OT Attachement Parenting

[Jenn Lynn]

I was going to post on the MDC thread, but I didn't know how to reveal myself without saying the wrong thing!

I weaned DS at 1 year. I was so tired of nursing and wanted my body back. The fact that I stuck it out one year was a miracle in itself! I was ready to be done around 9-10 months, but I told myself to give it a year otherwise I would feel guilty since I nursed DD until 21mo. He weaned easily (love Dr. jay Gordon's method) and I moved him to his own bed for naps at the same time. We still have to lay with him to get him to sleep, but he is in his own bed all the time now unless he comes in in the middle of the night or it is just a rough night.

What I love is people (aka family) thinking we are nuts for our choices and then we prove them wrong by having happy healthy kids.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I let my kids have junk food in moderation, heck I eat it too!! Same w/TV. Some days I hate to admit, it's on all day (not being watched but on) and other days it's completely off. Just depends on what we are doing or how we feel. I am very picky about what they watch and are exposed to.

I also grew up "crunchier" than now, but it was as if my parent changed once we moved and the kids got older. I grew up with my mom making all my clothes, watching little TV, growing our own veggies, making our own Halloween costumes, food from scratch, lots of farmer's foods (my grandpa was a farmer). Now I yern for those things! Must be nostagia! (sorry about my spelling). I guess now I look at how consumerism and consumption are affecting us (yes, I know, I am on a Disney board) and want my children to have a more "wholesome" type upbringing. I want them to know where food comes from, and what real mac&cheese tastes like. (not that I'm knocking Kraft, I like the stuff and buy it LMAO!) I want my children to be children as long as possible.

Really, that board helps me aspire to be the mom I want to be, KWIM?

LOL, I know just what you mean! Almost word for word. That was very much the same thing for us. My Dad had a huge garden with all organic plants in it, we hated it because we had to weed it. I remember my parents told us we didn't have to eat the eggplant anymore if we would just stop running it over accidentally with the lawn mover! All of our Halloween costumes were homemade too.

I totally feel I want my children to be children as long as possible too! (and I love craft mac and cheese, but it has to be deluxe!)

The good news is my mom was/ is totally supportive of extended breast feeding and things like that. My 2 best friends mothers were very simlar too.

I just figured it out, you are SusanInItaly! Oh now it is clear. At least we can talk here about other places with out getting in trouble.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I was going to post on the MDC thread, but I didn't know how to reveal myself without saying the wrong thing!

Just post, and say Hi. Say you are Jenn Lynn. We will know what you are talking about.

 

[amarberry]

I sometimes post on MDC, but TBH it's a bit intense over there sometimes.

I hear you on this one! I think MDC is a great board full of wonderful information, but it makes me feel so guilty sometimes. After DD had a bad reaction to a vaccine and I started looking into the issue, I found a wealth of information there, but you can't even mention that you vax or that you don't think that vax's are completely evil over there. I feel like a rebel in real life because we selectively vax and I only allow one vax to be administered at a time, but on MDC, I would be thought of as practically a child abuser.

I'm due with my second child in October. Even though I don't know what I'm having, my gut is telling me that I'm having a boy and I started lurking on the case against circ board. Whoa...and I thought that the vaccinations board was intense! Yet in real life, when I mention that we aren't decided on the circ issue, my friends/family look at me like I have gone completely nuts. Ugh!

 

[DisneyPhD]

I hear you on this one! I think MDC is a great board full of wonderful information, but it makes me feel so guilty sometimes. After DD had a bad reaction to a vaccine and I started looking into the issue, I found a wealth of information there, but you can't even mention that you vax or that you don't think that vax's are completely evil over there. I feel like a rebel in real life because we selectively vax and I only allow one vax to be administered at a time, but on MDC, I would be thought of as practically a child abuser.

I'm due with my second child in October. Even though I don't know what I'm having, my gut is telling me that I'm having a boy and I started lurking on the case against circ board. Whoa...and I thought that the vaccinations board was intense! Yet in real life, when I mention that we aren't decided on the circ issue, my friends/family look at me like I have gone completely nuts. Ugh!

Yep, I hear you on that (and I by the way think you are handling the vax situation with your kids very well! ) I am so sorry your child had a bad reaction.

I am glad we only have girls so far so I have not had to make the cric choice. I don't know what I would do at this point (if we ever have another child, let alone a boy.) I have been relived not to have to make it so far.

 

[graysonva]

AP is the way to go!

 

[Golden Rose]

We decided to completely vaccinate our DS. You'd think that, according to some of the moms I've talked to, we're criminals for doing so. The decision was pretty easy for us; a Dnephew almost died of Whooping Cough, for which there is a vaccine that he hadn't had, and he spent a harrowing 2 weeks in the hospital. Also, a lot of private schools won't take kids without a full vaccine record, and yes, that matters to us... we're extremely focused on education in our family.

We decided not to circumcise. A friend's son ended up with a major infection from his, so we decided it wasn't worth it. But my ob/gyn and my pedi didn't try to sway us either way and completely supported my right to choose, so we feel like we've been lucky in our "professional opinions." It has made it easier to explain our decisions to family, if nothing us. I am not doing anything the way my mother, stepmother, and grandmother did - 18th months of breastfeeding, still cosleeping - and I have had to fight with them about my choices all the way. I'm new to posting on groups about this, but I have friends who made similar choices, so I haven't felt too isolated.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

It seems like there are several other people here with similar parenting strategies as me and DH.

I just wanted to say hi to all of the other breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby wearing parents!

Hola!

Can we get a regular chat going? I'd love that!

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Also, a lot of private schools won't take kids without a full vaccine record, and yes, that matters to us... we're extremely focused on education in our family.

Does that mean those of us who don't vaccinate (or choose private school) AREN'T? Just wondering. You would be extremely hard-pressed to find two parents more concerned with education than myself and dh, so I am always shocked when people assume we don't care about our son's education as much as they do about their children's.

 

[graysonva]

Follow your instinct that is what they are there for. And as far as having to vaccinate you child to get into school, that is just not right. I can guaranty there is a bunch of lobbyist for the medical industry that pushed to get that one pasted! I think this is where you decided to home school for as many years as you can. Then as they get older their bodies will be better prepared for vaccines if they are needed.

 

[solferino]

Also, a lot of private schools won't take kids without a full vaccine record, and yes, that matters to us... we're extremely focused on education in our family.

I bet one would have an easier time sending an unvaxed child to a private school than a public one. I know in our case there are many kids at the school I work at that are not vaxed at all, and the director doesn't bat an eye. It's almost normal at our school not to, or to do it selectively.

I remember when DD was in kindy and got the chicken pox. She was getting congratulations left and right and told to enjoy her week off.

 

[cuppycake]

Us too. We'll be at POP from 20-27 of Sept. I've got a 3.5 and still co-sleeping and nursing just turned 1 year old

We'll also be at POP from the 22nd-29th! Maybe some evening, if you guys are back early types, we can meet for a drink (after the kiddos are sound asleep with DH's watching over them )

 

[Jenn Lynn]

We didn't circ. DS. Our Midwife asked us why (she was doing a bit of a survey) and I didn't have some big reason just that we felt it wasn't necessary.

We also don't vax. and have been through 3 years of preschool with DD. WI has the personal conviction waiver which is what we choose. The forms say that if there is an outbreak the child will be excluded from school. We are also fortunate to have a Ped. who does not question our choices, but she also knows DH is a Chiropractor so that helps.

 

[rparmfamily]

DisneyPhD, that's me!! I already knew who you were, I think!! MrsPhD or something like that?

 

[MindyLuvsMickey]

We did the circ thing with DS but it was an extremely difficult decision to make. We went back and forth for months and months trying to do what was right. i did as much research as possible before we decided. They did it two hours before we were released from the hospital. When the nursed showed me, I cried and cried. Fortunately, it healed quickly. I'm glad I won't be having any more, so that I don't have to make that decision again.

As for vaccinations, we did a few rounds until we hit the MMR vaccine. I made my doctor split them in to three different shots. They were furious, but I was willing to pay. After that, we delayed the remainder of his vaccines until well after he had turned two. Looking back, i wish I would have delayed them all.

 

[lexmas]

Alright, well here's my little "I'm not all *that* AP" confessional (mainly because mostly I feel like I shared these things on MDC I would be stoned...)

We did circ. DS, although we won't be circ-ing any other sons, after I did read the case against circumcision board, which made me have serious "I ruined my sons life" guilt for awhile. Yikes. I've mellowed out about it for awhile, but don't read that board! It's too intense for me. Especially because I didn't really want to do it, but it was one of the things DH felt strongly about. But after I read that board, there was much crying. Too much guilt piled on for me. I'm sure DS will be fine, but knowing how unnecessary it is, we won't be doing it again.

We also vaccinate, mainly because we feel it's best (shouldn't that be how all parenting decisions are made!), although I hate taking him in for those little shots, but I'm all for "herd immunity". No qualms about those of you that don't vaccinate though, because I'm a little concerned every time he gets a shot, so I could see avoiding it entirely.

Oh, and we don't do baby led solids...we hand DS a spoon with some mushed up food on it and he feeds himself, but he's not eating real food yet.

We watch TV. And eat processed foods. And do a lot of things that aren't good for us.

So, while in real life, people see me as quite the little , compared to MDC standards, we're pretty mainstream, I guess!

Ah, that feels good. My secret life revealed.

Now back to read on MDC, since I'm still an addict, even though I may not truly belong! (Good EC forum though, if anyone does that. Anyone? I want some EC-ing at Disney advice!)

 

[Jenn Lynn]

What are baby led solids?

We watch tv (DD knows how to record her own shows on the DVR ) and eat processed foods. I do buy lots of organic foods though.

 

[lexmas]

Baby led solids are when you skip purees and go to soft chunks of food for self-feeding. It makes sense, it just wasn't for us.

 

[Chris]

It seems like there are several other people here with similar parenting strategies as me and DH.

I just wanted to say hi to all of the other breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby wearing parents!

waving hello!

 

[Ariel8676]

Does anyone else cloth diaper??? We use Fuzzibunz and Haute pockets...
We are heading to WDW 8/15-23..anyone else????