mommy-on-the-move
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jan 14, 2008
I agree about there being a big difference in activities you put her in vs. activities she ASKED to be in, my mother was terrible for putting me in activities my elder sister had asked to be in because i "needed" to be in them but they were my sisters thing, they were my mothers thing, there was never time for my thing and as a result i really resented and hated the activities and I really resented the fact i had to "stick it out" because my mom had bought the uniform etc already... if i'd have asked to go and then changed my mind sure, sticking it out is a commitment but when someone else chose to put me in an activity they felt i needed and then i didn't like it I really failed to see why i was expected to stick out their error of judgement.
In my household the kids only go into extra cirriculars if they ask to do them, if they ask then they're expected to give it a reasonable try out before deciding not to do it any longer. My eldest struggled her first term of flute lessons but because she'd chose it we talked about how learning to read music was a life skill she could take to any instrument, she stuck it out and now we're almost a year into lessons and she actually enjoys it.
In my household the kids only go into extra cirriculars if they ask to do them, if they ask then they're expected to give it a reasonable try out before deciding not to do it any longer. My eldest struggled her first term of flute lessons but because she'd chose it we talked about how learning to read music was a life skill she could take to any instrument, she stuck it out and now we're almost a year into lessons and she actually enjoys it.