OK, so who's right?

[Beth76]

DH had a crummy day at work. I had planned to take my older son to the mall after dinner to get some shoes and get a slice of cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory. So I ask DH if a peice of cheesecake would make him feel better. He says, "no it would just make me fat." So I say, "What about an apple dumpling?" (he commented on those last time we were there). Again, he says, "no that would make me fat." OK.

So DS and I go to the mall, get the shoes and pick out a slice of cheesecake. We brought it home to eat. DH sees it and gets mad because I didn't get any for him! He claims that since I didn't specifically say I was getting cheesecake that his "no" from before isn't valid. That I should have gotten him cheesecake anyway since I got some. I say that since he said "no" twice I was well within my right not to purchase any for him.

I did give him a couple of bites of my cheesecake, BTW.

 

[flaps]

OK, so who's right?

I'm not OK, but...

No, Who's on first.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Sounds like he was doing some game playing. I thought that women were the ones famous for doing that.

I don't think he has a reason to be mad since you did ask him. In hindsight, knowing that he'd had a rough day, maybe you could have called him before buying the piece of cheesecake to make sure he hadn't changed his mind about it. But I don't think he has grounds to be mad about it.

 

[DISUNC]

He is right!!!! When it comes to cheesecake "NO" means "YES"!

 

[Dan Murphy]

I though only you ladies do that kind of stuff with the word 'no' really meaning 'yes'.

 

[mytwotinks]

This is the final proof I have been waiting for! I've been telling my dh for years that men are way bigger babies than women!!!!!!!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

And men say we're confusing

I think you're in the right here. You asked him if he wanted cheesecake AND the apple dumpling thing and he said no.

So what's the problem

 

[azgal81]

I probably would have gotten him a piece anywayse and if he didn't want it ooo well more for me!

 

[raammartin]

Beth, I'm on your side.

Men!

 

[Aidensmom]

This is the final proof I have been waiting for! I've been telling my dh for years that men are way bigger babies than women!!!!!!!

You needed proof? I thought that was a well known fact.

Beth, I'd have done the same thing. And when DH complained, I would have told him he knows how to get to the mall. I'm not a fan of the game playing stuff. My DH has learned not to do it.

 

[flaps]

I though only you ladies do that kind of stuff with the word 'no' really meaning 'yes'.

-- I know when a woman says, "No," she really means, "Yes".
-- Yes!
-- What do you mean, "No"?!

 

[poohandwendy]

I would have told him, "Sorry, I didn't want to make you feel fat"

I'm not a fan of the game playing stuff

Me neither, my motto is:

Say what you mean and mean what you say...or you lose whatever game you are playing alone.

 

[flaps]

Say what you mean and mean what you say...or you lose whatever game you are playing alone.

Dang! Just lost another game of Solitaire!

 

[momrek06]

OP: It is NOT about the "cheesecake"....it is about his lousy day at work!!

Yup, he came home feeling bad about a crummy day and NOTHING would make him feel better. Maybe a nap or a new day.....but then you walk in with the cheesecake and you did not get him a slice after he said NO....it felt it was his "turn" to be the angry one....(I am thinking someone was angry at work)....

Now OP, what if you HAD brought him home a slice....having had a BAD day, his comment would have been "I told you I didn't want any, do you want me to get fat?" I think this is one of those NO WIN SITUATIONS!!! People are allowed to feel like this from time to time, as long as it is NOT forever!! I think everyone needs to get some sleep and start all over again tomorrow!!!

 

[Beth76]

Thanks for the responses everyone. Glad to see most of you agreed with me. Although, it's true, I probably should have called him when I was there to make sure. I'll have to think of something to make it up to him.

 

[disykat]

You are 100% right. You asked if if he wanted cheesecake. He said no.

 

[FreshTressa]

He is right!!!! When it comes to cheesecake "NO" means "YES"!

Yup! :nod:

 

[miss missy]

Been there and when he says no, fine no it is... but he didn't get mad after... a bad day is a bad day.. not your fault. Dont play is all, just dont give it any attention is my advice.

 

[Marseeya]

My husband does that to me all the time! "Do you want me to bring you back anything?"

"No, I feel fat." (BTW, isn't that something we women say?)

- later -

"Why didn't you get me anything?"

 

[Quinn222]

You're right. You asked him, twice, if he wanted something and he refused both times.