Not happy, what should I do???

[Kimberle]

Have you explained how BIG the CSR resort is? Maybe if you print out a map and tell him that WDW does not guarentee room locations and you might get a room in the far end of the resort. Further explain how difficult it would be to get to the pools, food court, etc. with your children.

Someone here has a very nice CSR web site. I think there was a map. (The resort does look lovely, but the thought of a long walk through the resort after a day at the parks is not appealing to me.)

 

[eeyore45]

I agree with the others, (about stretching the truth!!) but, I was wondering one thing...

IF you stayed at the Poly are you booking 2 rooms? Or just the one?

When you make the reservations, if you are booking the 2 rooms in your name, that is when I would apply the down payment to his room, then when he transfers it to his name, he would only owe a certain amount (that would equal his comfort level of paying) I dont know if the CM's would "out" you tho!

I'm saying its worth it to stay at the Poly!!

 

[GoofyDisney]

If at first you don't succeed....LIE LIE LIE.

We have stayed at both places. We have dealt with family issues. For what you are paying to go to WDW anyway, don't stay where you don't want to stay. The POLY is magical at the holidays.

And seriously, when it comes to family/friends and WDW...all is fair in love and war.

I would fight for this one, and pick something else that is less important to you to give in on. Or just let him stay somewhere else. He can be happy/pooty at either resort.

Good luck!

 

[bytheblood]

He doesn't want to pay for it, and he won't let you pay for it?

Personally I would have your DH tell FIL that you were looking forward to staying there and if he doesn't want to pay for it you will but you don't want to change your plans.

IMHO he shouldn't dictate where your whole family stays, but if he isn't willing to budgeyou might have to compromise.

Did you explain how much closer the poly is to the MK etc? for my grandmother and even my parents proximity can be worth extra money.

I totally agree.

1. He goes and pays where he wants to stay. (mod)
2. He stay with you at the Poly and allow you to pay for it.
3. He stay with you at the Poly and he pay for a mod and you pay the difference.

He cannot come into your vacation and dictate where you stay and make you change your plans. That is irrational and very inconsiderate.

My in-laws are coming, we are staying at the French Quarter. If they did not want to stay there, they could go stay at the AllStars while we are enjoying the FQ. EOS!!!

 

[bytheblood]

If at first you don't succeed....LIE LIE LIE.

That is terrible advice. I hope you were kidding.

 

[GoofyDisney]

Ummmmm...sure, I was kidding. I would never recommend that people lie.


(Forget what I just said, personally I would go with "There was a massive snow storm, and the roads to the MOD are impassible. So, guess you are going to have to stay at the POLY. Luckily, I had already pre-booked a room in your name, just in case of inclement weather.)

 

[NYDisneyMom]

Ohhhhhhh...I know, I know!!! Let's fix up your FIL with the other poster's MIL!!!

Just kidding!

 

[dizluvr71]

I don't recommend lying. Be honest with him, as it seems you have been so far. Make sure that you are communicating your feelings to him, not DH doing it for you. And maybe let him know how much you appreciate that he is willing to come and help with the kids and as a sign of your appreciation let you pay for his room or the difference. If in the end you don't succeed, remember it isn't the end of the world. Sometimes the end result isn't always as bad as it will seem. I know it's probably not convenient, however would it really be awful if you were located at two separate resorts??

 

[erinz]

I feel so bad for you! My suggestion is one (or both) of two things.

Tell him you got an outrageous price for the Poly. Make up some kind of code....but have the price end up barely more than any of the moderates.

Or, tell him the cheerleaders will be at WDW during that time (I can't remember when you are going, but just say that they'll be there) and that they will spilling over into some of the moderates (but you don't know which ones) and explain how totally chaotic that can be.

Good Luck!!!!

 

[skiingwife]

If your FIL were the one planning the trip and paying for all of you, then yes, I would go with his choice of hotel. But if you had planned this trip for your family, and now he's inviting himself along, then he either needs to stay at the hotel you had originally planned or just not go. I would never let my MIL change our plans. Good luck.

 

[Banshee]

Or, tell him the cheerleaders will be at WDW during that time (I can't remember when you are going, but just say that they'll be there) and that they will spilling over into some of the moderates (but you don't know which ones) and explain how totally chaotic that can be.

Good Luck!!!!

HA beign a newly single man I think he would enjoy that!!! Thank you all for the advice but I am just going to put my foot down with him. He is the type of person that is used to getting his way,(one of the reasons he is divorced after 40 years!!) But its not gonna happen this time I have been cleaning my house and thinking more and more how I want to go to a deluxe and thats that!!! I almost cant wait to see him this weekend!! Thanks everyone I will let you all know what happened.

 

[Banshee]

Ohhhhhhh...I know, I know!!! Let's fix up your FIL with the other poster's MIL!!!

Just kidding!

That is a great idea!!

 

[njchris]

Ohhhhhhh...I know, I know!!! Let's fix up your FIL with the other poster's MIL!!!

Just kidding!

hehe now that would be just mean and cruel to the FIL!!!

 

[njchris]

Thank you all for the advice but I am just going to put my foot down with him. He is the type of person that is used to getting his way,(one of the reasons he is divorced after 40 years!!) But its not gonna happen this time I have been cleaning my house and thinking more and more how I want to go to a deluxe and thats that!!! I almost cant wait to see him this weekend!! Thanks everyone I will let you all know what happened.

Oh no, I can't wait until the weekend!!! Call him now so we can all find out sooner. hehe Just kidding. Good Luck!!

 

[debbiedoo]

Ohhhhhhh...I know, I know!!! Let's fix up your FIL with the other poster's MIL!!!

Just kidding!

If your you were refering ti mine. . . . .that was my FIL!!!! Not MIL!!!!(they have been divorced for about 30 year and I would not be be that mean to anyone)

 

[njchris]

If your you were refering ti mine. . . . .that was my FIL!!!! Not MIL!!!!(they have been divorced for about 30 year and I would not be be that mean to anyone)

I think they were talking about the MIL that wanted to share a room with her daughter for part of her honeymoon.

 

[jenjersnap]

We have it almost all planned for our Christmas 2005 trip. We planned on staying at the Poly, and having a great time. Now my FIL is coming with us he does not want to pay for a room at the Poly. My DH doesnt want him to be at a different resort while we are at the Poly. We would pay for his room but he wont hear of it! He wants us to stay at a mod. in connecting rooms. I have nothing against mod. resorts they are great we stayed at CBR our last trip,and really enjoyed it. I was REALLY looking forward to staying at the Poly, and trying something different. I dont know what to do!!!!!!!

My mother pulled this exact thing on our trip in December! She opted - despite our pleas and offer to pay for her room - to stay at Pop. I was not about to change our special vacation that I had planned to the nth degree (that probably makes me sound selfish but there is MUCH more to the story, including the fact that she decided FINALLY to come 5 days before we left). And she was miserable being so far from her grandchildren. Would I change how I handled it? No, except that I might, as a PP said, lie about room availability at the mods or just lay it on the line as in "Hey Dad, staying at the Poly is our special treat to ourselves, please join us as a special treat to YOU. These are our plans and we really want you to join us, but we are not switching." (OF course, that didn't work for us, but more reasonable people might get it - hope your FIL falls int the "reasonable" category!)

Good luck!

 

[A4Disney]

We have it almost all planned for our Christmas 2005 trip. We planned on staying at the Poly, and having a great time. Now my FIL is coming with us he does not want to pay for a room at the Poly. My DH doesnt want him to be at a different resort while we are at the Poly. We would pay for his room but he wont hear of it! He wants us to stay at a mod. in connecting rooms. I have nothing against mod. resorts they are great we stayed at CBR our last trip,and really enjoyed it. I was REALLY looking forward to staying at the Poly, and trying something different. I dont know what to do!!!!!!!

I would never do the connecting room with relatives thing(unless it was my own young kids)I really hope you can stand your ground without causing too much strife...good luck!

 

[debbiedoo]

I think they were talking about the MIL that wanted to share a room with her daughter for part of her honeymoon.

yes I remember that thread!! boy!! I do not think that we need to wish that on anyone!! YIKES!!

 

[shatzjsl]

How long are you staying? Can you compromise? Certain number of days at the Poly that you pay for and certain number of days at a mod that he pays for?