Last night was kind of a rough night. I heard DD talking to a friend very seriously at around 9:00 PM. I stopped by her room to ask what was going on, and she filled me in. There was some girl drama going on over a big 25 girl group chat that DD and 3 of her friends started and then were kicked out of. DD spoke with the girls in the chat and got things straightened out (it was all over 1 girl leaking group chat stuff about boys to the boys, and the girls all thought it was one of DD's 3 close friends but it wasn't). DD was over the whole thing, but her 3 close friends went off on the group chat girls...thus the drama.
Now the serious part...
One of the 3 close friends is very emotionally fragile. DD has known this girl for a couple of years through softball but just got close to her this year. The girl is struggling with step family issues, a recent autoimmune disorder diagnosis, getting fired from her part time job (totally her fault), the suicide of her father when she was 5. DD told me last night that she was hospitalized for emotional issues/depression over the summer. The girl drama sent her over the edge. While the girl was at work, she texted my daughter that she couldn't do it anymore, she loved her and goodbye. DD read me the text, and it definitely sounded like a suicide note. We called the girl's mother to tell her our concerns. The mom was in tears, and she was afraid if she went to her daughter's work, they would fight, the girl would know my DD ratted her out and it would spiral down from there. She asked my DD to meet her daughter at work and make sure she got home. I do want my DD to be a good friend, but this is an awful lot to put on a 17 year old kid, and it made me uncomfortable to say the least. I did let DD go to her friend's work because I would have never forgiven myself if the girl hurt herself. DD waited in the parking lot for her friend to get off work (texting me the whole time). When the friend came out and saw DD, she collapsed. DD just held her and told her she cared about her and didn't want anything bad to happen to her. DD then followed the girl home to make sure she got there. The girl told DD that she saved her life.
I hope the young lady gets some help. I don't know her well at all, so I don't know if this was a true cry for help or just attention seeking. At any rate, I am glad that my DD was such a good friend to her last night. On the other hand, I don't want DD to be used as a crutch to prop this poor kid up all year long or to feel responsible for her mental health either. Have any of you been in this situation? How did you handle it? I am worried not only about the girl but about how this tense emotional situation will affect my DD.