People that spoil surprises.

[daughtersrus]

I purchased some items for my immediate family(DH DD #1 DD#2) for Christmas. Another family member showed up at the event but they were sold out. Apparently she wanted one and was mad that I didn't buy one for her or call and tell her. We're talking about something that was about $100 each. Well, that was a week ago. This past weekend she said something to my DH in front of my DD#2. I wasn't there but DH said she claimed she didn't know it was a surprise. Really? Two weeks before Christmas and she didn't think they were a surprise even after I told her that day that they were Santa gifts.

This is the first year in 32 years that DH and I said we weren't buying anything for each other besides 1 Santa gift. Now he won't even be surprised about that.

Do you know people like this? They have to ruin it for everyone because they're mad.

 

[Dizneefamily+4]

I purchased some items for my immediate family(DH DD #1 DD#2) for Christmas. Another family member showed up at the event but they were sold out. Apparently she wanted one and was mad that I didn't buy one for her or call and tell her. We're talking about something that was about $100 each. Well, that was a week ago. This past weekend she said something to my DH in front of my DD#2. I wasn't there but DH said she claimed she didn't know it was a surprise. Really? Two weeks before Christmas and she didn't think they were a surprise even after I told her that day that they were Santa gifts.

This is the first year in 32 years that DH and I said we weren't buying anything for each other besides 1 Santa gift. Now he won't even be surprised about that.

Do you know people like this? They have to ruin it for everyone because they're mad.

My dmil is a notorious surprise ruiner. Only in her case, it's not out of spite, it's just...her. She's famous for giving our kids an accessory/accompaniment to a gift that we're giving them BEFORE we give them the gift. Even when we've told her that we haven't given them the gift yet. Dh's grandma left him a diamond pendant on a thick gold chain when she passed away. He decided to have the diamond made into a ring for me. He didn't tell me, but I kind of suspected. DMIL knew he was doing this. One day, she stopped in to where I work and said, "let me see your hand." He hadn't given me the ring yet. I have tons of examples just like that.

I don't really know anybody that ruins surprises to be mean, but it's just as annoying whether it's out of spite or just someone's personality.

 

[sunshinehighway]

I purchased some items for my immediate family(DH DD #1 DD#2) for Christmas. Another family member showed up at the event but they were sold out. Apparently she wanted one and was mad that I didn't buy one for her or call and tell her. We're talking about something that was about $100 each. Well, that was a week ago. This past weekend she said something to my DH in front of my DD#2. I wasn't there but DH said she claimed she didn't know it was a surprise. Really? Two weeks before Christmas and she didn't think they were a surprise even after I told her that day that they were Santa gifts.

This is the first year in 32 years that DH and I said we weren't buying anything for each other besides 1 Santa gift. Now he won't even be surprised about that.

Do you know people like this? They have to ruin it for everyone because they're mad.

Maybe she really didn't know it was a surprise for your DH. Maybe she forgot it was a surprise.

This time of year I try to let little things go and not get all worked up.

Is this a close relative? You don't say what the item is but if it was something I knew she wanted and is either hard to find or was a really good price, I would have at least called her and told her to hurry of she wanted one. I probably would have asked if she wanted me to grab one for her if it was something I knew she really wanted.

 

[NAB]

My dmil is a notorious surprise ruiner. Only in her case, it's not out of spite, it's just...her. She's famous for giving our kids an accessory/accompaniment to a gift that we're giving them BEFORE we give them the gift. Even when we've told her that we haven't given them the gift yet. Dh's grandma left him a diamond pendant on a thick gold chain when she passed away. He decided to have the diamond made into a ring for me. He didn't tell me, but I kind of suspected. DMIL knew he was doing this. One day, she stopped in to where I work and said, "let me see your hand." He hadn't given me the ring yet. I have tons of examples just like that.

I don't really know anybody that ruins surprises to be mean, but it's just as annoying whether it's out of spite or just someone's personality.

Oh yeah people giving them games for a console they didn't get yet until Christmas . Been there many a time.

 

[lisaviolet]

I purchased some items for my immediate family(DH DD #1 DD#2) for Christmas. Another family member showed up at the event but they were sold out. Apparently she wanted one and was mad that I didn't buy one for her or call and tell her. We're talking about something that was about $100 each. Well, that was a week ago. This past weekend she said something to my DH in front of my DD#2. I wasn't there but DH said she claimed she didn't know it was a surprise. Really? Two weeks before Christmas and she didn't think they were a surprise even after I told her that day that they were Santa gifts.

This is the first year in 32 years that DH and I said we weren't buying anything for each other besides 1 Santa gift. Now he won't even be surprised about that.

Do you know people like this? They have to ruin it for everyone because they're mad.

First, sorry that your surprise was ruined, that sucks plain and simple.

But I don't think that this has anything to do with surprises. It's passive aggressive nonsense. I don't partake. I just express feelings directly. Much simpler than this crap.

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I'm curious, did you have any clue that they wanted it? Did you see them at the event? That part I can't quite figure out from your post.

 

[Jennasis]

My ex BIL was like that but it was mostly because he had NO poker face and simply didn't know how to contain himself at the prospect of a surprise. He was EXACTLY like that SNL skit where Kristen Wiig spoils the surprise for someone. Case in point: when friends of our were about to get engaged, the guy had concocted an elaborate thing that would ultimately have her discover the ring embedded in the clay container in for some board game we all play (Brain...somethingorother). It was DH and I, DSis and BIL and the other couple. Well BIL was SWEATING bullets as we sat at the table and pulled out the board game. He was practically vibrating, bright red and staring back and forth from the bride-to-be and the little plastic container of modeling clay that was part of the game. When she finally opened the container and the poor guy opped the question, I thought BIL was going to faint. Later that night she confided in me and my sister that she knew what was going down due to the way BIL was behaving.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

When I was in high school, 4 of my friends and I decided to throw a surprise party for my best friend. One of the friends had been friends with birthday girl since they were young children and she wasn't happy that she was getting close to the rest of us. A week before the party, she was hanging out with birthday girl and told her that we were all planning a surprise party for her. Birthday girl asked her why she would tell her that and ruin the surprise for her and all the work the rest of us had put into it. Bean spiller explained that she thought that they were getting closer, was sad that they weren't as close as they had once been, though, and thought that telling her about the party would be something that would bring them closer together.

 

[wiigirl]

Oh yeah people giving them games for a console they didn't get yet until Christmas . Been there many a time.

Ughhh....hate that!

 

[daughtersrus]

Maybe she really didn't know it was a surprise for your DH. Maybe she forgot it was a surprise.

This time of year I try to let little things go and not get all worked up.

Is this a close relative? You don't say what the item is but if it was something I knew she wanted and is either hard to find or was a really good price, I would have at least called her and told her to hurry of she wanted one. I probably would have asked if she wanted me to grab one for her if it was something I knew she really wanted.

It was DH's sister.
It was a Chicago Blackhawks sweater (jersey). I really didn't know that she wanted one. She never said anything about them but I knew that she was mad when my DD's got tickets to a game for DH's 59th birthday and didn't ask her to go to the game. Tickets were limited and they were lucky to get the ones they dd. She told him about that too. I think it was her way of getting back.

I didn't have an extra $100+ on me after spending almost $400 on the 3 I got. They didn't take credit cards and I didn't have a checkbook.

I specifically told her that they were gifts and not to say anything. Even if she thought DH knew even though I told her they were a surprise, she said something to DH and DD.

This is why I try not to tell her anything. I had to tell her about the game because of a schedule conflict with something else. I had no intention of telling her about the sweaters but she showed up unexpected and saw them.

 

[worm761]

It was DH's sister.
It was a Chicago Blackhawks sweater (jersey). I really didn't know that she wanted one. She never said anything about them but I knew that she was mad when my DD's got tickets to a game for DH's 59th birthday and didn't ask her to go to the game. Tickets were limited and they were lucky to get the ones they dd. She told him about that too. I think it was her way of getting back.

I didn't have an extra $100+ on me after spending almost $400 on the 3 I got. They didn't take credit cards and I didn't have a checkbook.

I specifically told her that they were gifts and not to say anything. Even if she thought DH knew even though I told her they were a surprise, she said something to DH and DD.

This is why I try not to tell her anything. I had to tell her about the game because of a schedule conflict with something else. I had no intention of telling her about the sweaters but she showed up unexpected and saw them.

I get it. My MIL is sort of like that. She can't ruin surprises because we live to far apart. DD's birthday is in December so there is a lot of talk of who got what for which occasion. She would try to buy a "better" one of whatever we got. So she knew I had ordered a doll for DD 2nd birthday so she bought what she thinks is a better doll for her for Christmas. It is her way of seeking revenge against me for not traveling at the holidays.

 

[Kerrry7]

There are a couple of occasions, but not spitefully.
When I was young I used to ring my grandparents to tell them their presents, I'd sneak out and press the speed dial number.
One year my dad got the playstation games before the playstation.
About two weeks before my boyfriend's birthday last year I started thinking out loud "the tickets haven't arrived yet, maybe I got them emailed to me and didn't realise." He's like "shall I pretend I didn't hear that?" Yes please! Lol.
I'm the worst with surprises, but I don't actually want to know what my presents are, every year my mum asks me if I want to know what people have got me, the one time I said yes, I thought she was lying but wasn't! Lol