One Parent - Filing Parental Abondonment

[manning]

Is this plausible? Did she/they know a Sarah?

As far as Grandma's money, I'd probably get my share left to someone else I could trust to hold it for me until the divorce is finished. Say your friend's share is to be $10K. Could that $10K be left to your friend's mother instead, witht he understanding that mother just puts it into a savings account until all divorce proceedings are finished?

I wouldn't. I've seen large amount of money do strange things to people.

 

[manning]

I don't know how this would work, but if there are any retirement accounts, have your friend check with her lawyer. I know in my state, I was entitled to a portion of my ex's pension, but by the time we got around to divorcing, he had cleaned out his IRA. It was in his name with me as beneficiary, so he technically owned the money. Basically, my attorney told me it was too bad for me, but perhaps in other states it is different. Just something to check into, particularly if there are no other retirement funds available to your friend.

This may come under federal law. When I was outsourced I chose to take my pension as a lump sum. To do that my wife had to sign off. By law she was entitled to half. To take a lump sum or change the amount she is entitled to involved her having to give permission in writing.

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't. I've seen large amount of money do strange things to people.

I agree, but I'd rather see it with someone I think I could trust than see my soon-to-be dog of an ex and his new hussy get it.

 

[corndog]

I am hoping that someone may know what to do in this situation. My best friend got married a little over 6 years ago to whom we all thought was a great guy. She has 2 children, expecting her 3rd in August.

Two weeks ago, her husband packed a suitcase, cleaned out their bank accounts and left. What we can figure out, he has moved 'out of state' with his girlfriend. That is all we know. There has been no communication, except for a message left on her voice mail the day he left.

I think the real lesson here is don't marry a man that has a girlfriend.

 

[gate_pourri]

Sorry for not updating sooner. I just had the chance to speak with J. Her mom is with her this week, so I am trying to let them work things out and not butt in too much... It sounds like she is getting everything under control with the lawyer.

She seems to be working past the 'depressed' stage and entering the 'anger' stage. She is now planning on 'going for jugular' and take him for all he is worth.

On the topic of 'him'. Apparently he has called his father a few times and his mother yelled at him and hung up. None of his friends (That J knows well enough to call) have heard from him. His boss says that he quit via email. And the rumor is that he met this woman online just 8 weeks ago (6 weeks before he left). If that is true, it just makes it even worse in my book.

 

[Disney Doll]

Let me guess...this guy is between 35 & 45, isn't he?

 

[gate_pourri]

Let me guess...this guy is between 35 & 45, isn't he?

No... He is 28, she is 26. They are sooo young. I am just getting used to my friends getting married and having kids. Am not ready for my friends to be having martial problems, especially at this magnitude.

 

[Disney Doll]

Young to be having what sounbds like a stupid mid-life crisis type of event.

 

[disneymarie]

BOY he is a piece of work! Weasel ! Lucky she found out now and not have him with the other woman and her. I would have a geek go over the computer and get back anything they can on the home computer for court. Not that he has not done enough harm to himself, but nothing is really ever gone for pro's.
Keeping her in my heart.
di

 

[ryanshana]

No... He is 28, she is 26. They are sooo young. I am just getting used to my friends getting married and having kids. Am not ready for my friends to be having martial problems, especially at this magnitude.

WHHAAAT! I mean I know things w/ everything is happening at an earlier age now a days....ie sex, drugs, drinking, etc. But mid life crisis at 28..again...WHHHAAT this is sooo crazy! tell her to run not walk but RUN. I am wondering if the thought of responsibility got to him.

Oh my whole reason for posting....the inheritance. Did you say the grandmother is still living. Is the will written out to J and the deadbeat? Or just to J if it's just to J she should be fine. if it's too both can't grandma/power of attorney revise the will before it's too late! just a thought but if its only to her I'm pretty sure she's fine. I know in Pa my husband didn't have any rights to the inheritence I was left by my mom! hth

 

[corndog]

She seems to be working past the 'depressed' stage and entering the 'anger' stage. She is now planning on 'going for jugular' and take him for all he is worth.

So, did she clean his clock?

 

[PrincessShmoo]

So, did she clean his clock?

This thread is 4 years old.

 

[corndog]

This thread is 4 years old.

Exactly. We ought to have heard what happened by now!

 

[RitaE]

Why are you bumping old threads like this?

 

[lauradis]

Exactly. We ought to have heard what happened by now!

Ty this is so much fun.

Disboard is like a never ending drama.

Did you start at the end of the pages?

 

[Missy1961]

Why are you bumping old threads like this?

I fear we will never know.

 

[DizBelle]

I fear we will never know.

That's a bummer. Having read the whole thread, I'd like to know what ended up happening.

 

[Missy1961]

That's a bummer. Having read the whole thread, I'd like to know what ended up happening.

Well, for whatever reason the OP choose not to share. And I respect that. What I didn't understand is why someone would bump up a few really old threads like corndog did yesterday. that's what I'd like to know.

 

[corndog]

Well, for whatever reason the OP choose not to share. And I respect that. What I didn't understand is why someone would bump up a few really old threads like corndog did yesterday. that's what I'd like to know.

Apologies. I'm just really far behind on my subscribed threads.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Apologies. I'm just really far behind on my subscribed threads.

/sigh