New TTC Thread

[D&DDisney]

It's like day 44. I don't know if I should start provera, or if I should test, or what. I hate waiting. I took a test probably 5 days ago I'm going to leave a message for the nurse at the RE, so I guess they'll tell me. I keep hoping I am pregnant, even though I feel pretty comfortable I'm not. Ugh. Why does my body keep doing this?

You have got to test again!!! And please do before Friday cause I will wonder all next week if you don't. It would be so nice to hear some good news.

to you!!! You just never know...

GypsySue - I noticed you live in Denver. I'll bring some extra pixiedust for you when we visit next week. We'll be in Littleton.

 

[mickeyboat]

hotveggy - Congrats! Sending positive thoughts for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Carla - Congrats! I am so happy for you. I hope Cassidy is a peaceful baby. Your struggle is an inspiration.

Christal - I am sorry you haven't had any luck, but maybe something wonderful will come out of the fostering situation.

Allison - I can't believe Collin is 5! Time really flies, huh? He really is a miracle.

D&D, Aurora, Jen, Kiki - Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Busy busy busy here!

Denae

 

[vetrik]

I posted a little while ago about the screwy cycle I was having in June after having had normal cycles my whole life. I went off birth control in March, and although my cycles had been normal since then, I thought it might be related. The craziness continued, and since 6/27 I've had a very sharp, stabbing pain on my left side lower abdomen a couple times along with on and off bleeding and brown spotting. I finally called my doctor today because the pain along with heavy bleeding came back this morning, and I thought it had gone on long enough.

They scheduled me for an ultrasound tomorrow afternoon, and asked if I was sure that I wasn't pregnant because they are worried about ectopic pregnancy. I was absolutely, 100% positive that there was no way I could be pregnant, but they still wanted me to take a HPT before I went in tomorrow. I stopped on my way home to buy the test, took it as soon as I got home, and it came up positive within 30 seconds.

I am in shock right now, and not really sure what to expect tomorrow. I hadn't done any reading about ectopic pregnancy since I would have bet anything that that wasn't what was going on. Does anyone have any experience with what to expect from here, assuming that it is an ectopic pregnancy?

 

[WDWAurora]

vetrik, I don't know, but I'm sorry and I hope things go ok tomorrow. Is your DH going with you? I would take him if at all possible.

D&DDisney (and others)-I tested again last night, BFN. I called the RE today and they told me to go ahead with the provera. I just took my first dose. If I can just start, then I can get started with the next cycle...When I know it's a wash, I'd rather just get it over with and move on.

I lost it last night after the lights were out...My parents and grandmother were here this weekend, and my mom has dementia. It was obvious this weekend that she's getting worse, and it was hard to watch, then I saw where yet another girl from high school is expecting, and another one's about to have her baby. I'm just so down about everything and DH can't even begin to understand.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Carla! Congratulations! I'm so excited for you!!!!

Aurora The dementia has to make everything a bit tougher. My gram has Alzheimer's, and is getting worse lately, and I keep hoping I'll get pregnant soon, so she'll know and understand.

Vetrik - good luck with everything.

So I'm out for this month. I should be doing another HSG the end of this week, and then waiting for the next cycle. Yay, more waiting..... I'm so patient and all

 

[skuttle]

Courtney... Being late and NOT being pregnant is so hard! That's what happened to me last cycle and it is rough! I can only imagine how hard it must be for you...your TTC problems on top of everything with your mom. I'm sure it is so emotionally draining. My DH doesn't understand too much either re the TTC stuff. He tries, he really does, but he just doesn't "get it." Not sure that he ever will. Have you thought of possibly taking a break from TTC? Regroup, relax, have FUN with DH again? I know when someone suggested that to me, I thought they were nuts..I couldn't miss an entire cycle, and two?? You must be crazy?!? But, a break REALLY does help. You don't realize how much TTC effects (affects? I never get that right!) you until you take a step back from it for a while.

Jen....waiting again, huh? I think this smilie: should be our official TTC smilie! LOL!

 

[mickeyboat]

vetrik - I had an ectopic pregnancy, and what you are experiencing sounds a lot like what I did - except I did not have the pain because they caught it very early.

I am surprised the doctor didn't have you go to the ER last night with those symptoms and a positive HPT. Did you call them after you tested? If not, call now because they are going to want to see you right away.

When I had mine, they did a trans-******l ultrasound but didn't locate the pregnancy. They knew from bloodwork they did that it was not a viable pregnancy. They ended up doing a D&C and examining the contents, but still did not find the pregnancy. The gave me methotrexade to make sure the pregnancy did not continue and cause damage.

Good luck today.

Denae

 

[vetrik]

vetrik - I had an ectopic pregnancy, and what you are experiencing sounds a lot like what I did - except I did not have the pain because they caught it very early.

I am surprised the doctor didn't have you go to the ER last night with those symptoms and a positive HPT. Did you call them after you tested? If not, call now because they are going to want to see you right away.

When I had mine, they did a trans-******l ultrasound but didn't locate the pregnancy. They knew from bloodwork they did that it was not a viable pregnancy. They ended up doing a D&C and examining the contents, but still did not find the pregnancy. The gave me methotrexade to make sure the pregnancy did not continue and cause damage.

Good luck today.

Denae

Denae,

Thank you so much for your experience! I'm starting to get a little scared now, with more of the reading I've done this morning. Maybe I was better not knowing what I might be in for! I was still just so shocked that the HPT came up positive last night.

I haven't called the doctor since I tested - my appointment is at 1:00.

AF last started on 6/5. I had the pain on 6/27, and bleeding started that day, however I only felt the pain for about 4-6 hours. There was pretty light flow, and then it was spotting for a few days. It was only 22 days after AF, so I thought I was having a very short cycle for some reason. I didn't feel any more pain until yesterday morning, which coincided with more bleeding. However, by yesterday afternoon the pain was gone and the bleeding had stopped again. That's why I haven't called the doctor - I feel normal today and figured I would just wait for my appointment to find out what was going on. If I still had pain like yesterday I would have either gone to the ER last night or called the dr first thing this am.

 

[mickeyboat]

Denae,

Thank you so much for your experience! I'm starting to get a little scared now, with more of the reading I've done this morning. Maybe I was better not knowing what I might be in for! I was still just so shocked that the HPT came up positive last night.

I haven't called the doctor since I tested - my appointment is at 1:00.

AF last started on 6/5. I had the pain on 6/27, and bleeding started that day, however I only felt the pain for about 4-6 hours. There was pretty light flow, and then it was spotting for a few days. It was only 22 days after AF, so I thought I was having a very short cycle for some reason. I didn't feel any more pain until yesterday morning, which coincided with more bleeding. However, by yesterday afternoon the pain was gone and the bleeding had stopped again. That's why I haven't called the doctor - I feel normal today and figured I would just wait for my appointment to find out what was going on. If I still had pain like yesterday I would have either gone to the ER last night or called the dr first thing this am.

I wonder if it was implantation bleeding. You are probably on your way to the doctor's office now. Thinking lots of good thoughts for you! Keep us posted.

Denae

 

[D&DDisney]

Aurora- So sorry to hear about your mom and everything that is happening for you now. Sorry the test came up Neg again. Was really hoping for some pos. news for you. We're always here and always understand.

vetrik - Hope everything turns out alright for you. My SIL had bleeding in the first few weeks of pregnancy. They just kept an eye on her and made her take it easy. She had a beautiful baby girl in April so all turned out well.
It was so weird because our cycles this month are so similar. I too had pain (but on my rt side) and went to ER on 6/27. They couldn't find anything and sent me home. AF arrived this past Sun. so I didn't even bother to test.

 

[vetrik]

Well, I had my doctor's appointment and ultrasound yesterday, but unfortunately I don't really know too much more. They couldn't find anything on the ultrasound, but they think that it's most likely just too early to see anything. The pain and bleeding stopped on Monday afternoon, and I haven't had anything since (even the spotting has stopped, for the first time since 6/27).

They sent me for bloodwork to check my Hcg yesterday, and I have to go back again tomorrow morning. They also scheduled me for a follow up appointment on 7/21. I'm hoping to have more of an answer on Friday when they get my second Hcg level back.

This is so weird - I don't feel pregnant, and I don't want to get excited in case it is ectopic or a miscarriage. However, I am trying to be careful now in case it really is a viable pregnancy - I even bought sushi last night for lunch today, and then this morning realized that I don't know if I can have it! I'm pretty sure it's all cooked seafood and vegetable rolls, so I think those are ok? I've also cut out caffeine just in case. I took another HPT last night, and it was positive again, so I know I didn't imagine it the first time!

I have a lot of respect for all of you on this thread going through fertility concerns. I always empathized, but didn't realize how tough it can be - and I know it gets a lot tougher than what I am going through! I am not a patient person, and this is really frustrating. I just want to know what's going on and have answers, but I can't right now. This isn't the way I imagined this - I thought I would miss a period, take a test, tell DH in a cute way, etc. He's wanted kids for a long time, and he started to get really excited as soon as he saw the positive test - I have to keep reminding him not to get his hopes up.

Aurora, I'm really sorry about your mom, that must add even more stress to an already stressful time. I really hope there's some good news for you soon.

D&DDisneyThat is weird our cycles were similar, but I'm sorry you ended up getting AF. Your SIL's story is encouraging!

 

[allie_to_you]

Well, my hubby and I have been through all the tests & everything, trying to see if will be possible for us to have a baby. Most everything looks good but my thyroid is off, my glucose levels are slightly elevated and even with progesterone, they are having a hard time getting my cycle regulated. Also, the doctor wants me to lose some weight before we go any further.

Anyway, with all the tests and everything else, even with insurance, it has eaten up the money we had saved, so for a while anyway, we are on baby hold. Its killin me too cause I was so hoping to at least be able to do one IUI attempt by now. Hopefully some time next year. I will probably be starting a new job in a couple weeks and if so, i'll be making a little more money, so we should be able to start saving again.

In the mean time, Robert & I are going to look into doing foster care (for babies or very young children). Robert was raised by foster parents and we both want to be able to provide a home for a child, even if its just for a short time.

I wish the rest of you that are trying the best of luck and for those who's baby dreams are either on hold or have been dissapointing... It's a rough road, i know.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

vetrick,

I am sorry you are going through this. I am glad that the doctor is ordering tests so you will the get the answers you need. But I understand the stress and the frustration.
And no, that isn't the way it is supposed to go. We're all supposed to be able to get pregnant the old fashioned way and we are all supposed to have wonderful healthy full term pregnancies and ride off into the sunset with our perfect babies.
I do hope that things work out for you and you can put this first trimester behind you and go on and have everything work out the way it should be.
*hugs* to you and DH and please keep us updated.

allie_to_you,

I am sorry that you and DH are going through what you are going through as well. It's just not fair. It makes me sad and angry to think that there are so many deserving people out there like yourself.
Bless you for opening up your heart and home to foster children. That really made my day reading that.

Me,
CD10 and waiting to O. this is going to be my month right? AF this time was back to "normal" from before the m/c (four months later). Maybe the accupuncture is doing something too.
My birthday and due date are coming in 2 months so that is ticking in the back of my mind.

 

[hotveggy]

I am keeping you all in my thoughts and sending lots of baby dust.

KiKi Mouse- I know how tough it is to want to be pregnant again by your due date but sometimes it may be better to just get through the day. (it will most likely be a tough day anyway). I did get pregnant again before my 1st due date and ended up having a second miscarriage on the due date of my first pregnancy (that was a double whammy!)


vetrik- I know how hard it is to wait for the Hcg to come back (i have been through it twice). Just stay positive even though I know it is hard because you don't want to get your hopes up.

As for me, I am currently on my 2ww for my 1st doctors appt. They don't want to see me until at least 7 weeks. I am trying to stay positive and welcome any pregnancy symptom that I feel. (mostly just sore breasts so far). My regular midwife only does GYN so I have to see a new person for my OB care. The specialist I saw finally called back (4 weeks later) saying that the blood work he took came back fine except the z protein levels (something new he is studying) are a little low. He may put me on a baby asprin but he wants more blood work first. I am trying to believe that the progesterone I am using will solve all of my problems.

Lots of baby dust to all. Sorry for the lengthy post.

 

[vetrik]

Well, I guess it's ectopic. I am off to the hospital emergency room in a little while for the injection I have to get.

My Hcg was around 2400 on Tuesday, and only went up to around 2600 on Thursday. Combine that with the fact that they didn't see anything on the ultrasound, and they don't want me to wait any more and risk a rupture before taking care of it.

I'm just a little scared of what may happen after the injection, and then upset that we have to wait 3 months before trying again according to everything I've read online. Ideally, I was really hoping for a spring/early summer baby and that can't happen for 2009 now. Hopefully, everything will go as expected, and I'll be able to have a normal pregnancy when we can start trying again.

Thanks everyone for the thoughts!

 

[skuttle]

vetrik, I'm so very sorry. I hope the procedure goes okay.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Vetrick,

I was very sad when I read your news.
*hugs* Thank you for letting us know and please let us know how you are doing after.
I really feel for you. I've always got a shoulder to cry on, lean on, vent on.
Just PM anytime.

Please take care. I hope that you get the best outcome in a situation like this and your road to recovery and TTC again is a short one.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I finally had my baby.. 3 weeks early!! Only had a 5 hour labor, the doctor was so suprised for a first baby. As soon as I went off the Terb pump, 2 days later she arrived!

 

[D&DDisney]

vetrik - So sorry to hear your news. This must be so hard for you. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

DznyLvr2005 - Congrats on your new daughter!!!! What is her name? Glad all is well and that she came so quickly. You look very happy.

 

[DevilDuckie]

What a face! Congratulations, she's adorable!


And to everyone:

Hi there, I'm new to the thread. My husband and I are now TTC our second child which will be HusbandMan's first infant- our 10 year old son is not biologically his and he missed the first 20 or so months because we hadn't met yet.

We are not doing anything particularly pro-active, just the um... usual stuff... :blush