Kellydelly
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I personally think kids should have a parent at home with them. Mother, father, whatever. Just someone whose main role is to care for and nurture that child. I know there are some tremendous child care providers out there, but IMHO, parent trumps babysitter every time. Parents can offer both love and discipline that can't come from a CCP. I completely respect the fact that some families can't get by on one income, but I belive that is due in great part to people living way beyond their means.
I'm not a parent yet, but my husband and I intend on having children fairly soon, and have set up our life and finances accordingly. We both have terrific educations with lots of earning potential, but we live an existence that requires only one income. I only work part time, and we never use any of the money I make for necessities, because we refuse to fall into the 'two income trap'. We don't NEED the dual vehicles or the huge house or the Hawaiian vacations that, technically, we could afford. Instead we share a car, bought a sensible home and go to Disney during the free dining. And I promise you, it hasn't killed us yet!! When the time comes that we need to go down to one income, we'll barely notice it. And my children will have their mom around, which to us is the most important thing.
Since you aren't a parent yet and have never experienced parenthood, you aren't really qualified to say how good you would be at it, or how much better off your children would be with either you or your husband in charge of them. Some daycare workers and nannies are much more loving and nurturing than the parents that hire them. Children should be in the care of people that will love and protect them, and that isn't always the parents . Some parents suck at being parents, we aren't all born to raise children and do a good job at it. Please don't disparage two working parents and how their children would suffer if they had to be watched by someone else. That is just really far from reality! Many single parents are forced into situations where they can't be home with their kids, and their children do not suffer for it.