Now I'm terrified

[nitmavis]

It's the night before we leave and I'm terrified that all my planning will go wrong. There have been a few snags with the planning and I'm trying really hard not to let those things get to me. We've already had a bad start with my mother going to the airport today instead of tomorrow! So I've already had my mother screaming at me that I told her the wrong day. I know I've told her a million times we are leaving on DD's bday Nov. 9th. We end our trip on Saturday, maybe that's where she got confused but still didn't she see the dates on the ticket?!

So we're off to a bad start and now I'm thinking "what if my mom hates Disney?" She's never been before. "What if my nephew won't go in any rides?" He's never been either. What if I've done all this planning and I end up crying in the bathroom like my neighbor did because her Disney plans were ruined a few years back? Trying really hard to feel the magic.

 

[Boo Bear]

Take a few deep breaths. Everything is going to be fine. Try not to get dizzy freaking about the "what-if's". You're going to Disney world tomorrow! If your mother hates Disney World than bah-humbug to her. It's not your problem, it's hers.

 

[DebbieB]

It's the night before we leave and I'm terrified that all my planning will go wrong. There have been a few snags with the planning and I'm trying really hard not to let those things get to me. We've already had a bad start with my mother going to the airport today instead of tomorrow! So I've already had my mother screaming at me that I told her the wrong day. I know I've told her a million times we are leaving on DD's bday Nov. 9th. We end our trip on Saturday, maybe that's where she got confused but still didn't she see the dates on the ticket?!

So we're off to a bad start and now I'm thinking "what if my mom hates Disney?" She's never been before. "What if my nephew won't go in any rides?" He's never been either. What if I've done all this planning and I end up crying in the bathroom like my neighbor did because her Disney plans were ruined a few years back? Trying really hard to feel the magic.

You can't be responsible for everyone else's good time. I have a friend who had a large family trip and was upset that everyone didn't want to do everything that she had planned. Everyone is different, let them do what they want to do.

 

[Rommie]

I was also terrified, but now that my airplane parts in less than 4 hours I'm a little less neurotic. Virgin Atlantic messed my itinerary duplicating a route so no online check in for me. Had to cancel a previous online check in from Lisbon to London because of this. I was pretty nervous (still am) that something will go wrong at the airport and I will slap someone (no messing with my dream trip I tell you!). But let's hope for the best.

 

[JeninTexas]

Take a few deep breaths. Everything is going to be fine. Try not to get dizzy freaking about the "what-if's". You're going to Disney world tomorrow! If your mother hates Disney World than bah-humbug to her. It's not your problem, it's hers.

This! You are not responsible for everyone else having a good time. And yes, you are right about the need for her to look at her own ticket before heading to the airport. I'm sure you will have a wonderful time. Good luck and relax!

 

[disneydude365]

im gonna tell you advice i need to take to heart

ok you've put in a lot of effort into this trip i know the feeling I've been doing all the work for my upcoming trip as well trying to book some fun surprises around a tetris time schedule, and choosing to play the Dinning reservation shuffle game on the way down to see what we can find to eat.
and I've worked on the magic bands, and dealing with ticket issue two we bought tester day the other two won't be received until day its used.. lol so I've been gripped out by my mom and stepdad that they don't get fast passes for HS and i tried to explain not really needed for that park compared to my and my friends trip to MK. that was stressful, also been stressing about photo pass, bringing my camera wanting to capture every memory and even for a crazy minute considered memory maker.

what I've learned: pause and realize your going to DISNEY WORLD!!! yay party party party and to top it off during the CHRISTMAS SEASON!!!

if things go a little wrong or someone doesn't seem to enjoy themselves try to find ways to help them, but don't let them ruin YOUR trip!

for your nephew talk up the rides explain the movies and stories that go along with the rides to help familiarize him with them. sorta give him what will happen if its a thrill ride but he will love the dark rides! like peter pan, and winnie the pooh

just relax and be flexible if something you planned dosent get done to freak let disney bring magic to you! trips work out so much better when you go with the flow

 

[Echo queen]

I will never go to disney with my parents.

I did meet up with them in Branson MO and had a great time.

 

[Networth]

Your going on vacation, life is too short to worry about who will be happy on YOUR vacation.

2 cents.

 

[Disneylover99]

Maybe your mom will hate Disney and maybe your nephew won't go on any rides.

Don't worry, just split up and meet up with them later. Let them find their own magic.

Have a great time!

 

[jerseygal]

PLANNING LARGE FAMILY vacations takes a lot of TIME AND ENERGY!

They should be GRATEFUL that you so carefully planned everything out!
That is "kind of is amazing"...Your Mom went to the airport on the WRONG DAY??? Don't know her age, but if she is in her 70's, 80's, 90's "can somewhat understand", but anything else..You planned EVERYTHING for her and she can't REMEMBER AND GET HERSELF to the airport on the RIGHT DAY?

If the vacation doesn't go as your relatives like, they should PLAN THEMSELVES NEXT TIME!

ENJOY yourself..Now it is time for some REWARD for all of the HARD WORK!

 

[kangaand2roos]

I'll give you the advice that was given to me when planning my wedding: Plan as much as you can ahead of time, but when the day (trip) comes, enjoy and roll with the punches. Anything that goes wrong will be a funny story later! Have a wonderful, wonderful trip!

 

[chelseabun76]

My sister planned our last group Disney trip, but she knew that we weren't the rope drop until after closing people that she was, and so she told me straight up that she was booking this and that, and if I wanted to join then let her know, otherwise she was fine going off on her own. Most of the trip we didn't even see her and her dd! LOL! She had their plans, we were just kind of winging it, aside from some adr's all together that she had made that we did think were awesome!

This is why I'm happy to never be going in a large group. Our trips are 3 people normally, and my mom is perfectly happy to be left to wander the shops and people watch and try out all of the snacks and goodies, while we race around and do whatever else we want.

Just try to relax, enjoy where you are going, and don't let the negative get to you. So much more positive to focus on. If you go in expecting the worst, you'll no doubt get it to some degree. Think positive.

 

[mdsouth]

Breathe a big breathe and just saw today I will arrive at Disney.

I hope all goes well for you. Like others have posted, your planning is done, No enjoy it.! Go with the flow when bumps wrinkle up your plan.

Pixie dust to you

 

[postjack]

I'll give you the advice that was given to me when planning my wedding: Plan as much as you can ahead of time, but when the day (trip) comes, enjoy and roll with the punches. Anything that goes wrong will be a funny story later! Have a wonderful, wonderful trip!

this is great advice. my family and I have been going to Disney for 20+ years, and whenever our plans go awry it becomes a story we laugh about and retell the story over and over.

I'm an insane planner, down to create hour by hour itineraries for our trips. But I've accepted that plans inevitably change, its the nature of Disney. Especially with young kids, sometimes they just want to swim at the pool, and they have an insane amount of fun doing so.

Enjoy yourself, enjoy your family, and roll with the punches! Every Disney vacation is an adventure.

 

[magicbob]

It's the night before we leave and I'm terrified that all my planning will go wrong. There have been a few snags with the planning and I'm trying really hard not to let those things get to me. We've already had a bad start with my mother going to the airport today instead of tomorrow! So I've already had my mother screaming at me that I told her the wrong day. I know I've told her a million times we are leaving on DD's bday Nov. 9th. We end our trip on Saturday, maybe that's where she got confused but still didn't she see the dates on the ticket?!

So we're off to a bad start and now I'm thinking "what if my mom hates Disney?" She's never been before. "What if my nephew won't go in any rides?" He's never been either. What if I've done all this planning and I end up crying in the bathroom like my neighbor did because her Disney plans were ruined a few years back? Trying really hard to feel the magic.

Look on the bright side... at least she showed up a day early and not a day late!

 

[larryz]

Look on the bright side... at least she showed up a day early and not a day late!

See, it's all a matter of perspective: plane half-empty, plane half-full kind of thing.

 

[Sherrkel]

In my opinion planning a trip to DW is more stressful than anywhere else . . . and some people just don't understand that. Sometimes you'll feel under appreciated and over worked (I've been there too).
Feeling responsible for other people's happiness (on a trip) is a big job . . . you obviously love going to Disney and want to share that special feeling of being there with those you love. But just remember, not everyone will "get it" like those of here on the Dis do . . and that's ok!! There are so many things to do at Disney . . .even though you have carefully laid out plans, if your mom or your nephew end up not enjoying themselves, be open to showing them other things (let your mom go wander the resort on her own, or sit by the pool). Don't forget to take some time for yourself while you are there . . .my favorite times are walking around the resort in the early morning with a cup of coffee.
I hope you enjoy your trip and have a wonderful time.

 

[fairy oma]

It's Ok if everyone does not have a good time...that is on them and not you. If someone is acting out, smile sweetly and go have a good time on your own. Remember...even the worst day at WDW is better than being at work.

Have a great time!!

 

[PlutoTheDog89]

Disney planning is a lot like a fantasy football draft...

You study and plan.... and then your player gets taken and throws a wrench in your plans!

It can't be perfect. I plan too - I'm a crazy Type A that gets made fun of by my family. I make itineraries and everything. This year, we have another family going with us. They put me in charge of setting up their FP+s, etc. They're paying me in Dole Whips..

I want to make it perfect. They're coming over Thanksgiving weekend and my parents told me not to overwhelm them with planning (and i think they forewarned them)

It is what it is.. You can only plan so much.. It's all about how you adapt. You're in Disney.. on vacation.. enjoy it! Stop and smell the cinnamon rolls/popcorn/candied nuts.

 

[Ametista]

I won't go anywhere with my mom unless her friend comes. That way they can move around at their own speed, meet up with us when possible, etc but we can still have fun. They can putz around and have meals at Chef Mickeys with us or whatever, but definitely no "lets do a full day at MK" with her because that would be impossible and ruin everybody's trip. For future reference. We are going to Europe with Mom and Friend this summer and it will be great because they split off and have a great time by themselves.

I hope she doesn't scream at you any more. My Grandma was like that and it was no fun. I hope you are having a good trip!