Poll: Japanese First Date

[NHdisneylover]

So we can all be on the same page:


From 2008: Trouble with reality...OP is in love with an NFL star and is destroyed when she finds out he has a GF
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2035566

From 2009:Confindence Issues: Gym Guy
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2323652

From 2012: Dating Life Down the Toilet
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3030069

From 2013: Dating Advice- Older Men? Church Guy
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3110451

Same issues, same advice, same brick wall.

Wow and thank you! I had no idea OP has been posting this kind of thing since 2008! Here I thought a couple of years of it was a lot

I totally have my entertainment for the evening lined up now

 

[Sultana]

There was also the other thread, with her other userID.
I remember reading it, but can't remember exactly what it was about. Her online POF profile maybe?

 

[goofyintoronto]

Wow and thank you! I had no idea OP has been posting this kind of thing since 2008! Here I thought a couple of years of it was a lot

I totally have my entertainment for the evening lined up now

Yes, pretty unbelievable.

Wow, great job mrzrich! Cant believe this went on since 2008! Jeez!

 

[Southernmiss]

This whole thread seems like great show material for the "Big Bang Theory". Just sayin'

 

[mrzrich]

The post that really makes me scratch my head is the one when she got mad at gym guy because she had heard he might be married. She felt that if he was married, he should be wearing a ring! How dare he send her the wrong signal!

But she fails to see how her ring on the left ring finger sends the wrong signal.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I had no idea it went back to 2008! I just knew about gym guy and church guy. Mrzrch is going to get called a stalker or a bully for finding all those old posts. It happens every time someone digs up the past. :sad

 

[goofyintoronto]

The post that really makes me scratch my head is the one when she got mad at gym guy because she had heard he might be married. She felt that if he was married, he should be wearing a ring! How dare he send her the wrong signal!

But she fails to see how her ring on the left ring finger sends the wrong signal.

Yes, thats interesting isnt it?

What I find odd is that she posts about any man that catches her eye. I just dont understand the point of posting whenever you see some eye candy from across the room?

Also, I wonder about her real age, cause quite frankly, it seems as thou some highschool aged kid is posting just for kicks.

 

[mrzrich]

Truly, I am not trying to be mean. I am trying to save others from the aggravation of talking to a brick wall. Every piece of advice given to OP has been given to her time and time again. For ever piece of it, she has an excuse not to take it.

She does not understand that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Its not stalker behavior, it took me all of 2 minutes to do a user name search.

 

[luvsJack]

She was told to ditch a ring on her left hand ring finger, because she was asking why men never approached her.

A purity ring is a very sweet sentiment, for a 16 yo, but at 31 it sends the "I'm attached" signal.

Well, maybe not so much on this date because she was already asked out but normally single women who want to be approached and asked out don't wear a ring on their left ring finger. When I'm single that is the first place I look before approaching any women and if it is occupied with anything I move on. No matter how chaste you are it is silly to do.

As for the text message, I could believe that was real is if the guy was setting up some sort of Sebastian Valmont approach and I really can't see this guy being able to pull it off based on what was said about him at the date. I guess if the guy is as clueless as he came across perhaps he responded that way but the word choice just seems off. This whole situation read like either the real or made up encounter of a 16 year old.

Yeah, I see what you are saying about her wearing it on the left hand.


Has the OP ever talked about her growing up/teen years? She sounds like maybe she was extremely sheltered? Too much sounds like a teen-ager trying to live like an adult, if that makes sense.

 

[skatalite]

Wow and thank you! I had no idea OP has been posting this kind of thing since 2008! Here I thought a couple of years of it was a lot

I totally have my entertainment for the evening lined up now

I'm with you on this one — I had no idea it reached back six years. Goodness.

As for calling mrzrich a stalker: He/she is right, doing a Google search for mmackeymouse brings up TONS of reading material. I'll have things to click on for days, haha. So, I wouldn't consider that stalkerish behavior. It's just mmackeymouse has been discussed here and everywhere else pretty much to exhaustion: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=mmackeymouse

Very interesting.

 

[cabanafrau]

QUOTE=goofyintoronto;50755312]Yes, thats interesting isnt it?

What I find odd is that she posts about any man that catches her eye. I just dont understand the point of posting whenever you see some eye candy from across the room?

Also, I wonder about her real age, cause quite frankly, it seems as thou some highschool aged kid is posting just for kicks.[/QUOTE]

How does that make sense when stacked against the posts going back to 2008?

 

[BadgerGirl84]

So we can all be on the same page: From 2008: Trouble with reality...OP is in love with an NFL star and is destroyed when she finds out he has a GF http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2035566 From 2009:Confindence Issues: Gym Guy http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2323652 From 2012: Dating Life Down the Toilet http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3030069 From 2013: Dating Advice- Older Men? Church Guy http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3110451 Same issues, same advice, same brick wall.

I totally remember the gym guy post. Wow--I feel old.

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[skylizard]

I had no idea it went back to 2008! I just knew about gym guy and church guy. Mrzrch is going to get called a stalker or a bully for finding all those old posts. It happens every time someone digs up the past. :sad

It's sad that over the past 5+ years, she's been pretty much asking the same questions and yet hasn't gotten anywhere. She hasn't taken any of the advice given to her.

OP - If you read this, please know that there are people here genuinely trying to help you (and have been for years). This is not said to be mean, but you really would benefit from seeing a therapist/psychologist. We all have issues we deal with from time to time. Yours seemed to have spanned several years and have not improved. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost before jumping into any relationship.

 

[mrzrich]

I'm with you on this one — I had no idea it reached back six years. Goodness. As for calling mrzrich a stalker: He/she is right, doing a Google search for mmackeymouse brings up TONS of reading material. I'll have things to click on for days, haha. So, I wouldn't consider that stalkerish behavior. It's just mmackeymouse has been discussed here and everywhere else pretty much to exhaustion: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=mmackeymouse Very interesting.

I didn't even go to google, I just used the DIS "search for other threads by this user"

 

[skatalite]

I didn't even go to google, I just used the DIS "search for other threads by this user"

Ha, well, there's that, too!

 

[FireDancer]

Has the OP ever talked about her growing up/teen years? She sounds like maybe she was extremely sheltered? Too much sounds like a teen-ager trying to live like an adult, if that makes sense.

I think she did talk about being pretty sheltered and introverted. I don't know if there is anything beyond that.

It's sad that over the past 5+ years, she's been pretty much asking the same questions and yet hasn't gotten anywhere. She hasn't taken any of the advice given to her.

OP - If you read this, please know that there are people here genuinely trying to help you (and have been for years). This is not said to be mean, but you really would benefit from seeing a therapist/psychologist. We all have issues we deal with from time to time. Yours seemed to have spanned several years and have not improved. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost before jumping into any relationship.

That is the thing. She was sheltered, inexperienced, and a bit socially clueless 5 years ago. You can't really do much about the past. Had she taken some of the advice back then and attempted to apply it there would have been swings and misses for sure but she would have 5 years of experience at this point and should be 5 years beyond the the inexperienced person she was back then. Fast forward 5 years and it might be the exact same thing...a carousel of disappointment.

OP, it sounds harsh but ask yourself this: Do you want to be in the same place in 5 years? Had you asked yourself that in 2008 and answered no would you be happy with where you are now and, more importantly, the steps you took from 2008-2013 to reach where you are now? If the answer is no make sure the next 5 years are nothing like the last 5 years.

I'll now hold my breath waiting for change.

 

[disneychrista]

Have no idea why the quoting is so messed up.

It is missing the fist [ in front of quote

 

[Tinijocaro]

In real life, if we don't like a person, we avoid them. We decide to not be friends with them. In real life, a bully might mock that person, sometimes publicly. But I think we can agree that usually we stay away from people we don't like.

Not sure why, but online, the rules are different. When someone comes along we don't like, instead of avoiding any threads they post on, we are drawn to those threads. Drawn to it to the point that we look to make that poster out to be a fool.

I personally try to behave the same way offline and online. I am shocked by the number of people who are trying to ridicule the OP. Do you do that to people in real life? Why not leave her alone if her posts bother you? I know, we are all free to do as we choose and I can avoid YOUR posts if they bother me.

Just making an observation.

So we can all be on the same page: From 2008: Trouble with reality...OP is in love with an NFL star and is destroyed when she finds out he has a GF http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2035566 From 2009:Confindence Issues: Gym Guy http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2323652 From 2012: Dating Life Down the Toilet http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3030069 From 2013: Dating Advice- Older Men? Church Guy http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3110451 Same issues, same advice, same brick wall.

 

[mrzrich]

In real life, if we don't like a person, we avoid them. We decide to not be friends with them. In real life, a bully might mock that person, sometimes publicly. But I think we can agree that usually we stay away from people we don't like. Not sure why, but online, the rules are different. When someone comes along we don't like, instead of avoiding any threads they post on, we are drawn to those threads. Drawn to it to the point that we look to make that poster out to be a fool. I personally try to behave the same way offline and online. I am shocked by the number of people who are trying to ridicule the OP. Do you do that to people in real life? Why not leave her alone if her posts bother you? I know, we are all free to do as we choose and I can avoid YOUR posts if they bother me. Just making an observation.

I never said I didn't like the OP. Honestly I feel very sorry for her. I just wish that she was willing to listen to some of the wonderful thoughtful advice that has been given to her time and time again.

 

[cabanafrau]

I cannot make heads or tails out of this situation. I know that if the situation is genuine I would hope that OP can cull through this to see what's real and see what good advice people have given, evaluate her opinions and responses and decide what she really wants and go from there. If it's real and she wants something different than from the way things have been she has to realize that only she can make the changes if she wants to.

I believe I made the statement earlier in this thread about an intransigent personality. OP is free to look that up and assess in her own mind if there's any truth to that, and if so whether she wants to continue as is or move in a new direction. I didn't connect the dots with the old threads, some of which I do remember seeing a bit of in the past, but something to consider is the length of time this pattern has been established. If any of the disregarded opinions and good advice on this thread are accurate and OP wants a different life, time's a wasting. Seek counseling if the real problem is you want to change but feel trapped in a life situation where you believe change is impossible.