No!!!!!!

[dakcp2001]

I just said NO to future SIL and now future MIL & SIL hate me. They said I am "unreasonable" and "selfish". You know what? Maybe I am!

My future SIL who can not seem to hold a job (and has a new boyfriend every other month) would like to live in my house for awhile to "save up". Her & current bf just signed a year long lease that they can not pay and are being evicted. This happens to her every few months, but she always finds a new guy (sucker) to shack up with when getting kicked out of wherever she is. She moved in somewhere, stops paying and comes up with sob story of the week and gets kicked out.

So anyway, under no circumstances will she ever move into my home, we will never be able to get her out of there! I bought this home when I was 23 and single and it is mine. I pay the mortgage, and I say who can live there.

We have decided to rent it out (we are taking it off the market, since it isnt selling) and we have decided to rent it out, to another couple (gainfully employed non smokers with good credit) so now I am the family villian. Poor sis needs a free place to live.

I love DF, but his family is hard to handle. I wonder every day how he turned out so normal.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

 

[jen42002]

All I can say is good for you! SIL will continue on the same path until someone kicks her in the chops so to speak. As long as someone rescues her each time, it will continue. Hoping that the rest of DF wisens up.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

Good for you. You are establishing yourself as someone who will not be taken advantage of before you get married. This is very important. They will get over it and hopefully know not to ask you for something that outrageous in the future.

 

[momrek06]

No you are not unreasonable or selfish. You are SMART. Tell MIL or SIL to make room at their house for the SIL that can't hold a job. And see how long that arrangement lasts. Hmmm ....

 

[disneykidatheart]

Good girl! Stick to your guns. If not this, they will likely hate you for other things over the years. I hope your DF has a strong backbone and will support you as things come along. Good Luck!

 

[dakcp2001]

No you are not unreasonable or selfish. You are SMART. Tell MIL or SIL to make room at their house for the SIL that can't hold a job. And see how long that arrangement lasts. Hmmm ....

Unfortunately the spare rooms at future MIL home are filled with unemployed future BIL #1 & #2 at the moment. There seems to be a pattern here.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

Unfortunately the spare rooms at future MIL home are filled with unemployed future BIL #1 & #2 at the moment. There seems to be a pattern here.

Not your problem. If you had caved in for SIL, I'm sure the BIL's would be next. Good girl!

 

[Mama Mouse]

Take it from someone with similar in-laws...You absolutely did the RIGHT thing. That would have been clear disaster start to finish. Why do people think they have a right to mooch off of others and, worse yet, why do their parents enable and support them in this kind of behavior.

Sorry they're mad but I'm thinking you dodged a major bullet. Good for you!

 

[dis-happy]

Way to go! Sometimes "no" is the best word in the universe.

NO!!!!! Makes me feel good just to write it!

Maybe next time you can get in a "H**L no!". LOL

 

[mamacatnv]

Cardinal Rule in this house - no friends or relatives for more than 3 days
You did the right thing and IMO it was not selfish or unreasonable, it was smart.

 

[clh2]

Cardinal Rule in this house - no friends or relatives for more than 3 days
You did the right thing and IMO it was not selfish or unreasonable, it was smart.

what she said.

 

[TLuvsD]

Sounds like future BIL #1 and #2 need to double up to empty a room for future SIL.

Hopefully your future husband is supporting your decision, it was a great decision!

 

[barkley]

Unfortunately the spare rooms at future MIL home are filled with unemployed future BIL #1 & #2 at the moment. There seems to be a pattern here.

that's what they make bunkbeds for-i'm sure not all the "kids" got their own rooms when they were younger, so if mommy wants to help her little princess save, there's nothing preventing it.

 

[bgirldeb]

Good for you. You are establishing yourself as someone who will not be taken advantage of before you get married. This is very important. They will get over it and hopefully know not to ask you for something that outrageous in the future.

 

[superme80]

Good for you!

 

[wilma-bride]

You can choose your friends....

Well done for making the tough decision and sticking to it. I once had an old schoolfriend come to stay for a week and she was still there 3 weeks later

 

[hentob]

You are a smart lady

 

[dakcp2001]

DF stopped taking their phone calls so they started calling & emailing me. Ugh. The word has now spread to sil on the other coast what a witch I am. She thankfully, is also a family villian, because she "took DBIL away from his momma and made him move to the other side of the country" because at 36, he must have been forced by his wife right? She is an ally. Phew......

 

[bgirldeb]

DF stopped taking their phone calls so they started calling & emailing me. Ugh. The word has now spread to sil on the other coast what a witch I am. She thankfully, is also a family villian, because she "took DBIL away from his momma and made him move to the other side of the country" because at 36, he must have been forced by his wife right? She is an ally. Phew......

At least the whole family now knows your stance on being taken advantage of. Win win situation!