OT age for being dry at night

[blum74]

Well dd1 was about 8. Dd2 is 6-1/2 and still uses pullups.

Medical studies have proven it's a hormonal balance thing, and some kids just don't have the hormone until they're older.

What do we do? Provide the pullups, and let it be a non-issue. Both girls wore(wear) them, and they just quietly go about their business and toss them in the garbage each morning.

It's just not an big deal to me, and I'd rather buy a few pullups than waste half the night washing bedding etc...

Our ped. told us the same thing, that it is a hormone that helps with staying dry at night. You are the first person I've ever come across that has heard that too.

 

[hoosiergirl7]

Our DS just turned 5 in December and is a very heavy sleeper. His bedtime is about 8:30ish and we wake him up around midnight (when we go to bed) to empty his bladder and 98% of the time he will sleep until 7:30ish without having an accident. And this is a recent development. We have told him countless times that we get him up to go potty in the middle of the night and he says, "No you didn't." No recollection of waking up at all. We're hoping that it gets to the point in the near future where we aren't having to wake him up anymore but for now, waking him up at midnight is better than washing sheets every day!!

 

[StephMK]

DS will be 7 in June and just stopped for the most part a few months ago. He is also a very heavy sleeper. What worked for us was taking him every night when we went to bed. He also would never remember it & at first, it was hard to wake him up enough to get him to go.

After a few months, he started going at that time on his own but would still have early morning accidents. Now that we're in an early morning school routine, he stays dry most nights.

Even DD8 will have an accident every now & then when she's really tired & has stayed up too late the night before. We don't make it a big deal so it hasn't been an issue for either one.

 

[mom2meiko]

my nephew is 6, will be 7 in july. he still has to wear pullups at night. he sincerely just doesn't wake up when he needs to go. my sis spoke to the dr and they said it would pass and is normal. look at all of the products for kids who wet the bed. they wouldn't be around if there wasn't a major demand for them.

definitely speak to the dr but i wouldn't be concerned. frustrated? sure! but not concerned.

good luck!

 

[mickeyplanner08]

Our peds said not to worry until age 7 and then only if it was a big deal to us. DS will be 7 in 2 weeks, and has only been out of pull-ups/diapers for about a month. He has been wet only once in the last month, so I am willing to do that much laundry. He will be in a pull up when he goes overnight to my sister's house and when we go to a hotel this weekend. Hang in there and don't make a big deal about it!

 

[J3nn78]

My DS3 was dry from the first day of potty training. I never expected it. I do not know how he can hold his bladder for 14 hours. He did not get it from me, I go at least once or twice a night.

 

[daisyduck123]

The day my kids were potty trained, they were also dry at night. I don't know how that happened, but it was great!!!

FWIW, I'm a 1st grade teacher, & there are several kids who are not night-trained yet. Last year, I actually had to send one girl to the nurse (and had the nurse call her mom) because she was reeking of pee every day. I was sure she was wetting the bed & no one was bathing her afterward.

 

[mareed]

My 2 boys were dry at night at almost exactly the same time although they are 3 years apart in age. One was 4 & the other 7. The 7 year old had been wet overnight every night wearing a pull-up. We purchased a Malem bedwetting alarm and it only took about a week before he was dry and never had an accident since then! He was old enough to handle things himself at night when the alarm woke him up. He wore the alarm on underwear under a pullup so that the bed didn't get wet. We had dry underwear and a pullup set out for easy access in the bathroom and he'd take care of things himself. After a week, no more alarm was needed! It was really quite amazing!

 

[kim_o]

I potty trained DS slightly before he turned 3 because I noticed he was staying dry all night, which convinced me he had the bladder control to PT. So, DS was day and night trained by 3.

 

[SCHBR'smom]

This thread makes me feel better. My two oldest girls have never had a problem. They were dry at night as soon as I started potty training. My poor son, though, was potty trained quickly, but continued to pee at night. I know it embarasses him that his little sister has been sleeping in undies for over a year and he still sleeps in pull-ups. But, part of it is hereditary (daddy had the problem until 6 or 7) and he is a very heavy sleeper. He'll go back to the dr in May, so, I'll check again on what to do. It's nice to know that he isn't the only one with this issue.

 

[Madzac]

My DD will be 7 next month and just finally started staying dry about 6 months ago. She had been wet every night just about and like a switch going off, she just started being dry. Our ped also said that was typically, that kids' bladders mature at differing rates, and eventually it would figure out how to hold the urine. She wasnt concerned at all, but said at her 6 yr check that we could try an alarm if we wanted. She is also a very very heavy sleeper.

My DS1 just turned 4 and started staying dry at the same time. he was later to PT too. He is a lighter sleeper than DD. Just goes to show you they are all different and mature at their own rates.

I worried a lot about this with DD, but truly, one day, it just clicked and now maybe once every few months she will have an accident.

 

[mumto3girls]

I think this is extremely common. My 8 year old has only been dry at night for a year or two, but actually regressed a little around the holidays and wet the bed 2 or 3 times in a period of just a few weeks. If she sleeps at my sisters for a sleepover or if we are away and in a hotel I put her in a pullup. My 5 year old wears a pullup every night and is wet most mornings.

I have a neighbor who is almost 10 and last I heard she was still wearing pullups.

I had the same issues as a child as did 2 of my 3 sisters. My younger sisters were all dry at night before I was. My mother wasn't kind about it. I used to try to bargain with God--if I pray the rosary twice before I fall asleep will you let me wake up dry?

We try to be very matter of fact about it and just use the pullups. I don't like spending the money on them, but its better than washing sheets constantly and its better than fussing at them about it. No one wants to wet the bed. They will be dry as soon as they are able.

 

[scottish mum]

Well dd1 was about 8. Dd2 is 6-1/2 and still uses pullups.

Medical studies have proven it's a hormonal balance thing, and some kids just don't have the hormone until they're older.

What do we do? Provide the pullups, and let it be a non-issue. Both girls wore(wear) them, and they just quietly go about their business and toss them in the garbage each morning.

It's just not an big deal to me, and I'd rather buy a few pullups than waste half the night washing bedding etc...

My friend was also told it was a hormone thing that was wrong with her son. He was still wetting the bed until he was 9. At about age 8 she was offered some spray that he could take at night that would balance out whatever hormone was wrong. At that point she didn't try it as she didn't want to give her son medicine unless she really had to. He never actually took it just out grew his bed wetting. Just shows though that there are ways to help kids who bed wet but I also would be not very keen to give to young kids.

 

[mom2princessj]

My dd was dry all night about 3 mos or so after PT was done. She has been the easiest all the way around. DS is 4 and its about 50-50 as to whether he's dry or not in the mornings. I think most of his problem is laziness. If we get him in the morning when he's just waking up he's usually dry. If we get there too late...he'll usually just go He likes to lay around in bed in the morning. So...when school ends in May I'm going to take away the pull ups and see if that helps him. My friend recommended a sheet cover so I don't have to wash everything everyday if this ends up being the problem.
There are times though when he doesn't wake up...last night I went in his room around 10ish and the first thing I smelled was pee...so its not always laziness. Part of it is how heavy of a sleeper he is. After I experiment with no pullups this summer I'll make a determination if its all about laziness or not. Hopefully we'll be done with pull ups but I know its common for children to have issues well out of the toddler ages so I'm trying not to stress about it.

 

[katieandallycat]

Haven't read everything, time for work ...My oldest stopped at 4.5yrs, I was shocked, since I was a bed wetter till 9.
If there wasn't and issue they wouldn't have pullups for weights up to 100lbs.
However, as most people said have him checked out to make sure nothing else is wrong...
Every kid is different. My youngest is autistic she stopped wetting the bed at 7.5 yrs, but took till 8.5yrs not to have accidents during the day. She was terrified (still is) at the flushing for strange toilets. She would rather use a pot a potty (since it doesn't flush) or a bathroom on a plane, since she doesn't notice the sound over the loud plane.

 

[verlee]

So it sounds like most people have their kids in pullups and then they just stop wetting when they are ready?

I have ds6 in pullup and do not make a big deal about it. We just wash up and go on. I just want to make sure there was not some training that I am supposed to be doing?? Don't want to be neglecting my motherly duties.

 

[rparmfamily]

DS6 just started recently to not wear pull-ups at night. He just one night told me no more and he's been good since. I also never made a big deal out of it. We just clean up, change sheets and hop back in bed. I never pushed him about it because he didn't know why it was happening and honestly, they WILL outgrow it.

I think I read it's related to the parents too...DH wet the bed fairly "old" as a child.

 

[Caitsmama]

My dd just turned 8 in Jan. and she wears Pull Ups to bed every night - she wakes up wet about 5 mornings a week. The dr. told us not to stress about it (or to make a big deal about it to dd) and that she would grow out of it when she is ready - i will chat with the dr. again this summer when she goes for her yearly. I am not too concerned to tell ya the truth.
As someone else said,if it wasn't a problem, they wouldn't make the pull ups/ goodnights/ underjams for sizes up to 125lbs.
So, try not to stress about it, especially around your child - and just let them know that their body will stop when it's ready. It won't last forever.

 

[N&B'smom]

At what age did your kids stay dry all night.

Both of my kids were fully potty trained by the time they turned 2, so it was definitely before that. I used that to tell me when they were ready to be trained.

I'd definitely ask the Dr about it!!

 

[puffkin]

DS potty trained at 2 1/2. He is now dry about 90% of the time at night (will be 3 next month). I would say about 1 day a week he is wet if that. He wears a pull up everynight.

He is in a Pull UP and we make him go before we put him to bed. I always wake him and take him to the bathroom before I go to bed. He goes at 8 pm and I go around 11 pm. USUALLY, if he is going to wet it is in this time frame between when he goes to bed and I wake him up. Usually once or twice a week he wakes up in the middle of the night and cries to go to the bathroom.