Oh Baby!

[BabyPiglet]

It's shocking to hear that it happens so much at your school. It has never happened here.

I think my town is similiar to yours Andrew. I have only heard of one girl ever that got pregnant in high school. She quit school and I never heard about her again.

 

[AmoDolphin]

My opinion:
When she was having sex she was saying that she was ready to be a parent with that dude. Even if she wasn't planning on getting pregnent, that's what she was saying. If she is pregnant, then she should live with the consequence, and have and keep the baby.
Abortion to me is murder, and I don't think adoption is great either for teen mothers. Doesn't anybody watch Cold Case? The post-abortion/adoption depression can kill you because you're so depressed. As the baby grows, most (I'm not saying all), mothers grow to love their child. It's just motherly instinct. I know there are mothers who had sex at 13, and never loved their child/abused them, but I think she should keep the baby. I think the baby will grow on her (no pun intended).
The girl may be better off if she just leaves that house, even if she isn't pregnant. Does she have a grandparent that she could stay with? What about a close friend / other family member? With a step dad who would beat her if she were pregnant, then he could abuse her if she wasn't pregnant, too.

 

[CastawayJ]

no matter what

this is not good for her

 

[Maleficent909TL]

Before I offer any advice that might pop into my head, what's the current situation? Has she taken any pregnancy tests or anything? What has she done so far?

Now that that question is out of the way, if she hasn't taken a pregnancy test, she needs to. Knowing if she's pregnant or not will make a huge difference in the important desicions she going to have to make. Regardless, I think she should tell her parents. They have a right to know what goes on in her life, especially something this important.

As for whether she should have abortion, put it up for adoption, etc., I think that's really up to her. No one else can tell her what she should do. She made the desicion to have sex at such a young age, and she should have been ready to deal with the consequences. I don't want to sound harsh, but there's so much to think about. What if the baby she has is adopted out to a family that doesn't care for it? That's just another child suffering from abuse. It could become another subject to abortion. I just don't like the carelessness invovled in such an act.

But really, I think she should tell her parents. The rest is up to her.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

I'm starting to think this isn't real because the OP hasn't posted anything for a couple weeks on here.

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

If she is pregnant, there is no use in crying over spilled milk,

I believe I understand what you're trying to say here but this is WAY more than a "spilled milk" situation.

 

[Loves Disney]

I believe I understand what you're trying to say here but this is WAY more than a "spilled milk" situation.

I know it is, I used that expression in the context I had. That he should not sit there and abuse her and force it in her face that she is a bad person for doing what she did and going over what she did. She knows what she did and she probably feels very very bad about it. She doesn't need a close person to tell her what she knows and how she feels...what she needs is a shoulder to cry on and someone who will help and support her.

 

[_tinkerbell_]

?Why do people say she won't cope? Because for goodness sakes she is still a child. Barely a teenager. Why should she have to plan her life around a child. I have a free and open fututre. At this point I can do whatever I want. Even if she did have an abortion, her soul would be scarred for life. She will never be the same. You're acting like it's no big deal!?! She might have a baby growing inside of her, when she is just a baby.

I reccomend putting it up for adoption.

Thats the problem with people today! ooo your pregnant lets just abort it because i think you cant cope....why should she have to cope? because she made the huge mistake..i didnt say it wasnt a big deal did i? even if she has the baby and then puts it up for adoption..think about all the women around the world who pay a lkot of money over and over again that would die for a child and people just go around getting rid of them! yeah shes a baby but all i was trying to say that it can work not that it will...abortions are getting so regular these days as if its not really a life, quite upsetting how people think really.

 

[tigger/winnie/tink]

is she prgnent its two months later????????????????????

 

[_tinkerbell_]

yeah sorry, how is she?

 

[Mickey1122]

I think this situation has been dealt with. I think early in the thread, she posted as her mother by accident. Call me the DIS tattletale, but the intelligent thing to do was to get a parent involved..in all honesty, what good are a bunch of teenagers who live miles and miles away preaching their opinions on pregnancy and what should be done with it. I contacted the parent.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

You did the right thing, Andrew. Considering the seriousness of the situation, you're no tattletale.

 

[DarlingDonald]

That was the right thing to do Andrew.

 

[StephaBabe50]

I agree, that was the right
thing to do. I am curious
though, what ever happened
to the girl?

 

[Mickey1122]

I don't know what happened. I contacted the mother when this situation first cropped up.

 

[DarlingDonald]

Thats good. But, I still would like to know how things are.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

That's sad! I knew a girl who had a baby at 14.

I would tell her to talk to her parents and her doctor to find out if it is true! Even though it'll be hard, it has to be done.

 

[McBritIsBack]

Yes I'm glad an adult knows about the situation now

 

[BabyPiglet]

Are we going to start this whole thing over again?

 

[Tinky89]

Gosh, I am going to be 18 on July 7th and I am still not ready to have a baby. It is not that I don't love kids(which I really do) it is because when I have a child of my own I want to be able to provide for that child the best I can. Even at the age that I am about to turn I am no where near that. I hope to get through college and then start thinking about marriage and having a baby.