Nosy neighbors

[polkadotsuitcase]

I agree, it really bothers me, but DH just ignores him. DH will usually text him back some sarcastic like "oh great, another party I'm not invited to" or "hope the girls don't go through my underwear drawer AGAIN!"

Good for him! Maybe the guy will take the hint. That would drive me bananas.

 

[DisneySaver28]

To me that is asking the same question in a different way.

The pp's neighbor who texted the out of town DH is WAY over the line. But asking if the strange car in your driveway should be there or not? Not something I'd do, but I don't think I'd be offended either.

The difference is that, I'm assuming, the PP's neighbor called her on her home phone. She knew that she was in the house and not out-of-town.

 

[anniemae]

We have an retired couple in our neighborhood and they know EVERYTHING about EVERYONE. It's crazy, if I happen to see them outside and we start chatting, they go down the list of what is happening with everyone, half the people I don't even know. She will be like, "Oh, the Smiths just had a new septic put in and it cost them $10,000, and the andersons are putting their house up for sale, and jenny's son fell off a chair and had to go to the ER....." I'm thinking to myself, how the heck do you know this???? I told my husband they probably have listening devices in everyones house

It doesn't bother me, they are very kind people, I just make sure I don't tell them anything I don't want repeated!

 

[dicar123]

Oh dh just got us lumped in with the nosy neighbors group! Two of my neighbors have been feuding for months. Neighbor A is convinced that neighbor B called the cops and reported her daughter's car for blocking the sidewalk. The car was ticketed.

In A's defense, B has got code enforcement on speed dial and doesn't hesitate to call about overgrown lawns. B will, if she is aware of a difficult situation (broken leg, kid in the hospital), go ahead and just mow lawns that bother her. She's done mine on occasion.

So, neighbor A was outside with her 2 year old grandson and had been yelling at him for this or that for HOURS. Dh was outside chatting with neighbor B as she sealed her driveway. Neighbor A went on a particularly loud rant at the kid, so dh walked out in the street to see what the heck the kid could possibly be doing.

The rant immediately turned into how nosy the frikkin' neighbors are! So, now neighbor A, anytime she walks outside will loudly announce, "I'm checking my mail, if anyone is interested." "I'm going to the store for toilet paper, just so you know!"

Good times...

 

[RitaZ.]

We have an retired couple in our neighborhood and they know EVERYTHING about EVERYONE. It's crazy, if I happen to see them outside and we start chatting, they go down the list of what is happening with everyone, half the people I don't even know. She will be like, "Oh, the Smiths just had a new septic put in and it cost them $10,000, and the andersons are putting their house up for sale, and jenny's son fell off a chair and had to go to the ER....." I'm thinking to myself, how the heck do you know this???? I told my husband they probably have listening devices in everyones house

It doesn't bother me, they are very kind people, I just make sure I don't tell them anything I don't want repeated!

That's how it is with her and her husband. The funny thing is that when we have company over, she doesn't call to inquire about the strange cars.

One time she saw a large moving truck pull up across the street from our house. She called me and wanted to know if the neighbors were moving. Another neighbor was in the process of choosing paint colors for the exterior of their house. The paint choices were painted in large sections on the garage door. When she saw the colors, she went over and told the neighbor to reconsider the colors. Another neighbor placed a statue of a gargoyle in his garden. She called me to tell me about the statue of "the devil". I explained to her what it was.

She knows when I'm home. If I don't answer when she calls, she will say, "Rita, pick up." I think she is lonely and doesn't have anyone to listen to her. I'm polite to her and that's probably the reason she continues to call me.

 

[RitaZ.]

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In A's defense, B has got code enforcement on speed dial and doesn't hesitate to call about overgrown lawns. B will, if she is aware of a difficult situation (broken leg, kid in the hospital), go ahead and just mow lawns that bother her. She's done mine on occasion.

OMG! That's my neighbor! We don't have problems with overgrown lawns on our block, but she will call code enforcement on houses with dirty roofs.

 

[pixiefairy]

I occasionally wish our neighbors were more friendly around here. Friendly...not particularly nosy, lol. Our one close neighbor moved out and the new ones are not nearly as sweet and helpful, but they have gotten better. We live in townhomes, so were are VERY close proximity wise....but most of them keep to themselves.

It's difficult when they aren't as forthcoming and friendly and introduce themselves....especially when my dd is the welcoming committee and meets ALL the new kids and then they proceed to plan sleepovers...I need to know people before I let my kid stay overnight at their house.

A neighbor of my ex's (who also happened to be a cousin of his wife) nearly caused a WHOLE load of problems because she saw a car in their driveway when the wife wasn't home and my ex was. Turned out to be a friend of theirs stopping by to drop off a computer (the ex is the neighborhood geek squad)...but it got turned into something nefarious because the friend is female.

 

[AKL_Megs]

My street should be called "Nosy Street"... We are the nosiest people ever! Of course, we don't call one another... most just COME over.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Our neighbors aren't nosey, just friendly. I love that we know each other , our kids play together and we invite and get invited for get togethers or just chat sessions.

My son was pet sitting for 2 of the neighbors this past week while they were away. And they asked us to keep an eye on things and we trust them enough to tell them when we are going away to keep an eye out for us too.

I grew up in a nosey neighborhood though. A bunch of older retired people , who had nothing better to do than keep an eye on everyone's business.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I would give her an earful. If the fbi is at my house or I got a rental or grandma moved in it's none of her dang business!

If you want to speculate and I don't have to hear about it so be it but calling just to find out what's going on just would irritate the crud out of me. I have a neighbor that is very nosy about my mail. She always comments if get a package kinda hoping I will tell her what it is but I always change the subject.

 

[Gigi22]

There are pluses to nosy neighbours. One of our nosy neighbours had to call the fire department because another neighbour went on holidays, during which their furnace caught fire. No one had contact info. for the vacationing neighbour, or a set of house keys--so we all had to watch while the fire dept. broke their front door down to put out the fire. So, even if you don't want nosy neighbours--it really helps to have a good relationship with at least one neighbour.

 

[RitaZ.]

There are pluses to nosy neighbours. One of our nosy neighbours had to call the fire department because another neighbour went on holidays, during which their furnace caught fire. No one had contact info. for the vacationing neighbour, or a set of house keys--so we all had to watch while the fire dept. broke their front door down to put out the fire. So, even if you don't want nosy neighbours--it really helps to have a good relationship with at least one neighbour.

I agree.

 

[daughtersrus]

I have one of those neighbors that has to know everyone's business. Yesterday, I took my vehicle in for regular maintenance. I got a loaner car from the dealership. This morning, I got a call from her. The funny thing is that when I saw her name in the caller ID window, I knew the purpose of her call. She wanted to know if I had company over because there was a "strange car" in my driveway. This happens every time we take in our vehicles for service and she sees the loaner car in the driveway.

I'm not sure what she's expecting to hear. Maybe next time I'll answer and tell her that I can't talk to her because she is interrupting my wild orgy.

BTW, she doesn't like to talk about what's going on in her life. She is just interested in everyone else's.

How about you? Do you have neighbors that are this nosy?

We had one like that many years ago at our old house. DH works for a Lincoln/Mercury dealership so he often has to take customers cars home to try and diagnose the problem. One neighbor commented to another neighbor that DH must be a drug dealer because always has new expensive cars.

 

[*JoGo*]

I'm surrounded. Two sets are retired and extremely nosey. I recently broke my ankle. I didn't want to have to explain the whole thing to my neighbor so I'd crutch it as quickly as possible to the car/house. They caught me 3 times. And she goes on about the person visiting their house, his marital status, all the things she doesn't like about him... She's given me a LOT of unsolicited advice (including leaving my husband). I also know way too much about her daughter and husband. I'd be mortified if my mom told a neighbor the things she's told me!

And I know the neighbors across the street talk about my yard b/c she tells me all the things they say! Sorry, up til now, both dh & i have worked full time and have 2 young kids. We do not have the time to spend all day in our yard, like they do. Literally ALWAYS outside!

 

[FINFAN]

Hi Rita!HAPPY 4TH...What are your plans/where are you gong? What time will you be back...

I like my standard 2 word reply if applicable...."That's interesting" and I leave it at that. If you do not respond with information, the other party usually starts supplying suggestions themselves "I was wondering if you didn't attend the neighborhood blah blah blah because you didn't feel well ...answer...That's interesting. I saw you are installing a new roof..that's interesting
Usually, it ends the conversation as they really don't know what to do with that.
Hope you get some less * Gladys Kravits-like" neighbors soon, or they at least get the hint.

 

[minniebeth]

Hope you get some less * Gladys Kravits-like" neighbors soon, or they at least get the hint.

Reading this thread, I was wondering when someone was going to mention her!

 

[kaytieeldr]

If you want to speculate and I don't have to hear about it so be it but calling just to find out what's going on just would irritate the crud out of me. I have a neighbor that is very nosy about my mail. She always comments if get a package kinda hoping I will tell her what it is but I always change the subject.

Oh, that one's easy. Tell her you're involved in a cardboard box exchange