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[BabyPiglet]

I really don't know your situation but I have some advice.

13 year olds defantly are not ready for a child, as they are still young kids themselves. They are not mature or emotionally ready. Does she realize how hard a pregnancy is? Especially at her young age? Now, I'm not saying she should get an abortioon, but maybe she should think about adoption. Their are plenty of mature families out there ready to take in a baby.

The doctor should have been able to give her a defanite answer, I don't know what's up with that. She also needs to go tell her mother now!

 

[StephaBabe50]

I really don't know your situation but I have some advice.

13 year olds defantly are not ready for a child, as they are still young kids themselves. They are not mature or emotionally ready. Does she realize how hard a pregnancy is? Especially at her young age? Now, I'm not saying she should get an abortioon, but maybe she should think about adoption. Their are plenty of mature families out there ready to take in a baby.

The doctor should have been able to give her a defanite answer, I don't know what's up with that. She also needs to go tell her mother now!

I agree that adoption is probably the best idea...

 

[BandGeek911]

She needs to get a definate answer. What's up with that doctor? Could she see a better doctor?

And if she is pregnant, she needs to tell her mother now. Her mom will find out evenutally, she can't hide a baby. And her mother is most likely going to notice the weight gain. She should just tell her parents now.

Adoption is a better idea than abortion IMO.


I'm sorry, prayers and pixie dust to her.
This must be a difficult situation for her.


13 years old is way to young for giving birth

 

[RrCoAsTeR]

Um. wow. Like a year ago? So like, 12?

Sorry. Just getting over that.

I agree with what most posters are saying. I think her parents would probably be more upset to find out later on, when there is less time to make desicions...

but... why not buy a cheap pregnancy test or two with her sister, and see how that goes before jumping to conclusions.

And if it turns out she is preg, and her parents aren't willing to take the child as their own, then IMO, adoption is the best route. If you go over to the CB and just cruise through, you can see numerous stable adult couples wjo would really like to have children and are unable.

This is JMO.

 

[RrCoAsTeR]

The doctor should have been able to give her a defanite answer, I don't know what's up with that. She also needs to go tell her mother now!

Yeah...

maybe, since they are both minors or something the doctor can't?

 

[DisGirlAllie]

wow just wow! I do not know what in the world abortions are but i will find out tomorrow in FLE. Trust me nobody at school likes FLE. Anyway about your friend she should tell her parents because sooner or later they'll find out.

 

[Gaius]

Tip off the parents of the father.

Screw him over a bit.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

Question for you and everyone else who's posted on this thread.

How do we know she's not making this up?




Anyways, If she IS pregnant, like others said, she needs to tell her mom. No ifs ands ors or buts about it. Her parents need to know the situation. And if she isn't pregnant, she should still tell her mom because if it was unprotected sex, then she could have gotten a disease. Either way, help her tell her mom to get her tested for sure. And if it is a false alarm, tell her to not consider sex until marrige............

 

[Sparx]

Question for you and everyone else who's posted on this thread.

How do we know she's not making this up?




Anyways, If she IS pregnant, like others said, she needs to tell her mom. No ifs ands ors or buts about it. Her parents need to know the situation. And if she isn't pregnant, she should still tell her mom because if it was unprotected sex, then she could have gotten a disease. Either way, help her tell her mom to get her tested for sure. And if it is a false alarm, tell her to not consider sex until marrige............

How do we know that ANY of us aren't making ANYTHING up?

 

[VolleyballQt07]

How do we know that ANY of us aren't making ANYTHING up?

true. but it was just a question............i mean, she could be lying or telling the truth. we'll never know.

 

[PrincessKally]

true. but it was just a question............i mean, she could be lying or telling the truth. we'll never know.

That was my intial reaction, how do we know its the truth, we don't so I just gave my advice as if it was. You can't ever be to sure if something is real or not via the internet.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

That was my intial reaction, how do we know its the truth, we don't so I just gave my advice as if it was. You can't ever be to sure if something is real or not via the internet.

i agree.

But, if it is a real situation..............Prayers and Pixie Dust to the girl and hope that everything will be ok.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm sure people lie on here all the time. But I'll never know for sure, so I just give my suggestions.

 

[CrazyChik]

true. but it was just a question............i mean, she could be lying or telling the truth. we'll never know.

we won't know but her friend will if abortion is ouuta the question and she is pregnant it's very very very likely for her to develop a bump. it's NOT certain as a few people have had pregancies and not known it coz the baby was somewhere towards the back or something and it never created a bump i cant remember now but thats vey very very rare.


anyways i'm 13. no way could i have a baby right now. no 13 year old is emotionally prepared for it and it will get in the way of schoolwork.

adoption is a good option. some ways even allow you to chose the parents(not sure if you have to be a certain age) but still it's going to be really hard to carry a baby for 9 months give birth to it and let it go. nothing can prepare you for that. specially not at 13

 

[Mickey1122]

How do we know that ANY of us aren't making ANYTHING up?

Well, we can always ask that question, but I think that for the most part, I trust the more active posters on here. They have built up credibility during the time I have known them. I haven't gotten to know the OP, so at this point she has no credibility, unlike posters like you.

 

[Sparx]

Well, we can always ask that question, but I think that for the most part, I trust the more active posters on here. They have built up credibility during the time I have known them. I haven't gotten to know the OP, so at this point she has no credibility, unlike posters like you.

I don't have the time or energy to keep up with lying to you all.

None of you know me, few of you speak to me off the TB. why would I lie?

I don't understand why anyone else would.

 

[Mickey1122]

We were talking about how that kind of "lie" relates to the American Dream and The Great Gatsby. Here, you can exaggerate or change facts to essentially make yourself a new, different person. It's like a fantasy. We have that opportunity here, and when we first go to college. That could be a reason, but I really don't know. I started posting on the trip planning boards when I joined, and there's no point in lying there, so I just continue being honest. Still, there's a HUGE difference between honest and open. For example, I try to tell the truth, but I won't spill my life story on the dis.

 

[Sparx]

We were talking about how that kind of "lie" relates to the American Dream and The Great Gatsby. Here, you can exaggerate or change facts to essentially make yourself a new, different person. It's like a fantasy. We have that opportunity here, and when we first go to college. That could be a reason, but I really don't know. I started posting on the trip planning boards when I joined, and there's no point in lying there, so I just continue being honest. Still, there's a HUGE difference between honest and open. For example, I try to tell the truth, but I won't spill my life story on the dis.

If someone asks, I'll tell. If its relavent, even if I'd rather not share it, I'll tell. I'm an open book. Most of my life has been normal. but I'm more than willing to share the parts that haven't. I've done it several times here.

 

[BabyPiglet]

If someone asks, I'll tell. If its relavent, even if I'd rather not share it, I'll tell. I'm an open book. Most of my life has been normal. but I'm more than willing to share the parts that haven't. I've done it several times here.

*nods head in agreement*

 

[AllyGirlie]

Sure it's easy to say get a pregnancy test and be positive she is before going to her parents. But have you put in any thought about what happens if the pregnancy comes back negative? My guess is she'll put this incident in the past, never breathe a word of it to her parents and possibly go right back to doing what she's been doing (although I hope she learns from this and thinks twice).

In my opinion she needs to tell her parents now regardless of whether she's sure or not because the longer she puts this off, the worse it'll be. I'm sure her parents will be furious, but most likely after the shock wears off they'll sit down with her and have a serious talk about what to do.


So much for keeping this a secret now that its posted on a forum where thousands of people can view this. Also the OP posted on this thread using her mom's account by accident meaning that most likely her mom now has a link to this..