Planning a wedding

[Disneylover79]

Did you plan your wedding before being proposed to? DBF told me last night to start planning so we can have what we want and that the ring will come soon... so I wanted to see how common this is..

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Did you plan your wedding before being proposed to? DBF told me last night to start planning so we can have what we want and that the ring will come soon... so I wanted to see how common this is..

Don't question it...just smile and say "ok honey I love you!"


really though, for people who 'know' they are going to be together, I'd say it's common

 

[princess momma]

I can see thinking about it....... but planning......no. Get engaged, then plan the wedding.

 

[Buckalew11]

Heck, I barely planned after I had the ring. LOL

Good luck. I disliked everything there was about planning a wedding.

 

[laurie31]

Oh goodness, I started planning my wedding when I was 5!

However, if a guy SAYS to start planning, then I would certainly start planning!

I *love* wedding planning! In fact, I almost started doing it on the side, because I had so much fun doing mine, I did them for three friends.

If you guys want a date that might be popular (meaning ANYTHING in June or August, or a date like 10-10-10), then yeah, I'd get on that!

Congratulations!!

 

[disykat]

When we decided to get married, we considered ourselves engaged - so we planned our wedding. While you don't have a ring yet, it sounds to me like you've already been "proposed to."

 

[minkydog]

We talked about getting married about a year before we actually had a wedding. Dh never actually proposed. But we just talked it over and decided it was a good idea. Very pragmatic. He wanted to wait on the ring and give it to me for Christmas.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

I'm in the same boat as you! We are not engaged yet, but my boyfriend's father is doing missionary work in Africa...and is coming home this spring after being over there for about 2 years. Considering that it costs $3000 for him to get home, and that we are planning on getting married next fall...it seems like this spring might be a better idea...but something he just suggested a few days ago. I'm sort of in shock, hadn't planned on this happening so soon! We would be engaged...if not for our lack of money, and my telling him I was on a mission to lose 50 pounds and he was forbidden to propose until I did! LOL we'll see how it goes!

 

[Buckalew11]

Oh goodness, I started planning my wedding when I was 5!

However, if a guy SAYS to start planning, then I would certainly start planning!

I *love* wedding planning! In fact, I almost started doing it on the side, because I had so much fun doing mine, I did them for three friends.

If you guys want a date that might be popular (meaning ANYTHING in June or August, or a date like 10-10-10), then yeah, I'd get on that!

Congratulations!!

I'm calling on you when DD gets engaged. I already thought of it and dreaded it.

I remember telling the man who sung (and I DID pick him. I want him to sing at my wedding.) to sing whatever he sings well. I told the lady who made my cake to make whatever she made well. Of course, she didn't go for that so we had to talk more. Wedding planning is just not my thing. I wanted to elope and DH wouldn't. But he wouldn't plan the wedding either.

 

[alexandria674]

Well, I was planning my wedding since I was a kid but I didn't plan my wedding until I was engaged. Now I get to look at the Bride magazines without feeling weird.

 

[mjkacmom]

I had the church and reception booked before I got engaged. However, we were already living together, and had dated for 6 years. DH wouldn't move in with me until he decided we were definitely getting married (I had my own apartment, he had 2 roommates, we spent every night at my place or his place). The engagement was not a surprise - I picked out the ring setting.

 

[mickeyboat]

We had been talking about marriage forever (seriously for a year or more) but I did not start planning until after he proposed. We had a long engagement, though (2 years).

Denae

 

[Laura]

Kinda, but not really. I didn't get proposed to until DH got the ring from the jeweler. It was a custom job that took 6-7 weeks and I was in on the whole thing. By the time it was ready I'd reserved space at a local conservatory for the ceremony because it was very much in demand. So the ring hadn't arrived yet, but it was paid for, I knew the proposal was coming soon, etc.

What does he mean by "the ring will come soon"?

 

[SpecialK]

I can see thinking about it....... but planning......no. Get engaged, then plan the wedding.

I agree.

 

[Disneylover79]

Kinda, but not really. I didn't get proposed to until DH got the ring from the jeweler. It was a custom job that took 6-7 weeks and I was in on the whole thing. By the time it was ready I'd reserved space at a local conservatory for the ceremony because it was very much in demand. So the ring hadn't arrived yet, but it was paid for, I knew the proposal was coming soon, etc.

What does he mean by "the ring will come soon"?

Not sure what he means....but he did say they are expensive and I said it doesn't have to be expensive, I showed him a ring that I love that is less then 1000..so I don't need an expensive ring.....so as far as the ring will come soon I am not sure when .. but we discussed a date last night and he said Jan/Feb ( we live in Florida)we don't want to bake when we get married

 

[finallygoingtoWDW]

If you are both in agreement to get married, then you are engaged. You don't need to have a ring. If you are both in agreement to get married, then yes you can start planning a wedding. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea to plan a wedding with a person who wasn't on board with the whole thing though.

 

[mtemm]

have you guys talked budget/dates, etc? I can't imagine even starting planning without those things, and, well, if I knew those things then I would consider myself engaged, with or without a ring.

 

[WriteDisney]

Did you plan your wedding before being proposed to? DBF told me last night to start planning so we can have what we want and that the ring will come soon... so I wanted to see how common this is..

Yepp. We don't want a long engagement (or a big ceremony) and when we get engaged we want to have everything planned out (most of it already is, deposits are in, hotels booked.. we wanted to pay for everything ourselves so it was necessarily to discuss it beforehand if we wanted a short engagement). I already picked out my ring and am making a wild guess that DBF might propose on our upcoming WDW trip We've been together 5 years and it was always part of the plan to get married next year

 

[Becky2005]

Well, I was planning my wedding since I was a kid but I didn't plan my wedding until I was engaged.

That would be me too. We had to plan a wedding in Family Living class in high school, so I pretty much had my wedding planned by the time I got engaged. Some things had changed but some were the same. The honeymoon I had planned, basically was identical. I knew the basics I already wanted, so it was just a matter of officially being engaged to move forward with the plans.

I'm one that loves wedding planning though (or any type of event planning really).

 

[Disneylover79]

If you are both in agreement to get married, then you are engaged. You don't need to have a ring. If you are both in agreement to get married, then yes you can start planning a wedding. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea to plan a wedding with a person who wasn't on board with the whole thing though.

So he says yes he does want to marry me and he is totally on board with it all... I mean I can talk to him about it now without him getting upset that I am talking about it.... I am nit sure why I don't have a ring, he could be saving money, not found "the one" yet, or he has it and waiting for the right time to give it to me....so does this mean I am engaged fiance/fiance?