Perception of Perfection???

[Am_I_There_Yet]

No, it made exact sense. And I think that might be part of what Im trying to say...

Rut-ro! I even confused myself and you understood it!

"Well, if *I* were such and such, I would blah-blah-blah" BUT amazingly, this is not the behavior I see, in real life. People arent so bold, and brave and outspoken. Always saying EXACTLY what they mean, whenever they need to, with fine, choice words....

What irritates me, are the rude people. Those are the people who'd probably dive under a table crying for their mommies, if you looked at 'em wrong. But get them safely behind their computer screens and they're so tough.

It's just a strange thing, Ive seen for years on message boards - wondered if I was the only one who could "read between the thread-lines"

Although - me posting something like this, is a show of perfection.... so, who am I to judge, right?

My motto is to be true to who I am. It's not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, trust me.

 

[rt2dz]

Hey, I'm not perfect, but I like to think I am.



I think we just leave the bad stuff out when posting.

Or forget to mention we did it a different way and are looking at it in hindsight.

Or maybe I just don't read enough threads.

 

[Buckalew11]

Your thread reminds me of this song:

Oh Lord Its Hard To Be Humble

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way.
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better loking each day.
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
I used to have a girlfriend
but she just couldn't compete
with all of these love starved women
who keep clamoring at my feet.
Well I prob'ly could find me another
but I guess they're all in awe of me.
Who cares, I never get lonesome
cause I treasure my own company.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way,
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
I guess you could say I'm a loner,
a cowboy outlaw tough and proud.
I could have lots of friends if I want to
but then I wouldn't stand out from the crowd.
Some folks say that I'm egotistical.
Hell, I don't even know what that means.
I guess it has something to do with the way that I
fill out my skin tight blue jeans.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way,
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
We're doing the best that we can

Official song of the CB??

 

[Buckalew11]

I think we just leave the bad stuff out when posting.

Or forget to mention we did it a different way and are looking at it in hindsight.

Kind of like the annual Christmas letters we all receive??

 

[cardaway]

Or it could be that some people would rather not share some things, which is fine since is results in less "so and so happened to me or my kid, please agree with what I did or else" threads.

 

[CathrynRose]

You're definately reading the wrong threads then.

Yeah.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I don't understand what you don't understand...except for my lack of fashion sense, which we all agree I have issues with, we just have to understand that everyone can't be as perfect as I am.

Hey, I saw you post that you were a bag lady, just yesterday. At least you're honest!

A bag lady with an internet connection! You're the perfect bag lady! I bet the other ones hate you.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Kind of like the annual Christmas letters we all receive??

Perfect example!!!!

 

[buddy&wooz]

I think it's that in real life, your flaws are right out there. Here, the only way people see your flaws is if you post about them.

I've got plenty of flaws, I just don't like talking about them .

 

[Chipperdini]

eh. I'm not perfect. But I'm so close its scary.

Practically perfect in every way? Mary Poppins is a DISer??

For one to consider oneself perfect would be conceited. To be conceited would be a flaw, therefore flawing the perfection. See?

Reminds me...

"...and make Pride humble for Pride's sake." (from The Pilgrim's Regress, C. S. Lewis)



As to the OP - Nah, I've never gotten that perception, at least not that I've noticed. "Peoples is peoples" and all that goes with that. Pretty much sums it up for me. I know people aren't perfect. I know appearances can be deceiving. I know perception isn't (necessarily) reality. I know words can be cheap. I know I'm not perfect (and that I tend to be prideful and perfectionistic). I know I can (and have) deceive(d). I know I can misunderstand/misinterpret/"see" wrongly, and I have. I know some - probably many - of my words are cheap. I don't envy "perfect" people, and I know why.

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

I have seen some pretty crabby, abrupt or downright rude responses here on the DIS., far ,far more than IRL.

I just think to myself- "Guess that poster is out of Preparation H and their Hemmorhoids are hurting."

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I posted on both threads that the OP mentioned - I don't think I am perfect - far from it! My intention wasn't to brag that I look as young as my dd, just stated that I look young for my age - which WAS the topic - and posted a pic. Sorry if anyone felt that I was getting on the "perfection" pedestel. Sure, there are always the "I would never..." posts and "I can't believe you would..." posts on a daily basis. Depending on who they're coming from, they could get pretty irritating! But if we all agreed and had the same opinions about everything in life, this board would be a pretty boring place!

 

[CathrynRose]

Sorry if anyone felt that I was getting on the "perfection" pedestel. !

Im totally sorry if you felt it was at all directed at you - none of my original post was directed at any one person, at all.

 

[Missy1961]

Well, I always love to read the "I'm taking my kids out of school to go to Disney threads". The kids are always A+ students!

Actually, though, I think most posters here are honest. They just have very strong opinions! I know I've posted about my flaws. I find that I can be more honest here because you guys don't know me. I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

If it makes anyone feel any better: my dd is normally a straight A and B student. We just got her progress report and she is getting a C in math. So I can no longer claim my dd is a great student!! And oh yes, I'd still take her out of school for a family vacation! Is there a support group for the "perfect no more"?

 

[sweet angel]

If I was perfect, perhaps people would respond to my PMs

 

[vivilasvegas]

I don't really see people acting "perfect", just a lot of people who have very strong opinions on certain subjects. Myself included.

And, I'm always right.

 

[ElizaB39]

thank you for making a thread all about me, the PERFECT one!

 

[MinnieM3]

I always try to even out my perfection!

Ex..... DS17 failed English, is failing Algebra, and failed to tell us about a $300 traffic ticket ......but is a great drummer and made Region Band!

Ex..... DD20 is out of the house and supporting herself, but is not in college at the time and shacked up with her "mom doesn't like" him boyfriend!

Ex...... DS 6 reads Chapter Books and is a aMath Whiz , but often gets "X's" for behavior and can't tie his own shoes.....

Ohhhhhh it all evens out in the end!!

 

[mafibisha]

[BIs it really believed by themselves, is it caused by trying to impress others – but why would they try to impress – literally- faceless strangers?[/B]

Exactly, like pictures posted in signatures -

Who CARES what faceless strangers think about other's children? (or pets!!!) Granted, while some DISer DO meet --(not that I wouldn't want to, but quite frankly I have a tough enough time juggling my real world family and friends)-- who really cares what someone's kid looks like? Or pet??? Besides, we all know (or SHOULD know) that Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder!!!

And living in such a violent world, I would never EVER post a picture of my kids! Because they truly ARE the VERY most beautiful kids in the whole wide world!

(oh yes, and I really DO look 20 years younger, since I'm a runner and use Crest Whitestrips! )