DMickey28
<font color=blue>DIS Veteran<br>Comes from a very
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OMG ... Talk about a tough time. The terrible two's in my stubborn 2.4 year old, combined with being pregnant are enough to send me over the edge. Add in the rest of our situation and I could lose it any second.
We are living with my parents right now while we wait to close on our house. My DH works 80 miles away and leaves Sunday evening, stays with his mother and comes here on Fridays.
My parents and I get along great and mostly during the week it's fine. Then on the weekends, DH doesn't feel "at home" so he spends time in our room watching tv or with DS playing because he doesn't like to take over my parents living room with our stuff. My parents are very old school and while they welcomed us with open arms and it was their idea that we stay here instead of renting, they also contridict themselves often. They do not hesitate to discipline my son which I am fine with most of the time, but my dad, being more harsh and old school will yell at him like he yells at his dog sometimes. That's obviously not cool ... which creates tension. Then my mom will just make comments to me, that I know she doesn't even know she does it, but it hurts just the same. I have tried talking with her about it but she says she doesn't say those things or I take them wrong or I read into them. It isn't worth talking about it, kwim?
DH is looking for a new job and recieved a verbal offer for the job of his dreams but he is on edge until the paper offer comes which can take up to 3-5 weeks from the verbal. He is flipping out and freaking out because he wants out of his current job so badly that he is more emotional about the time this is taking, which he knew about up front and is very common for this company and industry. Every single conversation, if not about details of the closing/mortgage, is about how miserable he hates his job and how frustrated he is that the new job process is taking so long. EVERY CONVERSATION. No joke.
He is obviously trying to time the new job (which they agreed on a start date) with the close of our house!
We are saving every penny that we have for the house so I barey even go out with DS. Anytime we do anything it cost $$ and while that's not a huge deal in general, we just don't want to do anything extra. We go to the playground everyday but that's about it. There is nothing down here to do anyway.
So that's my vent and cry session. Thanks for listening. I can't tell if I feel better or it makes me want to cry!!
We are living with my parents right now while we wait to close on our house. My DH works 80 miles away and leaves Sunday evening, stays with his mother and comes here on Fridays.
My parents and I get along great and mostly during the week it's fine. Then on the weekends, DH doesn't feel "at home" so he spends time in our room watching tv or with DS playing because he doesn't like to take over my parents living room with our stuff. My parents are very old school and while they welcomed us with open arms and it was their idea that we stay here instead of renting, they also contridict themselves often. They do not hesitate to discipline my son which I am fine with most of the time, but my dad, being more harsh and old school will yell at him like he yells at his dog sometimes. That's obviously not cool ... which creates tension. Then my mom will just make comments to me, that I know she doesn't even know she does it, but it hurts just the same. I have tried talking with her about it but she says she doesn't say those things or I take them wrong or I read into them. It isn't worth talking about it, kwim?
DH is looking for a new job and recieved a verbal offer for the job of his dreams but he is on edge until the paper offer comes which can take up to 3-5 weeks from the verbal. He is flipping out and freaking out because he wants out of his current job so badly that he is more emotional about the time this is taking, which he knew about up front and is very common for this company and industry. Every single conversation, if not about details of the closing/mortgage, is about how miserable he hates his job and how frustrated he is that the new job process is taking so long. EVERY CONVERSATION. No joke.
He is obviously trying to time the new job (which they agreed on a start date) with the close of our house!
We are saving every penny that we have for the house so I barey even go out with DS. Anytime we do anything it cost $$ and while that's not a huge deal in general, we just don't want to do anything extra. We go to the playground everyday but that's about it. There is nothing down here to do anyway.
So that's my vent and cry session. Thanks for listening. I can't tell if I feel better or it makes me want to cry!!
Remind yourself it's just temporary and that your parents mean well.
Take heart things will be better!
