Wishing on a star said:
I have to disagree with Daxx about the Tattling.... and being "..glad that the child went to the teacher" and tattled. There is no reason for a teacher to feel that they should have so much 'control' to expect the students to monitor and tattle on each other.
You need to reread my post. I said I was happy that the child tattled on the use of inappropriate language in the classroom. As a teacher, I need to know when someone uses inappropriate language. If it becomes a constant problem, then I need to do something about it. If I don't nip it in the bud, then I get parents on my back asking why I let Johnny use that type of language around their babies. I had one student who would constantly swear under his breath. I would never hear it, but the two kids who sat next to him sure did. I got a lot of heat from the parents b/c their kids kept saying "Johnny swears all the time". Well, had I heard it, I could have done something about it. The students didn't so much as come up to me to tattle, but moreso to complain. When I'd ask Johnny if he swore, he'd admit it to me. Turns out that Johnny would hear his parents talk like that and thought it was just how everyone talked.
There is no reason for a teacher to feel that they should have so much 'control' to expect the students to monitor and tattle on each other
I do not need to feel like I have "so much control" and I do not expect my students to monitor each other. They are the ones who are always running up to me to ******* I tell them that I don't want to hear it unless it's coming from the party involved (ie: the person that Johnny hit). My students are told often that the only time they should come to me is if someone uses inappropriate language or does something harmful to them. B/c, let's be honest ... do you think Johnny's going to come up to me and say "I said sh*t" or "I punched Billy."?! If someone is using inappropriate language or hurting someone, I need to know about it
from the person who was involved! . A lot of times, these things occur in the bathroom ... a place I cannot monitor. And, in Kdg. w/ up to 25 students and no teacher's aide, I sure have my work cut out for me.
I would be VERY concerned if my childs teacher were encouraging the children to tattle!!!
First off, I never encourage my students to ******* Plain and simple, inappropriate language and harmful behavior is not allowed/tolerated and again, it is important that I know about it so I can take care of it ... both in the student's files and a note to the parent. If your child were bitten by another student, hit, etc., wouldn't you want her to tattle on the kid who did it?! How is it going to look if she comes home and says "Johnny bit me" and you say "What did Mrs. Jones do about it?" and she says "Nothing b/c I can't tattle on Johnny." Who's a$$ is going to be in the frying pan?! Mrs. Jones'. And, if your little darling comes home and says "I hate f-ing school" and you say "where did you hear that word" and she says "Johnny says it every day in school" and you say "Doesn't Mrs. Jones do anything about it" and she says "No, she doesn't hear him and I can't tattle", you'll be on that phone w/me so dang fast b/c of Johnny's potty mouth.
There is a difference between tattling and providing the teacher w/information. If Suzy picked her nose and wiped it on her desk and you come up to me to tell me that, that's tattling. If Suzy came up and punched you in the eye, or called you a sh*thead and you come up to me to tell me that, I really wouldn't consider that tattling. Big difference, don't you agree?!
for your DS. 
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