New TTC Thread

[mickeyboat]

Yet another truly disapointing day at the RE. Today I was given a 25% chance of IVF even being viable and a 20% of IVF being successful. As my RE put it, the endometriosis has devestated my ovaries, so there is not much to work with. He suggested egg donation, but I don’t want to go down that route. So, do I give up and accept that it’s not meant for me to have a baby, or do I gamble my life’s savings on a 25% chance? Question to those who have kids: Is it worth it? Is all of this TTC pain and disappointment and risk worth it?

If you would like to talk to someone about egg donation, our fellow DIS'er
7beasley was diagnosed with POF and used an egg donor to conceive her baby girl. It might be worth a PM to her if you want to talk to someone who knows what you are going through.

What is the typical success rate for IVF? Is surgery or medication a possiblity to deal with the endo?

I have two kids, and it was worth it. But every couple has different considerations and there is no right answer. I hope you are successful, happy and fulfilled no matter what choice you make.

Denae

 

[Villain-lover]

I have 7 month old twins using an egg donor if you would like to talk you can PM me as well. FWIW, IVF with egg donor worked first try for us.

 

[TinkerChelle]

Yet another truly disapointing day at the RE. Today I was given a 25% chance of IVF even being viable and a 20% of IVF being successful. As my RE put it, the endometriosis has devestated my ovaries, so there is not much to work with. He suggested egg donation, but I don’t want to go down that route. So, do I give up and accept that it’s not meant for me to have a baby, or do I gamble my life’s savings on a 25% chance? Question to those who have kids: Is it worth it? Is all of this TTC pain and disappointment and risk worth it?

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I truly understand how you are feeling. In November I found out that I would be unable to have children and it nearly destroyed me. Yes, I know that sounds drastic but it is absolutely how I felt for months. All I can say is that I hope whatever decision you make that it is the right one for you. I had to reach out for support and pray until it hurt! I'll pray for you. I hope all your dreams come true. PM me if you would like to chat in depth.

 

[TinkerChelle]

I wish you the best in your decision, and I hope that something works out for you. I do know that it's helped me quite a bit to take the attitude that "Things Happen for a Reason". It took me a while and a great emotional struggle, but I fully believe in this concept, and that when one door closes, another opens in its place. So if this door closes, be sure not to close your eyes and your heart to that "other door" that may be waiting for you.



-Christal

Yeah! That's what I meant to say. You rock Christal! Hows is it going?

As for me ladies, well the DP is still smoking. She stopped for about 2 days and then caved again. We actually didn't have the "conversation" about it yet. It has been a stressful work week for both of us. I am sure we will have a nice long chat this weekend. With her appointment looming on 7/2---I can't believe she is still smoking!!

MomSully-Good luck!!! Baby dust for you!

Have a great weekend ladies. I'll try to check in after our "discussion"!!!???

 

[vetrik]

GypsySue, I'm really sorry for your news. That is such a difficult decision and I'm sure very difficult to hear.

Skuttle, I've been following this thread for a while, and you definitely are due to graduate soon!

I posted a while ago that DH and I were going to start trying in May. I was on the Nuvaring for 4 1/2 years, and I stopped using it early-mid March (took it out on time, and never put the new one in). AF has come very regularly since then, in April, May and June. Normal cycles, normal flow, etc, just like before I started birth control (I never used hormonal birth control before the ring). We have not been doing anything to prevent pregnancy since I stopped the ring, but we haven't really been officially "trying" either.

AF last came on 6/5 (after a 27 day cycle), and I decided to get a little more serious this cycle. I bought a basal thermometer and have been temping every morning since about Day 9. The last few days, I've had brown spotting (took me a little while to figure out what was going on, I've never had this before). This is currently Cycle Day 16, and AF just started (I think, it's much lighter than usual). I definitely did not ovulate based on my temps.

Has anyone had anything like this before, and is this something I should call my doctor about? I know it can take awhile for cycles to regulate after coming off birth control, but it seemed weird to have 3 regular cycles and now a weird one. I can't believe that I finally am ready to get pregnant, get serious about trying, and I have the first problem that I can remember with this! Maybe I psyched myself out!

Also, do you guys have any forums or sites that you recommend that are specifically about TTC? I am charting on Fertility Friend, but I don't really want to pay for VIP access.

 

[D&DDisney]

Yet another truly disapointing day at the RE. Today I was given a 25% chance of IVF even being viable and a 20% of IVF being successful. As my RE put it, the endometriosis has devestated my ovaries, so there is not much to work with. He suggested egg donation, but I don’t want to go down that route. So, do I give up and accept that it’s not meant for me to have a baby, or do I gamble my life’s savings on a 25% chance? Question to those who have kids: Is it worth it? Is all of this TTC pain and disappointment and risk worth it?

So sorry to hear this.
I have had endo since I was 13 and it has been the most painful thing (literally) I have ever experienced. Multiple surgeries, tests, Lupron, etc.
If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM.
I've probably said this before, but the last appointment before my son oldest son was adopted, was the worst ever. Dr. gave me very small odds of ever conceiving. We had tried all the lo-tech stuff like IUI, but no luck. We then decided to adopt so we knew for sure we'd end up w/ a child in the end. I also didn't like the low odds (don't remember % - sorry) After we adopted our son, I loved him very much but still felt the need to try again. We said 3x (strikes) and we are out. I had surgery again and went on Lupron injections for 3 months. Then we tried IUI again. Well, something magical happened and we conceived second son on the first try (second time around). He was definitely worth all the pain and suffering.
This time, I feel I am too old to messing around w/ surgeries and procedures so we said if it doesn't happen naturally, then this is our family!

Not sorry we adopted. It was wonderful and both of my sons are LOVED in different and unique ways. Couldn't imagine my life w/o either of them. We also consider adopting again. Never rule adoption out as a choice.
Also remember...it ain't over til the last egg has been released from that ovary!!!! Regardless of how they look, if they are still operating, there's always a chance naturally. (that's my motto)

 

[7beasley]

If you would like to talk to someone about egg donation, our fellow DIS'er
7beasley was diagnosed with POF and used an egg donor to conceive her baby girl. It might be worth a PM to her if you want to talk to someone who knows what you are going through.


Denae

Hi Denae and GypsySue

I actually PMed GypsySue IMMEDIATELY upon seeing her post and I am just now going back and reading everything after her post. You are right -- I do know exactly what she is going through. And while in the PM I gave her a bunch of info...what I would say again here is if you are even considering gambling your life savings on a 25% chance adn therefore you have made the decision that you WANT the baby -- so who cares about the life savings -- then in my humble opinion -- Donor Egg is the way to go because 25% is just too low to gamble your life savings on --- with Donor Egg you up your chances to over 70% so I would say put your life savings into that arena as well because the chances are overwhelming you will get the child your heart longs for!!

Gypsy -- I hope you will contact me to chat -- I did PM you!

My heart breaks for you and I know exactly what you are going through - every emotion, every fear, every heartbreak, every stress, every agony, every longing for a child.

What I can tell you with 100% certainty -- piggybacking on ChrizJen a bit -- is that if you decide you want a baby - regardless of how that baby comes about (ivf, donor egg, adoption, whatever...) you will never, ever for one second ever regret the choice. Every single time I look at my daughter, or think about my daughter...my heart swells with happiness and pride that she is here and she is mine. If someone told me tomorrow that I could have 10 babies with my own eggs but I would have to give up Izzy I would fight them to the death...she is the daughter I would pick regardless of how she came to be my daughter.

So seriously consider that route before spending your life savings on a 20-25% chance...keep your eye on the prize here - which is a baby!!! Again, with Donor Egg IVF you may find your stats to be upwards of 70%. Some clinics even bost 90% rates!!!

Where there is a will there is a way. And I have never regretted my decision. I have certainly bemoaned my fate and the hard road it took to have Izzy but I have never regretted my decision to bring her into my life - regardless of the route I had to take to get her here!!

PM me whenever you need to!!

Denae -- thanks for thinking of me!!

Hugs
Nicole

 

[momsully]

Sue - I am really sorry to hear what the doctor had to say today. I also had to take Christal's advice and go with the things happen for a reason when I lost the baby in March. I will tell you that all the pain and heartache are worth it in the end. Like Nicole I had a good friend have two children through donor eggs. Her first was born on the first try, the second was born two years later using frozen embryos. Other than a few close friends, most folks do not even know she used a donor.

 

[GypsySue]

Thank you all for your support (Crystal-YOU made ME cry!). I am so thankful to have you all here. Somedays it makes all the difference.

 

[skuttle]

Thank you all for your support (Crystal-YOU made ME cry!). I am so thankful to have you all here. Somedays it makes all the difference.

Oh Beth, I am SO sorry to read your news. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now, I can only imagine everything that is running through your head!! Take some time to let things settle down a bit before making any decision. This is WAY too much info for you to take in and make a decision on a day or two afterwards.

Only you and your DH can make the decision. Only you two know what is best for the two of you...both financially and emotionally. But please don't be so quick to say "no way" to some of your options before you have the chance to think about them and research them a bit.

I don't know that IVF would be something that we would consider at this point. However, we already have Colin (more and more I'm thinking he's my miracle baby!). If we were going through all of these TTC struggles for our FIRST child...I'm not sure where my line would be.

Regardless, no matter what it takes to get you your child...whether it's tons of tests, egg donation, or adoption...that child will be YOUR BABY! Doesn't matter whose sperm or whose egg was used to product that child..That's YOUR BABY!! And I totally agree with Christal...whatever heartache, whatever money spent...that stuff won't even be a second thought once you have YOUR BABY! I believe that 100%.

Strictly regarding the money issues...I think I would have a hard time gambling my life savings on a 25% chance. THAT would be something I would ALWAYS regret if it fails. Especially when you could put that money towards something with much better odds...egg donation like Nicole, or even adoption.

You don't have to make a decision today, next week or even this year! But take the time to look at this more before saying "NO WAY" to any option. I know how much you want to have a baby made of your egg and your DH's sperm that you give birth to. I think all of us here get that...but a 25% chance versus a 70-100% chance of having a child...just think about it more. Look into more. Like I said, doesn't matter how that child comes into your life...it will be 100% YOUR BABY forever. And no one will be able to change that.


Good to see you, Nicole.

 

[hotveggy]

So I am currently on day 19 of my cycle and started the Crinone 8% (progesterone gel) last night. I thought I had this all figured out, but now I am not so sure. I thought that if I am not pregnant this month I will get my period as expected though now DH is saying that he remembers the doctor say that I should just take pregnancy test when I am due for my period bc I won't get it bc of the progesterone supplement??

So my question is- have any of you been on this before and if so- did you get your period as expected if you were not pregnany? we are due to leave for vacation 5 days after my period is due and if i am not preggers I am supposed to have an ultrasound of my uterus the day after I stop bleeding though now I have no clue if this will work... I am supposed to stop the progesterone if i am not pregnant- but how many days will it take to get my period? hmmm- maybe i should call the doc,, but thought maybe one of you ladies could help me first...

by the way- i am trying to stay positive that I might just get pregnant this cycle and not have to worry about any of this... (fingers crossed!)

 

[D&DDisney]

Such a bummer...

Our 16 anniversary was yesterday. Thought it would be great...going out to eat, was in that O window, romantic. What a perfect recipe for this month, right? WRONG!!!

After dinner, we spent a nice nonromatic evening in the ER w/ great pain on my rt side. Though it might be appendicitis. Doc couldn't find a thing, all tests and ultrasound were neg. Now I have to follow-up w/ OB/GYN on Monday. I know exactly what she will say.
I think the Endometriosis is now back w/ a force. That stuff can grow in the strangest places and I think mine has decided to latch on to my rt side and stomach. Ouch!!!!!

So.. count me out this month. God, I hate this.

 

[WDWAurora]

Well, as far as I can tell, we're out this month, too. It's day 36 and no sign of AF, but my monitor did not indicate ovulation this month. I also had a blood test on day 20 that indicated I hadn't ovulated. My thyroid was checked, and it was fine. When I got the call on Tuesday about my bloodwork, I was told that this month, I need to have an ultrasound on day 1, 2, or 3, with an HSG done by day 12. I'll have to have another ultrasound on day 12. If things are as they are supposed to be, then I'll have to do a trigger shot. I'll be on Femara again. The double dose did nothing this month, although the trigger shot might help.

I'm nervous about everything...They did say they would prescribe tylenol/codeine for the HSG, so I guess that's good. I know others have indicated some pain.

 

[D&DDisney]

This is getting to sound like a Seinfeld episode..."Well, I'm out! "I'm out too"

 

[hotveggy]

Sorry to hear your news WDWAurora and D&DDisney.

though apparently you all gave me good luck this month bc this morning i had a positive HPT!!! It is hard to believe that it happened so fast this time. I am trying to stay positive though with 2 MCs behind me I am still a little scared.

Hopefully third time will be a charm!!

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Sorry to hear your news WDWAurora and D&DDisney.

though apparently you all gave me good luck this month bc this morning i had a positive HPT!!! It is hard to believe that it happened so fast this time. I am trying to stay positive though with 2 MCs behind me I am still a little scared.

Hopefully third time will be a charm!!

Congratulations!

 

[momsully]

Hotveggy - Congratulations - Pixie Dust for a sticky baby!

D&D - I hope you are feeling better. I noticed your ticker changed. I hope you are still able to make your trip out ot Colorado.

Aurora - Good luck next month.

Has anyone heard from Cristal? It should be about time for her test.

I hope everyone has a great week.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

This is getting to sound like a Seinfeld episode..."Well, I'm out! "I'm out too"

LOL Thanks for making me laugh.
AF showed last night. Back to another month of waiting.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Sorry to hear your news WDWAurora and D&DDisney.

though apparently you all gave me good luck this month bc this morning i had a positive HPT!!! It is hard to believe that it happened so fast this time. I am trying to stay positive though with 2 MCs behind me I am still a little scared.

Hopefully third time will be a charm!!

I hope everything goes well this time for you. Please keep us posted and have a speedy healthy 9 months

 

[hotveggy]

Thanks for all of the support! I am still kind of in shock and trying not to get too excited... (which is sad, but true). I am staying hopeful. I still haven't called the doctor yet because I don't want to jinx myself! ahhh
I'll keep you all posted...

I am keeping the rest of you in my positive thoughts.