OT Attachement Parenting

[DisneyPhD]

I wasn't able to breastfeed, which was really upsetting to me - I even tried relactating which didn't work either.

I am sorry, that must of been hard for you. Sometimes we put so much presure on ourselves as mothers.

Welcome to the thread.

 

[rparmfamily]

Welcome to the thread! I think it's fun that so many of us are on the DIS thread there and here!

 

[emh1129]

We did breastfeed, babywear and cloth diapered (fuzzi bunz) when ours were little. And in a couple years when we expand our family we will do it again and add homebirth to the list.

Welcome
I have a 2 and 5 yr old with our third on the way. We are planning our first homebirth and we're really excited about it
Hope to see you on the 'other' list sometime- I should check in there more often!

 

[emh1129]

I have a question about the sling thing, though. Is 8 or 9 months too late to try to start this? I had a couple of baby carriers that I tried (the cheaper kind you get at Target or Sears) that didn't work too great for us. But they weren't cozy looking like the slings I see online. We are going to WDW in 2 months, and I'd love to try a sling out there. It would have to be cool, though, since we will be in hot weather. Any suggestions or advice?

Just wanted to chime in that 8/9 months is definitely NOT too late to start! There are so many great slings out there to try, I hope you find one that you just love!
There are some great solarveil ones that are designed to let air flow through in the hot weather, that might work well for you in the summer heat of Florida.

 

[TruBlu]

Hi! Another co-sleeping, breastfeeding, baby-wearing mom here - well I used to be anyway. Mine are too old now. But I remember those days....

 

[Ariel8676]

As for a carrier..you can get a solarweave or solarveil (very light and breathable and can go in the pool) at http://www.sachicarriers.com/catalog.php?category=14 or if you visit thebabywearer.com in the vendor section there are normally a few WAHM's that sell the ones they make.
Or i would check out http://babyhawk.com/
I wouldn't go with a sling or pouch for an older baby, a two shoulder carry is much more comfortable for longer carries....if you wanted a pouch i love Peanut shells (goo-ga.com , or some Nordstrom stores) or hotslings (hotslings.com) and Target.com sells both and they sell Babylegs too..which i was so excited about!!!

 

[3jsmommy]

I checked out the MDC site, really informative, but also seems a little intense for me, I never really considered it a lifestyle thing, as pp have said just did what seems natural.
I am wondering if the "witch tribe" will have any trouble w/ the board when they start their ~Harry Potter theme Park loving moms thread

 

[Phitknis]

As for a carrier..you can get a solarweave or solarveil (very light and breathable and can go in the pool) at http://www.sachicarriers.com/catalog.php?category=14 or if you visit thebabywearer.com in the vendor section there are normally a few WAHM's that sell the ones they make.
Or i would check out http://babyhawk.com/
I wouldn't go with a sling or pouch for an older baby, a two shoulder carry is much more comfortable for longer carries....if you wanted a pouch i love Peanut shells (goo-ga.com , or some Nordstrom stores) or hotslings (hotslings.com) and Target.com sells both and they sell Babylegs too..which i was so excited about!!!

I love solarveil carriers! That's what I'm hoping to get at this point, there is a mom on a local mother's board I used to use that made pouches out of it for $25 and mei teis (sp?) for $35, so this is reminding me to get in touch with her so that I can get one! Right now I have a moby wrap that a very nice mother gave me, that I got ahold of with the sewing machine to add my own additions...it now has a big pocket, a waterproof bottle holder pocket, and a loop to hang a burp rag if I'm wearing him and walking around the house. I had thought of sewing my own type thing with solarveil, but I can't find a good pattern for any sling I like

And man, I love babylegs!

I checked out the MDC site, really informative, but also seems a little intense for me, I never really considered it a lifestyle thing, as pp have said just did what seems natural.
I am wondering if the "witch tribe" will have any trouble w/ the board when they start their ~Harry Potter theme Park loving moms thread

I understand that so much. Mothering.com can be completely overwhelming especially for moms who aren't 100% NL/AP. It's also a place where you really have to watch the way you speak because I've found that the slightest comment that was made with no ill intent can be taken way out of context and have people blow up in your face. For example, I was talking about someone and called her a witch instead of the b-word, mostly because there are only 2 women in this world that I would call a ***** because I hate the word. I got a ton of wiccan mothers jumping down my throat. It ended with my thread being locked for deliberation and then deleted/moved to a private forum. I explained that I was sorry because I didn't mean it in a bad way, and that I actually used to be Wiccan so I understood. That didn't do anything either, then I had some moms mad at me because "That's like saying you aren't racist because you have one black friend." Tried explaining that I didn't mean it like that, I meant that when I was wiccan I had no problem with someone using witch in place of the other word and that I didn't find it rude, so it didn't dawn on me that others may be offended, and I apologized again.

Needless to say it was a big dramaful ordeal that I'm glad finally ended.

Wow, sorry for the long story haha...your comment about a harry potter tribe just reminded me of it.

 

[emh1129]

Needless to say it was a big dramaful ordeal that I'm glad finally ended.

Wow, sorry for the long story haha...your comment about a harry potter tribe just reminded me of it.

This made me laugh a little bit I can totally see that happening there. I really like MDC, don't get me wrong, but almost everyone seems to be on a mission to educate people on tolerance.
I'm just waiting for the day when I say something that hasn't been fully thought-out and get flamed and fully roasted for it.

 

[DisneyPhD]

This made me laugh a little bit I can totally see that happening there. I really like MDC, don't get me wrong, but almost everyone seems to be on a mission to educate people on tolerance.
I'm just waiting for the day when I say something that hasn't been fully thought-out and get flamed and fully roasted for it.

Yep, now there is this big movement not to say DH, (dear husband) to DP )Dear Partner). Can't say husband, it might offend someone.

 

[emh1129]

Yep, now there is this big movement not to say DH, (dear husband) to DP )Dear Partner). Can't say husband, it might offend someone.

I saw that. I Just had to over that one. I mean when I say DH I'm usually referring to mine.. I'm not suggesting that everybody has one by referring to mine that way! Sheesh.

 

[grlpwrd]

I am an AP parent, too. I am "girlstar808" there, but I rarely post because I don't have much time.

I don't get the controversy at the forums there ... seems kinda too PC for my tastes.

 

[3jsmommy]

I don't consider myself a total AP, natural living Mom, but I have found that my instincts have steered me that way. I try not to judge anyone on their parenting style, (as long as they are not abusive), but it is so hard for me not to say anything on the other AP thread about some of the comments. I have friends who tell me I should give myself a break & supplement, let my baby cry it out & think I am torturing myself by co-sleeping.
My kids are growing so fast I really want to make it all about them right now, does that= spoiled children..I would say not at all, I used to be a Nanny & I know first hand that spending less time w/ your child and being "a better parent because you have other interests besides your kids" (& who doesn't but did you think your lifestyle wouldn't change w/ kids?)does not create a unspoiled kid!! I always bite my tongue (which is starting to wear on me) & just say its not for me instead of telling people how I really feel about conditioning your child with the cry it out method. I also always get the "how long do you plan on breastfeeding him?" this isn't coming from woman who didn't nurse, just not extended BF. Anti co-sleeping but pro-spanking comments. My kids are all very different in their needs & I have tried what was best for all of them as I am sure almost all parents do. Everyone has different priorities and values & no one but you can define what they are. I have found this to be true regarding working Moms vs. SAHM's. Some Moms truly can not be happy staying at home, some can not afford it, some just prioritize differently than I do. I am just happy DH & I share the same values and priorities regarding our boys Any way thanks for reading my rambling, venting posthttp://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html I am always tempted to email this to my pro ferber friends!

 

[DisneyPhD]

I don't consider myself a total AP, natural living Mom, but I have found that my instincts have steered me that way. I try not to judge anyone on their parenting style, (as long as they are not abusive), but it is so hard for me not to say anything on the other AP thread about some of the comments. I have friends who tell me I should give myself a break & supplement, let my baby cry it out & think I am torturing myself by co-sleeping.
My kids are growing so fast I really want to make it all about them right now, does that= spoiled children..I would say not at all, I used to be a Nanny & I know first hand that spending less time w/ your child and being "a better parent because you have other interests besides your kids" (& who doesn't but did you think your lifestyle wouldn't change w/ kids?)does not create a unspoiled kid!! I always bite my tongue (which is starting to wear on me) & just say its not for me instead of telling people how I really feel about conditioning your child with the cry it out method. I also always get the "how long do you plan on breastfeeding him?" this isn't coming from woman who didn't nurse, just not extended BF. Anti co-sleeping but pro-spanking comments. My kids are all very different in their needs & I have tried what was best for all of them as I am sure almost all parents do. Everyone has different priorities and values & no one but you can define what they are. I have found this to be true regarding working Moms vs. SAHM's. Some Moms truly can not be happy staying at home, some can not afford it, some just prioritize differently than I do. I am just happy DH & I share the same values and priorities regarding our boys Any way thanks for reading my rambling, venting post

I feel very much the same way. Luckily most of my friends and family have just accepted that my kids breast feed for a while and things like that. When I gave up all milk and eggs for a year so I could continue to breast feed an allergic toddler and it was not an easy task for me, a lot of people thought I was nuts. Those closest to me supported me, or at least keep their mouths shut.

 

[3jsmommy]

I am really lucky to have a Mother who is such a great support system, she BF all of us & when I was having trouble nursing my first son (he had been in the NICU for a 2 weeks & was bottle fed while there) she was so awesome, she literally was holding my nipple in his mouth while I was breaking down after so many failed attempts. He was off the bottle & an EBF baby the next day !! I don't think I could have done it w/ out her!! So even though I complain about people making comments it is more annoying than anything else, I don't usually have a comeback because I don't want to hurt their feelings, I KNOW I am doing the right thing for my child, but I am sure if I questioned them, they would be really defensive.

 

[baybemama]

Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself...I just discovered this thread and I feel you are my people! I also didn't know the label for "attachment parenting." All I knew was that I really wanted to breastfeed for at least 6 months. I almost gave up SOO many times. I'm the first woman in my family to nurse since my great-grandmother so I really felt unsupported at first during the tough weeks at no fault to my family...they just weren't used to breastfeeding and didn't understand why, if it hurt so much, did I just not switch to formula? But I kept saying "one more week" and now I want to do it for 1 year or more. He's EBF at 3 months and weighs 17.5 lbs! Co-sleeping just kind of happened and now I never want it to end! I really want to wear DS, I've tried out a number of slings but I think my freakishly large ****s (is that word allowed?) make it uncomfortable for both of us. Maybe when DS can hold his head better and is old enough for hip hold it will be better. We will for sure be delaying vax, possibly none at all...the research is endless! We're taking DS to Disney at the end of March and we're beyond thrilled! I keep trying to imagine what he'll be like at 11 months so I can picture us there.

Anyway, so glad to meet all of you! Thanks for letting me share my "story"...it's just nice to share it with people that are like-minded.

 

[SharkyGoddess]

WTG for sticking with nursing! My youngest is almost 3 and still nursing 2-3 times a day

Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself...I just discovered this thread and I feel you are my people! I also didn't know the label for "attachment parenting." All I knew was that I really wanted to breastfeed for at least 6 months. I almost gave up SOO many times. I'm the first woman in my family to nurse since my great-grandmother so I really felt unsupported at first during the tough weeks at no fault to my family...they just weren't used to breastfeeding and didn't understand why, if it hurt so much, did I just not switch to formula? But I kept saying "one more week" and now I want to do it for 1 year or more. He's EBF at 3 months and weighs 17.5 lbs! Co-sleeping just kind of happened and now I never want it to end! I really want to wear DS, I've tried out a number of slings but I think my freakishly large ****s (is that word allowed?) make it uncomfortable for both of us. Maybe when DS can hold his head better and is old enough for hip hold it will be better. We will for sure be delaying vax, possibly none at all...the research is endless! We're taking DS to Disney at the end of March and we're beyond thrilled! I keep trying to imagine what he'll be like at 11 months so I can picture us there.

Anyway, so glad to meet all of you! Thanks for letting me share my "story"...it's just nice to share it with people that are like-minded.

 

[emh1129]

I don't consider myself a total AP, natural living Mom, but I have found that my instincts have steered me that way. I try not to judge anyone on their parenting style, (as long as they are not abusive), but it is so hard for me not to say anything on the other AP thread about some of the comments.

Welcome
I did post on another thread, but just to clear up the misconception that AP=homeschool and non-vaxxing and non-circing. I think my post was invisible, though. Just bugs me when people spout misinformation.
Some people who are AP do those things, sure, but some don't and the real definition (from Dr. Sears) of AP has nothing to do with those things.
But what are you gonna do
It takes all types, right?

 

[emh1129]

I know there have been many studies to show the safety of co-sleeping. There was a more recent one that showed the risk of SIDS was much lower when cosleeping, as opposed to using a crib. Do any of you have a link? I had a bunch of links saved in a word doc and I think I deleted it by accident.
It drives me nuts when people spout off about the 'danger' of cosleeping when they know absolutely nothing about it. I will say that when a parent has been drinking, using drugs, or smoking, a crib is the best place for the baby. But other than that, cosleeping has been shown to be just as safe (if not safer?) than using a crib.

 

[Juliet25]

Welcome
I did post on another thread, but just to clear up the misconception that AP=homeschool and non-vaxxing and non-circing. I think my post was invisible, though. Just bugs me when people spout misinformation.
Some people who are AP do those things, sure, but some don't and the real definition (from Dr. Sears) of AP has nothing to do with those things.
But what are you gonna do
It takes all types, right?

Eh, you tried! It seems they just want to congratulate themselves on not following "trends." I mean, it's not like we're doing this for our kids, right? It's all about the herd mentality and being hip to the parenting method du jour.