Parents - R rated movies for young teens

[FlightlessDuck]

1) If you got that email, would you respond?

I can't say for sure, but I'm willing to bet that we would decline having our child come to the party rather than spoil the movie for the birthday child. But I can't say for sure.

2) Would you read between the lines that this was also a teaching moment for the kid that his parents weren't the "only ones that had objections" or would you assume the parents really wanted to show the movie

I would assume the parents wanted to show the movie.

3) If you wouldn't respond, would it be because you didn't really care, or because you had concerns about the parent's level of common sense for even asking?

I'd be concerned why the parent thought it was OK to show this movie to 14 year olds, but I would have at least appreciated the warning.

 

[RachelEllen]

I believe the movie is actually "grave encounters 2".

Yes! Whoops!

We did proofread email sent out to parents better than I proofread posts here!

 

[leagirl12]

I would reply and would also appreciate the email. I have a 14 and 15 yo....while I have allowed them to watch a few rated R movies they have been ones that I have reviewed and felt okay with. I would not want them to go to someone's house and watch one without my knowledge.

 

[SavvyMom]

I would discuss it with my child and see if he felt comfortable watching it. I am perfectly willing to be the "bad guy" to keep my child from being embarrassed. Frankly, I'm thinking I want to see it !

As far as the RSVP I would answer just because that's how I roll. I'm obsessive about answering emails.

to you for considering other parents/kids.

 

[Mama Who]

I would assume that you actually wanted to know if I was okay with that movie and would tell you if I wasn't. If you just said, "We're showing X" I would simply RSVP "no" if I was uncomfortable, but since you're asking for feedback/input, I would feel that the polite thing to do was to speak up.

 

[Mkrop]

Have these kids seen Point Break?

 

[Mkrop]

Thanks for all the feedback.

To the PP. I'm pretty confident I'm right!

We also base decisions on individual products, not just ratings. But when you are talking about other people's kids, I think the ratings are a safe, reasonable way to decide things. But, I'm pretty confident that out of a group of 25 parents, some, if not many would have concerns about the film.

I wasn't thrilled with the compromise, both because I agree it shifts a burden of responsibility to the guests parents and because I really don't want to be the household where that kind of media is ok. But, since it addressed my major concern, showing the film without permission, I agreed.
I mainly posted to get some alternate interpretations about the lack of responses. I definitely didn't expect that so many people would just declinethe party.

But how many have declined? I thought you said you have not heard back from a lot of people, that doesnt mean the kid is not coming, or they object to the movie. I think that is a big assumption. People just dont RSVP like they should, Evite or not, it could be a party like this or a bowling party, and people will RSVP the night before or just show up.

 

[RachelEllen]

But how many have declined? I thought you said you have not heard back from a lot of people, that doesnt mean the kid is not coming, or they object to the movie. I think that is a big assumption. People just dont RSVP like they should, Evite or not, it could be a party like this or a bowling party, and people will RSVP the night before or just show up.

Sorry, put that badly. I meant I didn't expect how many people on this thread would just decline the party. I agree, who knows if that carries over totally in our case.