NYE Western Cruise 2008 - New Thread

[disneykelly73]

Thank you both!! very much.

It is hard, and while I was extremely sad the first two times, I think I am more angry this time. Still sad, but really more angry. I had asked them (the dr's) awhile ago if there were any tests they could run to see if there was a problem. I was assured this happens to women often (miscarriages) that they are a common thing and most women have them before they even realize they are pregnant, YADA YADA... Now that there has been another and they are all so close together, they are going to look in to it.

I have done WW before and had success w/losing weight. I will be walking regularly now, to add exercise into my routine. I have a gf at work that is a personal trainer part time.. and is willing to take me w/her on our lunch break to her gym to get me started.

I am currently in a 18.. I was in a 12/14 when this all started. I just want to get back to 12. A 10 would be nice, but I dont want to push it.

 

[tiggerwannabe]

Isn't it a shame when we have to teach the doctors

I say shame because they learn at our expense~
then they say oops, maybe we should try it your way...
(insert forehead slapping smiley here)

I have done WW before and had success w/losing weight. I will be walking regularly now, to add exercise into my routine. I have a gf at work that is a personal trainer part time.. and is willing to take me w/her on our lunch break to her gym to get me started.

That should really help!

Having an exercise buddy - esp one that's a trainer - is awesome~

You have a really good attitude about things as well, you seem like a very strong woman and I think you'll do quite well once you get into a regimine.

 

[disneykelly73]

I kept asking after the last one and was told, dont worry, we know that you can get pregnant.. Yeah.. I didnt find that a reason to celebrate.. A reason to celebrate was you got pregnant and will HAVE the baby.

I am not as strong as I sound over email. I keep breaking down from time to time. I find that if I am swamped w/something to do, I dont dwell on it. I have been trying to keep busy. They scheduled the surgery for a week from today. The officially declared it not viable yesterday, however, they told me last week that is what they suspected. That is why I knew last week I would def. still be going on the cruise. Otherwise, I would have been way past the 24 weeks.

I keep trying to find the silver lining.. I said to my dh, that means we are def. cruising over new years.. Also, we both know that my body is rejecting it for a reason, and that is its not healthy.

I really wish I were as strong as I try to portray!

 

[CustardTart]

I kept asking after the last one and was told, dont worry, we know that you can get pregnant.. Yeah.. I didnt find that a reason to celebrate.. A reason to celebrate was you got pregnant and will HAVE the baby.

I am not as strong as I sound over email. I keep breaking down from time to time. I find that if I am swamped w/something to do, I dont dwell on it. I have been trying to keep busy. They scheduled the surgery for a week from today. The officially declared it not viable yesterday, however, they told me last week that is what they suspected. That is why I knew last week I would def. still be going on the cruise. Otherwise, I would have been way past the 24 weeks.

I keep trying to find the silver lining.. I said to my dh, that means we are def. cruising over new years.. Also, we both know that my body is rejecting it for a reason, and that is its not healthy.

I really wish I were as strong as I try to portray!

Oh Kelly, that's so sad... Just take some time for you now - I know how the desire for a baby becomes all-consuming but you really need to give yourself a breather... I wish there was something I could say to help but...

 

[CustardTart]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EW0dXVHjGSw

This is the exercise routine I am doing now...

I will type up all the directions in english and come back and add it here...

(actually- if you turn it up enough you can still hear her - the russian is dubbed over her)

OMG!!! All those lunges and unsupported crunches!!!

Not for me, I'm afraid - dodgy knees, dodgy back... Cindy looks good tho'...

 

[tiggerwannabe]

Oh Kelly, that's so sad... Just take some time for you now - I know how the desire for a baby becomes all-consuming but you really need to give yourself a breather... I wish there was something I could say to help but...

Double Ditto!

You can be strong and still cry Kelly. Having that much emotion in you and not react is not healthy. We've all got big shoulders here, and big hearts...

OMG!!! All those lunges and unsupported crunches!!!

Not for me, I'm afraid - dodgy knees, dodgy back... Cindy looks good tho'...

She looks good cause that's from twenty years ago.

The knees I can understand, those lunges used to kill my knees but don't anymore. The pliee squats are perfect for the back of the legs and your back end if you do what she says and squeeze the tushy. The crunches I can do, it's the leg lifts that I am not quite to her level on. I figure as long as I do the exercises to my best ability it'll help alot more than doing absolutely nothing.

 

[artman]

We bought a new treadmill a few months ago and used it quite a bit. We had been running alternating nights, so we both did a couple of miles three night a week.

Unfortunately for me it keeps a running total of your miles travelled. I am around 40 miles and holding, Claudia is well over 100 and climbing. It was never intended to be a competition, but at any given time she can tell you exactly how many miles she is ahead of me . I briefly considered going downstairs with a bag of chips, turning on the TV and the treadmill, kicking back in the lay-z-boy and racking up some miles, would that be wrong?

I have never had an issue with weight, I exercise to prevent heart disease and other illness and to feel better. Claudia does it to in her words, "prevent the muffin top from expanding". She is doing very well and encouragement from me comes in the form of trying not to bring snacks to bed (I said trying ).

The only solice I can take in our little "non-competition" is that I can smoke her in a foot race at any given time. Otherwise she is kicking my butt.

 

[Anjelica]

Kelly - I am very sorry. I am amazed at your outlook your ability to cope - I admire that alot.

 

[tiggerwannabe]

We bought a new treadmill a few months ago and used it quite a bit. We had been running alternating nights, so we both did a couple of miles three night a week.

Unfortunately for me it keeps a running total of your miles travelled. I am around 40 miles and holding, Claudia is well over 100 and climbing. It was never intended to be a competition, but at any given time she can tell you exactly how many miles she is ahead of me . I briefly considered going downstairs with a bag of chips, turning on the TV and the treadmill, kicking back in the lay-z-boy and racking up some miles, would that be wrong? ummm, yeah

I have never had an issue with weight, I exercise to prevent heart disease and other illness and to feel better. Claudia does it to in her words, "prevent the muffin top from expanding". She is doing very well and encouragement from me comes in the form of trying not to bring snacks to bed (I said trying ).

The only solice I can take in our little "non-competition" is that I can smoke her in a foot race at any given time. Otherwise she is kicking my butt.

That's a great idea!

Funny thing is...that little competitive spirit could motivate most of us here!

John is always saying, let's exercise together - I have always bugged about getting a real treadmill. One that has built in routines and can tilt for uphill running. He's very competitive and could beat me in a footrace any given day...I could have the edge on this being home all day

Mel is competetive! He could probably get involved too! Aisling, I know you've got a credit card you've been dying to use. Kelly, a good competition could give you something different to focus on for a while and Nan, you can still eat your bon bons after you walk for a mile


it is possible to rack up the miles by walking -

 

[nskjerven]

Thank you both!! very much.

It is hard, and while I was extremely sad the first two times, I think I am more angry this time. Still sad, but really more angry. I had asked them (the dr's) awhile ago if there were any tests they could run to see if there was a problem. I was assured this happens to women often (miscarriages) that they are a common thing and most women have them before they even realize they are pregnant, YADA YADA... Now that there has been another and they are all so close together, they are going to look in to it.

I have done WW before and had success w/losing weight. I will be walking regularly now, to add exercise into my routine. I have a gf at work that is a personal trainer part time.. and is willing to take me w/her on our lunch break to her gym to get me started.

I am currently in a 18.. I was in a 12/14 when this all started. I just want to get back to 12. A 10 would be nice, but I dont want to push it.

Sorry to hear of the losses. I'm sad to hear that your doctor is not giving you support in this. Might be the right time to find a more supportive doctor. I think that line that many go thru this is phooey. Unless it's you then it really doesn't matter what someone else is going thru. I have a close friend that struggled alot. There are lots of things and ways to watch early stage to find out what is going on and then to prevent problems the next time. If you want an ear please know that we are here for you.

 

[nskjerven]

I kept asking after the last one and was told, dont worry, we know that you can get pregnant.. Yeah.. I didnt find that a reason to celebrate.. A reason to celebrate was you got pregnant and will HAVE the baby.

I am not as strong as I sound over email. I keep breaking down from time to time. I find that if I am swamped w/something to do, I dont dwell on it. I have been trying to keep busy. They scheduled the surgery for a week from today. The officially declared it not viable yesterday, however, they told me last week that is what they suspected. That is why I knew last week I would def. still be going on the cruise. Otherwise, I would have been way past the 24 weeks.

I keep trying to find the silver lining.. I said to my dh, that means we are def. cruising over new years.. Also, we both know that my body is rejecting it for a reason, and that is its not healthy.

I really wish I were as strong as I try to portray!

Kelly, again, this situtation you describe is just like my friend had. She could concieve but not carry. Lots of reasons for this, but some of them are a simple fix. You clearly after the 1st loss should have been considered for fertility support. Having you wait this out for a 3rd lost is just plain mean and uncalled for. I highly recommend you find a ob that supports fertility issues. Often times these practices are much more proactive in supporting issues as you walk in the door. Again, please pm me if you want to talk. I have 2 very close friends that walked this path and have a soft shoulder to listen with.

That's a great idea!

Funny thing is...that little competitive spirit could motivate most of us here!
and Nan, you can still eat your bon bons after you walk for a mile


it is possible to rack up the miles by walking -

Can't believe you told them

BTW, now it's beer, not bon-bons. It never was bon-bons.

I actually did well on my vaca, came home 6 pounds lighter ( I lose weight when we travel, as we eat better) then I lost 6 more being sick, but those have now come back. I need to drop 20, 30 would be fabulous.

Molly and I are going to look into a swimming plan at the rec center. Sad to say that Molly has really put on a huge amount of weight (for her) in the last year. She is almost 11 (1 month) and now in junior clothes. I figured she would be like me and stay a skinny mini until her 20's, but no luck. So to help her stop the trend we both have to do something. She also hates exercise. She never has been an athlete. Swimming and horses are the only thing she thinks are fun. The horses are too far away these days so swimming really is the right choice. Wish us luck.

 

[artman]

BTW, now it's beer, not bon-bons. It never was bon-bons.

To most of us Canadians, Light Beer is considered an extreme diet. But then you have to drink twice as much.

 

[disneykelly73]

Hey Nan... this is actually a fertility clinic that I go to... They monitor me the whole way, so I found out very early on that it wasnt progressing normally. I am not sure why she waited to run additional tests. I was thinking, man... they must be very invassive and painful and that is why they put them off. NOPE.. its bloodwork. the blood I have given them, its like there is a pipeline running from my arm into the tubes. Seriously... in all the times they tested my blood, they could have run some extra tests and had this information MONTHS ago.

I do hope they find its something treatable. In the event it is not, I have been looking into adoption. My dad's dad was adopted.. and so I dont think our family would put any stigmatizm on that.. Just worried that w/the s. kids that an adoption would not be as accepted as a birth would be.. Ya know?

Did your friend eventually have kids?

Kaz, I totally have decided this is the summer of me.. seeing as how its not working out right now. I am going to take back my "power" over my body and lose that weight I put on from having the pity party. I need to do something, I thought.. god.. if I put on weight from this miscarriage I am going to border on obese or morbidly so.

 

[Aisling]

I briefly considered going downstairs with a bag of chips, turning on the TV and the treadmill, kicking back in the lay-z-boy and racking up some miles, would that be wrong?

I LOVE that idea! Racking up some miles !


Kelly, I'm SO glad to hear you're going to have some tests done. Yes, miscarriages are very common, as I had one myself right before Jesse, and almost every woman I know has had one. But three in a row just isn't normal. There could be a blood factor incompatability going on that causes improper implantation, who knows, but the doctors really must step up and get to the root. Many, many causes are fixable. I wish you all the best wishes in the world.

Tig, oh my gawd, are you trying to kill me? Those exercises are murder! I think I'd rather get a big needle shoved in my ear cartliledge again than do those lunges!

It's a shame how I let myself go. I'm a size 16/18, but I'm short, and I probably look even bigger. If I could lose a solid 40 pounds, I'd be back in the "normal" range. About 5 years ago, Chad hit 210 lbs, and decided to do something about it. He low carbed and became more active, and lost 50 lbs over 6 months, and has kept it off all these years. Oh to have that motivation! My doctor swears that if I treadmill 45 minutes a day, the weight will drop off, as I'm not really a big eater. How about if I promise to treadmill today, will you ask me about it tonight? I promise I won't fib, and having to report to you all will keep me honest.

Mother is still here. She asked if she could stay another week, and I said fine. As much as I want her to go, I'd never ask her to leave unless she really asked for it. I can handle one more week.

I'm waiting to hear from Chad, as today he was supposed to have met with Brenda and Ryan for lunch. I have to wait until 5 PM because he's in class now and I can't phone him until he's out.

It's a beautiful day here in NYC, not hot, no humidity, sunny, just perfect.

Off to the the bank now. BBL!

 

[Aisling]

Mel is competetive! He could probably get involved too! Aisling, I know you've got a credit card you've been dying to use.

Just wanted to quickly add: Mel has a disease, a mental illness about being healthy. Just kidding about it being a disease, but to call him competitive is an understatement.

And yes, i love using my credit card, so since I already have a treadmill, I should get myself to Macy's today for a purty new handbag I'm dying for!

 

[artman]

I've spent some time on the Dreadmill

Are potato chips magnetic?

I threw this sappy one in because I really like kittys.

 

[disneykelly73]

Perhaps that purse could be a motivator for your weight loss.. Dont actually use it til you have lost 10lbs!!!

Then pick something else for the next 10.

I remember from WW that they suggest you pick clothes or some type of item that is NOT food related as a reward.

 

[disneykelly73]

artman, that kitty is ADORABLE.. I know that is how my kitties feel!!!

 

[artman]

We have a cat that looked exactly like that when she was a kitten. Now in keeping with todays theme, she struggles with a weight issue, and she is very sensitive about it.

 

[teacherbell]

Hey Everyone. It's been awhile, but Artman keeps me updated. He just let me out of my domestic cage long enough to check the boards Actually, school is ending and I had some medical stuff that was stressing me out (all checked out and fine) and I just couldn't get motivated to do anything more than hunt for chocolate like some kind of wild nocturnal animal. Which leads me into this diet business you have all been discussing. OMG what do you have to do to shed a few (20) pounds? I guess the large quantities of dark almond chocolate bars I have been eating isn't helpful, but really, this is hard. And it is actually not as helpful as Artman says, that he only comes to bed "sometimes" with snacks. I'm serious, this man eats crackers and cheese and chips like a madman and hasn't gained a pound in the 14 years I've known him. Sick!!

So, I am planning on chasing myself until Christmas on the "Dreadmill", in hopes that my butt will look nice in a dress and the cursed bathing suit. I think I might start a "Butt Diary" to keep track of it's progress. or lack there of.

Good luck to you all in your dieting efforts. Maybe we can be our own little weight watchers support group.
Claudia Robar - June 19 - Pounds lost - o
I'll keep you up dated!