Planning Weddings for those Not-yet Engaged!

[Caribbeanprincess]

DBF and I never really had a first date. We went out with a couple of friends to the movies, sat next to each other and talked. Later he gave me a ride home and from there on we pretty much knew we had crushes on each other. He asked me to be his GF a few nights later over MSN.

 

[ArelysAdriana]

Aww!! Thanks for that Mandy! And I must say, my date with this guy last Monday was amazing! I thought it would be kind of tacky to elaborate on it in the same post that I was "grieving" my relationship with my ex-DBF but I have to share my giddiness about this new guy now that you mention your own love story with your DF!

So, I met this guy on Facebook. I friended him first because I just thought he was so cute and something about him (well, as much about him as a profile picture and a couple lines about himself can tell me lol) struck me. I was totally intrigued. So, I message him and friend him. We get to talking...and then all of the sudden he just stops replying! Boo! A week after our "conversation", my best friend tells me "Maria, you're so into this kid. Just drop him one final line and tell him 'Look, I think you're really cute and a nice guy, let's hang out one day' ". So I do just that, verbatim . He literally messages me back in less than an hour saying "Definitely, pick the time and date and let's do it!" I message him my phone number and he texts me and we set a time and date!

Well, that's about all we did till the next day (our date!). lol...I received no further texts, nothing. The morning of, the worst thing happens; my freakin' car won't start! Bah! So, I text him and say "Hey, my car won't start. I'm so sorry can we reschedule?" and he texts me back "Well, if you want. But I can totally pick you up and we can do something by you!" Now I was all because he lives about 45 minutes away....to see someone you've never met before, 45 minutes is a long drive! Haha, so I agree and he comes, scoops me up, and we take off! We went to see a movie (Angels and Demons) and had a great time. As we were leaving the theater, the rain starts POURING DOWN! So, we head back to theater and watch another movie (this time, Wolverine).

Now, in the first movie, there was absolutely NO physical contact. Like, I literally sat with my hands together and so did he . With the second movie, I had bought popcorn and a diet coke (I'm a diet coke junkie!) and offered it to him and sat it down on the arm rest. During the movie, I start feeling something almost tickling my hand. At first, I totally thought I was imagining this haha! I mean, c'mon, this was my first "first date" in 3 years (to the date!)! When I finally realized it was his fingers tickling my hand, I opened my hand and he instantly YANKED it! He held it for a little while and then he moved his arm to wrap me up and, ladies, I literally MELTED into his arms! It was surreal! We stayed like that the remainder of the movie....I honestly can't tell you what the movie was about or how long it was or anything. All I can remember was being on cloud nine . It was amazing...

Afterwards, we went to this arcade-like place that had a couple of pool tables and he taught me how to play pool! I was horrible but, gosh, he was so encouraging! I can't remember feeling so carefree and just happy in such a long time!

Of course, here comes the drama: he hasn't called since then. But, he did mention he was in law school and finishing up a huge project so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt...and he did try to talk to me for a little bit on Facebook (after I texted him first...sigh, MEN!). So we'll see how it goes. I texted him yesterday to hang out again and he told me that he was really busy...but his project is due tomorrow so we will "definitely be hanging out this week!". Hopefully this actually happens....I'm really excited about this guy!

And, in the spirit of my story, ladies, do tell your first date stories! I wrote a book LOL, so feel free to tell every single detail!

Aww, that sounds like such a great first date! Hopefully once he is done with classes you guys can hang out more. Good luck

I know this is kinda off topic from what were currently discussing but i have a question...

Today, we went to Swarovski Crystal and purchased a pair of earrings for my gf for her bday... but we always picked out a pair for me. We ended up buying these for myself... they are absolutely beautiful.

While were in the car... dbf mentions that i finally have a piece of jewelery that will eventually match my engagement ring..

so my question is: Do you think is tacky to have a white gold engagement ring and all yellow gold jewelery? I"m wondering if i'll have to switch.. hmmm...

Those are gorgeous! I don't think it is tacky at all to mix the two metals. If you have jewelry that means a lot to you that is yellow gold, but are getting a ring that is white gold I certainly wouldn't stop wearing all the yellow gold pieces. I think if done correctly (like no huge Mr. T style pieces) it looks great.

 

[ArelysAdriana]

Our first date was interesting...and the night we became a couple is even more interesting!

We met on myspace laughing in January 2006 and had been talking on there for a bit. We always talked about hanging out, but it didn't happen until the end of March. He didn't have a car while I did, so we agreed that I would just go over to his apartment and we would watch some movies. In retrospect that was a bad idea on my part and I'm lucky he wasn't a serial killer.

We watched Dead Alive, which was horribly bloody, gory and cheesy, but it was right up our alley. We sat on opposite sides of his futon, barely making eye contact or anything and I immediately thought "man, this dude hates me already." We ended up watching another movie (it was either Orgazmo or Bubba Ho-Tep), which neither of us can remember now. We sat a little closer during it and that was when I made my move. I grew some balls and just flat out kissed him in the middle of the movie, which lead to us making out and that is probably why we can't remember the movie.

We hung out a few more times, went to dinner and watched more movies at his apartment, but nothing serious happened. During the spring break at our school I was supposed to go on a road trip up the east coast with my best friend, but I ended up not being able to go. I was bummed, but I was invited to join my friend Jon and one of his female friends to see Coheed and Cambria and Avenged Sevenfold on April 15th so that cheered me up a bit. I asked Jamie to go with me and he said yes. We pre-gamed at Jon's apartment where Jon ended up passed out in his hallway and I ended up slightly trashed. Jamie took amazing care of me at the concert and even held my hair when I threw up. He got me bottled water too and let me sleep on his shoulder! It was so romantic. He drove my car to my apartment while I was started sobering up. We got to talking and one thing lead to another and he asked me to be his girlfriend some time around 2 or 3 am on the morning of April 16th. We then celebrated like any drunk college kids would...at Denny's!

And that is my oh-so-romantic tale. We're going to have to clean that up a bit once we have kids I think.

 

[MainStMandy]

Aww!! Thanks for that Mandy! And I must say, my date with this guy last Monday was amazing! I thought it would be kind of tacky to elaborate on it in the same post that I was "grieving" my relationship with my ex-DBF but I have to share my giddiness about this new guy now that you mention your own love story with your DF!

So, I met this guy on Facebook. I friended him first because I just thought he was so cute and something about him (well, as much about him as a profile picture and a couple lines about himself can tell me lol) struck me. I was totally intrigued. So, I message him and friend him. We get to talking...and then all of the sudden he just stops replying! Boo! A week after our "conversation", my best friend tells me "Maria, you're so into this kid. Just drop him one final line and tell him 'Look, I think you're really cute and a nice guy, let's hang out one day' ". So I do just that, verbatim . He literally messages me back in less than an hour saying "Definitely, pick the time and date and let's do it!" I message him my phone number and he texts me and we set a time and date!

Well, that's about all we did till the next day (our date!). lol...I received no further texts, nothing. The morning of, the worst thing happens; my freakin' car won't start! Bah! So, I text him and say "Hey, my car won't start. I'm so sorry can we reschedule?" and he texts me back "Well, if you want. But I can totally pick you up and we can do something by you!" Now I was all because he lives about 45 minutes away....to see someone you've never met before, 45 minutes is a long drive! Haha, so I agree and he comes, scoops me up, and we take off! We went to see a movie (Angels and Demons) and had a great time. As we were leaving the theater, the rain starts POURING DOWN! So, we head back to theater and watch another movie (this time, Wolverine).

Now, in the first movie, there was absolutely NO physical contact. Like, I literally sat with my hands together and so did he . With the second movie, I had bought popcorn and a diet coke (I'm a diet coke junkie!) and offered it to him and sat it down on the arm rest. During the movie, I start feeling something almost tickling my hand. At first, I totally thought I was imagining this haha! I mean, c'mon, this was my first "first date" in 3 years (to the date!)! When I finally realized it was his fingers tickling my hand, I opened my hand and he instantly YANKED it! He held it for a little while and then he moved his arm to wrap me up and, ladies, I literally MELTED into his arms! It was surreal! We stayed like that the remainder of the movie....I honestly can't tell you what the movie was about or how long it was or anything. All I can remember was being on cloud nine . It was amazing...

Afterwards, we went to this arcade-like place that had a couple of pool tables and he taught me how to play pool! I was horrible but, gosh, he was so encouraging! I can't remember feeling so carefree and just happy in such a long time!

Of course, here comes the drama: he hasn't called since then. But, he did mention he was in law school and finishing up a huge project so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt...and he did try to talk to me for a little bit on Facebook (after I texted him first...sigh, MEN!). So we'll see how it goes. I texted him yesterday to hang out again and he told me that he was really busy...but his project is due tomorrow so we will "definitely be hanging out this week!". Hopefully this actually happens....I'm really excited about this guy!

And, in the spirit of my story, ladies, do tell your first date stories! I wrote a book LOL, so feel free to tell every single detail!

Awww!! That is a great story!! Very romantic I wish you all the best and hope it works out great with the new guy!!

I know this is kinda off topic from what were currently discussing but i have a question...

Today, we went to Swarovski Crystal and purchased a pair of earrings for my gf for her bday... but we always picked out a pair for me. We ended up buying these for myself... they are absolutely beautiful.

While were in the car... dbf mentions that i finally have a piece of jewelery that will eventually match my engagement ring..

so my question is: Do you think is tacky to have a white gold engagement ring and all yellow gold jewelery? I"m wondering if i'll have to switch.. hmmm...

Oooohh those are pretty!! I don't think it will look wierd...but I have OCD and could NEVER wear both

 

[MainStMandy]

Aww!! Thanks for that Mandy! And I must say, my date with this guy last Monday was amazing! I thought it would be kind of tacky to elaborate on it in the same post that I was "grieving" my relationship with my ex-DBF but I have to share my giddiness about this new guy now that you mention your own love story with your DF!

So, I met this guy on Facebook. I friended him first because I just thought he was so cute and something about him (well, as much about him as a profile picture and a couple lines about himself can tell me lol) struck me. I was totally intrigued. So, I message him and friend him. We get to talking...and then all of the sudden he just stops replying! Boo! A week after our "conversation", my best friend tells me "Maria, you're so into this kid. Just drop him one final line and tell him 'Look, I think you're really cute and a nice guy, let's hang out one day' ". So I do just that, verbatim . He literally messages me back in less than an hour saying "Definitely, pick the time and date and let's do it!" I message him my phone number and he texts me and we set a time and date!

Well, that's about all we did till the next day (our date!). lol...I received no further texts, nothing. The morning of, the worst thing happens; my freakin' car won't start! Bah! So, I text him and say "Hey, my car won't start. I'm so sorry can we reschedule?" and he texts me back "Well, if you want. But I can totally pick you up and we can do something by you!" Now I was all because he lives about 45 minutes away....to see someone you've never met before, 45 minutes is a long drive! Haha, so I agree and he comes, scoops me up, and we take off! We went to see a movie (Angels and Demons) and had a great time. As we were leaving the theater, the rain starts POURING DOWN! So, we head back to theater and watch another movie (this time, Wolverine).

Now, in the first movie, there was absolutely NO physical contact. Like, I literally sat with my hands together and so did he . With the second movie, I had bought popcorn and a diet coke (I'm a diet coke junkie!) and offered it to him and sat it down on the arm rest. During the movie, I start feeling something almost tickling my hand. At first, I totally thought I was imagining this haha! I mean, c'mon, this was my first "first date" in 3 years (to the date!)! When I finally realized it was his fingers tickling my hand, I opened my hand and he instantly YANKED it! He held it for a little while and then he moved his arm to wrap me up and, ladies, I literally MELTED into his arms! It was surreal! We stayed like that the remainder of the movie....I honestly can't tell you what the movie was about or how long it was or anything. All I can remember was being on cloud nine . It was amazing...

Afterwards, we went to this arcade-like place that had a couple of pool tables and he taught me how to play pool! I was horrible but, gosh, he was so encouraging! I can't remember feeling so carefree and just happy in such a long time!

Of course, here comes the drama: he hasn't called since then. But, he did mention he was in law school and finishing up a huge project so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt...and he did try to talk to me for a little bit on Facebook (after I texted him first...sigh, MEN!). So we'll see how it goes. I texted him yesterday to hang out again and he told me that he was really busy...but his project is due tomorrow so we will "definitely be hanging out this week!". Hopefully this actually happens....I'm really excited about this guy!

And, in the spirit of my story, ladies, do tell your first date stories! I wrote a book LOL, so feel free to tell every single detail!

Awww!! That is a great story!! Very romantic I wish you all the best and hope it works out great with the new guy!!

I know this is kinda off topic from what were currently discussing but i have a question...

Today, we went to Swarovski Crystal and purchased a pair of earrings for my gf for her bday... but we always picked out a pair for me. We ended up buying these for myself... they are absolutely beautiful.

While were in the car... dbf mentions that i finally have a piece of jewelery that will eventually match my engagement ring..

so my question is: Do you think is tacky to have a white gold engagement ring and all yellow gold jewelery? I"m wondering if i'll have to switch.. hmmm...

Oooohh those are pretty!! I don't think it will look wierd...but I have OCD and could NEVER wear both

 

[pigletgirl]

I think the money dance is the tackiest thing ever. I don't like the removal of the garter either...and I'm not a prude or anything, I just personally wouldn't want my new husband digging up under my dress, really close to the goods, for a piece of fabric in front of my entire family, that he will then throw to his groomsmen. It's skeevy
:

I agree! It would be totally awkward in front of the grandparents!

 

[MariaLovesJon<3]

I agree! It would be totally awkward in front of the grandparents!

Seriously! And even my own parents are extremely conservative....the thought of my daddy watching my husband go up my skirt to get my garter... And imagine if he went for it with his teeth!

So ladies, I'm in need of some advice. So, Saturday I text "The New Guy" and I ask him if he wanted to hang out at the beach later that night (I work right on the beach and he loves it so it seemed like a good idea). He text back that he was really busy with his project but he'd let me know. About three hours later, I text him back asking him if he could (I was on my way out of the office and I didn't want to leave the area if he was planning on coming) and he texts back saying he was sorry but he was really busy. Shortly after, without me even responding to his last text, he says "But definitely next week...the project's due on Monday so I'll be free then".

Now, it's Tuesday and still no text or call or anything . He's logged into Facebook a number of times and never IMed me on it or anything. Is he "just not that into me"? I know no one here can read minds or anything (it would be AWESOME though! ) but any little insight helps when you're as impatient as I am .

Thanks!

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

I say give him a bit of time, guys sometimes forget these things, lol

 

[ArelysAdriana]

I forgot to mention on here that on Tuesday, June 2nd my grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. They are so cute and still so in love, despite enduring a lot of hardships that probably would have broken up other couples. I want what they have!

I agree! It would be totally awkward in front of the grandparents!

Oh lord, my grandparents would faint. I could seriously picture them just praying for our sins right before they hit the floor

Seriously! And even my own parents are extremely conservative....the thought of my daddy watching my husband go up my skirt to get my garter... And imagine if he went for it with his teeth!

Ohh the teeth thing is SO gross. There is no way in hell I would let that happen. Thankfully DBF isn't into it either.

So ladies, I'm in need of some advice. So, Saturday I text "The New Guy" and I ask him if he wanted to hang out at the beach later that night (I work right on the beach and he loves it so it seemed like a good idea). He text back that he was really busy with his project but he'd let me know. About three hours later, I text him back asking him if he could (I was on my way out of the office and I didn't want to leave the area if he was planning on coming) and he texts back saying he was sorry but he was really busy. Shortly after, without me even responding to his last text, he says "But definitely next week...the project's due on Monday so I'll be free then".

Now, it's Tuesday and still no text or call or anything . He's logged into Facebook a number of times and never IMed me on it or anything. Is he "just not that into me"? I know no one here can read minds or anything (it would be AWESOME though! ) but any little insight helps when you're as impatient as I am .

Thanks!

I agree with Laura, give him some time. Have you talked to him yet?

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Anybody having Twilight flashbacks with all this garter talk?

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

I don't mind the garter tradition. DBF has already had practice since I've worn a garter to both proms we've attended together and he has kept them.

 

[Raecheal]

Anybody having Twilight flashbacks with all this garter talk?

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

Ladies, I'm in a dilema once again. I leave for WDW on Friday and, since I've been there so many times lately, I have not idea what to get DBF. He already has a Best BF Mickey Award, Mickey Groom Ears, Boxers, etc. lol

 

[MariaLovesJon<3]

I say give him a bit of time, guys sometimes forget these things, lol

I agree with Laura, give him some time. Have you talked to him yet?

I spoke with him but only because I texted him first. We spent pretty much all last Friday together again, including a night strolling down the beach that ended with a kiss (or two lol) . However, we had a true, serious conversation in which he told me that he didn't really want a relationship right now since he's so busy with law school and he just wants to "live life". So there that goes . What sucks is that he "clicked" so well with me and we truly get along wonderfully.

He hasn't called or texted me since and he leaves for a study abroad session on Sunday....I would actually love to hang out as friends again but I'm not sure what to do. Hmmm...

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I was thinking about songs for the reception. I had one that I wanted to consider for the first dance, but can't remember it. My friend was telling me she and her fiance (they get married in December) want to use "I'll
Cover You Reprise" from Rent. It's a pretty song, but I"m not sure I could use a gay love song at my wedding- particularly the version sung at the funeral in the show!

I was thinking for the father/daughter dance either Butterfly Kisses, or the Hannah Montana Song "I Learned from You." (I made him a CD for Father's DAy and that's one of the songs. The lyrics are really nice.)

 

[pigletgirl]

I have totally put together a preliminary reception playlist! I have combined songs that we both like and then some sappy ones too.

But as you can see from my siggy I have 2 friends getting married within the month and I have been helping them get prepared, so weddings have definitely been on my mind. I do think it'll be awhile before its our time though.

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

Since we're talking music...

I have TONS of songs I want to play at our reception. Some of them include Flightless Bird, American Mouth, Last Song by Gackt, Chayanne, Ricky Marting. A whole array of mixes from Spanish music to Japanese music. Right now I've been listening to a lot of Final Fantasy instrumentals and would love to hear the Theme of Love from FFIV somewhere in my reception, I was thinking for our first dance but I also want that one to be I Don't Wanna Miss a Thing by Aerosmith, heck I'm the bride, there could be 2 dances! Anyway, here's the violin version of Theme of Love from FFIV:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUMcDl7zioI

Also, I'm not into Mario much, but I was looking up Final Fantasy theme cakes and this popped up. DBF loved it and I must say, it's AMAZING!

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

Bumping!

 

[Caribbeanprincess]

So...on Saturday night I went with DBF and his family to the hospital to visit DBF's gofather's wife who had just given birth. I got to hold the baby, the first time holding a newborn since my nephew was born 4 years ago, yup, maternal instinct set in once again, lol

 

[ArelysAdriana]

So...on Saturday night I went with DBF and his family to the hospital to visit DBF's gofather's wife who had just given birth. I got to hold the baby, the first time holding a newborn since my nephew was born 4 years ago, yup, maternal instinct set in once again, lol

Aw! DBF & I talked a lot about how we're going to raise our kids yesterday, especially how we are going to feed them (it's a random subject, but we both have very different diets and kind of butt heads about it. ) We're pretty much going to be hardas$es though