Non-custodial parent phone calls to children

[illuminati]

Just a guess but since you seem to have a history, maybe you would get a better response if you posted annonymous?

 

[mm_ja]

I'm gonna ask that this thread be locked. I herby vow to NEVER post another thread of this nature on the Community Forums. I asked a simple question, knowing I'd get flamed, and yet I am still amazed at some of the judgemental posts here.

Whoa, lets all calm down and not do anything crazy like that ok Boomie. I for one enjoy all the varying viewpoints brought out by your discussions. Would it help if I threw out a post for people to bash me on, yourself included. I dont mind taking one for the team.

 

[mickeyfan2]

How can he justify the added cost of another cell phone when he owes all that money.

 

[ilovejack02]

Oh my god!!!!!

I agreed calling at a specific time was a good idea.
I agreed, calling at bedtime was a good idea.

I just didn't agree about the cellphone!!!!!!

Woiuld you like me to lie and say I love the idea?????

Ill ask again why dont you think so... Im not hating on you I promise!!!lol
Im just asking as a veteran stepmom of about 14 rys. Trust me when I say the cell phone was the best thing that ever happened to us LOL!!!!

We only had to talk to ex when an issue needed to be discussed, trust me it was great!

 

[mickeyfan2]

Whoa, lets all calm down and not do anything crazy like that ok Boomie. I for one enjoy all the varying viewpoints brought out by your discussions. Would it help if I threw out a post for people to bash me on, yourself included. I dont mind taking one for the team.

I would be happy to bash you on that thread.

 

[boomhauer]

Of course not but what if those times are inconvenient to the dad, then what would you propose happen?

That's why I said we could work out a time.

 

[MosMom]

What? You make no sense. Is it 4:20 in your timezone?

Brandie

It's always 4:20 in my time zone

 

[mm_ja]

Seriously its time for me to go home now. When I get home I promise I will screw something up real good and we can all talk about how bad a person I am ok. See I only post while at work maybe we can start there.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Oh my god!!!!!

I agreed calling at a specific time was a good idea.
I agreed, calling at bedtime was a good idea.

I just didn't agree about the cellphone!!!!!!

Woiuld you like me to lie and say I love the idea?????

What if the father doesn't agree with calling at a specific time? What if he's willing to purchase a cell phone and pay the bill?

Just a guess but since you seem to have a history, maybe you would get a better response if you posted annonymous?

Been there, done that

 

[JadenLayne]

See what irks me is you can't give ONE good reason why the cell phone is a bad idea except that it solves the problem. Again it's NOT ABOUT YOU it's about the child.

1. Have the dad and mom pay 1/2 for the cell phone. My teenage son's phone is only $29 per month so it isn't a big amount. $15 per person.
2. If your afraid of him losing it then leave it in a place in the house where it can be heard and if you go out one of you take it and give it to him when it rings.
3. Then you nor your DW even have to speak to the x but his son gets to speak to him whenever he wants.

It is so important that this little boy feels loved by ALL parties. I don't care how much you or your wife might dislike this man she did like him enough at one time to make a child with him. It's not that child's fault that it didn't work out or that you dislike his dad. The child didn't ask to be brought into this world. Be a REAL PARENT instead of someone trying to LOOK for problems and go above and beyond to do what is right for the child!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I know I'll get flamed for asking a simple question, but for those that may have more experience with this, maybe you can answer for me.

My parents were divorced and my dad called me on average, maybe every other night, or every 3 days.

My steps-son's (6) dad just started calling him for the first time about a month ago. At first, it was every other night. Now, he's started calling every night. Honestly, it's become a bit of a nuisance at this point. We're out to dinner - He calls. We're out shopping - He calls. We're at a movie - He calls. If my wife doesn't answer her phone, he sends her an email asking where we our. We feel like we've become prisoners to her phone.

Is this standard practice we should just get used to, or is every night a bit excessive?

my parents divorced when i was a kid and they used to call every night as i remember.

Not to be rude, but it seems like you know your gonna get flamed so I wonder why you bother. It seems like you always post something that many see as drama. There was your car getting hit, police not watching for rocks and bricks, your trips, the step son, the step sons dad, your step son taking trips with you, your wife freaking out on you. Maybe you should take a break from posting such personal stuff since you feel like you are getting bashed. It seems like things dont go the way you want and then you ask for the thread to be closed.

Just my 2 cents

 

[OctoberNinth]

I assumed Malcom McDowell would be wealthy enough to afford a new style cell phone.

Well, he did, but his dad couldn't reach him because he kept misplacing it.

 

[phorsenuf]

That's why I said we could work out a time.

I agree but to me schedualed calls just seem so cold. I think a dad should be able to call his son when he wants. I call my DH whenever the mood strikes. I may see or hear something that makes me think of him and it makes me want to call to let him know I'm thinking of him. He does the same with me (we are such saps, huh?) Its a nice feeling to get an unexpected phone call just to hear somebody say "I love you" and to a 6 year old little boy I bet it would mean the world to him!

 

[boomhauer]

You wanna get into this? Let's do it:

"1. Have the dad and mom pay 1/2 for the cell phone. My teenage son's phone is only $29 per month so it isn't a big amount. $15 per person."

He'll never agree to it. He pays child support and doesn't think he should pay for anything else.

"2. If your afraid of him losing it then leave it in a place in the house where it can be heard and if you go out one of you take it and give it to him when it rings."

As soon as it does get lost (none of you have ever misplaced your cellphone?) or broken, it'll have to be replaced. He won't pay for one to begin with, and he sure as hell won't pay for a replacement.

"3. Then you nor your DW even have to speak to the x but his son gets to speak to him whenever he wants."

We don't speak to him anyways. He calls, we give the phone to my step-son. The initial point was, it's getting aggrivating having to explain everytime the phone isn't answered where we are. Had you that are jumping down my throat actually read my first post instead of saying "OOOOH, a post by Boomhauer - Let's tear him a new one!", you might have realized that.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I agree but to me schedualed calls just seem so cold. I think a dad should be able to call his son when he wants. I call my DH whenever the mood strikes. I may see or hear something that makes me think of him and it makes me want to call to let him know I'm thinking of him. He does the same with me (we are such saps, huh?) Its a nice feeling to get an unexpected phone call just to hear somebody say "I love you" and to a 6 year old little boy I bet it would mean the world to him!

so true

 

[JadenLayne]

Umm I don't know you from Adam so your name meant nothing to me. I honestly don't ever remember reading a post by you in the past so you can forget that idea.

What I AM seeing is a group of adults who are putting themselves and their inconveninces over a six year old who asked for none of this.

So if the dad won't pay, YOU pay, it's $30 bucks. It's worth that much for the child to have a relationship with his dad.

Again as I said don't give the child the phone. Put it IN THE HOUSE in a general location, with your cell phone or your wifes. If your in public YOU or YOUR WIFE keep the cell phone with you and give it to the child when it rings. Since he's 6 I'm assuming you or your wife is with him all the time.

Seems like it's a pretty low price to pay for an answer to your problems.

Oh and again I don't know you from Adam. I don't know your posts and I'm posting my opinion on your OP which pushed a button for me. Their are to many adults out there who put themselves before their children.

 

[cardaway]

Doesn't sound like you even asked the EX if he would go for the cell phone idea. Sounds like it's time you stop letting your feelings about the EX impacting his relationship with your step-son. Sadly it seems that's your goal, for him to leave you ALL alone.

 

[mickeyfan2]

You wanna get int this? Let's do it:

1. Have the dad and mom pay 1/2 for the cell phone. My teenage son's phone is only $29 per month so it isn't a big amount. $15 per person.

He'll never agree to it. He pays child support and doesn't think he should pay for anything else.

2. If your afraid of him losing it then leave it in a place in the house where it can be heard and if you go out one of you take it and give it to him when it rings.

As soon as it does get lost (none of you have ever misplaced your cellphone) or broken, uit'll have to be replaced. He won't pay for one to begin with, and he sure as hell won't pay for a replacement.

3. Then you nor your DW even have to speak to the x but his son gets to speak to him whenever he wants.

We don't speak to him anyways. He calls, we give the phone to my step-son. The initial point was, it's getting aggrivating having to explain everytime the phone isn't answered where we are. Had you that are jumping down my throat actually read my first post instead of saying "OOOOH, a post by Boomhauer - Let's tear him a new one!", you might have realized that.

1) You have a teenage son? Why does he not get to go to WDW too?

2&3) Read the Mulan thread. She was required by the courts to get her 3 & 5 year old kids a cell phone. When they go to the dad the cell phone does too.

 

[cardaway]

BTW: You could have the EX buy a pay-as-you-go cell phone, have him add minutes, and then give it to his son. If the Dad eats up the minutes, then it's on him to buy more. It the son loses it, then it's his to replace.

 

[boomhauer]

Doesn't sound like you even asked the EX if he would go for the cell phone idea. Sounds like it's time you stop letting your feelings about the EX impacting his relationship with your step-son. Sadly it seems that's your goal, for him to leave you ALL alone.

Whatever you say man. Whatever you say.