Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard

Not sure finding someone is worth this roller coaster.

I have no doubt that when you find your prince, you will think he was worth every bit of it!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Let's see...He's too new at being single again. He was divorced just 5 months ago, has custody of his 14 year old daughter. It was her choice to go with him. He was surprised by that. He even said he analyzes everything a female says and tends to not believe anything one says right off the bat. Says he catches himself and is trying to improve. LOL! There were a few things he said that just gave me a feeling it wouldn't go anywhere. And I'm not in the mood to waste my time.

 

[TigerBear]

He doesn't tend to believe what a woman says? And he told you this on the first date? Run!!! LOL! I don't blame you for not wasting your time. There was a thread recently about the three date rule - I don't buy it. If you know it is not going anywhere, why go out again?

 

[Pin Wizard]

That's true, TigerBear. I agree with you on that!

 

[legs22]

Only divorced 5 months? Not long enough in my book. Sorry it didn't turn out well.

ACK! I woke up a little. Then my mind started thinking about stuff and didn't stop. Now here I am at 2:45am, awake at the computer. And I only went to bed at 12am.

 

[TigerBear]

Good morning everyone!

Legs, I hope you were able to get some sleep last night. When I have that problem, I take benedryl. It puts me out like a baby.

As to dating after a divorce, I think it totally depends on the person & situation. I jumped back in the month after my divorce was final and met DBF the following month. I had done most of my work - which to me is really the issue. Some people are not ready to date five years after their divorce...

 

[floridaminnie]

PW....sorry your date didn't go better...I say run away also since he isn't over the issue of believing females. Trust issues. Agree with TigerBear that once you meet your Prince it'll be worth it. It's just finding him that's a big pain in the rear.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Ack, sorry the date didn't go well. I agree with TigerBear though....it depends on the person. I got divorced a year ago in April...after a year of separation (so exh and I haven't been together in over 2 years) and I'm just starting to feel ready to date. But that's only because of all the bad dating experiences I had last year. Geeze, I could write a book. lol.

Good morning, everyone!!!

 

[CoMickey]

PW~Sorry to hear about your date. At least you saw the signs early and don't have to waste anymore time. But I can understand the let down feeling. We are always hopeful that this will be the one. People are always telling me that I'll find the one when I quite looking. We'll see.

It was not difficult for me to start dating after my divorce. I was so through with my marriage way before it really ended. But going on endless first dinner dates gets tireing very fast! It's like going on a job interview each time!

Melinda~I think a book would be great! We could write one and each of us add our stories. Kind of like Chicken Soup for the Soul....but about dating! I am sure it would be entertaining! I have names for each of the guys I dated like Fireman Doug, Policeman Craig, Itailian Stallion, Baby Boy, Mini Van Dad, NYC Prince...etc.! Gosh when I look back on this list....I must have been crazy....just commit me now!

Back to the opening car door discussion....I am very much into being independant, have a strong mind of my own and a strong desire to succeed on my own. My dad always says he could never be married to 'these modern women like you' so I am very much into doing my own thing. I never wait for a man to open a store, resturant, etc. door I always open those myself.
BUT there is just something about having someone open the car door. Now I don't sit in the car waiting for them to open the door before I get out....or to get in....but my BF now does open the car door when I am getting in even at the grocery store and I like that. He gets the car when it is raining, he gets me water before I go to bed, he washes my car...I don't ask him to do these things he just does them....those are just a couple of examples of other things he does. He really does treat me very well....it's those up and down moods of his that are very emotionally draining.

Ok, I've gone on long enough! I really need a job! I am so bored! Never thought I would be! I wish I could think of it like being on vacation but it's hard when I'm stressed about finding a job. If I knew I would have a job soon, I would have taken DD on a last minute trip to WDW! But I don't know how long I'll have to live on my savings!

I finally broke down and called the company yesterday and she said that she had called my first reference and it was a very good call but that she had to send the rest of may reference list and application to Virginia to corporate and that they probably didn't get it until yesterday. So hopefully I'll hear something next week.
This waiting is painful!!!

Sorry this was so long! Happy Friday everyone!

Vicki

 

[floridaminnie]

It sounds hopefuly Vicky! They wouldn't being calling references and that if they didn't think you would be a good candidate.

Me had an adventure at the Grocery store with my car. Went to go buy cleaning supplies and went back to my car and it wouldn't unlock. Set off the car alarm. Thought maybe my wireless control needed a new battery even though I just replaced it. Walked down to Radio Shack and nope battery just fine. Ended up calling my father who went home to pick up my other remote. Finally got home. Decided not to use alarm anymore until I can get it to dealership. Just don't have time for this. Or maybe it was the cleaning gods telling me today I should take it easy!

 

[CoMickey]

Originally posted by floridaminnie
It sounds hopefuly Vicky! They wouldn't being calling references and that if they didn't think you would be a good candidate.

Or maybe it was the cleaning gods telling me today I should take it easy!

Everyone I talk to tells me the same thing....I keep thinking back to the interview....my qualifications/past work history and what they are looking for in an account manager....and the references I have are all good....and it all seems good....it's just this waiting!!!I've gone on a couple other job interviews but I don't want to waste their time or mine if I am going to be hired by this company!

My parents want me to meet them in Cheyenne next week so I might do that to give me something to do! My dd is in Phoenix with her dad or I would have her to keep me busy. All of my friends work so that's not an option! I could lay out by the pool but is is unseasonably cool and rainy. Whine, whine, whine....huh??

I think the cleaning gods are telling you something! Go have fun with your dd! And leave the cleaning until another day! It will still be there!

PW~Are you ok?

Happy Friday, everyone!

V.

 

[TigerBear]

CM, significant mood swings are not really typical of ADHD. Has he ever mention his mood swings to a physician?

Yep, checking references is a very good thing. I know how hard waits can be. Hopefully you will find out soon!!

FLM, maybe its something about you and grocery stores - first the cart and now the car alarm! Sorry.

Anyone have fun plans for the weekend? Nothing too exciting here. We are having dinner with my cousin and her boyfriend tonight. Probably will see Bourne Supremacy tomorrow. It seems to be getting good reviews. Oh, and DBF wants to go back to a Thai place we recently went to. The food is sooo good!

 

[legs22]

DD's birthday party is tomorrow at the skating rink. She gave out invitations to the kids at summer camp but no one has RSVP'd
I already put a nonrefundable deposit down for half the total cost so we'll go anyway and see if anyone shows up. I know my sister and her 2 kids will be there as well as my mom and dd's father. It will just be a really small party. DD has 3 other cousins who I invited. I called my X-SIL to see when they would be back from vacation and she's never called me backJust love her.
This is the last year I'm having a party for her. Besides family, she doesn't really know any other kids.

I am sooooooo tired. I hate driving when I am this sleep deprived.

 

[TigerBear]

I hate when people don't RSVP. I hope the party is fun anyway!!

Try not to take a nap so you will be tired tonight. Be careful driving!

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by CoMickey
He gets the car when it is raining, he gets me water before I go to bed, he washes my car...I don't ask him to do these things he just does them....those are just a couple of examples of other things he does. He really does treat me very well....

These things just seem really sweet to me. I've been thinking "why them and not the opening the car door everytime?" (ok, so maybe I analyze things too much ). I think it is because they are thoughtful and purposeful...and not necessarily based on gender. A women could just as easily bring water before bed. My s-i-l is the one who washes the cars because she enjoys it. It is a person doing something nice for someone they love. What if a woman were to open a car door for a man though? That would just be odd - even though I don't think that a man's additional strength makes him any more capable of the task.

Y'all can ignore me. I think I may have too much time of my hands with my summer break.

 

[TigerBear]

Hey PW - your mailbox is full.

 

[Pin Wizard]

A full mailbox? Wow! That's a first. Let me go get rid of some stuff.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Okay...PM away, TigerBear!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by legs22
Only divorced 5 months? Not long enough in my book. Sorry it didn't turn out well.

ACK! I woke up a little. Then my mind started thinking about stuff and didn't stop. Now here I am at 2:45am, awake at the computer. And I only went to bed at 12am.

Five months definitely isn't long enough. That's okay. At least I met someone new and was able to decide quickly for myself what to do. Sometimes I find it amazing how much I've changed over the years. Would have hung in there when I was younger. LOL! Not any more.

Hope you rest well tonight, Legs! At least the weekend is here!!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by floridaminnie
PW....sorry your date didn't go better...I say run away also since he isn't over the issue of believing females. Trust issues. Agree with TigerBear that once you meet your Prince it'll be worth it. It's just finding him that's a big pain in the rear.

Thanks, Suzanne! Finding him certainly is a pain. It should be easier than this.