Potty training help!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!

[MommyPoppins]

I need some serious advice and tips on potty training. My first 2 kids trained themselves. They litterally woke up one day and decided they would not pee in their diapers anymore. They were both completely trained before they turned 3, no accidents. Well now DS #3 is going to be turning 3 in April. He is not potty training himself and I am at a loss. I've never had to do this before and it really stinks. This morning I caught him starting to hid, so I ripped his diaper off and stuck him on his potty. I caught him in time and he pooped. He was SO proud of himself. So I got out the training pants and plastic pants and have been watching him. Setting the timer, making him sit on his potty and try. But low and behold, he's peed in his pants 2 times this morning. I also have been limiting his drink. I can only make him sit on the potty for so long because then he starts crying. I have his potty in front of the TV so he doesn't have to be sitting in the bathroom with nothing to do. What can I do? WHat should I be doing? TIA

 

[Cindy's Mom]

DS3.75 took his own sweet time to potty train, his older sister did it by herself at 2. Its been about 2 months that he's been potty trained. I realized that there is nothing I can do about, and he will do it when he is ready......and that is exactly what he did. Peer pressure doesn't work either, he is in full time day care and the only one in his class that still wore a pull up, and he didn't care (because he wasn't ready), then one morning, he went pee in the potty and we went from there. Just be patient, it will happen

 

[crz4mm2]

Leave him alone. He's not ready yet.
Very smart pediatrician once told me a kid won't go to Kindergarten in diapers
He'll do it when he's ready. Much less stress on everyone.

 

[Planogirl]

Don't make an issue of it. I think that it gets harder for everyone when you worry and fuss about it too much. I would keep explaining it to him but I don't know if forcing him to sit on the potty is necessarily the right approach especially if he starts crying.

 

[MoniqueU]

My first two trained themselves too. All I had to do was ask if they wanted to go to school or soccer and that did it. With my last one that didn't work and she was over 3. I finally bought the book toilet training in less then a day. It seemed incredibly corniy the stuff they had me do but it wrorked. I highly suggest the book. It will take some dedication on your part.

 

[ntburns22]

My DS will be 3 in May. We are working on it too. We started out leaving him bottom half naked. He would run to the potty because he had nothing on to "catch it" in his words. Now we are in big boy pants. Our only problem is if he has pants on he will have an accident everytime. He is waking up dry from nap and in the morning so we are making progress slowly but we are getting there.

 

[cepmom]

he might not be ready yet...but when you do decide to go for it, I suggest going all the way. What I mean is, no going back and forth with diapers for naps, bedtime etc. Once you start, get rid of the diapers all together. My middle DD was a little difficult and went back and forth about whether she wanted to train or not and kept asking for dipaers. Finally, I had enough and got rid of the last of the diapers ~ I told her they were all gone and she had to wear big girl undies. She was good with that once she realized there were more diapers. I let her wear pull ups only at night though ~ never during the day. I think they are just glorified diapers.

Plan on spending a good week or two in the house ~ it will make it easier if you don't need to run around doing errands etc. Also , maybe a sticker reward chart or something...when he fills the chart with stickers for trying, maybe he can get a little reward, like and ice cream cone or a small trinket from the dollar store etc. Good luck...it's so hard!!

 

[andromedaslove]

I had a heck of a time potty training my then 3 yr old son. Someone mentioned bare bottom training, and I figured it was worth a try. It definately worked. When he was naked and went pee, he could actually relate the feeling to what he was seeing, and realized that when he got that feeling he needed to go to the bathroom to keep from making a mess.

Dana

 

[minniedisney1]

We are in the same boat over here. I think my DS 3 will go to college in pull-ups! We have tried just about everything already suggested. I think he is just stubborn!!! I am trying to be patient, but it is really hard!!! Good Luck to the OP!!!! Remember you are not alone!

 

[MosMom]

Your 3rd is training himself as well...it is just taking him longer. My daughter trained herself by 3 and was just ready. My son was about 3 1/2 by the time he was ready. I thought he would never be interested and we tried a lot of stuff. Finally I decided to just lay off and give him a break. Then at Christmas, he was just done with diapers and started wearing his underwear and that was it. He is still in diapers at night but more and more mornings are dry so I think we'll be out of diapers at night very soon.

 

[piglet too]

Don't force the issue! Our pediatrician told us the same thing about no kid going to kindergarten in diapers. I started to doubt him as my son was 4 1/2 and could not care in the least. One week it finally kicked and sure enough, he wore underpants to kindergarten.

 

[rt2dz]

I don't really have a whole lot of time to post, but I really want to say this:

Some kids take longer than others to "get it". And no need to rush it/push it/force it. BUT as long as your child has an interest and any one readiness sign, don't stop trying. If he/she isn't ready, they wouldn't have any interest or any signs of readiness. Sometimes, they just get so used to it because parents ignore the interest issue, they don't care any more and it takes longer. Sometimes though they aren't ready and those kids should have potty training shelved. Eventually, they all get it.

I'll try and post more later when I have time.

 

[MamaLema]

My advice is to take a big breath...and chill out!

I know it can be frustrating but if it's becoming that stressful for you, maybe its time to stop and wait a little longer. They won't be in diapers forever

 

[MommyPoppins]

My advice is to take a big breath...and chill out!

I know it can be frustrating but if it's becoming that stressful for you, maybe its time to stop and wait a little longer. They won't be in diapers forever

I've been changing diapers everyday now for 5 1/2 years, most the time I have 2 in diapers at a time. The reason he REALLY needs to get potty trained is because he poops atLEAST 3 times a day. I go through a giant box of diapers from Sams in 2 weeks time.

 

[lbgraves]

Don't stress about it because that will be passed along to him. You were very lucky to have your first two kids trained so early. DD was 3 1/2 when he was trained. The day he used the potty was the day he started waking up dry too. DD was 4 when she finally got it. I tried everything to get her to be PTd. Her potty prize of a generation doll horse with baby stayed out in the garage for almost a year waiting. One day when she used the potty I told her that her 4 yo PS teachers had sent a note home saying that the kids could no longer wear PUs to class. I made her stay dry an entire day before letting her put on her princess panties. If she had an accident, it was back to the PUs. (I was just tired of cleaning up the mess at that point.) She just missed one day of PS. Missing her friends is what ended up being her motivator.

 

[mickeyboat]

My suggestion if you want to push the issue is to get rid of the pull-ups all together. I swear they delayed my girls' training They never got to feel what it felt like to be wet, or to feel the consequences of not using the potty.

Good luck.

Denae

 

[Planogirl]

I only used pullups if we went out and never at home. I agree that pullups slow things down. But again, DON'T stress!!!

 

[MommyPoppins]

I don't use pull ups.

Just good old padded underpants and plastic pants.