No!!!!!!

[MIGrandma]

Good for you! They will all either get over it, or they won't. It's not your problem to provide a place for your future SIL to live.

 

[Magic Mom]

that's what they make bunkbeds for-i'm sure not all the "kids" got their own rooms when they were younger, so if mommy wants to help her little princess save, there's nothing preventing it.

Great idea. Tell MIL you are so generous you will help her put together bunk beds for the slackers already living there, then slacker SIL can move into the extra bedroom. Problem solved.

 

[minniebeth]

Ditto on what everyone else has said~ good for you for standing up for yourself! You worked hard to get what you have, you are an example of what they need to do and be.

 

[Katy Belle]

I'm proud of you!!!

Don't you love how selfish, inconsiderate people think we are selfish and inconsiderate if we tell them NO?? I have a similar SIL. I am so, so, so, thankful that we chose to move far, far, far away from that mess.

 

[dislaney]

Sorry they are being so difficult but you are just being smart!

 

[runskyhy]

Very cliché but... You GO, girl!

 

[ilovejack02]

DF stopped taking their phone calls so they started calling & emailing me. Ugh. The word has now spread to sil on the other coast what a witch I am. She thankfully, is also a family villian, because she "took DBIL away from his momma and made him move to the other side of the country" because at 36, he must have been forced by his wife right? She is an ally. Phew......

Easy peasy fix, block emails and if you can block their phone # from calling you .

 

[krcit]

Good for you. My friend felt bad for her sister and let her stay with them for a little while. That was 10 years ago and she is still there

 

[okeydokey]

What is it with people who think they can just move in with others and not get a job and support themselves? Talk about an inflated sense of entitlement.

You were so very smart to set these boundaries now.

 

[mom23boys]

Good for you for standing up for yourself, don't let them bully you. You would have never gotten future DSIL out if you let her move in.

 

[Carnie]

So you pay the mortgage.... and what, they expect YOU continue to pay the mortgage so she can "save up"??

That's the stupidest thing I ever heard. You can tell them I said so.

 

[jfoofj]

As a former landlord (exH and I owned a multifamily property) I had a "no family/friends" rule. We did credit/reference/employer checks on every tenant. Never had a problem. My ex kept the multifamily when we divorced, and proceeded to let his cousin move in with her 2 kids and loser, jobless, suspected drug abusing husband. Then she kicked the loser out. And had no money. See where this is going? My exH was the evil villian in his family for being so "hard" on his cousin for expecting her to pay rent during such a hard time/during the holidays/her divorce/flag day/arbor day/grandparents day.... whatever reason she could come up with. She finally moved out in the middle of the night, leaving trash, junky furniture, and a huge mess and owing him over $3000.00 in back rent, never mind the money he had to spend to clean and fix up the apartment and get rid of all her stuff.

Oh, and when I ran into some of my exH's family at a mall they wanted to trash talk him to me because he "evicted" his family in their time of need. Ummmmmm, no. My exH and I not only get along pretty well now, but he was always a great landlord and I told his family members that and exactly what I think of his loser cousin. SO, I'm the witchy-with-a-b ex wife. .

DO NOT relent here... you are doing the right thing.

 

[jcc0621]

Good for you! Your house, your rules. Sounds like DF is backing you too, so it is a win-win.

Does MIL have a garage

 

[Carnie]

How about a basement? She sounds like a great candidate to be a cellar dweller.

Or as we say in RI, a Cellah Dwellah.

 

[jcc0621]

How about a basement? She sounds like a great candidate to be a cellar dweller.

Or as we say in RI, a Cellah Dwellah.

 

[disykat]

So you pay the mortgage.... and what, they expect YOU continue to pay the mortgage so she can "save up"??

That's the stupidest thing I ever heard. You can tell them I said so.

This was my first thought - that they are so stupid they really don't understand that you pay for your condo. They think you "own" it, so they can live there for free. I'd ask them flat out - act confused and say "who will pay the mortgage every month if I don't have paying renters?"

 

[tlbwriter]

This was my first thought - that they are so stupid they really don't understand that you pay for your condo. They think you "own" it, so they can live there for free. I'd ask them flat out - act confused and say "who will pay the mortgage every month if I don't have paying renters?"

Oh, I'm sure their response would be "But you can afford it!" Takers like this assume everyone has it "easy" except them.

 

[joviroxx]

Selfish? Not even close... Smart? DEFINATELY! And can you just imagine the damage she might do to your house? Guess who would be stuck with that bill?
Smart girl! Lay down your boundaries!

 

[pilotwife_02]

Good for you!

If it's so important to your future MIL that her precious daughter have a free ride somewhere, she can surely think of a way to allow her to live in her own home free of charge (boys can share a room, future SIL can sleep on the couch, etc.).

She's not your child and not your responsibility. I really hate moochers and those who enable them and make others feel bad for not "helping" them out. Perhaps she just wants you to be as miserable as she is having to help out her two sons

 

[Bethenny]

OP, your post is so refreshing!