Nose Rings for Teens?

[ckay87]

This. And not only this, but when they come to see me, don't come with a nose ring or anything else on your face.

I can see the most beautiful girl or woman, or the most good looking guy and as soon as I see a nose ring, they become very unatractive, JMHO

That is so terribly sad. When my children are grown and self-supporting, they can come visit me dressed as bozo the clown and I'll be so happy to see them. Perhaps it's my permanent mom-blinders that allow me never to find my children "very unattractive."

 

[MarilIncredible]

I kind of thought nose rings/studs were not really "in" anymore. Are they coming back in fashion with teens?

 

[dimimi]

I am a high school teacher. One of my students asked me what I thought of her initial gauge. I nicely asked her what she thought I would look like with one? She started to laugh and I told her to remember some day she would be as old as me! She came back the next day without it!

 

[sstanaford]

That is so terribly sad. When my children are grown and self-supporting, they can come visit me dressed as bozo the clown and I'll be so happy to see them. Perhaps it's my permanent mom-blinders that allow me never to find my children "very unattractive."

I agree. I have four daughters and I would NEVER put limits on them to come and see me. Life is too short. I see my parents once a year because of the distance between where we live and at the age of 33 if they tried to "control" my appearance when I came to see them I just would not visit. So I guess it boils down to I would rather have a loving close relationship with my adult children then to continue to try and control them. And I agree with the PP, there is nothing my children could do to themselves that would make them unattractive in my eyes, they are all four beautiful.

 

[AshleyW]

I don't think nose piercings are a big deal, as long as she doesn't have any dress code problems with school or work.

When I was 16, I went out and got an industrial piercing. Here's what it is, for any who aren't familiar:

When my mom saw it, she got mad and said "why couldn't you just be normal and get your nose pierced".

Anyway, I think piercings are so common nowadays that most people wouldn't bat an eye at a small nose stud - if they even noticed it.

 

[disykat]

I'm surprised at the people who say there's nothing their kids could do that would make them "unattractive" to them. I find some things unattractive and would find them so even on my own kids. It doesn't mean I wouldn't love my kids or be unable to find other attractive things about them.

I'm with the crowd who won't ever "let" my kids do this and would find it unattractive if they do it when they can do it without my permission.

I'm almost 50 and my parents still have opinions about what is or isn't attractive on me style wise. It's just their opinion, I can listen or not. My parents are very anti ear piercing so both my sister and I waited until we were self-supporting adults to do it. No big deal. (I ended up not liking pierced ears and let them grow back - they grew back pretty quickly, but it took about 10 years for the hole not to be noticable. I can still see where the holes were 25 years later.)

 

[goofy4tink]

Okay, my question to those of you who have piercings outside of the 'normal' one in each ear lobe.....why? What is it you are doing this for? I'm not being sarcastic, I just really want to know the motivating factor.
My dd, 16, has her ears pierced. And she had to wait until she was 9 to do it. Same with my 33 y/o dd. But, she went out and had a few more piercings in her ears as well as a small tattoo on her ankle.

I have a step-grandson who has many facial piercings...eyes, lips, tongue etc. When I asked my 16 y/o what she thought, her answer was this...'Yuck. He would be so much more attractive without the jewelry!'.

While I understand that you are making some kind of statement, one should always remember what society feels about something. The vast majority of the general population is going to look askance at body piercings...and tattoos.

As someone already said...'What happens when you get older?' Yes, you can just remove the jewelry and no one will be the wiser. And you can get those tattoos removed I suppose. But, why bother to begin with?

If my 16 y/o dd came to me and told me she wanted to get her nose pierced my response would be...'That's going to be completely up to you..once you're 21 and I'm not supporting you anymore. Until that time, you have only those two earlobe piercings.' I pay the bills, I get to have the last say. My family is not really run as a democracy!!! More like a benevolent dictatorship.

 

[ckay87]

I'm surprised at the people who say there's nothing their kids could do that would make them "unattractive" to them. I find some things unattractive and would find them so even on my own kids. It doesn't mean I wouldn't love my kids or be unable to find other attractive things about them.

I'm with the crowd who won't ever "let" my kids do this and would find it unattractive if they do it when they can do it without my permission.

I'm almost 50 and my parents still have opinions about what is or isn't attractive on me style wise. It's just their opinion, I can listen or not. My parents are very anti ear piercing so both my sister and I waited until we were self-supporting adults to do it. No big deal. (I ended up not liking pierced ears and let them grow back - they grew back pretty quickly, but it took about 10 years for the hole not to be noticable. I can still see where the holes were 25 years later.)

I had been responding to the poster who would tell her grown kids not to come around to visit with any facial piercing. That's a crummy attitude. Heaven knows I find certain fashion statements my kids choose to make, such as haircuts, clothing, to be unattractive on an almost daily basis. But never so much so that I wouldn't want them around. I guess that's what I was getting at.

 

[bored]

I pierced my nose when I was 29 and the hole is so tiny when my nose ring isn't it that you would not notice it at all. And they do close because my friend had hers done for 9 years and took it out, after a couple months you barely knew where it was.

It is so common now that most places don't notice it. If they did it can easily be taken out during the day and put back in at night.

What do you mean by most places? A retail joint in the mall maybe not, but try going to an interview for a professional job and see if they "mind"?

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I tend not to judge people simply for the fact they have piercings, etc.

I have met so many professional and polite young people...and some not so young - with piercings, tattoos, you name it. DD likes to shop at Hot Topic and the kids in there are the best. DH works in a highly technical field and some really brilliant people are not "cookie cutter" - you wouldn't want to pass up their talent and skills!!!!! The same goes in creative fields - where would Disney be if they turned away Joe Rohde!?

so far it hasn't been an issue with DD12 - once we OK'd pierced ears she did a 180 and said she didn't want them because of the pain. She likes the new magnetic jewelry - you can even use them in the nose. I think those make a nice alternative to the "permanent" piercings.

I actually think the small studs/rings in the nose are cute, but worry about health risks.

Not a big deal to me, but I would discourage anything that would be a health risk - when/if we get to that in the future.

I think the whole "you won't get hired" thing is often over stated .....I think times are changing and there are jobs out there where they value what you bring to the table over how you look. As long as the person making the choice understands the possibilities - it is their decision.

 

[2cats1kid]

Not sure if these "new" magnetic ones are super new and not the ones I'm thinking of, but certainly over here kids have been told not to use magnetic ones in noses because of the number of them who have inhaled the backs. You end up with an earring back in your lung and fashion will start looking less great.

I can't even look at that industrial piercing without my stomach rolling, so heaven help me if DD ever does that!

And I don't like tongue piercings either as people just can't talk normally with them in. I took my car to get a new exhaust fitted and the guy serving me sounded like he was talking with a boiled sweet in his mouth - I finally figured he had a tongue piercing.

 

[locolala]

What do you mean by most places? A retail joint in the mall maybe not, but try going to an interview for a professional job and see if they "mind"?

It really just all depends on where you work. At the agency my internship (starting in the spring of next year) is at, they really don't give a flying flip. There's a guy there who thinks best when he's just in his underwear, so he works nights in the basement. One guy I personally know changes his hair color every week, I beleive it's bright pink at the moment. Heck, when I went in for my interview I had bright turquoise streaks in my hair and you could see two of my tattoos. Maybe it's because it's a gov't agency and I don't have face time with clients, but I'm allowed to have crazy hair/piercings/visible tattoos there. They just don't care.

 

[tasha99]

What do you mean by most places? A retail joint in the mall maybe not, but try going to an interview for a professional job and see if they "mind"?

In my experience, it's been the opposite. I had a friend who managed a jewelry store at the mall, and she would not hire anyone with any facial piercings whatsoever. I see professionals all the time with piercings (college professors, slps, doctors, computer guys). Something like a nose stud is so mainstream now that I think many employers are okay with hiring someone with skills and a piercing.

As to the original question, I let my DD get an eyebrow bar and a nose ring--one for her 13th birthday, and the other for her 14th. Then I cut her off because we got into a battle over tongue studs. I'm fine with them but told her when she's 18, she can sign for herself. They're higher risk and have other connotations, and I just decided that is an adult piercing and she would have to take responsibility for it on her own. She'll be 18 this year . . . wonder what she'll do.

 

[AustinTink]

I think the whole "you won't get hired" thing is often over stated .....I think times are changing and there are jobs out there where they value what you bring to the table over how you look. As long as the person making the choice understands the possibilities - it is their decision.

I think it can't be stated enough. Maybe for middle-level jobs, it's not as much of an issue. But, around here upper-level, six figure salary and up positions don't go to the person with the nose or tongue ring.

 

[Colleen27]

I don't have a problem with piercings, but my kids know that if they do any themselves or have friends do them they'll be in big trouble. If they want something pierced they need to be mature enough to come to me and ask permission, and I'll take them to the tattoo shop I go to so that I know they're getting it done by a reputable professional in a clean shop.

I won't sign for tattoos underage because they're really permanent, but I don't have a problem giveing permission for most piercings (no gauges and nothing sexual) because they can be allowed to close up if/when the teen outgrows that particular form of self-expression. At various times I've had nose, navel, eyebrow, ear and tongue piercings; I still have the tongue and ear piercings, but the rest have closed over without leaving any mark that would be visible to someone not specifically looking for it.

 

[Colleen27]

Okay, my question to those of you who have piercings outside of the 'normal' one in each ear lobe.....why? What is it you are doing this for? I'm not being sarcastic, I just really want to know the motivating factor.

Its the same motivating factor as any other appearance-related decision, at least for me. I like the look, so I did it - no deeper meaning involved at all.

 

[bluesaturn]

Okay, my question to those of you who have piercings outside of the 'normal' one in each ear lobe.....why?

Why not? Why wear make up, dye your hair, or wear jeans?

I would feel different if it were permanent, like a tattoo. But why not get the piercing, you can just take it out when you're ready for the professional job.

 

[POOHDRMR]

I had it untill I was 24.I have the tiniest little hole(looks like a pore)and noone that didn't know me then knows I had one because you can't tell.I worked a professional job-took it out for interview and didn't wear it to work.I always wore a small thin hoop or small stud.I loved it and have no problem with my dd gatting one.I knew back then to do things that were not permenant-no tatoos and I feel the same way about my kids.Pierce what you want(no stretchings)dye what you want(you can always dye over it)but wait till older to do tatoos because you will probably change your mind.I have a friend that did large black tribal tatoo on her breast when she was 18-not really pretty when you are almost 40!

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I think it can't be stated enough. Maybe for middle-level jobs, it's not as much of an issue. But, around here upper-level, six figure salary and up positions don't go to the person with the nose or tongue ring.

my DH's experience has been in high tech...definitely upper-level and definitely six figure. Talent, skills, education are valued above the other stuff. Nose and tongue piercings aren't that big a deal - they can be removed for meeting with a client.

I see many of those gauges lately - especially on wait staff and at mall store employees....
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the magnet in the nose thing - will have to look into that before considering letting my DD use them in the nose. She isn't interested in doing so out of the house, but who knows what she is doing goofing around in front of the mirror.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I have no problems with tattoos or piercings, but there are consequences. I am an IT Director and have worked for a number of Fortune 100 companies. None of those companies allow this sort of thing. So, I will counsel my boys if they ever ask, but will allow them to make their own decisions - aware of the possible consequences.