? on ideas on Wedding Gift for son

[ctc917]

My son is getting married next month and he is our first child to get married so I'm lost on what is a good wedding gift for my son and new daughter-in-law since all I have to go by is what I got for a wedding gift eons ago which was a vacuum cleaner from the in-laws and a couch from my parents. I have no problem giving them money but how much is a good amount? my friend sent her son on a honeymoon so I was hoping you guys here could give me some suggestions since I'm lost on what to do.

Thanks
ctc917

 

[TwoMisfits]

My son is getting married next month and he is our first child to get married so I'm lost on what is a good wedding gift for my son and new daughter-in-law since all I have to go by is what I got for a wedding gift eons ago which was a vacuum cleaner from the in-laws and a couch from my parents. I have no problem giving them money but how much is a good amount? my friend sent her son on a honeymoon so I was hoping you guys here could give me some suggestions since I'm lost on what to do.

Thanks
ctc917

I was gonna suggest paying for part of the honeymoon - when I got married, my parents paid for the resort portion of our stay in London.

 

[happiestpoe]

I agree with TwoMisfits-- paying for, or helping to pay for, the honeymoon would definitely be appreciated. If they're already booked somewhere, you could pay to upgrade the room. If they're flying somewhere, you could upgrade them to business or first.

 

[pigletto]

It’s so hard to say without knowing what they need. My daughter is getting married in 2023. She and her fiancé already have a house but every piece of furniture they own is a hand me down and a lot of it has seen much better days. They were just grateful to have people give them some old stuff so they could save their pennies to buy the house. So I think I’ll do a couch or a new bedroom set or something like that as their gift. I’ll let them pick though because I want them to like it. Is there anything your son might need for their home ?

 

[cvjw]

I would give them as much money as you are comfortable giving. Newlyweds can always use cash!

 

[_19disnA]

Usually questions about 'how much?' results in arguments on here. It depends a lot on your means, how much you can afford, what else you may be helping them with and how many other children you have.

 

[QueenIsabella]

I would go with cash. How much is up to you, but keep in mind if you have other kids, you'll want to give the same to them in the future. The wedding couple can decide to pay off bills, put it towards the honeymoon, house, furniture--they'll find a use for it!

 

[easyas123]

my friend sent her son on a honeymoon so I was hoping you guys here could give me some suggestions since I'm lost on what to do.

Another vote for honeymoon -
My folks gifted us (and my 2 brothers & their wives) their honeymoon, and we anticipate doing the same for our 2 sons when they get married. Eldest son is settling on his first house next month, otherwise we'd offer $$$ for a house downpayment OR a honeymoon.

 

[SharonZ]

I vote for cash, then they can put it towards/buy whatever they want/need.

 

[ctl]

I know cash is a very welcome gift to newlyweds. But if it were my son I would lean towards paying for part of their honeymoon, or upgrading/adding something special to it (maybe an excursion, spa day, flight upgrade, honeymoon photo package) so they have the memories. Or if all that is already set, maybe a hotel voucher for a special hotel/resort they could use later in the year, if there was a really nice resort type hotel that they otherwise couldn't afford. Congratulations to the happy couple !

 

[CookieandOatmeal]

When I got married 7 years ago, my parents gave us money as a gift and my in-laws' gift was paying for the flowers. We were grateful either way.

 

[Cruising Engineer]

Why don't you just ask them what they need or want!
They may have the honeymoon paid, or her folks already gifted that to them.
Ask them. Guessing on a wedding gift is like guessing on a Christmas present: they may not want a puppy!

 

[ctc917]

Thanks everyone for the ideas. I do know for right now they are not planning a honeymoon with all the Covid stuff going on, so nothing is booked.
They have a house and new furniture too. I think we will end up giving them cash and they can do with it what they want.

thanks
ctc917

 

[Judique]

My son is getting married next month and he is our first child to get married so I'm lost on what is a good wedding gift for my son and new daughter-in-law since all I have to go by is what I got for a wedding gift eons ago which was a vacuum cleaner from the in-laws and a couch from my parents. I have no problem giving them money but how much is a good amount? my friend sent her son on a honeymoon so I was hoping you guys here could give me some suggestions since I'm lost on what to do.

Thanks
ctc917

My son is also getting married next month and they are young professionals in their 30ties.

So, I gave cash that they could use towards whatever they wanted, including a down payment, although I know they will be in their rental for another year plus.

They then shared with me where they were going on honeymoon and had picked out a hotel and were getting ready to book through Costco Travel. I offered enough points for an upgraded hotel room at the resort they previously chose and we booked it right away. They were able to get flights, car rental and some experiences booked within a few days and saved more than half of the package cost. They are going to Hawaii.

The cash gift was equivalent to what my daughter received from me towards her first marriage. My ex also gave each of them cash.

The cash amount is going to vary according to your own budget. What you can afford to comfortably give is more relevant then what someone else gave. For example, if I gave 10K, and you would have to go in debt to give that amount, then that's too much from your budget.

And you got a vacuum! Lol, You did better than me. But as time went on my MIL supported us over and over and all was much appreciated.

 

[tvguy]

We gave our son and DIL $1,500 towards their honeymoon. They got married in 2016. That was on top of the traditional Groom's parents expenses for flowers and the rehearsal dinner......which cost $5,600 and $2,500 respectively. I got off cheap, as my my DIL went first cabin on everything so her dad I'm sure spent many times what my wife and I spent.
When and if our daughter gets married, she has stated her total Wedding budget will be $1,000. She in particular found the $5,600 in flowers at her brother's wedding to be excessive.
The total cost for my wife and my wedding in 1982 was $1,500. We got married at 11 am on a Saturday and my MIL spent $500 on heavy Hors d'oeuvres for a Noon reception in my mom's half acre back yard. $500 for table and chair rental. $100 for the dress, $100 for the church wedding fee. My mom spent like $75 on flowers, a neighbor was a florist and her gift to us was arranging, delivering and setting up the flowers.

 

[Welsh_Dragon]

I would suggest a lovely painting, perhaps something by a local artist, that they can keep forever.

 

[SandyinMonterey]

The last wedding I attended was my nieces (on husband's side). My BIL (brides father) gave them $7000 to do what they please with it. My niece wanted to elope to Hawaii or Vegas but her husband wanted a wedding. Wedding it was!

 

[SandyinMonterey]

Forgot to add that when I got married, 20 years ago, my parents gave us $10,000.

 

[Halle]

We gave our children money and something special that they'd always have after the $ was spent. We also paid for daughter's wedding and heavily contributed to our three sons weddings.

 

[lsutigers03]

My son is getting married next month and he is our first child to get married so I'm lost on what is a good wedding gift for my son and new daughter-in-law since all I have to go by is what I got for a wedding gift eons ago which was a vacuum cleaner from the in-laws and a couch from my parents. I have no problem giving them money but how much is a good amount? my friend sent her son on a honeymoon so I was hoping you guys here could give me some suggestions since I'm lost on what to do.

Thanks
ctc917

Money would be my first choice because they'll be able to put it towards their honeymoon. I was also going to suggest a Dyson so it's funny that you mentioned getting a vacuum cleaner. My mom got my wife and I a Dyson when we got married and I love using it. It's really expensive so I would have never bought it but it gets a ton of use.