I've recently come back from WDW where we went for my birthday. We have been the last 4 years (for my birthday). This year was the first time we'd stayed on site and had the
DDP, so it was our first experience of booking a TS meal every day.
I have to admit that we were late for half our ADRs - only one of which was my fault: the first time it was because my mobility
scooter died in the rain halfway round World Showcase. The CMs couldn't have been more helpful: not only we were given new rain ponchos (as both ours had ripped) but she offered me a wheelchair to get to Coral Reef for our ADR and tried ringing ahead to tell them we were unavoidably delayed. We got there in the end, but about 35 minutes late. There was NO question of us missing our ADR because we were late. I don't know whether it was them trying to make things better or pure luck, but we had the best experience there: we were sat by a tank and had great service all night. There was even a wheelchair waiting for me when we came out (not that I needed it), but it was lovey of them to have arranged it.
The rest of the time was because the Disney transport just never showed up at our resort! That was hardly our fault! It didn't matter where we were going: we saw buses for every other park except the one we needed every single time. The worst was getting to DTD for our ADR at Raglan Road. Total and utter nightmare! Nearly 30 minutes for a DTD bus and then such horrendous traffic that we ended up being 40 minutes late (Pleasure Beach is second stop and it was awful getting there). I'd have driven if there'd been somewhere there to park!
But again, we were never turned away from our ADRs or told we'd have to wait or even that we'd have to pay the $10 fee. Every time it was 'That's fine, ma'am'. I'm sure it's down to your demeanour when you present yourself.
Going back to birthday badges, I always wear one, and always get the 'happy birthday!' calls. That's all you do seem to get these days, though. In 2011 (my 50th birthday trip) I was given a free dessert, and I think a free drink was slipped into our family's meal order, but that's it. We got the odd little bit of pixie dust such as being given FPs or asked if we wanted to go round again on a ride - or even being picked out verbally, but the days of guaranteed freebies are long gone.
I don't know how genuine OP is, but when I read her first reply and saw that she referred to all of her daughters as princesses and her son as a prince, my first response was 'really??' Sad, or what.
And for the record - as most of us know - you NEVER pay for fast passes or special treatment at Disney: they just don't do that. Universal make you pay for your FoTL passes. Sure, you get a free card each when you stay there - but their hotels are so overpriced anyway, that you're paying for it indirectly.
And as for Disney food being the most expensive ... seriously? Have you seen the price of an average meal at Universal these days?! ... and don't worry about the lack of McD fries - McD are vile at the best of times!!