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[lynxstch]

Good morning. Nice brisk 16 degrees right now. I am done with the cold weather I want Spring even with my allergies.

@easyas123 - I agree about my mom. She is very judgmental and as much as I explain to her that most of my professor's taught at big NAME Universities, she still hates that I got my associates degree and am not a DOCTOR or have a master's in sciences like my brothers have. She tells everyone my youngest brother is a doctor and technically he is but it's a PhD in Nuclear Biophysics. Thanksgiving Dinner is like being in an episode of the Big Bang Theory, another brother is a chemist, and a third brother has a master's in urban Geographical Management or something like that AND retired as a Colonel from the Army. I am the black sheep of the family because i majored in Medieval History and Literature and then Psychology and Criminal Justice, and then was a stay-at-home mom after all that. She doesn't get that financially this is a great decision for my granddaughter. And the one campus is walking distance to her house, another plus. My granddaughter suffers from anxiety and will be coming from a very small high school. Going to a University where she is a very tiny fish in a very big ocean will overwhelm her. I am extremely happy with her decision. We all love my mom but pretty much have developed very thick skins around her.



Glad you had a nice trip. I rent a scooter because my body is falling apart lol. I have been known to get a drink on occasion, but it is rare. I read that sometimes people rent the ECV's just because they can and have the interpretation that it gives you advantages in the parks, it doesn't.

@lynxstch - I did start to look at Wayfair on the advice of my daughter and found cat boxes that are also tables. I am going to order 2 of them and hope my cats like them. They are very messy and are always sending litter everywhere. I am hoping that will keep it more contained and they will also be functional as I can use them for the printer and decorate them. My daughter did tell me to look further as she has ordered from them quite a bit. She has a large piece in her basement entry that stores the boys' things for sports and coats and the like. I never thought of them but something to do while hiding out in my room later while my grandson rips down the living room.


Glad you found something. We got our coffee table, headboard for our bed, and nightstands at Wayfair. They are very nice quality, even though you do have to assemble almost everything they sell, and they have been very very quick about shipping.


Hope everyone has a good day. I am hoping for a small miracle, and I actually get my Sunday paper today. It has been a no show for the past 2 weeks and I am really getting annoyed. Of course, I wait until tomorrow to get a replacement as they are only $1 at the dollar store compared to $5.50 if I got it today. I do love a bargain.

We live in a small city. The local paper stopped printing papers on Sunday and Tuesday. The Saturday paper has the circulars in it some of the time. Our Aldi's one comes in Wed. paper. Martins and Weis come in the Friday one, and yesterday the only things in the Saturday paper were the puzzle section, the comics, a Big Lots circular , a Dollar General one, and a Proctor and Gamble coupon booklet. The paper is 'guaranteed' to be here by 6 am during the week, and 7 on Saturdays, and I don't think that the carrier who delivers them has ever brought one before 8. Last 2 Saturdays it wasn't here till almost 10 am,,and then it was stuck 1/2 way in and 1/2 out of the 'paper box' tube thing they make us use out here. I call to complain, get a recording every time,,and maybe 1 time out of 10, someone will call back. Everytime you don't get a paper, or get your paper late, they add to your subscription another day. I think we must be up to 4 free months by now!

 

[tazdev3225]

We live in a small city. The local paper stopped printing papers on Sunday and Tuesday. The Saturday paper has the circulars in it some of the time. Our Aldi's one comes in Wed. paper. Martins and Weis come in the Friday one, and yesterday the only things in the Saturday paper were the puzzle section, the comics, a Big Lots circular , a Dollar General one, and a Proctor and Gamble coupon booklet. The paper is 'guaranteed' to be here by 6 am during the week, and 7 on Saturdays, and I don't think that the carrier who delivers them has ever brought one before 8. Last 2 Saturdays it wasn't here till almost 10 am,,and then it was stuck 1/2 way in and 1/2 out of the 'paper box' tube thing they make us use out here. I call to complain, get a recording every time,,and maybe 1 time out of 10, someone will call back. Everytime you don't get a paper, or get your paper late, they add to your subscription another day. I think we must be up to 4 free months by now!

I live in Philly so a big city, but this is the only paper now. They stopped Saturday delivery of the inserts and now it is just Sunday. It's supposed to be here by 8 AM. I was shocked that it actually was today. Usually, I get it around 10. I have complained so often I think they duck my calls. I want the paper on my step. I have found it under my car, under the neighbor's car, in my garden, by the recycle bucket, in the bushes, you get the idea. We do get a paper on Wednesdays that is for my area of the city and that has inserts plus the advertisements are delivered on Thursday for the grocery stores. I have considered just giving up the delivery service for this paper, but I think I am paid up til April too. I miss the days of "paper boys" that you saw every week when they made their collections. You could voice concerns to them, and they took it seriously because their tips were dependent on good service.

Oh well more packing up of my breakables today so the furniture can be moved around. I have a huge collection of Jim Shore Disney pieces that I do not want damaged and a couple of Lennox Grumpy pieces. I may complain about my mom at times, but she knows what I like and never disappoints on my birthday.

 

[Judique]

Welcome back @easyas123, glad you had a nice get away. Sometime I'll need to have Genie+ explained to me. Also nice that your dog sitter was a success. Always good to have one you trust. And nice to hear about your trip.

@tazdev3225, I forgot to mention about furniture. Have you looked at Wayfair? I have been happy with them so far. Got bar stools for DS's kitchen counter, outdoor porch furniture for DD, and a rug for us. The rug came in two days. The furniture is nice and holding up well. I was just looking at them and they have a lot, many end tables with built in charging stations.

I like Wayfair also. Often have coupons for $10, $15, or $20 on my credit card offers. That plus Wayfair's own offers double up sometimes.

 

[Judique]

Good morning. Nice brisk 16 degrees right now. I am done with the cold weather I want Spring even with my allergies.

@easyas123 - I agree about my mom. She is very judgmental and as much as I explain to her that most of my professor's taught at big NAME Universities, she still hates that I got my associates degree and am not a DOCTOR or have a master's in sciences like my brothers have. She tells everyone my youngest brother is a doctor and technically he is but it's a PhD in Nuclear Biophysics. Thanksgiving Dinner is like being in an episode of the Big Bang Theory, another brother is a chemist, and a third brother has a master's in urban Geographical Management or something like that AND retired as a Colonel from the Army. I am the black sheep of the family because i majored in Medieval History and Literature and then Psychology and Criminal Justice, and then was a stay-at-home mom after all that. She doesn't get that financially this is a great decision for my granddaughter. And the one campus is walking distance to her house, another plus. My granddaughter suffers from anxiety and will be coming from a very small high school. Going to a University where she is a very tiny fish in a very big ocean will overwhelm her. I am extremely happy with her decision. We all love my mom but pretty much have developed very thick skins around her.

Glad you had a nice trip. I rent a scooter because my body is falling apart lol. I have been known to get a drink on occasion, but it is rare. I read that sometimes people rent the ECV's just because they can and have the interpretation that it gives you advantages in the parks, it doesn't.

@lynxstch - I did start to look at Wayfair on the advice of my daughter and found cat boxes that are also tables. I am going to order 2 of them and hope my cats like them. They are very messy and are always sending litter everywhere. I am hoping that will keep it more contained and they will also be functional as I can use them for the printer and decorate them. My daughter did tell me to look further as she has ordered from them quite a bit. She has a large piece in her basement entry that stores the boys' things for sports and coats and the like. I never thought of them but something to do while hiding out in my room later while my grandson rips down the living room.

Hope everyone has a good day. I am hoping for a small miracle, and I actually get my Sunday paper today. It has been a no show for the past 2 weeks and I am really getting annoyed. Of course, I wait until tomorrow to get a replacement as they are only $1 at the dollar store compared to $5.50 if I got it today. I do love a bargain.

So funny - I have an older brother who was a chemist and a younger brother who was a physics guy. I also have a brother who was a truck driver and another who worked his way into management in offshore natural gas safety. I was a management person. We all love one another, but my Mom was interesting at times.

Moving on to your granddaughter, my youngest daughter has anxiety. On her first orientation day starting CC my older DD gave her a ride. Older DD worked there. At 4:30 when my older DD came out to come home, younger DD was in the car, still in the car since arrival that morning. Her anxiety had manifested so that she couldn't face the day. I'd seen other signs but didn't put 2 plus 2 together. A therapist was next on the agenda. We went to her primary care doctor and he said, 'she'll be fine. My daughter had anxiety also and worked through it.' No referrals, no prescriptions no followup. This was her pediatrician and very soon she changed primary care.

One of the office nurses followed me out and said, call xxxx and see if you can bring her to see her. This was literally behind the doctor's back. I talked to my own primary care doctor and he agreed with the nurse. Better take some action and see where it goes. So she had therapy for 6 months and then moved on to a pyschologist (?) who could prescribe as therapist had started to say she thought it was a chemical need. The therapist appts consisted of 45 minutes alone and 15 minutes with me in attendance. She was 17 when this started/ was recognized.

Anyway, she went on meds for a while and then came off them. She seems to handle most things well but still does not like crowds. She managed to get through school very successfully (high honors), works at the school and did so while studying and has been promoted to a senior position. But she still lives with me and while I love that I have someone here with me, I wish for her sake that she could move into the world. She can afford her own house. Has friends and a simple social life, but spends a lot of time alone. Is the kindest human being I've ever met. Is really loved at work and is relied on heavily. Her boss who was also my older DD's department head once asked me if I had any more 'kids' she could hire.

I depend on her a lot. I think she will be fine long term but change is a big thing.

 

[tazdev3225]

So funny - I have an older brother who was a chemist and a younger brother who was a physics guy. I also have a brother who was a truck driver and another who worked his way into management in offshore natural gas safety. I was a management person. We all love one another, but my Mom was interesting at times.

My mom discouraged me from everything I pursued for some reason. I actually have one brother who will not even speak to her anymore, and pretty much disowned all of us, because he blamed her every bad choice he ever made. I was disowned because I told him he needed to grow up and own his own life.

Moving on to your granddaughter, my youngest daughter has anxiety. On her first orientation day starting CC my older DD gave her a ride. Older DD worked there. At 4:30 when my older DD came out to come home, younger DD was in the car, still in the car since arrival that morning. Her anxiety had manifested so that she couldn't face the day. I'd seen other signs but didn't put 2 plus 2 together. A therapist was next on the agenda. We went to her primary care doctor and he said, 'she'll be fine. My daughter had anxiety also and worked through it.' No referrals, no prescriptions no followup. This was her pediatrician and very soon she changed primary care.

One of the office nurses followed me out and said, call xxxx and see if you can bring her to see her. This was literally behind the doctor's back. I talked to my own primary care doctor and he agreed with the nurse. Better take some action and see where it goes. So she had therapy for 6 months and then moved on to a pyschologist (?) who could prescribe as therapist had started to say she thought it was a chemical need. The therapist appts consisted of 45 minutes alone and 15 minutes with me in attendance. She was 17 when this started/ was recognized.

Anyway, she went on meds for a while and then came off them. She seems to handle most things well but still does not like crowds. She managed to get through school very successfully (high honors), works at the school and did so while studying and has been promoted to a senior position. But she still lives with me and while I love that I have someone here with me, I wish for her sake that she could move into the world. She can afford her own house. Has friends and a simple social life, but spends a lot of time alone. Is the kindest human being I've ever met. Is really loved at work and is relied on heavily. Her boss who was also my older DD's department head once asked me if I had any more 'kids' she could hire.

This sounds like my Crystal. She has a few friends but none that she is close to at all. She was bullied in middle school years and she doesn't open up that much to let people in for fear of being hurt again. I can see her living at home with her parents.

I depend on her a lot. I think she will be fine long term but change is a big thing.

The school nurse recommended a psychologist was needed and my daughter did look into it but couldn't find one that took her insurance, and the co-pay was also an issue. My son in law has severe anxiety as did my son, and to be honest I have at times. My son saw a therapist that I loved so much I started seeing her when he aged out. She taught me some great techniques that I am trying to pass on to my granddaughter. I wish she was still in practice in the area, but she became a professor and last I heard moved to New England. I had major issues with the replacement, so I told the new therapist to take a hike. I sort of have mixed feelings about therapy now.

My granddaughter and I have a passion for photography so I take her on scavenger hunts or themed trips, and it gives me a chance to talk with her and give her advice when needed. She is getting a little better with the anxiety at least. She also had a lot on her shoulders the past couple of years. The pandemic and worrying about keeping up virtually, she actually made honor roll, but she struggled a bit. Her father has had 4 strokes 2 of them in the last 18 months, one was fairly significant and that was hard on all of the grandkids but Crystal especially because she is the oldest. Their dog also had cancer during this. Thankfully the dog has recovered, my son in law is better but now works from home as he is a liability in the warehouse. He is a supervisor and 95% of his job was in the office on the computer anyway. His bosses love him because he saves them millions each year. I know that her biggest need was someone to talk to that could understand, and I have tried to be that person. If she gets a job and earns $2,500 over the next year or so, saved earnings, we are going to Scotland together. I will pay the extra money for the trip.

I do worry about her career choice as she wants to become a Veterinarian and she has such a kind and gentle soul that I fear it would take an emotional toll on her. This was another reason she chose the community college. She wants to take these 2 years to decide if that is really her calling. She loves animals but she is a gifted artist and photographer, so she is exploring careers in those fields also. Of course her great grandmother thinks being a VET is a horrible choice for her and she'll never get into school for it and the arts means no money. My mom is a trip. I told my kids and my grandkids choose what will make you happy. If you want to dig ditches, dig the best ditches in the world. If you want to work in McDonalds do it with the biggest smile on your face.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Happy Sunday,

Thank you all so very much for your kind wishes and words for my dad. Indeed we both will have happy lasting memories of his birthday. We are so grateful, so very blessed and grateful.

Dear Snowysmom, Chris absolutely wants you to be happy and safe. And all of us, do as well! Prayers continuing all-around. I’m so glad you got to enjoy a nice lunch with your DS. I love that you and the waitress will pray for one another. I believe sincere prayer is the kindest gift you can give.

Oh no I am very sorry to hear about your grandson, Taz. Will keep him in prayer along with your whole family. I truly wish all of you much brighter days ahead! You later shared, “If you want to dig ditches, dig the best ditches in the world. If you want to work in McDonalds do it with the biggest smile on your face.” I so admire you! Amen! I LOVE that truly you live your words to those you pass them onto. Thank you, my friend!

Sometimes, announcers really do take up too much time with chatter, Carol! Or I have found that even at church sometimes accompanying music is SO loud that the words and prayers in them are harder to be at peace/prayerful in. I’m glad you’re able to go to church today and enjoy your cookies!

Welcome home, Easyas! I’m also glad you had a good time and plain were able to get away. You are always so very busy. I do hope you had some fun and downtime, too.

Kirby, just ❤

AuntieMe3 and Footballmouse too, as a kid I liked paint by number. These days of plague perhaps a paint with water would be fun. Stay safe on the road AuntieMe3. I am really glad you have that “apartment” away from home.

Lynn, pre pandemic, Big Lots was a fun and handy place for sure! Great suggestion. Never know what they may have. I see that even snowmen like hot chocolate

God Bless that kind nurse, Judique! Prayers for your DD, of course, too. We all indeed need to know we matter and make a difference to others and in the world. You certainly do, as do your DD and her boss.

Off to watch worship. Will check back later.

 

[Judique]

The school nurse recommended a psychologist was needed and my daughter did look into it but couldn't find one that took her insurance, and the co-pay was also an issue. My son in law has severe anxiety as did my son, and to be honest I have at times. My son saw a therapist that I loved so much I started seeing her when he aged out. She taught me some great techniques that I am trying to pass on to my granddaughter. I wish she was still in practice in the area, but she became a professor and last I heard moved to New England. I had major issues with the replacement, so I told the new therapist to take a hike. I sort of have mixed feelings about therapy now.

My granddaughter and I have a passion for photography so I take her on scavenger hunts or themed trips, and it gives me a chance to talk with her and give her advice when needed. She is getting a little better with the anxiety at least. She also had a lot on her shoulders the past couple of years. The pandemic and worrying about keeping up virtually, she actually made honor roll, but she struggled a bit. Her father has had 4 strokes 2 of them in the last 18 months, one was fairly significant and that was hard on all of the grandkids but Crystal especially because she is the oldest. Their dog also had cancer during this. Thankfully the dog has recovered, my son in law is better but now works from home as he is a liability in the warehouse. He is a supervisor and 95% of his job was in the office on the computer anyway. His bosses love him because he saves them millions each year. I know that her biggest need was someone to talk to that could understand, and I have tried to be that person. If she gets a job and earns $2,500 over the next year or so, saved earnings, we are going to Scotland together. I will pay the extra money for the trip.

I do worry about her career choice as she wants to become a Veterinarian and she has such a kind and gentle soul that I fear it would take an emotional toll on her. This was another reason she chose the community college. She wants to take these 2 years to decide if that is really her calling. She loves animals but she is a gifted artist and photographer, so she is exploring careers in those fields also. Of course her great grandmother thinks being a VET is a horrible choice for her and she'll never get into school for it and the arts means no money. My mom is a trip. I told my kids and my grandkids choose what will make you happy. If you want to dig ditches, dig the best ditches in the world. If you want to work in McDonalds do it with the biggest smile on your face.

The therapist my DD saw did not take insurance. She was at first once a week, than twice per month and then once a month. I paid out of pocket and could have submitted it to my insurance but never got around to it. In her case it was money well spent. Probably should do the same for myself, but not sure there is anyone patient enough to listen to all of it out there, and in a sense, I don't want to really share my deepest thoughts.

Good luck to your grand and hopefully she finds happiness in whatever she does.
My mother had anxieties and so do I, ones I didn't have while younger, so I imagine they are from my life experiences, finding a way to manifest - I fear flying, bridges, heights and water - don't care for boats anymore. In my younger days I took flying lessons and flew often. I skied until my 40ties, up and down mountain roads to get to ski areas. Now, I don't want to sleep in skyscraper hotels, and I won't go on a cruise. Part of it is my nausea and dizziness. The rest is just plain old anxiety. If I know I have to face a fear I start getting anxious well in advance. Won't cross the Bay Bridge.

 

[AuntieMe3]

@Kirby I forgot to say last night....I think it's so wonderful you and your other SILs decided to move your girls trip to include your sick SIL. And also how awesome that everyone seems concerned and willing to help her caregiver, your niece, a break. That really is incredible....we had a lot of people always say they would help with my mom, but when it came down to it, it was just my dad and I and it was rough. Thinking of your family...

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Hi.

Church was nice. Then got a brownie batter donut from Dunkin that I'll eat tonight.

Went to DD's and she made Royal icing and we attempted piping. Our technique needs work but they tasted good. Carter enjoyed them.


Spaghetti and salad for dinner.

I've got nothing else.

 

[easyas123]

We live in a small city. The local paper stopped printing papers on Sunday and Tuesday.

Our COUNTY has a once weekly newspaper, that's how small we are!

Dunkin

I hit up the Dunkin myself today!

Our technique needs work but they tasted good. Carter enjoyed them

Looks like it was a tasty hit! I have a family member whom I'm rather close to who is due in late Spring. I'm not making anything for her shower, but I'm trying to come up with just the right gift...I've bought a few odds & ends but I'm at a loss for a 'big' gift. I've got a few ideas but haven't settled on anything yet.

I gave in & ordered some bulbs - okay, several - from Brecks. They had free shipping is my excuse....haha! Stuff I ordered if for my stumpery area that I continue to work on, think ferns & hostas , astibulles and rhododendrons. I plan on clearing out the rest of my stumpery and to continue working on the area this spring. Ordering a few pallets of quikcrete to work on a retaining wall area around part of the pond as well. I just need to get thru the month of Feb & some of March before I get started.

Dinner was leftovers from last nights dinner. Tomorrow will be venison & lentil soup & salad since youngest will be home and he favors that soup. Have been watching the Olympics since we came in (splitting wood this afternoon and then putting some work in a lawn area that we are re-doing) and now watching Dr. No. Picked up wings for next weekend/Superbowl today. Only other thing I'm making is fresh pico de gallo and chips. Just the two of us so no need to go overboard, plus I'll probably be in bed by 8 anyway! I wish is started sooner, the Superbowl that is. Oh well.

Have a good evening everyone -

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Adorable grandkid picture, Carol! Looks like he enjoyed his cookie

Sweet dreams, Easyas and everyone else. Quiet thread this afternoon. I hope all of you had a good one

 

[Snowysmom]

Good Morning. It is 16 degrees with temp going up to high 30s. Snow, Ice, and the rain expected with rain going into tomorrow. Tomorrow the high is in the mid 40s. The sun is supposed to come out tomorrow afternoon. I hope the rain takes the ice and snow away.

Carol Your DGS loves the icing. Nice picture.

The condo complex I had looked at had a 2 bedroom condo for sale, a model unit. It was one price and then when I looked again yesterday they raised the price by18K. What are they thinking? It was barely worth the first price. There was another condo for private sale with what I thought was a ridiculously high price. Maybe they sold that for a high price so the condo place owners felt they could raise the price. I am not even the least bit interested now. I would never pay that price they are asking or even near it.

Off to work.

Have a good day.

 

[PollyannaMom]

The condo complex I had looked at had a 2 bedroom...they raised the price by18K.

Yikes!!

But was that the one you didn't really like anyway because there was nowhere to walk? - If so, just one more reason not to settle.

The right one will come along.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Today should actually be fairly busy here. I have to take my car in at 8:00 for a new tire pressure sensor, then I have a Zoom class at 11:00, and MIL is coming over this afternoon to get some technology/crafty help with a project.

 

[lynxstch]

Good Monday morning. 18 outside now, going to 50 today. Then another cool day, then back to the 50's before it goes back and stays in the 30's for a few days.

We watched a LOT of Olympics yesterday, glad they are only 2 weeks long. All of our other shows will be backed up on the Tivo by then.

Appt with cardiologist for echo follow up this morning,,then no big plans

@Breezy_Carol adorable picture of Carter!

Have a nice day all

 

[footballmouse]

Good Monday morning all .

Lots of posts over the weekend, I'm pretty far behind. Worked all weekend but was still able to watch some of the Olympics during the day. Unfortunately, while I watch them at night, I fall asleep .

Ds2 took his girlfriend sled riding finally. Of course one of the sleds broke in half on the first run , that was a waste of $10. He sent me a video of her going down the hill, she's screaming all the way but also laughing so I'm guessing they had fun. Still can't believe she's never been sled riding before.

Not much going on today, just working from home. Have a good day.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning.

Today's excitement is going grocery shopping.

I had saved several quotes yesterday but forgot about them.

she still hates that I got my associates degree

When my brother and I were going to college (Early 70s), University of Maryland was our "safety school." Basically, if you lived in MD and graduated high school, you could get in. Well, that has changed and it is much more highly regarded and difficult to gain admission. Both of my kids got accepted and chose to go there (yay for in state tuition). My brother had no appreciation of what an accomplishment that was for them.

The local paper stopped printing papers on Sunday and Tuesday.

Our local paper only comes out on Wednesday and Friday now.

I don't think that the carrier who delivers them has ever brought one before 8.

Ours is delivered by the postal service now so we often don't get it until 2 in the afternoon.

I have found it under my car, under the neighbor's car, in my garden, by the recycle bucket, in the bushes, you get the idea.

When we had a paper carrier we had to have a tube on our mailbox post but they never used it. We had to look around the yard to find it.

 

[lynxstch]

I am home from my Drs appt..and so very happy. Dr came in smiling,,said I am pleased with the results of your echo..your ejection fracture is way up, the 2 small blockages are gone. You are the ideal patient' lol He said just keep doing what I am doing, as it's obviously working. See him again in 3 months unless I need to call for an emergency or have any questions. He had the nurse do an EKG just to make sure I was still in sinus rhythm and not Afib..and he came back in to look at it and said 'perfect sinus rhythm--you made my day" Well, he made mine too, for sure..lol!

 

[easyas123]

When my brother and I were going to college (Early 70s), University of Maryland was our "safety school." Basically, if you lived in MD and graduated high school, you could get in. Well, that has changed and it is much more highly regarded and difficult to gain admission. Both of my kids got accepted and chose to go there (yay for in state tuition). My brother had no appreciation of what an accomplishment that was for them.

My niece is waiting to hear back from Univ. of MD as I type, as well as VA Tech (both my brother & his wife graduated from Tech) but has been accepted to U of DE and Washington College - BUT MD is where she wants to go and it would appear to probably be the best bang for the buck and where her parents are comfortable financially sending her, so we are hopeful she gets in.

Busy few weeks ahead for me. Appts. after work both today & Wednesday. Meetings out of office on both Tuesday & Friday afternoon. Possible trip up to Lynn's neck of the woods/far western MD at end of week but that is up in the air, and most likely will just be my husband. Next week I'm only in for Monday & Tuesday and then head to Las Vegas and Denver before heading home the following weekend.

So my FIL has a heart attack a week ago, which caused a fair bit of stress for my husband as you can imagine. FIL drove himself to hospital suspecting he had/was having a heart attack. He was. They say it was 'mild' but we aren't sure he is telling the truth. So he was in there 24 hours, had 2 stents put in and left or was discharged - we do not know which - and picked up by a friend who then dropped him off at his truck. So he could drive it home & smoke. You are correct - he wasn't supposed to be driving, and don't get me started on the smoking. So he goes home to my MIL - who had tested positive the day he had the attack for Covid. She's actively sick, he goes into the home to stay. No surprises, he then gets it although he refused to take a test for it because he doesn't want to be on record as having had it. He's a volunteer EMT & ambulance driver, and still works. He should know better, in his early 70's and honestly we have been expecting something like this for some time. What really is so wrong is he didn't care about himself or the direct danger he was putting OTHERS in while driving while having a heart attack or driving home after having fentanyl and other heavy duty drugs coursing thru his system and being told not to drive.... His diet consists of a lot of salty foods, he drinks diet soda like it's going out of style and smokes like a madman, and has since he was a teenager. So three things we know will kill you. He went right back to smoking, that we know. Husband is not close with his folks, they have conversations every once in a while - just niceties on the phone kinda thing - and he sees them on average about once per year even though they only live about 3 1/2 hours away. In fact husband goes out of his way to avoid them more than once per year so sometimes if they come to see his brother we are "out of town". Anyway, now he has to go up there and attempt to have The Conversation - what are your plans (MIL doesn't drive and they live 45 minutes from main town), what provisions have you made for the future, funeral planning - that sort of thing. The thing is we already know they've made no provisions for their retirement and older years, and have given no thought to possibly moving closer to civilization. And we know that they have no savings, and no equity in a home, which just ticks off my husband that they knew enough to make some provisions yet actively decided not to. But mostly there is no plan if my FIL checks out tomorrow as to what my MIL is going to do. She doesn't drive, she revels in the perception of being seen as a martyr, and is very difficult to deal with. Telling her she's going to have to go to a subsidized senior situation will be fun. Add to that they are major hoarders, and they won't get rid of anything. So it will be up to us to the be the horrible, terrible, mean people who make her throw away all of her 'stuff' and move her into some place she doesn't want to be. Husband has adopted the position of 'I'll try to help them one more time, if they tell me no or to not worry about it, and they do nothing I'm done'. We will see how he makes out with that, guilt is looming shadow.

 

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I am home from my Drs appt..and so very happy. Dr came in smiling,,said I am pleased with the results of your echo..your ejection fracture is way up, the 2 small blockages are gone. You are the ideal patient' lol He said just keep doing what I am doing, as it's obviously working. See him again in 3 months unless I need to call for an emergency or have any questions. He had the nurse do an EKG just to make sure I was still in sinus rhythm and not Afib..and he came back in to look at it and said 'perfect sinus rhythm--you made me day" Well, he made mine too, for sure..lol!

EXCELLENT!