Lexmas, I wanted to share a story with you (please no flames anyone). You just seemed like you had such guilt over circ. My DBF is a teacher, she got a call from the parent of a 10 yr old boy whom was NOT circ. It seemed that he had gotten an infection, a very bad one. Since it was not his first the ped. said that circ. was going to be a must. Well, it seems that the boy slipped out of consc. with a very high fever and an ambulance had to rush to hosp. The parents felt they had no choice but to do a circ. which ended being such a painful procedure at that age (apparently it is MUCH worse the older they are) that he missed 2 months of school.
Now, I was telling a another girlfriend the story when she admitted that her 2 yr old also got infected. Apparently her daycare center was not taking proper care.
I'm not saying circ or uncir is better just thought I would share some other stories that might make you feel better about your choice.
My nephew was not circed when he was born. They had just found his mother had breast cancer a week before he was born and there was more pressing issues. Really everyone was just so happy he was healthy and here no one even considered otherwise.
At 10 he did have to have a circ preformed do to infection. Now if his mother was still around maybe he wouldn't have because she would have been more careful about teaching him hygiene and things like that. However his dad isn't as big on details like that as a mother would..............
If it wasn't for that story I would be sure I would not circ when I have a son (if). As it is I think I would most likely at least wait a few months until the baby was older before doing it (if I would.)
I have a number of friends who have boys who are intact. They have no issues.
Either way, what is done is done. Don't feel guilt over it. There is too much to feel guilt over in this life, especially as a parent. I think it is a very personal decision that parents need to make as a family. I support choices either way. I do think it is best to do research 1st and know what and why you are doing it. You can't go back.
Thanks ladies, you're right and I can't change the past, but I do feel like I was unfortunately uninformed in making that decision. Live and learn, I suppose. At this point, I guess all I can do is be glad that I won't have to worry about infection and having to circ. later (that worry can come with the next one!
) I appreciate the support, that really does make me feel better anyway!
As for the co-sleeping "we're never going to convince people who think co-sleeping is dangerous that it's not" conversation, here's my contribution...as my degree is Cultural Anthropology I guess all I can put into it is that co-sleeping should be done safely, but in cultures where everyone co-sleeps SIDS doesn't exist. (It is also called "crib death" for a reason...) Deaths can occur in any situation where a parent isn't exercising appropriate caution, awake or asleep. And if someone has to be on medication or is intoxicated or knows that they are a very heavy sleeper, then they should probably decide that co-sleeping isn't for them. However, the US is the only place where co-sleeping is uncommon (and I'm not sure it's really uncommon, it's just not discussed), it's very common even in Europe for newborns and infants. I have a friend from Sweden that says they don't even have a name for SIDS, because it doesn't exist, she had never heard of it until she came to the US. As far as I know, Sweden isn't a "third world country"
But, I'm not ethnocentric enough to mind learning from "third world countries" anyway, so what do I know.
I tend to think that babies biologically expect certain things, and I try to do those things for my son. But, babies are adaptable of course, and I'm not saying that kids turn out badly if you don't attachment parent, as long as kids are loved and treated well I think they turn out fine. I do dislike that people think "attachment parenting" is a new trend, instead of a new name given to parenting techniques that have existed throughout the course of human existence.
Oh yeah, and while I'm typing all this.....
kokotg--thanks for sharing your experience with the sling, I figure DH and I will just trade off. I completely understand about the diapers lol, I'm sure after awhile it gets tiring! Easy with one for now though!
It's all about the herd mentality and being hip to the parenting method du jour.
lucky! Even my Mom tried to convince me against everything AP that we do. It's a good exercise in self-assertion though, since I know that I'm doing what's best for us, even in the face of opposition!
Semi-AP parents here. DS is 2.5 and still bfs although he's starting to wean which is good for me since I'm prego and OUCH! He co-sleeps with DH and I and I "wore" him
