Thank you so much for responding. We've been having serious issues for about a year now. We've had appointments with a pediatric psychologist who chalks it up to "this is normal and kids can be defiant". That I understand......I was a preschool teacher and feel like I have seen it all........but not this. It's hard for me to talk about because, well it just hurts. I find us not going out to restaurants anymore, out shopping and I avoid playdates at all cost simply because of the behavior. His preschool has been WONDERFUL with trying to help us find a solution to the behavior. It wasn't until yesterday when I picked him up that his teacher had asked me if I had heard of ODD. I had never heard of it........I looked it up and it is SO my son. Every single symptom. I'm going to call his pediatrician and hopefully FINALLY after a year of no progress go down another route. I am so sad and just don't know what to do.
We just got back last week from
Disneyland and it was a rough trip. Not the trip I thought it would be. Don't get me wrong..there were great moments. But also I was in silent tears for a lot of it. I almost postponed it because I was afraid this would happen.
You're welcome. I am very sorry to hear your trip was not as exciting as you hoped it would be. I am no stranger to silent tears and my throat hurting so bad from trying to stuff it down and not coming out as a loud whail.
I've had to lock my bedroom doors and take deep breaths to not pass out from the intense anger, when my chest would just sink in upon every breathe I drew because I was seething. I've had to leave work to come home to stop him from antagonizing my 16 y/o until my husband came home. They're alone for alone an hour a day. I had to come home early from a weekend away with my husband to relieve the family member he wasn't behaving for. I've had to endure looks of disgust while dealing with him, I've had a stranger tell me to get my hands off my kid, because what they didn't know is that my son jumped out of my car while we were battling at a stop light and when I got him I wasn't letting him go, nor was I being *gentle* about it getting him back in the car while people were gawking and beeping for me to move my car. I've had to apologize for him pushing his way past someone, letting the door go in their face, etc...but at the movie theater, he's great
He takes any small appliance, remote control, nail clippers, massagers, alarm clocks, radio control cars, or batter charged anything - apart. Most get put back together, most have to be thrown away in pieces. We've resorted to hiding things from him, but he always finds them. If he's interested, he'll be the greatest kid and he's extremely bright and will amaze us with his problem solving and great ideas - but if he doesn't want to do something, we brace ourselves for the fall out and my 16 y/o is really affected by this lately. It's never an easy day around here, I have learned to pick some battles and ignore others, but he is very challenging and trying for the sake of doing so - because he wants to. I won't even bother mentioning how it's affected our relationship with my SIL because of him.
He's been eval'd by the Special Ed teacher who finds him very capable. We're not done other testing yet, but I know we're headed for the ADD diagnosis once this is all done, I'm sure of it.
These kids are not easy to be around at times, but they are ours and because we love them, we perservere. The best thing we can do for them is get them the necessary help - though it took me too many years of thinking of many excuses as to why these behaviors were arising - these boards helped me realize that I am not a bad parent, I just have a child who needs professional help and that's ok. Many of us are have been there and we are here for you and everyone else when you need us.