Parents of unborn angels.......gaging interest.

[6_Time_Momma]

If you have lost a baby prior to birth and you were not able to bury your child, I am wondering if you would answer some questions.

I am wondering if you would use a place which would allow you to put momentos, trinkets, a memorial stone if you wish to memorialize your baby? Somewhat like a cemetary, but for those who were not able to bury your baby for whatever reasons.

Do you feel it would benefit you to have a place to come and visit to remember or "feel close" to your child?

Or do you feel that you would not have need of such place?

I should add that it would be of no cost to you.

If you would, what would you like to see in it.......ie....a sitting place overlooking a small pond.......trees....flower garden.......whatever.

Thanks for any input!

 

[Microcell]

I have never lost a child, but I think it would be nice to have a place to go to honor them if I had.

 

[Mom2Angels]

I have two angels Troy and James that I lost before they were born. I had them cremated and have there ashes with me, which now I am so thankful for because I'm moving to California from Georgia in a few weeks and could not bear to leave them here. Even though they are here with me sometimes I wish I had a place, like a cemetary to go visit them.

Debbie

 

[winniedapooh]

I have and am not sure.....quiet pondering.

 

[Simba's Mom]

Originally posted by Mom2Angels
I have two angels Troy and James that I lost before they were born. I had them cremated and have there ashes with me, which now I am so thankful for because I'm moving to California from Georgia in a few weeks and could not bear to leave them here. Even though they are here with me sometimes I wish I had a place, like a cemetary to go visit them.

Debbie

I wish I'd done that. My baby was buried about 3 miles from our house-that is, where we lived when he died. But now we live about 2000 miles away, and there's no family there who'd visit his grave on those special days (well, my parents live near there, but they wouldn't-elderly, etc.)
But despite the fact that it hasn't worked out for me, I still think the OP has a very good idea. Yes, maybe a few people move like me, but for the most part I think it would be very helpful. We didn't move until over 10 years after his death, and for that time, having the cemetary nearby was very helpful. I remember it was on top of a hill and it was a special baby's section of the cemetary with a statue of an angel holding a baby-lovely. Near Worcester, MA if anyone wants to visit Michael.

 

[FroggyinArk]

have not lost a baby, but i think i would need some special place, if not a memorial, i would at least make myself a memorial garden at home if not somewhere else, some special little bench with a veiw, where i could reflect and say my prayers to them , i think maybe the home memorial more likely,, because that way i could take it with me should i move.

 

[HollyJoy]

I've only had a miscarriage very early on, but I do have a friend who lost her twins just after birth. She had them cremated and still has the ashes. I think the idea you mentioned is a great one.