Thank you for all the quick responses. As far as terminating the pregnancy if it did turn out positive for Trisomy 18, I don't think I would. Abortion is something that I don't generally believe in and feel that what is meant to be is meant to be. With that being said, I do want to know ahead of time if for nothing else than to prepare myself, my DH and my child for the impending death of a sister/daughter. It would definately change a lot of things that I would do to prepare for the baby as well. I honestly don't mean for that to sound as selfish as it does.
I am not at risk due to my age. The doctor didn't give me much info only said that this ultrasound is sufficient. It appeared to be normal. He said he recommended the amnio and that the risks are greater for Trisomy than they are for complications due to the amnio. I was at a loss while at the appointment because of the three they test for this is the one I really didn't have much understanding/knowledge of. I had at least heard of the other two and had a good idea of what they are. Having someone tell you that you are at a risk for having a baby WILL die either before or shortly after birth after just seeing this baby on the screen moving her arms and legs around and even seeing her little face on the 3D was too much to comprehend. I have tons of questions now of course that I am gone. This is the first time I have seen this particular doctor as I typically see the midwife. I realize it's my decision, and I realize that nobody can or should tell me what to do. I guess I really just wanted to hear from other's how they would/did handle something similar and how it turned out. I know it doesn't mean mine will be the same but it's comforting nonetheless.
I initially told my DH that I don't want the amnio, then thought how hard the next months will be not knowing so started changing my mind. Everytime I go to buy something for this child I will wonder, will I get to use this? And having my 8 year old dd so excited about the birth only to lose her or have something wrong....
After getting home and reading about all the false positive screens and the fact that they can typically see markers on the ultrasound leads me back to not wanting it.
The nurse just called back after speaking with the other doctor - they are scheduling a level II? ultrasound with a specialist so I guess we will go from there. Thanks again for all the support and responses.
I am not at risk due to my age. The doctor didn't give me much info only said that this ultrasound is sufficient. It appeared to be normal. He said he recommended the amnio and that the risks are greater for Trisomy than they are for complications due to the amnio. I was at a loss while at the appointment because of the three they test for this is the one I really didn't have much understanding/knowledge of. I had at least heard of the other two and had a good idea of what they are. Having someone tell you that you are at a risk for having a baby WILL die either before or shortly after birth after just seeing this baby on the screen moving her arms and legs around and even seeing her little face on the 3D was too much to comprehend. I have tons of questions now of course that I am gone. This is the first time I have seen this particular doctor as I typically see the midwife. I realize it's my decision, and I realize that nobody can or should tell me what to do. I guess I really just wanted to hear from other's how they would/did handle something similar and how it turned out. I know it doesn't mean mine will be the same but it's comforting nonetheless.
I initially told my DH that I don't want the amnio, then thought how hard the next months will be not knowing so started changing my mind. Everytime I go to buy something for this child I will wonder, will I get to use this? And having my 8 year old dd so excited about the birth only to lose her or have something wrong....
After getting home and reading about all the false positive screens and the fact that they can typically see markers on the ultrasound leads me back to not wanting it.
The nurse just called back after speaking with the other doctor - they are scheduling a level II? ultrasound with a specialist so I guess we will go from there. Thanks again for all the support and responses.