Hey everyone - We had a great first day. Casey loves her classes & Grace loves her teacher. We had a nice fun morning in the driveway too.
However, the day was capped off by saddness and me having to explain to Grace why one of her classmates was dead. Here's the news story. This was a mom at our school, she volunteered for the book fair as well. Seemed quiet but not crazy.
Sydney Kamysz was a talented 7-year-old girl who loved Harry Potter, spoke two languages fluently and was learning a third, family and local school officials said Wednesday of the child who police believe died at the hands of her mother.
She was a very good girl, the girls uncle, 30-year-old Gregory Kamysz, said as he held back tears. She was very bright. She had read all the Harry Potter books.
Police believe that Sydney Kamyszs mother, 28-year-old Magdalene Maggie Kamysz, suffocated her daughter inside their Crystal Lake-area home and then killed herself Tuesday by walking in front of a Metra train near Cary.
I stress this is a preliminary investigation, McHenry County Sheriff Keith Nygren said Wednesday. I would not rule anything out, but the focus of the investigation at this time is with the mother who committed suicide.
Police on Wednesday said they hadnt pinpointed a motive and didnt immediately locate a suicide note.
But officials said the girls mother was in the middle of a court dispute with the girls father over visitation for the womans only child.
The girls parents were never married.
Police also said they didnt believe that the mother had a history of mental illness.
Magdalene Kamysz was killed about 1:50 p.m. Tuesday by a westbound train in Cary, near an overpass at Route 14, east of Sands Road.
Cary police Detective Sgt. Ed Synek said the trains engineer told police that he saw the woman stand on the tracks and turn her back to the train as it approached.
The woman, who lived about 5 miles from the crash scene, parked her car nearby and then walked onto the train tracks, police said.
A deputy coroner went to the Hanover Drive home where Magdalene Kamysz lived with her daughter to notify her family of the death. The deputy found the womans child dead inside a locked bedroom that the two shared, police said.
Sydney Kamysz, who would have started second grade Wednesday at Husmann Elementary School in Crystal Lake, was found lifeless under bedcovers without visible signs of injury, officials said.
It looks like she had been dead for a couple of hours, McHenry County Coroner Marlene Lantz said. We could tell by her color, touch and temperature.
Lantz said authorities would have to wait on toxicology tests to officially rule on the girls cause of death.
The childs grandparents, Jozef and Barbara Kamysz, owned the home where the body was found, officials said. The girls grandfather had just come home from work during the discovery and told police that he didnt know his granddaughter was dead.
The girls uncle said his sister had lived with their parents periodically over the summer and that his family Wednesday still was trying to make sense of the tragedy.
[Magdalene] cared very much for Sydney, said Gregory Kamysz, 30. She gave her everything she could.
Gregory Kamysz said his sister was expected to start school Tuesday as a teachers assistant working with autistic children in the area.
She worked last year as a teachers aide in District 158s preschool program, although she wasnt expected back this year, Superintendent John Burkey said.
No one answered the door Wednesday morning at the Kamysz residence, a one-story, wood-sided home in the Squaw Creek subdivision near Sternes Woods nature preserve. Some neighbors declined to comment on the news; others expressed shock.
They were just wonderful neighbors, so Im sure everyone in the whole neighborhood will be shocked. But what can you say? said neighbor Terry Young, 62, who used to trade tips with Magdalene Kamyszs father on tending vegetable gardens. Its sad.
John Moline, who lives across the street from the Kamysz family, said they were fairly private in a neighborhood where people held block parties twice a year and traded cookies during the holidays.
Right now, its just like I dont know what to think, said Moline, 60.
McHenry County court records showed that the mother, who had custody of the child, was in a dispute with the girls father, Alan B. Burton, 29, of Walworth, Wis., over visitation rights.
Both parents recently had completed a parenting certification program that was required as part of the court dispute, which began in February.
The matter went to mediation earlier this month, but after three sessions, it wasnt resolved. The case was sent back to a judge, who was supposed to hear the case again in October.
The attorney who represented the mother in the civil case said she presented herself as someone worried about her childs welfare.
The woman seemed genuinely concerned about her child and seemed to be a loving, good mother, attorney Wesley R. Pribla said. I have no idea what happened.
The father didnt return phone calls Wednesday, and his attorney also said she hadnt heard back from his client.
Officials from the school the girl attended sent a statement home with students to inform parents of the death and advised them that counseling was available.
The school will provide grief counseling for staff, family and students as needed, the schools principal said.
Were thinking of her family at this time and all of her friends, Principal Linda Corteen said. We will miss her.
Corteen said Sydney Kamysz was a bright student who spoke fluent Polish and English and also was learning Spanish as part of the school's dual-language program.
She was a very talented, a very gifted child, she said.
I so don't get it. I know people kill themselves all the time, & I also know that if someone want s to off themselves, really there is little an outsider can do to help. People that try slitting their wrists, or taking an overdose are crying for help...people that walk in front of a train are not. I'm sure the "logic" was that she didn't want Sydney's dad to have her...Of course now I have Grace and her friends wondering how on earth a mommy kills her daughter. I must have spent 6 hours on the phone yesterday talking to Gracei's friends mom's on how to tell their kids. We all wanted to tell them ourselves, instead of them finding out when they arrived at school today.
PLUS today is the PTO spoinsored BooHoo breakfast....it's mostly for the K & 1st grade moms' & dads so we decided to still hold it.
AHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG only 21 more days