New TTC Thread

[si-am]

Courtney, I'm glad it all worked out! It's such a shame that TTC has become so "scheduled" for us all.

You can say that again! I hate to admit that this TTC business has been sort of hard on our marriage. DH is getting tired of "performing on demand." So bad that this past week, which was the crucial Days 11-15, he was pretty much disinterested in the whole idea and supposedly too tired to try.

So I'm out for this month, too.





The annoying this is that he wants kids even more than I do-- it was his idea to start trying when we did!

 

[TAKitty]

You can say that again! I hate to admit that this TTC business has been sort of hard on our marriage. DH is getting tired of "performing on demand." So bad that this past week, which was the crucial Days 11-15, he was pretty much disinterested in the whole idea and supposedly too tired to try.

So I'm out for this month, too.





The annoying this is that he wants kids even more than I do-- it was his idea to start trying when we did!

Don't feel bad about admitting it is hard on a marriage! Having a child is a big deal! Goodness when some people have stress in a relationship over the toothpaste cap being on or off, I think that this is a far bigger concern . Sorry for his disinterest this month. It is hard when you only have a short window to make it happen.

 

[skuttle]

You can say that again! I hate to admit that this TTC business has been sort of hard on our marriage. DH is getting tired of "performing on demand." So bad that this past week, which was the crucial Days 11-15, he was pretty much disinterested in the whole idea and supposedly too tired to try.

So I'm out for this month, too.



The annoying this is that he wants kids even more than I do-- it was his idea to start trying when we did!

DH and I have been TTC #2 for 2.5 years now. Early on, I was very into temping and telling DH when we had to BD. It took a lot of the fun out of it for sure. Eventually, one night during "prime time", DH wasn't interested and I was very mad at him for that. We had an argument and he finally came out and said he was tired of just feeling like a sperm donor. I guess I took for granted that TTC is hard on the guy, too. After that, I took a month or two off of the temping, etc. Now, I never announce when it's a good time to BD. I do pay attention and try to make sure we get enough BD'ing in during that time frame. But I don't put as much emphasis on it like I used to. I also try to make sure I'm just as interested in BD'ing before and after "prime time". It's helped a lot, and it's been much more fun since then.

Of course, once DH goes for his follow-up visit this week cool1: ) and we figure out where we need to go from here, if we need to do meds or anything like that, of course we'll need to pay more attention when to BD. But until then, I try not to focus on it as much as I did in the beginning.

 

[D&DDisney]

Good Luck Skuttle! Let us know asap.

Aurora - Glad everything worked out for you.

 

[TandT]

Hello Everyone!!

I am new to this thread! You will usually see me on the "Trip Report" thread posting our many trip reports from past Disney vacations.

I've been a lurker for quite some time now

My husband and I have had come to the decision to try and have a baby of our own. BUT there is a complication to our story. I had a heart transplant 8 years ago. My recent annual exam shows great heart function and an overall really good test result. Specialists that I have seen in the past, have told me that it is possible to have a child after a transplant but I would be considered "high risk" We decided to try for at least 6 months and if it doesn't happen then we will persue adoption.

I am 32 years old and I have that "longing" to be a mother. My husband and I have a very strong marriage and a strong spiritual bond together. We have been contemplating this for YEARS. I believe GOD chooses different paths for everyone. Some more difficult than others. If he wants this path for us, then it will happen, IF not than it just won't happen.

I reached out to this thread for support and encouragement so PLEASE no judging.

Today I bought the Clear Blue Easy digital fertility moniter................darnnit that thing is expensive...lol....

I'm going to start it next month and I have a Doctor's appt. scheduled already for my High Risk OBGYN......wish me luck!!

Thanks for listening!!

 

[D&DDisney]

Hello Everyone!!

I am new to this thread! You will usually see me on the "Trip Report" thread posting our many trip reports from past Disney vacations.

I've been a lurker for quite some time now

My husband and I have had come to the decision to try and have a baby of our own. BUT there is a complication to our story. I had a heart transplant 8 years ago. My recent annual exam shows great heart function and an overall really good test result. Specialists that I have seen in the past, have told me that it is possible to have a child after a transplant but I would be considered "high risk" We decided to try for at least 6 months and if it doesn't happen then we will persue adoption.

I am 32 years old and I have that "longing" to be a mother. My husband and I have a very strong marriage and a strong spiritual bond together. We have been contemplating this for YEARS. I believe GOD chooses different paths for everyone. Some more difficult than others. If he wants this path for us, then it will happen, IF not than it just won't happen.

I reached out to this thread for support and encouragement so PLEASE no judging.

Today I bought the Clear Blue Easy digital fertility moniter................darnnit that thing is expensive...lol....

I'm going to start it next month and I have a Doctor's appt. scheduled already for my High Risk OBGYN......wish me luck!!

Thanks for listening!!

Welcome TandT!
Our motto : As much as we love to have you here, we hope your stay is short.
Don't worry about anyone judging you here. That's not what we're about. You're safe to share anything you feel comfortable with. We're all in the same boat and chances are we understand completely.
to you!

 

[TandT]

Welcome TandT!
Our motto : As much as we love to have you here, we hope your stay is short.
Don't worry about anyone judging you here. That's not what we're about. You're safe to share anything you feel comfortable with. We're all in the same boat and chances are we understand completely.
to you!

Thank you for the warm welcome!!

 

[skuttle]

TandT...Welcome! If you've been a lurker, then I'm sure you realize that we have a GREAT group of girls here on this thread. I don't know how I would have made it this far without them! I would have to be heavily medicated and in therapy for sure! Unfortunately, some of us have been here a lot longer than others. As D&D said, we hope your stay is a short one. For as long as you are here, though, please feel free to vent, cry, yell...feel happy, sad, jealous, mad, etc. We've felt it all and understand it. TTC is definitely a roller coaster. But if you've been through a heart transplant, you are obviously a very strong women already. Good luck to you!

 

[TandT]

TandT...Welcome! If you've been a lurker, then I'm sure you realize that we have a GREAT group of girls here on this thread. I don't know how I would have made it this far without them! I would have to be heavily medicated and in therapy for sure! Unfortunately, some of us have been here a lot longer than others. As D&D said, we hope your stay is a short one. For as long as you are here, though, please feel free to vent, cry, yell...feel happy, sad, jealous, mad, etc. We've felt it all and understand it. TTC is definitely a roller coaster. But if you've been through a heart transplant, you are obviously a very strong women already. Good luck to you!

Thanks skuttle!!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi everyone. Welcome to all the newcomers!

Has anyone tried Follistim? Not sure if that is spelled right. I have the option of doing clomid again next month or moving on to injectables. My doctor said that it would be the medication Follistim. I am a little reluctant to do the shots although I guess if it increases the chance. So many decisions to make.

Of course, I hope to be lucky this time around but just don't feel pregnant. The two weeks just seem to drag on forever. Oh well, one more week to go.

Hope you all are doing well!!! We need some good news around here soon!

 

[D&DDisney]

Although it is still a couple days early, got a BFN this morning. Had to take a test early cause I am starting some other meds (for another med condition) today and I wanted to be sure.
I guess I'm out - again.
So very bummed that I never get a "surprise" like other people do.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Sorry D&D.

 

[WDWAurora]

Sorry D&D. It's always such a bummer to see the lack of lines.

Chloe-I am doing bravelle instead of follistim. Actually, I just did it about an hour ago. For now, I do an ultrasound on day 1, 2, or 3, femara (like clomid) days 3-7, bravelle injections days 7-9, and another ultrasound day 10. If it's good, I do ovidrel, if it's not ready yet, I do ganirelex (but I'll never need that, knowing me).

Follistim does have some pros. I think it's pre-mixed, and a lot more ready to use than bravelle. I have to mix my dose daily, unscrew one needle, screw on this mixing cap thing, screw on another needle, etc.

I've been stupid this cycle. Between the pill issues (took my first dose morning of day 4 instead of night of day 3), and last night forgetting to do my injection until like 7:45 (I typically do them around 7, and it's supposed to be the same time every night), I'm not sure if it will work for me this time. Blonde month, not moment.

 

[skuttle]

D&D, I'm sorry about the BFN. I hate seeing no second line, but for some reason I still test early.

So DH had his appt today with the urologist. They went over his test results from the spring. Dr said that his count is fine, but they aren't swimming like they should. Dr said they like to have 50% swimming properly but only 30% of DH's were swimming right. They took some blood, but didn't take another "sample" from DH, which sorta surprised me. Dr said everything down there felt okay, so DH goes back in two weeks for an ultrasound to try to figure out what's going on. So, looks like I'm in a different kind of TWW! I'm hoping since he's going for an ultrasound that there may not be a delay in the results, that maybe we'll get results right away. DH sounded very anxious to get an answer to all of this so I think he's ready to push ahead with the testing on his end.

 

[WDWAurora]

It's good news that he's into it now. I think sometimes they just take longer to "get it." I think it took me going on injectables for DH to realize that this wasn't just something that was magically going to happen.

Hopefully you're on the way to answers soon!

 

[skuttle]

I agree, Courtney. For my DH, I think the turning point was last October when I had my second chemical pregnancy. I kept it from DH for a couple of weeks because I didn't want to upset him. He was so hurt that I kept it from him, that I think it made him realize how my I was going through and trying to deal with alone. He realized that he needed to "step it up," I guess.

 

[si-am]

It's good news that he's into it now. I think sometimes they just take longer to "get it." I think it took me going on injectables for DH to realize that this wasn't just something that was magically going to happen.

Hopefully you're on the way to answers soon!

My husband is that way, too. He still seems to think there's no rush, everything will work out on its own. Um, hello, I'm going to be 35 in a few months and we've been trying for two years!! With femara, too!

Men!

Skuttle, I hope you get some good answers!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Aurora, I took the injection class today and they said it was okay to do the shot +/- an hour. Taking it 45 minutes later shouldn't be any problem at all, you were within the allowable window. You are still right on track, don't worry!

 

[WDWAurora]

Yeah, the more I think about it, I think I was supposed to do it between 6 and 8. I need to check my paperwork to reassure myself, but I think it wasn't nearly as big a deal as it was last night. I've been highly emotional this month, anxiety wise.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi Skuttle, good news that your husband is ready to forge ahead. I think it's harder for the men, but they come around.