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[QueenGoblin]

Hi All

Another co-sleeping, baby wearing, bf-ing family here.

DD #1 nursed until she was 3. I planned to do baby led weaning but she just never showed any inclination to give it up So I cut her back gradually and then when I became pregnant with DD#2 it just became too painful so I had to cut her off Then DD#2 came along and co-sleeping became a challenge. The queen sized bed was not big enough for all of us (DD is another sideways sleeper) So DH slept with DD in her room until she became comfy enough to stay there for most of the night by herself.

I am definately a proponent of nursing as along as it is comfortable and enjoyable for baby and mom. BUT be careful about their teeth. DD always nursed herself to sleep and she liked to fall asleep with a mouthful of milk in her mouth. (We could tell because she would turn over well after falling asleep and a trickle would escape.) Anyways even though we did brush her teeth, we apparently did not do a good enough job and her teeth were swimming in that milk at night and in our DD's case that resulted in 14 crowns and 2 fillings this summer So with DD #2 we are going to be much more careful about cleaning her teeth after every meal and we will probably move her away from nursing herself to sleep as soon as we can. Not everyone would have this problem, but if you have cavity prone people in your family just be careful and take your little one to see a dentist as soon as possible. DD did not go until she was 3 (at the suggestion of our family dentist) She probably should have been seen at least a year earlier and some of this might have been preventable. Don't mean to get soapbox-y...just hope to help someone avoid the same situation.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I'm also on the MDC thread too, under a different name (I said the same thing on that thread, LOL). Do they only close or remove if we put links or mention this forum by name?

No they seem very sensitive about it and are "on to us", we are such rebels being Disney World fans. Even requests for PMs for trip reports (not mentioning where, just that they are on another site) gets changed.

I can't seem to figure the rules out so I try to stay away from it. I know that other's posting non Disney links seem to be ok, but they aren't to chat forms and I think that is where they draw the line. Many Disney sites (like the info part of Dis) is also discussion forums.

Either way they don't even like vague refernces to "another place." No discussion about other discussion boards at all.

 

[happypooh]

Hi All

Another co-sleeping, baby wearing, bf-ing family here.

DD #1 nursed until she was 3. I planned to do baby led weaning but she just never showed any inclination to give it up So I cut her back gradually and then when I became pregnant with DD#2 it just became too painful so I had to cut her off Then DD#2 came along and co-sleeping became a challenge. The queen sized bed was not big enough for all of us (DD is another sideways sleeper) So DH slept with DD in her room until she became comfy enough to stay there for most of the night by herself.

I am definately a proponent of nursing as along as it is comfortable and enjoyable for baby and mom. BUT be careful about their teeth. DD always nursed herself to sleep and she liked to fall asleep with a mouthful of milk in her mouth. (We could tell because she would turn over well after falling asleep and a trickle would escape.) Anyways even though we did brush her teeth, we apparently did not do a good enough job and her teeth were swimming in that milk at night and in our DD's case that resulted in 14 crowns and 2 fillings this summer So with DD #2 we are going to be much more careful about cleaning her teeth after every meal and we will probably move her away from nursing herself to sleep as soon as we can. Not everyone would have this problem, but if you have cavity prone people in your family just be careful and take your little one to see a dentist as soon as possible. DD did not go until she was 3 (at the suggestion of our family dentist) She probably should have been seen at least a year earlier and some of this might have been preventable. Don't mean to get soapbox-y...just hope to help someone avoid the same situation.

Yep, it happened to our son too when he was around 15mths old - he nursed til he was around 23mths old! But I think his teeth got bad really after he got really ill and was on medication that was full of sugar and we didn't brush his teeth during that time as he wouldn't let us (he was a really sad sad little boy) - so his teeth are really bad on top and they wanted to do a crazy number of crowns too....haven't done them yet as I really don't like the idea of all those additives in the crown material plus they weren't going to anesthetize him and were going to work on his teeth with just some happy gas and a little IV sedation (with no real medical back up if anything were to go wrong in that facility!) Plus they said with all the crowns he wouldn't be able to eat anything remotely chewy/sticky til he was 12 years old! We'll get them fixed if they start to bother him or if it effects the teeth that stay in longer and placement issues for the second teeth that come in. Long story short - I will definitely try to get his little sister to stop nursing to sleep when her teeth come in!
I am so happy that there are so many AP dis-ers out there - it is fun to see all the ergos and slings at the parks - my son loved the sling...my DD has yet to fall in love with it but I hope she will too!

 

[GSUJillybean]

We're not 100% AP, but we're definitely on the AP side of things (extended bfing, baby wearing, etc.). The big thing that we don't do is regular co-sleeping. We're not anti co-sleeping and I would say that out bed is certainly open to DD, but we just rarely started out the night all in the same bed.

Is it possible to be more AP than not if you don't BF? My kiddo gets expressed breastmilk and some formula (loooong story), but we co-sleep and sling.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Is it possible to be more AP than not if you don't BF? My kiddo gets expressed breastmilk and some formula (loooong story), but we co-sleep and sling.

Yes, I think it is about the value of breast feeding and breast milk, but understandable that many women try very hard and are not able to make it work with every child (especially 1st children.) Expressing breast milk is a big commitment to giving your child the best, even when it does not come easy.

When I 1st started hearing the phrase AP I did a goggle search and found a good site that explained it. I will look for the link. I remember it saying something about breastfeeding and if you were not able to try to bottle feed when ever necessary like breast feeding. (on demand, good eye and skin contact, don't get hung up on the ounces, but the weight gain.)

There are more principle to (like positive discipline, and anti cry it out.) My kids are dying to get to the pool and go swimming so I will have to do more later.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Here is a good link, but not the one I was thinking about.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130300.asp

Be sure to explore more on the site, there are number of articles on it. I just love Doctor Sears!

 

[PrincessasMommy]

Add me to the AP list.......slinging with my Mayawrap or NewNative, EBF and co-sleeping with my 4th baby!!

 

[joeysmom1729]

Me too! We're going to WDW the last week of September, anyone else? My ds is 15 months, we co sleep, cloth diaper, breastfeed and babywear, I nor would he have it any other way. In fact, he still likes to be held while napping.

 

[rparmfamily]

No they seem very sensitive about it and are "on to us", we are such rebels being Disney World fans.

I know, right??!! "Disney" is practically a bad word there, LOL! (and with some of my friends, who I swear, just need to go one time and they'd be in love too!) It's our happy place, and I don't mind admitting that!

 

[emh1129]

Add me to the AP list.......slinging with my Mayawrap or NewNative, EBF and co-sleeping with my 4th baby!!

Congratulations on the birth of your new baby girl!!

 

[StrollPatrolMom]

Us too. We'll be at POP from 20-27 of Sept. I've got a 3.5 and still co-sleeping and nursing just turned 1 year old

 

[DisneyPhD]

I know, right??!! "Disney" is practically a bad word there, LOL! (and with some of my friends, who I swear, just need to go one time and they'd be in love too!) It's our happy place, and I don't mind admitting that!

I know. I think we must get a few nasty looks everytime the thread gets bumped up. At least most people on mothering know enough that if it isn't your trib, just leave it be.

Still our numbers keep growing. We get new members daily.

WDW is very much our happy place too.

 

[Juliet25]

Count me in! No slinging here (I hope I can get the hang of it when/if I have another baby), but we co-sleep and EN (DD4 weaned last October).

I sometimes post on MDC, but TBH it's a bit intense over there sometimes.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

I am hoping someone here can help me and will understand. My ds(3) is almost 40" tall and weighs in at about 38lbs. While he does walk some and loves his stroller what he really loves is to just be held or carried when tired of walking or is tired. I have never used a sling with him as I tried it with dd and preferred the conventional carriers. She also didn't want to be held as much. So now we are going to Disney and instead of using a stroller he is out grown I would like to carry him as much as possible if I can find a way that won't kill my back or make my arm go numb. Is there a way or do I need to just tell him to walk or get in the stroller. He also likes to be held in the lines I think so he can see better.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Count me in! No slinging here (I hope I can get the hang of it when/if I have another baby), but we co-sleep and EN (DD4 weaned last October).

I sometimes post on MDC, but TBH it's a bit intense over there sometimes. :guilty:

I know what you mean. A bit scary sometimes too. I think you get extremes on any board and I think sometimes the most extreme people there talk the loudest. ("I am never taking my kid to a dentist because they are not natural", "my kid got a virus from my dumb friend who vaccinated her kids" are a few examples that come to mind.) The great majority are more reasonable. I think the extreme posts happen most likely because they don't feel they can in real life so it is place to be among those might understand. I get that. I think most people there are very nice though. I got some great help with my DD's food allergies and I am grateful for that. I also love going to a place that doesn't think it was strange at all that I gave up all milk and eggs for a year to nurse my child until she self weaned at well over 2 years old. In real life not many people around me did.

Sometimes I read things like this though. I just try to keep my mouth shut about it and keep an open mind.

 

[rparmfamily]

LOL, yeah, I've been a member for 4 years and only have like 150 posts. I mostly lurk and learn because most of the time I don't have anything to add! I avoid the hot boards though, I hang in a few low key forums mostly. I don't nurse anymore, or babywear, and I *gasp* did vaccinate so that rules out a lot of forums LOL! We do co-sleep if my kids want to, but I'm at the point now where I no longer have any questions or concerns about cosleeping.

I do find that entire board facinating though. SO MUCH to learn! WOW!

 

[hrsmom]

Love seeing so many like-minded mamas! Both my kids nursed and I'm still a little sad that my DS is weaned. We don't co-sleep, but I did use slings with DD (DS wasn't too into the sling), extended BF and cloth diapers.

 

[solferino]

if you are looking for other online communities that are AP friendly, check out yaaps dot com I've been there since its inception and love how we've mellowed out over the years. I've not been that active the past few months, but there are a great bunch of ladies over there.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I do find that entire board facinating though. SO MUCH to learn! WOW!

LOL, me too. I can't seem to stop.

I think one thing that draws me to it is I was raised more crunchy then I am. I had no T.V. growing up, my mom cloth diapered, extended nurses all us kids (I was the last so I nursed until I was over 3 years old.) I had my own bed, but slept with my parents often (as my kids do.) She had us eating all kinds of nature food that tasted nasty and NO pop or candy, except on vacations. I would try to get all I could of both at friends houses (and T.V. too.) Then again, this was the 1970's

I let my kids eat all kinds of pop and candy and other MDC questionable foods. I just try to mix in some healthy food too. I let them watch way to much T.V. (but I am careful and picky about what they do watch.)

 

[rparmfamily]

I let my kids eat all kinds of pop and candy and other MDC questionable foods. I just try to mix in some healthy food too. I let them watch way to much T.V. (but I am careful and picky about what they do watch.)

I let my kids have junk food in moderation, heck I eat it too!! Same w/TV. Some days I hate to admit, it's on all day (not being watched but on) and other days it's completely off. Just depends on what we are doing or how we feel. I am very picky about what they watch and are exposed to.

I also grew up "crunchier" than now, but it was as if my parent changed once we moved and the kids got older. I grew up with my mom making all my clothes, watching little TV, growing our own veggies, making our own Halloween costumes, food from scratch, lots of farmer's foods (my grandpa was a farmer). Now I yern for those things! Must be nostagia! (sorry about my spelling). I guess now I look at how consumerism and consumption are affecting us (yes, I know, I am on a Disney board) and want my children to have a more "wholesome" type upbringing. I want them to know where food comes from, and what real mac&cheese tastes like. (not that I'm knocking Kraft, I like the stuff and buy it LMAO!) I want my children to be children as long as possible.

Really, that board helps me aspire to be the mom I want to be, KWIM?