrap it before he left and I'm not sure I can do that. I have a weak stomach. I am so happy to have him out of that hospital. Most of the nursing staff were wonderful. That one nurse however is getting reported somehow. I had an issue the night of the surgery again. I know it was shift change but when a patient comes up from the ER and needs the barhroom, don't give me an attitude and tell me "I'm busy, he has to wait!" If it wasn't considered assault, and I was to tired to go back to his room, I would have had him go in the jug and dump it on her. I wouldn't, but the thought crossed my mind. Thankfully a different nurse helped him.

Bad news - Please say some extra prayers for Anthony and my daughter's family. She rushed Anthony to the ER this morning. He woke up with severe pain in his man area. I'm waiting right now but it looks like surgery again for a hernia, best case scenario, or testicular torsion. She is pretty sure it is the latter. Either way he will need more surgery.

Thank you all for being here.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good morning

Please stay warm, Snowysmom and have a good day, my friend.

I'm also sorry about the food order, B&B. Big congratulations though to your husband!

Continued prayer for your son, PollyannaMom and safe travels to you!

Yikes, Lynn! How sad about the murders Prayers for all. Love, as always, the Pooh picture and also as always wish you a relaxing day!

dear Taz big-time. And prayer.

for all! I'll check back later.

 

[Judique]

Thank you snowysmom!
Judique, I am not in real pain, and am sad that you are. I do not have a lot of arm function. I do need to have both hands on my walker for balance, and with my left arm immobilized I do not know how I will get around at all.

Been thinking of you and the balance issue. I did not realize you used a walker. I will be interested in what your surgeon has to say. Balance is one of my problems, not because of my legs but because I get dizzy changing position and forget that I'm not 16 anymore. That's why I fell last time.

I had another 'fall asleep at 9ish and wake up at 2ish night. Yesterday I worked outside all day, taking breaks every so often. I did not strain myself and since it's my left arm I didn't over use it.

Yet, when I reached for my water with my left arm/hand to my nightstand on the left side of my bed, I had to switch position and switch arms, as I was probably going to drop the full glass of water. It's a Tervis tumbler with lid so not a big deal to drop, just a splash and a broken tumbler - I've had at least 3 break when they are full and get dropped.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Good morning. I promise to go back and read everything from this week over the weekend.

Good news - my husband came home yesterday and the surgery results look promising. They only removed half of the toe and the doctor is confident he got it all. The nurse had to rewrap it before he left and I'm not sure I can do that. I have a weak stomach. I am so happy to have him out of that hospital. Most of the nursing staff were wonderful. That one nurse however is getting reported somehow. I had an issue the night of the surgery again. I know it was shift change but when a patient comes up from the ER and needs the barhroom, don't give me an attitude and tell me "I'm busy, he has to wait!" If it wasn't considered assault, and I was to tired to go back to his room, I would have had him go in the jug and dump it on her. I wouldn't, but the thought crossed my mind. Thankfully a different nurse helped him.

Bad news - Please say some extra prayers for Anthony and my daughter's family. She rushed Anthony to the ER this morning. He woke up with severe pain in his man area. I'm waiting right now but it looks like surgery again for a hernia, best case scenario, or testicular torsion. She is pretty sure it is the latter. Either way he will need more surgery.

Thank you all for being here.

man, when it rains, it pours. I'm sorry about all the headaches y'all are going through!

DH had a nurse that didn't like to come and help, when he had his nephrectomy/adrenalectomy. He wasn't supposed to get out of bed without supervision, and still had a catheter over 2 weeks after surgery, but they wanted him up out of bed and sitting. So he'd ring for them to come help, the guy would take over an hour to come, and then tell DH he had to wait until someone was free. No one would ever come, until after shift change, and the doctor would come and get onto DH for not moving out of bed. That happened two days in a row, then I called the patient care coordinator and had a very...well, honestly, I went full Karen on them...and DH had a new nurse the rest of the time he was there, even if that guy was on shift.
(why did he have a cath for over 2 weeks? because he couldn't fart...although he farted a lot the day after he had his surgery. It was a freaking mess. Sunrise hospital in Vegas is the worst. Spring Valley was great.)

Been thinking of you and the balance issue. I did not realize you used a walker. I will be interested in what your surgeon has to say. Balance is one of my problems, not because of my legs but because I get dizzy changing position and forget that I'm not 16 anymore. That's why I fell last time.

I had another 'fall asleep at 9ish and wake up at 2ish night. Yesterday I worked outside all day, taking breaks every so often. I did not strain myself and since it's my left arm I didn't over use it.

Yet, when I reached for my water with my left arm/hand to my nightstand on the left side of my bed, I had to switch position and switch arms, as I was probably going to drop the full glass of water. It's a Tervis tumbler with lid so not a big deal to drop, just a splash and a broken tumbler - I've had at least 3 break when they are full and get dropped.

I'm not sure if it counts when you drop it, but Tervis has a lifetime guarantee on their products. We've exchanged 2 tumblers because they cracked after about 5 years of use, got water between the two layers, and it molded. You should check to see if you can exchange them.

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So I picked up my card at Dunkin, and the manager was pretty honest about their product quality. They get them in frozen, but there is also a different supplier for some, and her location is not franchised, so they get what corporate gives them...which is a bad supplier. I went ahead and got 50 cornbread Munchkins. They are like a lightly sweet cornbread, a little dry, but not really sweet! She said the donut isn't as good as the Munchkins, and she was right. (She gave me a donut to try for free, as well as a Munchkin, before I bought them.) Also, the mango refresher with lemonade is amazing. She said it's better with coconut milk, but I didn't want coconut milk hanging out with me in the car while I was running around.

Time to go heat up some leftover falafel stuff for lunch. Tonight is still the ricotta fritters, I think. Tomorrow, the pork stir fry (with the pork I have here already).

Laters!