you really don't know the full situation so you really can't say.
I don't know about your situation in particular, but I deal with the realities you describe on a DAILY basis. I certainly know about the frustrations of only being able to serve a limited variety of foods to my DD.
I will say that this thread was about a snack and I said something in response to another parent.
You're right. When I first read the OP, I applauded your efforts to find something
interesting and safe for all of the children. It wasn't until your tone turned selfish and ignorant that I posted. This is a forum for all to post. I chose to do so regardless of whether or not you were posting a comment to me.
Until 2 weeks ago the other 2 classes were allowed to have peanut and dairy for snack.
I'm curious why things changed. I'm guessing it was because of a reaction by the boy. I'm also guessing that the parents didn't want to disrupt too many classes (for fear of repercussions of parents like YOU!) They probably left it with the school that they would not limit snacks in the other class unless there was a problem. I'm guessing there was, so therefore the change.
If his parents were being careful about the chance of him getting sick surely they would have mentioned to the school that this was a danger.
You have no idea what conversations went on between the parents and the school. I'm sure you weren't invited into the office every time the parents came to discuss this issue.
His parents ARE being careful. Perhaps, in hindsight, they made a poor judgement to not involve the other class. But it looks like they have remedied that now. Please don't attack the vicitm here.
If my child was the allergic one you better believe she wouldn't be eating anything that I didn't send.
I agree with you on that. But again, I think the measures these parents have taken are ensuring that the other children's snacks don't affect him either! Cross contamination is a HUGE issue with food allergies. It's not just a matter what a food allergic child eats. It's also what s/he touches, breathes, etc.
If my child was life threatening allergic I would be home schooling. I would not risk my child's life every day.
Many parents of food allergic children do just that. Of course every child is entitled to a free, safe public education. Public schools are required to make accomodations to children with food allergies, just as they would for children with any kind of issue that hinders their learning or success in school.
If you chose to home school your DD, would you also never let her leave the house for any reason? Any time a food allergic child interacts with the rest of the world, there is a potential for danger. Grocery carts, playground equipment, public benches, etc. may all have been touched by a person just finishing a peanut butter sandwich or a cup of yogurt. Parents like mysef try to wipe down everything we can, but we can't close off the world to our children. Keeping them safe isn't as easy as you make it out to be.
I understand that this is preschool but MANY preschools are now completely peanut free because of the prevalence and DANGER of peanut allergies in young children. Ironically, peanut allergies are usually not outgrown. My guess is that you will deal with similar issues when your child is in elementary school.
I would not dream of asking all of the parents to do something special for my child.
You would if it meant keeping your child alive.
I do agree that the situation you are in is extreme. Again, however, isn't the life of a child worth the effort?
I am sorry that he has allergies but he is not the only one.
I know the realities of this statement all too well with my own DD.
My children have allergies too as do many other kids.
Your lack of compassion leads me to believe that your childrens' allergies are on a different level that the ones of this child. If they were similar, I don't think we'd be having this discussion.
Be glad the school year is almost over. You have to deal with this, what two maybe three more times?
I have to deal with this right now as I get some breakfast for my DD. And then for lunch, and then the birthday party we're going to, and then dinner ...