OT-vent-irked with DH

[PrincessMickey]

DH is really pissing me off right now. DS is in Pre-K everyday from 8-1. I understand this is not actually K yet but I think it is still important and we also pay for it. I drive a school bus so it is up to DH to take him everyday. Yesterday he did not take DS because he had a doctors appt. Problem is I made the appt for 2:15 so he wouldn't have to skip school and I wasn't home all day so maybe he thought he could get away with it. So this morning DS said his arm hurt so he couldn't go to school. So DH gave in and kept him home. Again. And this is not the first time, this happens on a very regular basis. I got so frustrated when I came home and asked him if I needed to quit my job just so DS could get to school everyday. So now I'm pissed off and hiding out in the bedroom so I don't have to see him.

Sorry for venting bu I feel a little bu better now. This just frustrates me so much.

 

[dis-happy]

I hear your frustration, but I don't "get" the big picture. Is your dh staying home during the day? Does he work nights? Is it possible he's too tired or overwhelmed in the morning to want to take him to school? Do you come home after your morning bus run and could you just take him in a little late if your dh didn't bother? Regardless, school should be a priority and if this is happening a lot you need to figure out why and see what can be done to fix the problem (other than bonking your dh on the head even if he deserves it! )

 

[Leajess99]

DH is really pissing me off right now. DS is in Pre-K everyday from 8-1. I understand this is not actually K yet but I think it is still important and we also pay for it. I drive a school bus so it is up to DH to take him everyday. Yesterday he did not take DS because he had a doctors appt. Problem is I made the appt for 2:15 so he wouldn't have to skip school and I wasn't home all day so maybe he thought he could get away with it. So this morning DS said his arm hurt so he couldn't go to school. So DH gave in and kept him home. Again. And this is not the first time, this happens on a very regular basis. I got so frustrated when I came home and asked him if I needed to quit my job just so DS could get to school everyday. So now I'm pissed off and hiding out in the bedroom so I don't have to see him.

Sorry for venting bu I feel a little bu better now. This just frustrates me so much.

We had a little girl in the preschool class with my daughter last year that would not come to school if mom was not home because dad would not put her on the bus. It still is happening this year and the child is enrolled in speech therapy and that. Sometimes tehy just do not realize the negative effect it can have on a child. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.

 

[disney_family_1247]

As a professional educator-preK isn't that important. If you read to your child, in front of your child, and spend time talking and playing with him, he'll be ready for Kindergarten next year. Now, if my husband and I had agreed to send our child and paid for it, and then he didn't take him-that would be a problem. Only because of the money, though. Your son will be in school for the next thirteen years, does he really need to be in a classroom setting for a fourteenth?

 

[poohfriend77]

While I agree your son won't be "ruined" if he doesn't go to pre-K, I would worry a little about sending the message that it's not important. If he's enrolled, he should go (unless he's sick or you have other extenuating circumstances).

Once you calm down, talk to your DH about it. Maybe he just doesn't get why you think it's important.

 

[livie1205]

my son never spent a day in pre k and does just fine...JMO maybe you are being a little hard on your dh.I agree with pp maybe he is tired or he wants to spend that time with your ds which I think is better then pre k...you are going to have many years of stress when your child starts big kid school so try not to stress out over pre k.
Could there be something else that your mad at?It seems like a small issue to get so mad at that you are hiding in your room...life is so short.

 

[jessica52877]

I am fine with the no Pre-K thing too BUT the issue comes in that they pay for it, signed him up and I feel that the child is learning at a young age that hey, I don't have to go to school. The last is where I feel the issue could come in.

Sorry, hope things get better! I would be irked too!

 

[Scurvy]

I don't think pre-k is all that important, but I certainly see why you're unhappy about the situation. For me, it would depend on exactly why your husband isn't taking him. If it's because he wants to spend more time with your son then that wouldn't bother me, though he really needs to talk to you about it. If it's because he just doesn't feel like taking him because he doesn't want to have to get up and moving that early, I'd be really angry - especially since you're losing money by paying for something you aren't using!

When you're less angry you should probably sit down and have a conversation about the situation. Good luck when you talk to him about it - I hope you are able to come to an understanding that will make you all happy!

 

[phillmolly]

Hey things could be worse. I'll try to keep this short. My brother and sis-in-law are getting a divorce. My brother moved out about a month after school started. My nephew started kindergarten at a private school. My nephew is no longer allowed to spend the night at my brothers on school nights because he won't wake up and to take him to school or he takes him in two hours late. My nephew has already missed 12 days of schoool due to this and has been late countless times. I have told my sis-in-law she needs to document the nights that nephew is with my bother and the days he misses school because I know it will come up when it comes to custody. My brother wants joint custody so that he won't have to pay child support but he just is not capable of taking care of two young kids. He won't comb my nieces hair because it looks "cute messy". I have tried talking to him about the school thing but my brother is one of those type of people who already know everything and you can't tell them any different. Sorry to hijack your post, OP. Tell your DH if he dosn't think your son needs to go to school that you don't need to be paying for it.

 

[dyna]

Well in my book to tired to get kid off to school just would not cut it. When we take on a child we take on dealing with them no matter what MOMS do not get a break because we are tired to often WHY SHOULD DADS?

NO PreK not that important but they are payin for it so the child should be there. By not taking the child Dad is sendin the message it's OK to miss school NOT a good way to start a child off with school.

 

[DISNEYNV]

Preschool is not a neccessity BUT if you allow a child to control when he/she wants to go to school now...well it is just not setting up a healthy routine for the upcoming school years. And he will have to go to class then! I think it is a bad idea to allow a young child to make excuses to not go to school ( even preschool) and to give in! My DD has tried this numerous times and I only do not take her if she or my (DS) is sick. Even if we are running late I take her. The teachers do not like it but I am paying for it and I do not want her to think that because she procrastinated in the morning to get dresses etc that she won't go to school. It's up to you to send him to preschool and it's up to you to be responsible enough to follow through and take him! Hear that dad?!

 

[a1tinkfans]

I happen to agree Pre K is non essential but since you paid for it, and you don't want to "start" a tradition of "Ouch" now, I don't have to go and excuses", I'd have a conversation about its importance between you and the DH. BY the way, you may also want to explain to your little one that the other kids get disappointed when he does not show, perhaps he'll want to go more?
Is anything amiss at school or is he already smart enough to know how to get out of going when dads home?? They grow so fast, don't they!
Good Luck!