parents, what would you do!

[ticktock]

I believe she will try to call the state on me again for the simple fact that she did this to her other brother's wife, she called the state on the other SIL like 3 times after she had her son to try to get her son from her, if you have a Robertson baby you can bet that DH's sister will be there to try to take it away to keep it in thier little family. The other SIL moved to Kansas and that was the 3rd time DH's sister called the state on her to try to keep the child from going, but it didn't work.Today 11:31 PM

You should call a lawyer. This woman deserves to be punished. This is slander and fraudulant use of already overburdened public services. Just like making prank 911 calls. I'm sure this is a criminal offense. It would also be an easy case to prove if she already tried this with your other sil. Please talk to a lawyer or public defender. Just knowing that she might be punished would probably get her off your back. I know you don't want to rock the boat with your inlaws but as long as you accept this behaviour it will only escalate and they obviously approve of it since it is to their (percieved) benefit. This is probably the wierdest inlaw thing I have heard. And I thought my family was looney.

 

[buckler]

If you ever leave your children at any type of daycare or school make sure the school has strict instructions that your SIL and MIL can not pick up your children. I would explain the situation to the school so they would understand these family members could potentially try to take your kids without your permission. The school should have a system in place where they have a list of people with permission to pick up your child but you want the school to also know the in-laws are FORBIDDEN from taking the children. Your MIL or SIL could trick an overly friendly employee into giving the kids to a family member. Having an alert on the girls records could help prevent this.

 

[Bbgrizzle]

How awful for you!

This sounds like a good topic for Dr. Phil. You need someone like him to tell them how unrealistic and controlling they are being!

Good luck with everything.

 

[Bunchkin]

If it was me, my child would have never been in their care again right after the 1st time they called the state.
I wish you luck!
Dr. Phil.....no this has more of the makings of a soap opera!!
1 crazy MIL, 1 crazy SIL, 1 BIL in prison, 1 SIL in the military.....soap opera!!

 

[miss missy]

MIL went against your wishes, she lost the privilage of DD going there. SIL- just keep her out of your life.

Do what you need to, to protect DD, she is your only concern.

 

[PrincessMommyof2]

I would make visitation only at your home, or supervised by you or DH.
I would DOCUMENT in as much detail everything, and possibly even keep journals of all contact. So if need be you can prove a pattern.
I would make sure you and DH have a will stating your wishes. Maybe even find out if DH can state in his will if grandma and SIL should have visitation after his death.

Amy and good gramma; I cannot stress how important these things are. Don't only assign good gramma as the guardian in writing, go to a lawyer and get a legal will written up saying so. Do it ASAP. Make sure good gramma knows where the journal is kept. God forbid something should happen to the both of you, you need to know in your heart that they will go where you want them to go and without the drama.

I am so sad that you have to do this. I know that you cherish your angels. I work in public safety. When it comes to legal issue, and especially with child custody issues, you need to "cross your t's and dot your i's." People with strange motivations will come up with strange and absurb ways to pry into your life.

Good luck

 

[vickyBaby]

You win the worst in-law award. No way would I let my child go there. Sounds like she is trying to brainwash your daughter if she comes home yelling at you. This is destructive.

It's not so easy to just up and move away. I suggest taking legal action and do whatever you can to keep the loons away from your family.

 

[Quinn222]

I realise these folks are your family and everything, but they are whacked. Seriously. These folks sound like nutcases and I would get as far as possible from them and I certainly would not allow them access to the kids.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

I would completely write off your inlaws. This crossed a line so badly that it is unsafe and unhealthy for your family to be involved with these people. What a mean and ruthless thing your SIL did and then your MIL doing what she did is unforgiveable! I hope you cease contact with them. It sounds like they are capable of nothing but harm. You and your daughter don't need that in your lives.

 

[HERSEY]

Amy I am so sorry your inlaws are doing this. You are a very caring mother The advise about a will and designating a guardian is a very good idea.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

Wow, there ought to be a stiff punishment for people that blatantly abuse the child welfare system by reporting people for personal vendettas. Maybe a nice stiff monetary fine with the money going back into the system to help better it. Maybe then the looneys like your SIL would think twice about doing crap like that.

 

[PrincessMommyof2]

Wow, there ought to be a stiff punishment for people that blatantly abuse the child welfare system by reporting people for personal vendettas. Maybe a nice stiff monetary fine with the money going back into the system to help better it. Maybe then the looneys like your SIL would think twice about doing crap like that.

If only the police or Child Protective Services had that! It'd be a dream; it'd raise money for more officers!

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

Wow, there ought to be a stiff punishment for people that blatantly abuse the child welfare system by reporting people for personal vendettas. Maybe a nice stiff monetary fine with the money going back into the system to help better it. Maybe then the looneys like your SIL would think twice about doing crap like that.

I think a person who KNOWINGLY files a false report should be held to the same penalty that they're trying to push on the other person. And in this case it might seem very fitting. If this woman is calling and harassing all these other people what kind of job is she doing as a parent?

 

[VSL]

I'm just... stunned.

Run.

Run far.

Run fast.

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

Here is a hug for your family. I can't believe a loving MIL or SIL would act like that. They have proved to you they are NOT loving and I would never let either of my children visit with them.

 

[2sweetangels]

Sounds like your MIL and SIL have some SERIOUS issues. Does your SIL have children of her own? I was just wondering how she would feel if something were to happen to her like this. Wow! At least you have your DH backing you on whatever decision you make for your girls. Here's a and Good Luck!

yes. she has an 8 year old son.

 

[2sweetangels]

Thank you all. I have thought hard about what to do and as many of you have said I decided to look into legal actions and write out a will giving my mom all legal rights to the girl's if anything does ever happen to DH and I I know my girl's will be well taken care of.

I wish we can move out of state, but DH said that it just ain't possible right now.

 

[CajunDixie]

Journals are great but may be considered hearsay.

I think you need to get wired! Seriously! Get a mini recorder or two and maybe have one in your purse, on your DH or another in a jacket pocket. Call MIL and ask to meet with her and SIL. Tell them straight out they will no longer be allowed to take your children anywhere. Tell MIL (only if you want to) she can visit the children in your home only when you know your DH will be home. Meaning MIL will need to call ahead of time. Tell SIL she is no longer allowed near your children. I've no doubt they'll yell and scream and make threats but just let them blow off. When/If things get really nasty simply leave and check the recordings once you're home. Call the state investigator that SIL sicced on you before and let them document everything on the tapes. Document the tapes in your legal papers and deposit them into a bank's safety deposit box with the key possibly given to your mom. And don't mention the tapes to MIL and SIL!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I haven't made it through all the replies, but I do have some thoughts.

First of all, I agree with the other posters that you should get out of Dodge. I would not live anywhere near these people. If it means that your mom visits, so be it. Move to a place where she is more likely to visit. Yep, Florida sounds good.

Document everything that has happened, been said, etc, with dates.

Make your mom the guardian in case something happens to you and your DH.

I don't know if there is a sliver of truth in anything that your SIL has said, but if so, there are wonderful parenting classes. I not saying that there is any truth to it, just that parenting is the hardest job in the world and if there are things to work on, there's nothing wrong with a class. It's not admitting failure, just working on some skills. Not that I'd tell your SIL and MIL about a class...

 

[2sweetangels]

here are pictures that I have taken of my girl's around my house. They are happy, healty little girl's