Parenting trends you dislike?

[mefordis]

Being extra with everything. When I heard some moms were pretending a leprechaun visited the night before St Patrick's day, and left skittles for their kid, I just lost it.

 

[mjkacmom]

People not raising their own children, and then telling everyone how great their daycare is. Adjust your work schedules so a parent or relative raises your kids. It's not all about you or your career. OLD SCHOOL

I completely disagree with this. If you want to work, or need to work, makes no difference. I see nothing wrong with daycare, and I’ve been a SAHM for 25 years. I’m lucky, I’m still happily married. Since the divorce rate is around 50%, not having a career is a huge gamble.

 

[mefordis]

I just read about something that that sounds a little ridiculous. Apparently there is a trend for parents and graduates to send graduation announcements to celebrities and athletes. I guess in hopes of getting recognition from them? I think this goes along with being extra like I posted above.

 

[slo]

People not raising their own children, and then telling everyone how great their daycare is. Adjust your work schedules so a parent or relative raises your kids. It's not all about you or your career. OLD SCHOOL

Since you opened this box, it reminds me of another annoyance…..

SAHMs judging working moms and working moms judging SAHMs.

I’m a proud working mom and my girls went to daycare. I had and still have several SAHMs as friends. No judgements about each other - we made our decisions about what’s right for ourselves and our family.

For anyone to make a parent feel like less of a parent because they work or stay home is shameful. Some opinions need to stay in the box with it closed tightly.

 

[Sinder]

People not raising their own children, and then telling everyone how great their daycare is. Adjust your work schedules so a parent or relative raises your kids. It's not all about you or your career. OLD SCHOOL

It is when you have bills to pay to keep a roof over your child's head and food in their stomach.
Not everyone is able to adjust their schedule so the other parent, or relative can take of their child while they work. Some people don't even have the option of another parent or relative. Finding a daycare that they love and takes care of their children is a GOOD thing!

 

[goofyernmost]

To be fair, there is plenty of research on straw cup over a sippy cup, and urging parents to use a straw cup instead. That is probably what that person was referring to. It was the first thing my son's speech therapist asked when she met with us (does he use a sippy?) and the first thing she corrects when she gets a new client. It affects how their mouth/tongue develop and how they use them in early speech.

The straw cup offers the same parent benefit of a sippy but is more developmentally appropriate.

(and yes, we did introduce an open cup first around 7 months of age and he mastered it easily, but we use a straw cup to help prevent messes.)

I don't have any scientific studies in front of me, so I will have to concede in that sense, however just on the surface, it doesn't seem logical when you think of the difference in mouth positioning that is required for drinking directly out of a cup or using a straw. Completely different for that yet almost identical between cup and sippy cup.

 

[DLgal]

The Elf on the Shelf.

 

[Cheburashka]

The "breast is best" culture.

Breast is best. Sorry if the truth hurts but it's a scientific fact. The "fed is best" movement is harmful because it encourages mothers to think of breastmilk and formula as equal and therefore choose based on convenience, when medically, they are far from equal.

 

[goofyernmost]

This look.

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Totally confirms the circle of life. Parents start out by putting ridiculous looking items on the child's head because it is "trendy" and later when one becomes very old their children put the party hats on the elderly so that they can lose what little dignity that they have been able to hang onto. I suppose it helps to keep babies heads warm and looks no more foolish then a "bonnet".

 

[tvguy]

I’ve been in childcare for over 25 years now and there are several I dislike…
Number 1 acting like you have somehow discovered the parenting secret and everyone who did things differently before you was wrong. I have seen so many changes over the past 25 years, but guess what those kids who were kids back then and are now adults are perfectly fine!

Parents who when their child hits 3 years of age think they are experts on raising children. My kids are in their 30's and I still haven't figured parenting out.

 

[Cheburashka]

I was an adult in my early 20's and married before I realized that people gave gifts other then candy on Easter. It came as a total surprise to me since my family never did that at all.

I'm in my late 40's and have still never seen that, so don't worry.

 

[luvsvacation]

Breast is best. Sorry if the truth hurts but it's a scientific fact.

This is ridiculous! Those with this “belief” act as though they’re comparing apples to chocolate bars instead of apples to oranges!

 

[goofyernmost]

I'm in my late 40's and have still never seen that, so don't worry.

When I got out of the service I got a job as a variety store manager. That was when I was told the Easter was second only to Christmas when it came to gift shopping. Took me completely by surprise.

 

[Cheburashka]

This is ridiculous! Those with this “belief” act as though they’re comparing apples to chocolate bars instead of apples to oranges!

It isn't ridiculous or a "belief". It is a scientific fact that it is the best nutrition, provides the best immunity, the best bonding, etc. It isn't an opinion.

I never said formula was junk food, but it isn't the same quality as breastfeeding.

 

[PollyannaMom]

 

[Cheburashka]

When I got out of the service I got a job as a variety store manager. That was when I was told the Easter was second only to Christmas when it came to gift shopping. Took me completely by surprise.

Maybe that store considered chocolate & candy baskets to be gifts? I've never heard of an "Easter present".

 

[luvsvacation]

It isn't ridiculous or a "belief". It is a scientific fact that it is the best nutrition, provides the best immunity, the best bonding, etc. It isn't an opinion.

I never said formula was junk food, but it isn't the same quality as breastfeeding.

Hahaha here goes the “bonding” I mentioned earlier! This is absolute crap!! I’m very well bonded to my bottle fed kids, who are now 19 & 18 and very healthy, smart and successful. Everything that “promotes bonding” is a sham! They’re your kids, of course you’re going to bond! How you feed them has NOTHING to do with bonding. Stop spreading false info that puts undue pressure on parents to be “perfect” and do everything the “right way”. That pressure causes parenting problems!

 

[tcufrog]

Parents who when their child hits 3 years of age think they are experts on raising children. My kids are in their 30's and I still haven't figured parenting out.

I thought I had it all figured out until I had my second kid. A lot of the stuff that worked great with Kid#1 didn't work at all with Kid#2. They were totally different kids. Even newborns have personalities and opinions. Heck, Kid#1 was stubborn in the womb and still is super stubborn.

As for breastfeeding, I breastfed both my kids but I would never say "Breast is best" to my best friend who had breast cancer, and thus, couldn't breastfeed.

As for putting kids into daycare, I won't judge that either. I ended up putting my younger son into part-time Mother's Day Out when he was 8 weeks old because my OB said I wouldn't fully heal from my emergency C-section unless I got a break from carrying him around. He was 10 lbs 4 oz when he was born. I didn't have family close by to help me out and I had a lot of friends who raved about the place. He loved it so much I didn't have the heart to pull him out when I was able to do so. Having both kids in school part-time (my older son was in preschool) made it easier for me to do things like go to doctor's appointments, take my car for oil changes, and get a break when my DH had to travel for business.

If you're concerned about bite developmental issues, I recommend these cups from Munchkin.

They are easier to clean than a lot of sippy cups and straw cups. You drink out of them the same way you drink out of a regular cup but they don't leak if your kid turns them upside down. You can also use them as a regular cup by removing the top gasket.

FInally, everyone chill unless they want the thread locked.

 

[MillauFr]

This is ridiculous! Those with this “belief” act as though they’re comparing apples to chocolate bars instead of apples to oranges!

I agree with her that Breast is Best. However, those messages need to be modified so that those who can't breast feed for various reasons aren't shamed or meant to feel guilty. My wife tried and tried but it never worked. She just pumped instead and fed from a bottle. Unfortunately, she still felt a bit guilty about it.

 

[MillauFr]

Parents who when their child hits 3 years of age think they are experts on raising children. My kids are in their 30's and I still haven't figured parenting out.

Well if you have low self esteem you have to compensate somehow.