Pixie Dusting Adults

[morethananyonex]

I guess I don't understand how "pixie dust" = "things". Things don't make people feel cherished . The best pixie dust I have experienced in Disney parks (and those that I have read online) come from experiences. Not gifts or trinkets. If you want to spread pixie dust, just be kind and thoughtful to the other guests around you.

Especially when you're talking about how to "pixie dust" adults and not children.

Oh sorry, I meant to say how snobbish and ugly of you

 

[ferd]

I guess I don't understand how "pixie dust" = "things". Things don't make people feel cherished . The best pixie dust I have experienced in Disney parks (and those that I have read online) come from experiences. Not gifts or trinkets. If you want to spread pixie dust, just be kind and thoughtful to the other guests around you.

I don't think they have to be mutually exclusive. If someone chooses to pack some extra glow sticks to give to kids (or adults!) watching the parade, doesn't mean they can't pull off a few extra paper towels for the lady behind them in the bathroom. If you want to hand out Mickey stickers to people in a line, it doesn't mean you can't also let someone skip ahead of you in a line or offer them a seat for the parade. There are whole theories out there about the different ways that people show love and appreciation, and they do vary from person to person. Some people are 'touchy feely' and love to give strangers hugs and such. While others like to show their affection for people with gifts. Some people like to do random acts in the form of a kind gesture like holding a door or offering a tissue.

I think what I perhaps failed in conveying earlier is that one is not right and one is not wrong. What someone chooses to do for someone is based on their own desire to do good and how they choose to express it. Just like your choice to accept it or refuse it is your own. What I think was not right was to make someone feel bad that if they wanted to spend their extra dollars on a glow stick or roll of stickers to give to kids or adults at Disney they are wasting them and should be donating to a soup kitchen or children's hospital instead, or are only being kind for personal gratification and not to see the joy in others. It's also not exactly right to assume that if the OP wants to sprinkle pixie dust or whatever trinket on willing strangers in the park, that she would not also be willing to do free kind gestures for people as well in and outside of Disney World.

P.S> I will add, there is an active thread now entitled The Kindness of Strangers, where the OP talked about a random stranger giving her a pin, and how it not only brightened her day, but continues to do so. Many other people have been touched by that stranger's gesture, so I wouldn't necessarily assume that a trinket can't help someone feel cherished.

Link: http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2980964

 

[JimmyV]

And I'm not doing this to make ME feel good. I just thought it would put a smile on someone else's face.
In the past year I have:
Donated items to a no-kill, donation ran pet shelter
Wrote cards to soldiers and nursing home residents
And currently hold a drive to donate money to Mississippi tornado victims
Donated items and toys and money to a donation run youth home
Even given coupons and freebie tickets to people in line at stores.

I don't do ANY of this to make ME feel better. I do it to make OTHERS feel better and that they are cherished as a person on this earth.

And in keeping in the same vein...if you reeeaaallly want to make people feel good and put a smile on some faces, take a day from your vacation and volunteer at "Give Kids The World". There are a whole lot of volunteer opportunities there for adults and there is no greater spreading of pixie dust than a day spent helping out there. I promise that the people at GKTW need and appreciate kind gestures far more than the person behind me in the Dole Whip line.

 

[Zeebs]

I don't think they have to be mutually exclusive. If someone chooses to pack some extra glow sticks to give to kids (or adults!) watching the parade, doesn't mean they can't pull off a few extra paper towels for the lady behind them in the bathroom. If you want to hand out Mickey stickers to people in a line, it doesn't mean you can't also let someone skip ahead of you in a line or offer them a seat for the parade. There are whole theories out there about the different ways that people show love and appreciation, and they do vary from person to person. Some people are 'touchy feely' and love to give strangers hugs and such. While others like to show their affection for people with gifts. Some people like to do random acts in the form of a kind gesture like holding a door or offering a tissue.

I think what I perhaps failed in conveying earlier is that one is not right and one is not wrong. What someone chooses to do for someone is based on their own desire to do good and how they choose to express it. Just like your choice to accept it or refuse it is your own. What I think was not right was to make someone feel bad that if they wanted to spend their extra dollars on a glow stick or roll of stickers to give to kids or adults at Disney they are wasting them and should be donating to a soup kitchen or children's hospital instead, or are only being kind for personal gratification and not to see the joy in others. It's also not exactly right to assume that if the OP wants to sprinkle pixie dust or whatever trinket on willing strangers in the park, that she would not also be willing to do free kind gestures for people as well in and outside of Disney World.

I agree with you, I am quite often saddened at the suspicion of every action, the majority of the world is kind and caring and we are teaching our children to be afraid of everything and everyone.

I donate to charity, but I also like a bit of pay it forward to "privileged" people as maybe they feel good about what happened and then do the same, maybe these people you pixie dust don't give out kindness and help others and this random act of kindness makes them think.

Kirsten

 

[grammimouse]

I once gave out porcelain dolls to little girls. I had purchased them for my God Daughter ( now 16 ). She never played with a doll in her life I always checked with the parents first and I chose people that you could tell had used most of their funds for the trip and probably we're not up to purchasing the expensive Disney gizmos. I brought 10 dolls with me and 10 little girls went home hugging their new "babies". We also passed out a lot of glow bracelets , necklaces , and sticks. Recycling legacy FP 's always made us feel like we were adding enjoyment to someone else's visit. Any kindness that is extended only makes the world a happier place , and who does't like that warm fuzzy feeling of kindness. Keep on sharing the love and kindness , forget the naysayers !

 

[msjprincess]

I once gave out porcelain dolls to little girls. I had purchased them for my God Daughter ( now 16 ). She never played with a doll in her life I always checked with the parents first and I chose people that you could tell had used most of their funds for the trip and probably we're not up to purchasing the expensive Disney gizmos. I brought 10 dolls with me and 10 little girls went home hugging their new "babies". We also passed out a lot of glow bracelets , necklaces , and sticks. Recycling legacy FP 's always made us feel like we were adding enjoyment to someone else's visit. Any kindness that is extended only makes the world a happier place , and who does't like that warm fuzzy feeling of kindness. Keep on sharing the love and kindness , forget the naysayers !

How can you tell that just by looking at someone?

 

[Laura66]

How can you tell that just by looking at someone?

I was wondering the same thing.

 

[morethananyonex]

I once gave out porcelain dolls to little girls. I had purchased them for my God Daughter ( now 16 ). She never played with a doll in her life I always checked with the parents first and I chose people that you could tell had used most of their funds for the trip and probably we're not up to purchasing the expensive Disney gizmos. I brought 10 dolls with me and 10 little girls went home hugging their new "babies". We also passed out a lot of glow bracelets , necklaces , and sticks. Recycling legacy FP 's always made us feel like we were adding enjoyment to someone else's visit. Any kindness that is extended only makes the world a happier place , and who does't like that warm fuzzy feeling of kindness. Keep on sharing the love and kindness , forget the naysayers !

Yeah, what? How do you tell people had "used most of their funds for the trip"? What exactly does that look like? Did you smell them cooking in their coffee makers in their hotel rooms?

 

[Oodalally13]

FYI I have asked that this thread be shut down. Originally it was good for an exchange of ideas about spreading joy. Now the trolls have taken over and turned it into nothing more than a board for them to express their pious feelings.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Just because someone doesn't like your idea or agree with it doesn't make them a troll.

 

[HookdonWDW]

Why does the fact that people offer a dissenting opinion constitute being a troll?

Hello all! So I've been looking at all the ways to pixie dust kids but my worry was that since it will be me (29) and my parents (51 & 53) on this trip that ppl might think we are creeps or something. It was suggested we just pixie dust other grown ups then. I thought this was a fab idea so now I'm looking for suggestions. Of course there's the standard by a drink/ice cream for the person behind you but what are some other "random acts of pixie" that grown ups might enjoy. What would brighten your day?

You state that you worried how other people would take it, and asked for opinions and ideas. People gave you those, both pro and con. Sounds like you were receiving exactly what you requested, but perhaps that wasn't what you wanted. Personally, I like threads that discuss the pros and cons of ideas, but that's just me...

 

[DRDISNEYMD]

And in keeping in the same vein...if you reeeaaallly want to make people feel good and put a smile on some faces, take a day from your vacation and volunteer at "Give Kids The World". There are a whole lot of volunteer opportunities there for adults and there is no greater spreading of pixie dust than a day spent helping out there. I promise that the people at GKTW need and appreciate kind gestures far more than the person behind me in the Dole Whip line.

~I totally agree with this! Very well said!

I once gave out porcelain dolls to little girls. I had purchased them for my God Daughter ( now 16 ). She never played with a doll in her life I always checked with the parents first and I chose people that you could tell had used most of their funds for the trip and probably we're not up to purchasing the expensive Disney gizmos. I brought 10 dolls with me and 10 little girls went home hugging their new "babies". We also passed out a lot of glow bracelets , necklaces , and sticks. Recycling legacy FP 's always made us feel like we were adding enjoyment to someone else's visit. Any kindness that is extended only makes the world a happier place , and who does't like that warm fuzzy feeling of kindness. Keep on sharing the love and kindness , forget the naysayers !

~I know better than to touch this.

FYI I have asked that this thread be shut down. Originally it was good for an exchange of ideas about spreading joy. Now the trolls have taken over and turned it into nothing more than a board for them to express their pious feelings.

~Awww, I totally hate when that happens.

Just because someone doesn't like your idea or agree with it doesn't make them a troll.

~That's true.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Why does the fact that people offer a dissenting opinion constitute being a troll?



You state that you worried how other people would take it, and asked for opinions and ideas. People gave you those, both pro and con. Sounds like you were receiving exactly what you requested, but perhaps that wasn't what you wanted. Personally, I like threads that discuss the pros and cons of ideas, but that's just me...

Exactly! You asked what would brighten your day in your OP. I stated that I wouldn't want "stuff" but a kind gesture. All I did was answer your question.

 

[ebtbmom]

I think OP feels attacked not because people are offering dissenting opinions but it's the way that some of those opinions were stated. There's always a way to say something diplomatically.

For what it's worth OP, if a random stranger bought me an Orange Slush and gave me a glow stick I'd be down to party!

 

[Oodalally13]

Have you read other posts than yours? Some sound quite rude and hostile.

Apparently nobody else's parents let them watch Bambi and taught Thumper's most important rule:

IF YOU CANT SAY SOMETHING NICE, DONT SAY NOTHING AT ALL

 

[twinz]

We once went to WDW with a friend and her three boys. We had them each pick an adults name (there were three adults, three kids) and we gave them each $5.00 to buy a secret gift for their secret person, and the adults each picked a name too. At the end of the week we exchanged gifts. It was the best gift ever, because I know he looked very hard for the gift. My sis and I also gave them each a Mickey head antenna topper and while we were in the parking lot we had them look for a car that was from a different state (other then Florida) and we put the topper on their antenna. We never seen who they went to but it was fun knowing someone would be surprised at the end of their day.

 

[Planogirl]

I see nothing wrong with giving things as long as you don't get offended by those who say "no thanks". People have their reasons for not wanting to interact that much with strangers and they shouldn't be pushed.

I used to enjoy giving fastpasses to people. I know that some didn't like that anyone did this but it was still fun. We only did it very rarely and normally because we ran out of time.

 

[jrmgreer]

Hello all! So I've been looking at all the ways to pixie dust kids but my worry was that since it will be me (29) and my parents (51 & 53) on this trip that ppl might think we are creeps or something. It was suggested we just pixie dust other grown ups then. I thought this was a fab idea so now I'm looking for suggestions. Of course there's the standard by a drink/ice cream for the person behind you but what are some other "random acts of pixie" that grown ups might enjoy. What would brighten your day?

People like you are what makes WDW so special! Here is some pixie dust for you for being so awesome!!

 

[DisneyFansInNYC]

I don't do ANY of this to make ME feel better. I do it to make OTHERS feel better and that they are cherished as a person on this earth.

I agree this would make the world a happier place. We teach our kids to do one nice deed everyday. Our middle DD tells at least one person (that she doesn't know that well or doesn't know at all) a day that she likes something they are wearing or likes their hair. She loves the way their face changes after she does it. You can see the change immediately. We never know what day they are having and this could change their mood instantaneously.

Keep up the good work!

 

[morethananyonex]

Have you read other posts than yours? Some sound quite rude and hostile.

Apparently nobody else's parents let them watch Bambi and taught Thumper's most important rule:

IF YOU CANT SAY SOMETHING NICE, DONT SAY NOTHING AT ALL

And then of course, there's the important message board rule:

If you don't want opinions don't ask a question.